#Questioning Identity

[loser-pet]

man I hate my meat suit so much sometimes. it’s so clumsy, it’s legs get so sore sometimes, it’s lungs can’t handle long strenuous exercise or even a brisk run/jog, it’s senses are both too strong and too weak… it doesn’t even look like how I’m supposed to look. it’s got boobs (no hate to boobs I’m just not supposed to have them (plus trans dysphoria goes brrrr)), it has the wrong ears, it has no fur or feathers or scales, it has the wrong shape and size… ugh.

is this what physical alterhumans think of when they think of their human body (talking specifically about non delusional physical alterhumans (no hate to them, I just don’t experience delusions so I can’t relate to them))?? I’m thinking I may be a physical nonhuman, but I know I have a human body, I just don’t identify with it at all, not on any level shape or form. it’s like having to wear a costume all the time—it’s not who I am, even though it’s how I appear to others. idk though!! physical alterhumans, please help! /nf

[bisexualpositivity]

"To any young or newly questioning queer people: you don't have to get it right on your first try, and nobody decides your identity but you. Ask yourself these questions: am I being my truest self? If not, am I happy to leave those parts of myself unexplored? What would make me the most happy and fulfilled? In an ideal life, what would I look like and what kind of people would I be around in 5, 10, 20, 40 years? Only you can answer these questions, and if you don't have a solid answer, experiment! You will find your path."

— Anonymous, Pride 2024: Who We Are 🌈(survey)

[mitch4tune]

My Aroace Journey

Teacher during Sex Ed: You'll all feel sexual attraction at some point. Me, years later, still waiting and panicking: Where is it? *manic chuckle* Wh... Where the hell is it...??

I've only really celebrated Valentine's Day once (aside from exchanging cards with my class in elementary school), so I'll contribute to the aromantic awareness that's been trending on Tumblr by sharing my experience of how I found out I'm aroace.

I first heard of the term "asexual" in an LGBTQ context in September or October of 2020 because of Alastor's sexuality being officially confirmed. "Very interesting! Can't be me," I thought.

I got into researching and asking reddit anyway. I think I determined that I'm ace later that year in October.

In April of 2021, the thought of me possibly being aromantic as well struck me. I hated that thought, telling myself, "I've already had one thing taken away; why do I have to lack something else?!"

(I want to clarify that lacking sexual and romantic attraction doesn't make someone any less of a person.)

Once I accepted that I'd probably never fall in love, I ironically got into a romantic relationship in July and determined that I'm demiromantic. During that relationship, I experienced waking up looking forward to messaging them each day, seeing the world in more saturated colours, and even properly enjoyed my first Valentine's Day date. I'm forever grateful for all of that.

The relationship lasted a little more than a year before I fell out of love (that doesn't mean I don't still love them; I'm just not in love anymore). A year after the breakup, a friend suggested that I could be cupioromantic. I joined the subreddit and described my situation, to which someone recommended I check out r/lithromantic.

I spent a long time feeling like I'd gotten robbed of something again ("Why can I even fall in love if that's going to be taken away after it's returned?"), but I eventually accepted my orientation despite still getting sad about it every now and then.

I speculated on another part of my identity from January to February of 2024. I'm not comfortable saying what it is yet, but I will say that a big part of that ordeal was spent worrying about how my identity would affect other people, which is ridiculous; your identity is part of you; not anyone else.

I only told two people because I felt disgusting for the thought even having crossed my mind randomly. I don't know why, since I'll always speak in favor of people who identify that way. But I still felt that way, no matter how much I reassured myself. No matter how much those two friends reassured me.

I came to the conclusion that it doesn't apply to me (though I'm not putting it completely off the table).

That brings us to now. I'm exhausted. (^ ^ ;) I'll end this off with some memes I saved up while I was still in the closet. Happy Valentine's Day!

[tyyjaimiee]

Hello queer and questioning folks! <3

Here is an opportunity for you to figure yourself out! I hope it works for at least someone of you.

In the reblogs of this post, write something you’re questioning or something that made you start questioning. For example, “I am pan but I think I have preferences, chat what am I?” or “Some days my gender matters to me, sometimes I don’t give a fuck about gender. Chat what am I?” or “I love romance but I don’t think I experience it, chat what am I?”.

People that come across this post can assign you a possible sexuality or gender in the tags! Maybe you find out some stuff about yourself! I sure hope sooo 🤞

Best of luck! 🍀✨

[thatkippycat]

Pondering identity on ride to vacation.

Am I otherkin?

Am I therian?

I don't think so rn but I also repress alot.

...

God I want ears and a tail that would be so nice.

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

historical drama/sitcom where two gay best friends (woman and man) get lavender married--and proceed to spend the Fancy European Honeymoon their parents paid for acting as each other's wingman

[wickedzeevyln]

I, Under the Green Sky

People find it strange when I tell them I teach my TV and mobile devices the following:How to live;How and what to think;What to believe in;What to do;What the standards are;And to become something they are not;But they don’t find it weird when these things manipulate them the other way. It all starts with a disquieting question: Who am I? Where am I going? And the likes. Whatever the answer is,…

[a-flickering-soul]

OTC BIRTH CONTROL APPROVED BY THE FDA

[loser-pet]

wtfff why do I sometimes feel more comfortable using we/us instead of I/me??? I’m not plural but sometimes I just feel like a bunch of random creatures sharing some body (this is definitely amplified by all of my kintypes feeling like whole beings), and plus I have a big disconnect between my brain, my body, and whatever I would call my soul or my “true self”. idk, just some weird thoughts.

also would it be offensive to the plural community if I sometimes used we/us instead of I/me?? maybe it would, but who knows?

[bisexualpositivity]

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[mhythic]

watched both spy kids and cabaret within the last two weeks

[insomniphic]

I like to think that it was really hard for Telemachus to consider Odysseus as his father despite all of the years he's been titling him as one. It's easier to trust that someone gone will come back, than to actually believe and envelope the fact that they're here.

[melon-cat-cult]

Batman, how the f**k did you imply that!?

Bruce coming home from a justice league meeting going up to the bat computer Tim is sitting there Dick is leaning on the chair to look at the screen, Bruce sits down taking his cawl off and just looks up at the bats on the ceiling Dick and Tim notices Bruce's odd behavior.

Dick: uh you okay B ?

Bruce let's out the most exhausted sigh Dick has ever heard from the man. This makes Tim stop typing and look over as well

Bruce:... I might have implied that I was...

Bruce's voice trills off into a whisper.

Dick: what?

Bruce: that as Batman, Bruce Wayne is my sugar daddy...

Tim:...

Dick:...

Bruce sighs again.

Dick: this is why you need to tell them your identity dad

Bruce: unfortunately I can never tell them now because I will die of embarrassment

Dick: B you have to tell them

Bruce: do you want me to die of embarrassment Dick?

[thatkippycat]

Just realized that I spent so long wishing I could look androgynous and gender neutral, and then the minute I came out as agender I immediately went "yay now I can start working towards being a cute girl."

Don't get me wrong sometimes I do still want to present androgynously, but even then that leads more fem.

The way I've described this makes it seem like it's just a matter of presenting but it's not and I'm question my whole ass identity rn.

[incognitopolls]

We ask your questions anonymously so you don’t have to! Submissions are open on the 1st and 15th of the month.

[reverse-queer-dictionary]

My inbox is empty if anyone wants to send in an ask either about my queer dictionary carrd or want suggestions for labels!