#anegosexuality

[zillala]

𝙸 𝚏𝚒𝚗𝚊𝚕𝚕𝚢 𝚝𝚘𝚘𝚔 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚏𝚞𝚌𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝕃𝕠𝕧𝕖 𝕃𝕒𝕟𝕘𝕦𝕒𝕘𝕖𝕤 𝚚𝚞𝚒𝚣 & 𝚘𝚖𝚏𝚐, 𝚒𝚏 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚊𝚒𝚗’𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚖𝚘𝚜𝚝 𝐚𝐬𝐞𝐱𝐮𝐚𝐥 ✚ 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚝, 𝚑𝚊𝚑𝚊𝚑𝚊, 𝚆 𝙾 𝚆.

[amaryllis-sagitta]

Ace microlabels got me, oh no

I'm kind of conflicted about the ace microlabels for a single phenomenon purely because of words - IDK, maybe this reflection helps someone out, though it's bound to be in a minority.

I kinda like the term 'autochorissexual' etymologically, despite the community's general disdain towards it. What I think happened in the article that originally defined 'autochorissexuality' is that the author applied the traditional definition of paraphilias quite loosely and carelessly because he thought inside an old, stinky box. As far as I can get into the reasoning behind that choice, the author insists that the quality of aceness defined as 'autochorissexuality'

must be a paraphilia since it doesn't fulfill the definition of normalized sexual attraction in a very narrow sense that, I think, goes all the way back to a very literal, superficial reading of Freud's Three Essays that's left unadjusted to the modern sensibilities, and then

among the paraphilias, it must be some kind of a fetish, since it very clearly doesn't fit any other subtype. Because of this,

the author needs to find some "atypical object of a sexual fixation" characteristic of autochorissexuality to justify his take on this feature an "asexual fetish". So, his choice falls onto an apparent absence of a self-referential fixation on any objects at all?

Which does sound like a bizzarely roundabout way to talk over the implication that some theoretical choices and a priori assumptions in the very way definition was placed in a wider context might have been defeated there.

So, the author of the term didn't seem to know what to do with it within his presupposed categories, so he shoehorned this new term into a classification that doesn't really fit it if you think about the matter for five seconds. Personally, I think that the author not being ace himself factors into this outcome much less than certain theoretical stubbornness that was not overcome, to the detriment of the coined term. Naturally, the implied connotations with paraphilias rubbed people the wrong way and they can't be blamed about it. (In fact, roasting the original article about autochorissexuality from an insider perspective is a tradition at this point).

But what I like about this term specifically is that the "-choris-" part, most likely stemming from "chóra", suggests a fissure or a pause, an empty space that emphasizes distance, not a lack or a logical negation. As someone whose psychological awareness is largely formed by British object relation theory and the newer psychodynamic theories, I see a somewhat important difference here: a lack of a connection between the identity and the sexual need vs. a connection that's maintained from a distance, through the boundary between imagination or fiction and physical reality (there's a reason why many people who cry against the parasocial objectification of real actors/ creators of fiction turn out to be ace or acespec. We live in this difference that the parasocial horny fantasies seem to be lost on).

Personally, I've always felt that the point in this flavor of aceness is some sort of deeply ingrained dissociation from the normative "mature-genital, real-object oriented" sexual need (to paraphrase the Freudian lingo; the abovementioned phrase means sexuality that aims to achieve a direct sexual intercourse with a whole, real person). Another thing that is not lost on me is the presence of asexual features among the schizoid personality features, whose core seems to be the tendency to multiply the distance between the internal states and the external expression of personality because the physical reality at large is felt as profoundly threatening, overwhelming and oppressive to the self. While these groups don't overlap, there's a parallel theme here that I find interesting (though I might be biased here because I identify as ace and with non-sexual schizoid features like social withdrawal, overactive theoretical mind & imagination, or coping through fiction).

Anyway, the 'chóra' in 'autochorissexual' is what I personally like more than the 'plain' negation embedded in the synonymous microlabels. As far as my personal choices go, my only point against 'autochorissexual' is that it's long and doesn't roll of the tongue that well. Otherwise, I'd fully reclaim that shit and not worry about the initial connotations.

My second pick is 'anegosexual' because I was a literature geek for a long time and then I learned Latin and the bare basics of Ancient Greek in university, and the breach of word formation rules in 'aegosexual' is frankly a pet peeve to the point I can't adopt this term for myself.

I know I'm in a minority with this since most people judge these terms by more subjective impressions and the less fortunate associations, but personally, I need a little more definitional order in the labels if I'm supposed to use them.

I hope this makes sense and wonder if anyone on this website has similar feelings.

[cacodaemonia]

I keep meaning to toss this link up here for other aces who might have wondered, "But I love reading/writing smut, so I guess I'm not ace?" Little excerpt from the article:

Aegosexual or anegosexual[1], historically known as autochorissexual, is a microlabel on the asexual spectrum that describes individuals who experience a disconnect between themselves and the subject of arousal. Aegosexuals may experience sexual fantasies, enjoy porn and other sexual content, or masturbate, but they generally feel little to no sexual attraction and typically do not desire to involve themselves in sex with another individual.

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

I'm coming to terms with the fact that I'm pretty sure I'm ace. But I guess I'm confused because I masturbate and feel I guess desire that way in fantasy. But when I'm actually touched or have had sex it feels really off and my body almost feels wrong. I don't know if this is normal or it means I'm not ace idk

(answered by noah)

What you're describing sounds like the microlabel Aegosexual (which is what I identify with, so this is coming mainly from my own personal experience).

Before I start explaining aegosexual, I need to mention that any and all asexuals can masturbate if they want to, and that doesn't make them any less of an asexual.

Aegosexual is made up of the prefix a/an meaning not, ego meaning self, and sexual (meaning sexual). Therefore it's Aegosexual or Anegosexual which quite literally means sexual without self.

"Aegosexuals may have sexual fantasies, view sexual content, or masturbate, but typically feel little to no sexual attraction or desire to engage in sexual intercourse. Many aegosexuals fantasize about sex from a third-person perspective." -(taken from the wiki page)

Feel free to browse asexual microlabels and see what fits! This is just what I got from your message, but I don't know you or your life experiences so I can't really tell you what I think you identify with.

I hope you figure it out anon !! :D

[hunter216]

My Queer Labels

GENDER LABELS

Trans: Transgender is an umbrella term for anyone whose internal experience of gender does not match the sex they were assigned at birth.

Transmasc: Transmasculine, often abbreviated to transmasc, is a term used to describe transgender and/or non binary people who have a gender identity that is predominantly masculine. Transmasculine people may or may not identify as male.

Bigender: Bigender is a gender identity in which people experience exactly two gender identities, either simultaneously or varying between the two. (Mine are simultaneous)

Gendervoid: Gendervoid is a gender identity in which one feels nothing where a gender should be. This is different from agender which is often used to refer to gender neutrality rather than genderlessness.

Voidboy: A gender in which one feels as if they are partially a boy, yet void at the same time.

Paragender: Paragender is a gender identity in which one feels very close to being a certain gender, but encompasses another gender or feeling that prevents them from being fully that gender.

Paraboy: Paraboy, paramale, paraguy, paraman, or paramasculine, is a gender identity in which one is paragender, and is also connected to masculine or masculine aligned identities. One's masculine identity will make up 51%-99% of one's gender, whilst the remaining percentage may be any other gender or combination of genders.

Oxigender: Oxigender is an umbrella term and subset of multigender and trigender in which one has one label first, which is the main part of the gender, another second, which is still significant but not the main part, and another label third, which is only a small part of the total gender.

Bivogendroma: Bivogendroma is an oxigender identity in which one's gender feels primarily bigender, sometimes gendervoid, and occasionally paragender.

PRONOUNS

Prefer:

He/Him/His/Himself

Xe/Xim/Xis/Ximself

Don't mind:

They/Them/Their/Themself

Ey/Em/Eir/Emself

SEXUAL ORIENTATION LABELS

Asexual: Asexual, often shortened to ace, describes people who do not experience sexual attraction, experience little-to-no sexual attraction or conditional sexual attraction.

Ageosexual: Aegosexual, or anegosexual, historically known as autochorissexual, is a microlabel on the asexual spectrum that describes individuals who experience a disconnect between themselves and the subject of arousal. In my case, I like the idea of sex, but don't actually experience sexual attraction or wanting to have sex with anybody.

ROMANTIC ORIENTATION LABELS

Aromantic: Aromantic, often shortened to aro, describes people who do not experience romantic attraction, experience little-to-no romantic attraction or conditional romantic attraction.

Cupioromantic: Cupioromantic describes those who do not experience romantic attraction but do desire romantic experiences or relationships with others.

OTHER LABELS

Aroace: Aromantic asexual, also known by the abbreviation aroace, means people who are both aromantic (aro) and asexual (ace) or on the aromantic spectrum (aro-spec) and the asexual spectrum (ace-spec).

Oriented aroace: An oriented aroace is an aromantic asexual (aroace) individual who experiences a form of tertiary attraction, that they feel is significant enough to warrant a place alongside their aroace orientation.

Omniplatonic: Omniplatonic refers to someone who regularly feels platonic attraction to all genders, though gender often still plays a role in one's attraction.

[genderstarbucks]

My sexuality and gender is confusing.

Is there a term for when your only attracted to senerios, characters and the IDEA of such but the moment whatever crush you have does something "out of line" you lose all attraction?

Also is there a term for a gender when your agender but don't mind masculine too? Because I feel like I have no gender but also don't really mind/prefer being seen as a man.

Hopefully both of these actually have terms or I haven't overlooked a simple term for both, I thought I was fictosexual but it doesn't seem specific enough for my sexuality.

Perhaps these will do?

Aegosexual or anegosexual, historically known as autochorissexual, is a microlabel on the asexual spectrum that describes individuals who experience a disconnect between themselves and the subject of arousal. Aegosexuals may experience sexual fantasies, enjoy porn and other sexual content, or masturbate, but they generally feel little to no sexual attraction and typically do not desire to involve themselves in sex with another individual.

Aegosexualflux is a microlabel on the asexual spectrum in which one's feelings on the idea of a sexual relationship or sexual concepts varies. When engaging in sexual fantasies or sexual media, they are generally aegosexual and have a disconnect between the sexual aspects and themselves. An aegosexualflux individual could enjoy sexual media or fantasies some days, be indifferent to sexual media or fantasies other days, and be disgusted or annoyed by it other days. Aegosexualflux individuals generally experience little to no sexual attraction.

Fictosexualflux is a sexual identity under the asexual and fictosexual umbrellas. A person who is fictosexualflux is mainly sexually attracted to fictional characters, but for a number of factors, may have sexual feelings for real people as well. It can also be shortened to fictoflux.

Aegofictosexual, also known as aegofictace, is a microlabel under the fictosexual umbrella, where someone experiences exclusive sexual attraction toward fictional characters. However, it is often experienced from a dissociative third-person perspective, and not from the first-person; typically not desiring a sexual relationship.

Aboy, or amale, is a gender identity on the agender spectrum which describes an agender-identifying individual who prefers to be or has no trouble being perceived as a male or a masculine-presenting individual.

Amasculine is an identity characterized as being completely agender/genderless while exhibiting masculine gender expression (Ex. having a masculine name, or presenting as slightly or primarily masculine.)

[curioussouls1]

I have taken upon myself to do an entire sexuality list. now this may be a little off because I'm stupid but it took me for ever and I'm proud of it I'm just here to spread positivity

Abnosexual (Abnosexuality is the fluxuation of attraction, either sexual, romantic, or platonic.)

Abrosexual (your sexuality is often changing)

Aceflux (you are asexual but you often change you romantic attraction according to gender)

Aequesexual (you have a very strong attraction to sexuality and value sexual experiences)

Aerosexual (Aerosexual is having next to no preference in gender. It can also be fluid)

Agynosexual ( Agynosexual is anyone who has no sexual feelings towards femininity, but may have other attractions)

Akoisexual (someone who experiences sexual attraction to people but has no desire to have those feelings reciprocated)

Aliquasexual ( only feels sexual attractions under very specific circumstances)

Allosexual (feels sexual attraction to any person and all people)

Amorplatonic ( experiencing romantic attraction but only wanting to be in queerplatonic/quasiplatonic relationships)

Androbisexual (Sexually attracted to two or more genders, but predominantly to men/masculinity. Can be used by a person of any gender)

Androflexibility (a person who is mostly attracted to men but very occasionally feels attraction toward women or other genders)

Androsexual (people who are attracted to masculinity)

Androgynosexual (sexual attraction to both men and women with an androgynous appearance)

Anegosexual (belong in the aace umbrella term)

Anthrosexual (turning a blind eye to gender)

amoretrosexual (is someone who is only attracted to people they know are attracted to them. An amoretrosexual person usually has no gender preference)

Apothisexual (microlabel on the Asexual Spectrum)

Asexual (you feel little to no sexual attraction )

Autosexual (you feel sexual attraction to yourself)

Avansexual (sexual attraction to exclusively non-binary individuals.)

Bisexual ( attracted to two or more gender usually men and women)

Boreasexual (having an exception to your usual sexual orientation)

Burstsexual (a-spec identity where one is normally completely asexual or aromantic but occasionally experiences sudden sexual attraction)

Casssexual (sexuality where one feels that sexual orientation is meaningless or where one is indifferent to the idea of sexual orientation)

Ceasesexual (An a-spec orientation where sexual attraction will sometimes disappear for a while)

Ceterosexual (attracted to people who are nonbinary or transgender)

Coeosexual (a sexual orientation where you only feel sexual attraction to someone if you developed that feeling upon meeting them the first time)

Cupidosexual (people who don't experience sexual attraction but still desire to be in a sexual relationship or engage in sexual behavior)

Demisexual (only feel sexual attraction to someone after they've formed a strong emotional bond with them)

Femmesexual (an individual who is exclusively attracted to individuals with feminine things)

Fictosexual (a Asexual identity for someone who mostly is attracted to Fictional characters)

Finsexual (for someone who is exclusively attracted to those who are feminine in nature)

Flexisexual (Having a fluid sexual orientation or pattern of sexual expression)

Fraysexual (someone who experiences sexual attraction towards people they don't know or don't know very well)

Gay (non-woman loving non-woman)

Graysexual (intentionally vague to accommodate the people who fall somewhere between asexual and sexual.)

Heterosexual (you are attracted to the opposite gender)

Homosexual (basically the umbrella term for lgbtqia+ members)

Iculasexual (is a term for someone who is asexual and sex-indifferent.)

Kalossexual (desire to have a sexual relationship yet never feeling sexual attraction)

Lamvanosexual (Wanting to have sexual ACTIONS done on you, but NOT on others)

Lesbian (non-men loving non-men)

Lithosexual (someone who experiences sexual attraction to people but has no desire to have those feelings reciprocated)

Masexual (sexual orientation where the individual feels sexual attraction and/or romantic attraction towards males)

Mascusexual (the attraction to men, masculine nonbinary people, and 100% androgynous nonbinary people)

Minsexual (the exclusive attraction to those who are masculine in nature (MIN). This means minsexual people are attracted to men)

Monosexual (romantic or sexual attraction to members of one sex or gender only)

Mutosexual (fluid sexuality in which your attraction changes from day to day)

Narysexual (sexual attraction or sexual behavior primarily/exclusively towards non-binary people.)

Neusexual (sexual orientation describing an individual who is exclusively attracted to individuals with neutral genders)

Ninsexual (exclusive attraction to those who are neutral/non-binary in nature)

Novisexual (feeling complicated attraction or lack thereof in such a way that it is difficult or impossible to fit into one word or term.)

Novosexual (sexual orientation changes as they experience a change in their gender identity)

Nullumsexual (nullumsexual is a label for non-allosexual people who do not want to use the label asexual or ace. It is a no label sexual orientation.)

Omnisexual (attracted to all gender but with exceptions)

Onesexual (sexual with or fall in love with only one person their entire life)

Pansexual (you don't care about gender it's just the soul and personality of the person)

Penultisexual (sexual orientation where the individual can be sexually attracted to anyone with a gender different than theirs

Polysexual (attraction to more then one person at the same time)

Pomosexual (not fitting any sexual orientation label in terms of conventional)

Proculsexual (identity that describes someone who only feels sexual attraction to individuals who they're sure they can never be in a relationship)

Queer (an umbrella term for people who are not heterosexual or are not cisgender)

Sanssexual (whose attraction changes randomly. Their orientation is very fluid and there is no trend line in the attraction)

Sapiosexual (finding intelligence sexually attractive or arousing.)

Semibisexual (sexual orientation that defines a person who feels sexual attraction towards one gender (usually the opposite but considers themselves to be bisexual or partially bisexual)

Skoliosexual (attracted to people who are nonbinary or transgender)

Spectrasexual (people who are sexually or romantically attracted to multiple or varied sexes, genders, and gender identities, but not necessarily all or any)

Taosexual ( only feel sexual attraction to another person if they feel a strong metaphysical connection with them first.)

Vultussexual (someone whom is attracted to someone just because of their appearance. It is somewhat the opposite of pansexual.)

Zygosexual (having or wanting more sexual partners with your current romantic and/or sexual partner)

now onto the pronouns!

Understanding gender 

Understandings of gender continually evolve. In the course of a person’s life, the interests, activities, clothing and professions that are considered the domain of one gender or another evolve in ways both small and large.

people tend to use the terms “sex” and “gender” interchangeably. But, while connected, the two terms are not equivalent. Generally, we assign a newborn’s sex as either male or female (some US states and other countries offer a third option) based on the baby’s genitals. Once a sex is assigned, we presume the child’s gender. For some people, this is cause for little, if any, concern or further thought because their gender aligns with gender-related ideas and assumptions associated with their sex. Nevertheless, while gender may begin with the assignment of our sex, it doesn’t end there. A person’s gender is the complex interrelationship between three dimensions: body, identity, and social gender. 

Gender identity is our internal experience and naming of our gender. It can correspond to or differ from the sex we were assigned at birth.

Understanding of our gender comes to most of us fairly early in life. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, “By age four, most children have a stable sense of their gender identity.” This core aspect of one’s identity comes from within each of us. Gender identity is an inherent aspect of a person’s make-up. Individuals do not choose their gender, nor can they be made to change it. However, the words someone uses to communicate their gender identity may change over time; naming one’s gender can be a complex and evolving matter. Because we are provided with limited language for gender, it may take a person quite some time to discover, or create, the language that best communicates their internal experience. Likewise, as language evolves, a person’s name for their gender may also evolve. This does not mean their gender has changed, but rather that the words for it are shifting 

While the dimensions of gender and the desire for congruence are common to us all, ultimately gender is personal. Each dimension of gender is informed by our unique intersection of identities, experiences, and personal characteristics. We are more than our body, gender identity and gender expression: we are also our race, ethnicity, class, faith, sense of geographic place, family history, and more. Our gender is personal because, while we share some of these aspects of self with others, the way that all of these identities, influences and characteristics come together is unique to each of us.

One final distinction to make is the difference between gender and Sexual orientation, which are often incorrectly conflated. In actuality, gender and sexual orientation are two distinct, but related, aspects of self. Gender is personal (how we see ourselves), while sexual orientation is interpersonal (who we are physically, emotionally and/or romantically attracted to).

Why is it so critical to distinguish between these two concepts? When we confuse gender with sexual orientation, we are likely to make assumptions about a young person that have nothing to do with who they are. For example, when someone’s gender expression is inconsistent with others’ expectations, assumptions are frequently made about that person’s sexual orientation. The boy who loves to play princess is assumed to be gay, and the girl who buys clothes in the “boys’” section and favors a short haircut may be assumed to be a lesbian. These could be faulty conclusions. What someone wears and how they act is about gender expression. You cannot tell what a person’s sexual orientation is by what they wear (for that matter, you can’t know what their gender identity is either, unless they tell you).

Our society’s conflation of gender and sexual orientation can also interfere with a young person’s ability to understand and articulate aspects of their own gender. For example, it’s not uncommon for a transgender or non-binary youth to wonder if they are gay or lesbian (or any sexual orientation other than heterosexual) before coming to a fuller realization of their gender identity. How we come to understand our gender and our sexual orientation – and the choices we make to disclose and express these parts of ourselves – are distinct paths. Thinking of these two aspects of self as interchangeable may, instead of helping us know ourselves and one another better, actually get in the way of understanding and communication.

although there are a lot of genders, there's always one for you and I'll bring up a short list of the most commonly used genders with their descriptions 

Agender 

Not having a gender or identifying with a gender. They may describe themselves as being gender-neutral or genderless.  

Bigender 

A person who fluctuates between traditionally “male” and “female” gender-based behaviours and identities. 

Cisgender

A person whose gender identity and biological sex assigned at birth are the same. For example they were born biologically as a male, and express their gender as male. Often used in the shortened form 'cis'. 

Gender Expression

The external display of one’s gender, through a combination of how they dress, how they act and other factors. This is generally within the context of what society expectations of gender are.

Gender Fluid

A person who is gender fluid may always feel like a mix of the two traditional genders but may feel more man some days, and more woman other days. 

Genderqueer

A gender identity label often used by people who do not identify with being a man or a woman, or as an umbrella term for many gender non-conforming or non-binary identities. 

Gender Variant

Someone who either by nature or by choice does not conform to gender-based 2expectations of society.

Mx.

Is a title (e.g. Mr., Ms., etc.) that is gender neutral. Pronounced miks, (similar to Ms) it is often the option of choice for folks who do not identify as cisgender. 

Non-Binary

A gender identity and an umbrella term for people whose identity falls outside of the binary of male and female. Some people don't identify fully, or at all, with the gender they were assigned at birth and some people have no gender at all.

Passing

When someone who is gender variant is regarded to be, or 'passes' as a cisgender man or cisgender woman.

Third Gender

A term for a person who does not identify with either man or woman, but identifies with another gender. This gender category is used by societies that recognise three or more genders, both contemporary and historical, and is also a conceptual term meaning different things to different people who use it. 

Transgender

A person who lives as a member of a gender other than that expected based on sex assigned at birth. Trans people may describe themselves using a range of different terms.

Transgender man

A term used to describe someone who is assigned female at birth but identifies and lives as a man. This may be shortened to trans man, or FTM, an abbreviation for female-to-male.

Transgender woman

A term used to describe someone who is assigned male at birth but identifies and lives as a woman. This may be shortened to trans woman, or MTF, an abbreviation for male-to-female.

Two-Spirit

Is an umbrella term traditionally used by Native American people to recognise individuals who possess qualities of both genders 

Ze / Hir 

Alternate pronouns that are gender-neutral. Pronounced "zee" and "here" they replace “he” and “she” and “his” and “hers” respectively. Alternatively, some people who are not comfortable/do not embrace he/she use the plural pronoun “they/their” as a gender neutral singular pronoun.

gender does not mean pronouns you can be agender and still have pronouns. there are many to choose from, but that doesn't mean that you have to worry about it 

[pansexualkiba]

being anegosexual means that i can have like zero interest in having sex while also having the world's most specific opinion on bunnyboy cock

[autochorisexual-slut]

~ Introduction ~

Hi! Call me Caed, I'm a he/they non-binary guy in his twenties with questionable taste in fictional men.

I'm autochorisexual, more commonly called aegosexual, meaning that while I'm not sexually attracted to real life situations, I do fantasize. And I happen to do it a lot.

This blog is just a little corner for me to dump the fantasies that now and then start running rampant through my mind, even though they're not something I'd want to happen in real life. Feel free to scroll away! Or stay if you want to see what this little guy gets up to in his head!

My rules:

Minors, do I even have to say this? Do not interact. This blog is not for you, not because you don't understand these things but because you're not mentally equipped to handle them and their effect on you. If you say "But I don't get affected by this stuff", that's a sign you're too young to be here. Get out. It's not your fault for being a minor, but it is your responsibility to keep yourself safe on this topic.

I'm happily taken and monogamous. Apparently it's common for people to flirt or roleplay with nsft blogs? Personally, stay out of my DMs unless you need help or want to have a friendly and clean chat.

This is a dumpster. I just throw in whatever goes through this sick little mind of mine :) I'll put trigger warnings where I see fit.

I might update these rules with time, depending on what happens. This blog is being created at midnight on the third of August, so be understanding if you stumble across this in the next hours, my brain is running late.

About the autochorisexual label:

As you might have guessed, it falls under the asexual umbrella, just with its own details and quirks. The commonly used name is aegosexual, or anegosexual. Now, I prefer the word autochorisexual for a simple etymology reason and the fact that I resonate with this term more than with aegosexual. "Autochoris" means "sexuality without identity", while "aego/anego" means "sexual without myself". The difference is subtle and doesn't change who I am, it's a personal preference. You can call me aegosexual/anegosexual, it's still correct and doesn't bother me; even just asexual is fine. The reason I'm writing this paragraph though is that autochorisexuality was at first categorised as a paraphilia in 2012 by Dr Bogaert, since asexuality was considered a mental disorder then. Some people might not like the term because of its history, and I can understand the negative association one would make.

Please keep in mind that when I use the term autochorisexual I'm in no way implying this is a paraphilia, nor validating the idea that asexuality is a disorder. I'm just VERY passionate about the original word's etymology and like to use terms that are the closest to what I feel describes me.

Futher elaborating, autochorisexuality/aegosexuality/anegosexuality are three words that all mean the same: a lack of or barely-there sexual attraction in real life, like most asexual people, BUT unlike most asexuals, autochoris/aego/anego individuals can fantasize about sex and/or enjoy pornographic content; there's a disconnection between themselves and the concept of arousal.

For more information I suggest checking out the wiki which I used as reference in this short explanation.

[s-is-for-simp]

Happy Pride month to all 🏳️‍🌈

local asexual/anegosexual person here

Been out for about 15 months, and I continue to be much happier than I had in previous years.

Lovely to celebrate my second Pride month as a member of the community and not just as an ally as I had for many years before last.

Hope everyone stays safe this year 💖

[toastlover21]

that feel when you don’t want to have sex and you don’t want romance but you like the feeling of kisses on your neck and kisses on your forehead and girls are sooo pretty and boys are sooo handsome and enbies are sooo majestic and how are you supposed to court people nobody taught you and you’d like to use the word queer because it is the only word that explains what you feel but you feel like you’d lying because you haven’t gotten to kiss a girl yet but does that even matter because you don’t even understand your own damn gender bc wtf is that and this is all coming out because it’s quarantine and you’ve finally left a two and half year relationship that you still feel guilty about a couple months ago and then you see one of your friends you haven’t seen a year that made you question your sexuality when she started questioning her own and you meet her boyfriend who honestly is kinda cute after you’re pretty sure you got a contact high and as much as you shouldn’t think about being with them you do but then you’re immediately disgusted because when you think of yourself with other people it just ruins the idea of anything and that’s why you called yourself ace and aro forever but you like hugging soft girls and wrapping your arms around the waist and maybe sniffing their neck but you also like a boys strong arms around you and feeling secure and you still think about that enby you met in ninth grade where they held the only halloween party you’ve ever been to and you think their costume was a pirate but all you remember was their shirt having like five buttons popped their hair flowing in the wind and wanting very much to be swashbuckled into the night and wtf none of this makes any sense and maybe if you had grown up with a healthy view of sexuality and gender this wouldn’t be such a fucking problem but shoutout to your cousin who did their best to teach you what they could and you honestly don’t expect this to be read but it feels good to “say” it anyway

[jackthesage]

I just found a label for my sexuality after years of thinking I was just broken or it was from trauma, and just sticking labels together. I love this and I’m actually bawling my eyes out at 5a in my living room because I never thought I would find out who I am.

[ace-aro-queerplatonic-positivity]

[Image-Description: uncredited screenshot of a tumblr post. The tags #asexual, #asexuality, #ace, and #asexual pride at the bottom are in the colors of the asexual pride flag. The post is titled: Asexuals are not inherently prudes

Holy mother of Jesus. Just because we happen to see some sexually erotic images/video/whatever, doesn’t mean we shriek away in horror inherently, just because we are asexual.

Ex boyfriends have accused me of “being a prude” because I felt literally zero sexual excitement because I happened to see erotic imagery. Nah, I’m fine with sex stuff, it just doesn’t “do” anything for me down there like it does for them. /End Image-Description.]

Please let me know the URL of the OP if you know it, I will link them accordingly

And even there, YMMV (your mileage my vary), because in erotic media it’s often the act/acts depicted/describe that are the “turn-on” factor

Which can also apply to asexual people

Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction towards people of any gender, asexuals may or may not still get aroused by erotic media/acts, and arousal/libido does have no connection whatsoever with sexual attraction

Libido is “now would be nice”

And sexual attraction is “that one!”, focused on being attracted to people specifically

Of course, there are also no-libido aces, there are people who identify as asexual due to experiencing no libido whatsoever

But there are also enough asexuales who enjoy erotic media and actually prefer that over being with a partner

Aside from the fact that anyone of any sexual orientation may or may not be sex-averse, sex-indifferent, or sex-favorable

Which does not say anything about how they view sex as a social topic but only their personal stance in regards to themselves whether they are willing to engage in sexual acts

Their views on sex as a social topic would be the distinction between being sex-positive, sex-neutral, or sex-negative - any one person from any orientation could be sex-positive in the social regard while sex-averse in reference to their own person (which, for example, the mod of this blog is.)

[trans-aegorose-culture-is]

🌸Bienvenue tout le monde! 🌸

This blog is for trans* and non-binary and genderqueer and cisn’t people who are aegoromantic (aego-aro) and/or aegosexual (aego-ace)

This blog is also for trans, enby, genderqueer self-shippers!

(I just genuinely didn’t know how to put that short and to the point with in the URL)

Rules:

Please begin asks/submissions with something along the pattern of “trans aegoromantic culture is” “cisn’t aegosexual demiromantic culture is” “genderqueer sex-repulsed aegosexual culture is” “non-binary asexual self-shipper culture is” “trans fem aegoromantic self-shipper culture is” “trans masc sex-repulsed aegosexual culture is”

NSFW asks will be approved on a case-by-case principle but are allowed

Kink asks (be they sexual or not) will be approved on a case-by-case principle but are allowed

Referring to your sex-/romance-repulsion is allowed and welcomed

If you reference anatomy or genitalia, please put a quick “TW” at the top of your submission/ask

…

This is a space open and welcoming to: anyone aro-spec, anyone ace-spec, anyone aego-rose, non-dysphoric trans people, trans people who choose not to transition, aro/ace/trans/enby self-shippers, aro/ace/trans/enby pro-shippers, etc.

Anti-shippers may stay if they play nice and don’t start getting offensive. Shipping in itself is harmless.

Another shipping positive aro/ace/qpr blog. Ksier post actually includes several further links explaining how/why shipping is in itself harmless and why AO3 is not only Beloved™️ but also sorely needed, a safe haven for creatives.

Also: if you are a TERF, TIRF, truscum, transphobe, transandrophobe, transmisogynist, enbyphobe, exorsexist, radfem… If you think trans masculine people hold any power or privilege over trans feminine people by virtue of being trans masculine. Or otherwise believe trans masculine people aren’t oppressed.

If you think trans people in general are only valid if they seek medical transition.

Then this blog isn’t for you, even if you are an aroace trans person yourself. You can fuck right off! Be a nice piece of trash and show yourself out!

About me…?

I’m older than 21.

I am a pro-shipper.

I am oriented aroace.

I am aegosexual.

I am a survivor of sexualised abuse. (a rape survivor)

As far as my gender goes… I am agender-genderqueer.

Aside from agender-genderqueer, I am mingender/miagender, masculenby, libramasculine, transneutral.

In case you want to address me: You may call me Azalea or Leonard (he/they)

[snowy-weather]

I think I finalIy figured it out. I am Asexual, more specifically I am aegosexual/anegosexual. 

For me, this means I am comfortable an okay with sexuality in a purely fictional setting. I can enjoy fictional sexual context like NSFW art and fanfiction. But I have no desire or interest in pursuing a sexual relationship in real life. 

[dan-the-dreamer]

me: Maybe I’m not really asexual :/

the community: Here’s an acespec identity that perfectly describes your current state that you hadn’t known about before.

me: :-D