#aegoromantic

[thetisming]

the aromantic community is really alienating to anyone who isnt the perfect aromantic

for one, they have to be asexual. they also have to be alloplatonic. they have to hate romance. they have to hate shipping. they have to think friendship is inherant to the experience of life. they have to be aplphobic, intentionally or not.

hi, i'm an aromantic who loves romance and shipping. this doesnt mean i hate being aromantic. i'm also asexual and alloplatonic! but just because i support aroallos and aplatonics, i feel uncomfortable in the aromantic community and aromantic spaces.

i know and love aplatonics, aroallos and non repulsed aromantics. and the aro community revolves around friendship and sex repulsion (specifically the aroace community, which seems to think it's the only aromantic experience) and romance repulsion.

i would also like to mention that the asexual community is the same about alloaces, and of course theres the aroace overlap where they all hate apls.

being aroace while not being repulsed and not being aplphobic is alienating. it fucking shouldn't be. accept that some of us have a different experience and some of us don't think friendship is universal or inherant to the aromantic experience. does any of this make sense.

[ihhfhonao3]

You know that smut you like? Y’know, the really, REALLY good one? You know that one? Yeah?

An asexual wrote that.

And that really good romantic fluff you like? The really cute one, the domestic fluff? Y’know that one?

An aromantic wrote that.

So before you go to sleep reading fanfiction tonight, be sure to thank all the asexuals and aromantics that are writing your favorite fics!

Because no, we are not the pure little children you think we are.

Everybody say thank you a-specs!

Thank you a-specs!

Alright, I’ll let you go now :3

[bippityboppityouch]

HEY! HEY YOU

if you like using microlabels and feel like they fit you better so that's what you use, YOU ARE VALID!

if you don't like using microlabels and prefer the general labels because that what you feel like fits you better, YOU ARE VALID!

remember, its YOUR box and YOU are the only one who gets to choose how you identify and what labels you use!

[acexualien]

Had fun making these today 😌

[genderstarbucks]

Okay new rule

Only aspec people can ship aspec characters until you allos learn to behave

[daybringersol]

some people on here need a gentle reminder that arospecs ARE aromantic. thats the point of the aromantic spectrum. that being aromantic.. is a spectrum. ive had demiromantic people ask me if they can call themselves aromantic. YES OF COURSE YOU CAN YOU ARE AROMANTIC. im sure some people choose to identify more as arospec than aromantic and thats fine, but in general, arospecs ARE aromantic, by virtue of being on the aromantic spectrum. like aromanticism is defined as little to none romantic attraction. the ‘little’ part of that is there for a reason.

[someoneq]

it's aro week!

happy aro-spec awareness week to all aro-specs including but not limited to:

aromantics

greyromantics

demiromantics

quoiromantics

frayromantics

cupioromantics

lithromantics/akoiromantics

recipromantics

apothiromantics

caedromantics

amicusromantics

vallisromantics

apexromantics

arospikes

arofluxes

alicoromantics/agnoromantics

platoniromantics

nebularomantics

aegoromantics

bellusromantics

idemromantics

requisromantics

non-sam aros and arospecs

non-partnering aros

aros in romantic relationship

aros in queerplatonic or alterous relationships

aplatonic aros

loveless aros

lovequeer aros

lovepunk aros

aroaces/acearos

aroallos/alloaros

aromids

romance repulsed aros

romance ambivalent aros

romance favourable aros

triple/quadruple a batteries (arospec acespec aplspec agenderspec)

anyone questioning if they are arospec or where they fit on it

anyone else whose arospec identity I missed

happy aro week to all <2

[bettertwin1]

I don't wanna hide it in the tags

[genderqueerdykes]

here's to the romance repulsed aromantics. not wanting to date or have a marriage or partnership is okay. it's not unhealthy, shameful or bad to enjoy being single and wanting to stay that way. not wanting to be involved in discussions about romance or other peoples' romantic lives is not a personal attack against the people who have them. not wanting to be touched, called pet names or shown affection is a proper boundary to establish if that's how you feel. not having an interest in fictional romances (romantic comedies, shipping, etc.). is not a moral failing. not wanting to be near or witnessing romantic displays, fictional or real does not make you an asshole.

you are allowed to assert what oversteps your boundaries. you are allowed to curate your experience online and have conversations with those you interact with in real life about your boundaries. you do not owe the world romance or time and attention for it when your needs aren't being met. your experience as an aromantic person deserves to be positive when and where possible, just like anyone else's- you do not deserve to be uncomfortable

[zinkadear]

I just learned the terms aegoromantic and aegosexual, and they fit me 100%.

I despise looking in the normal aroace, aromantic, and asexual tags because they're filled with posts about hatred for shipping, which is the thing I find most comforting in my life.

I don't fit in with most aroaces because of my love for fictional relationships, and it bothers me that I can't look at a majority of posts about my own orientation without getting upset. But now I'm exclusively using the aego tags when searching. I've found my people. 🥰

When telling the average person what my orientation is, I'll still say aroace, and even that's confusing for some people. But to be more specific, I'm aegoromantic aegosexual. I don't want a relationship or sex for myself, but imagining fictional characters together makes me extremely happy.

I also like that I can use one flag that shows the asexual and aromantic ones together, because I'm not a fan of the aroace one, but adore the individual ones. (Not sure which of these is more accurate or if it matters.)

If you're someone on the asexual and/or aromantic spectrum who doesn't relate to this, please be nice or just ignore! You probably wanna block someone like me anyway, whose blog is revolved around shipping.

But we're all valid members of the community and deserve to find exactly where we fit in. I'm hoping this post will help others like me who weren't aware of these terms and may want to use them.

You can be completely against romance and/or sex for yourself while still enjoying shipping, romantic songs, Valentine's Day, etc. ♥️

[its-kayyyy]

You are valid (:

[demi-romantics]

Feel free to tag your gender identity if you would like or if I forgot to list it!

[bizarreaizen]

does anyone else just say the "simpler" version of their identity? like saying i'm a trans aroace gay sounds more simply then saying i'm gendersatyret, genderfaunet, polysexual, oriented aroace, aegoromantic and cupioromantic.

[thefrogginbullfish]

And we need a better phrase than "love is love"

[pageofheartdj]

As an autistic sex repulsed romance aversed aroace person I have something to say

I LOVE ROMANCE AND SMUT

NOTHING IS BETTER THAN FICTIONAL KISSING OF MY BLORBOS

HAIL HIGH RATING WORKS CREATED BY ASEXUALS

[cowswineandtea]

My aspec experience was going from "Why doesn't anyone want me?" to "Oh, it's apparently me who doesn't want anyone."