#aspected aro

[love-ardour-anarchism]

She’s never felt as queer and she has never felt like any label fit her

and since I was a child I have been seeking to explain the ways I’ve felt to put in words exactly how I’ve felt I’m unlike all the other kids at school, at church and later at the parties and I had to get drunk to tolerate that sharpest feeling in throat near everytime that someone does remind me that the way I feel is not the way most people do

despite my best and brightest efforts and despite my obsession that led me then to poetry as my idea of a career I’ve never felt that how I felt felt quite the way that others said they felt when speaking of their love, relationships, connection, sex and all these other things and all the normativty has made me feel alone like I’m unlike all of the others and now aged 28 I still don’t get what “romance” is and I’m not sure if aromantic is the way I feel cause I love all the things that people think are “romance” when stripped off their compulsive nature and off the normativity and I get lost for days and hours at a time just trying to define the ways I’ve felt but failing everytime

and since the day I gifted it last spring she's worn a rainbow pin with holding hands depicted there upon her jacket’s collar for everyone to see and I feel damn near drunk when we hold hands just walking down the street in public

when she and I first met she wasn't one for labels and I don't think she'll ever be but she has mentioned some along the way and when she says that she feels so unwomanly I cannot help but tear myself in two between the adoration I feel for the way she is and all she does and how she thinks and acts and walks and talks and all the pain I feel alike there in her place, to be unlike the way that people think you ought to be and to be seen in ways that they don’t think that you are meant to be and to see things in ways that they don’t think you’re meant to see

and last night we were walking, in freezing cold, in some forsaken and industrial place were going to the store to get me sober drinks to take back to a party that had none she said that she thinks her classmates know shes queer and I spoke of the way they looked at me when I said I’m her girlfriend

Much later we got home and sat and talked for hours heads resting on each others shoulders were speaking of the fears we'd faced together

and the next morning I found on my bathroom mirror written there in lipstick smudged yet clear two colors and four characters

I <3 U

and I don't think I've felt as queer as when she called herself the same and there my heart grew corvid wings the feathers black and white and grey and fluttered right away a magpie nesting in my throat my voice becomes so soft when I just speak of her

last night I cried and then we held each other I told her that I'm always seeking labels and she told me she knew am trying to define, find truth and rules and piece together who and what I truly am and all these words escape me and looking at me from inside that bathroom mirror is myself aged ten or so and in her eyes I see the fear that none will love me like I love Yet in her arms I'm babbling brook and wings with softest feathers am broken-bawling-sobbing, bold and brave, am breathing softly there bereft of my most infant fears I’m everything at once and I cannot explain but when she kissed my forehead I felt sunlight in the dark of night that I am everything at once and cannot explain and I cannot find words in order to contain

and looking at me with her gaze so soft and gay she asked me why I think I have to and I think that I felt attacked at first but in her arms I'm starting to believe that maybe I don't have to and we can simply feel the way we feel can live and love each other in ways that none but us will ever truly understand and that perhaps I'm capable of learning to feel just okay with that

.SCRR

[tobercat]

aro/ace themed valentine's day teddy bears ^^ because i just recently found out i might be arospec but also just cuz like..... why not

[ale-arro]

honestly it's weird that family abolition isn't more talked about in anti-amatonormativity circles

[uncanny-tranny]

It's fine to be loveless as an aro. It isn't the end of the world, actually, and you aren't a threat, nor are you an annoyance. If others feel threatened by your completely loveless aromanticism that says more about them than it does about you <2

[normcdf]

[surreal-duck]

messed around and doodled a cover for an aro comic i may or may not ever end up making 👍

[saturncoyote]

A very quick reminder

[pianokantzart]

So if the bros actually are in Sarasaland for the sequel, why are they there? And if Daisy does appear, what would her role be? Perhaps something similar to DK’s role in the first movie?

Whatever it is, I hope they establish her as more than just Luigi’s love interest. I’ve seen some people mention how much they want her to appear in the sequel, but it’s only so she and Luigi can make goo-goo eyes at each other and nothing else.

If they are in Sarasaland, I'm going guess either

They need Princess Daisy's help either to find a macguffin or for political allegiance.

They got lost somewhere in their journey (maybe due to a malfunctioning warp pipe) and now need help finding their way home / to The Darklands to save Princess Peach.

In either case, I do imagine Princess Daisy would serve kind of a DK-ish role where she joins them partway through their adventure to give them a leg up. She acts as the muscle, mostly working in the background while having obvious on-screen importance in terms of turning the tide of battle.

As for her interaction with Luigi, I'm with you. Either I want her to have a respectful (albeit a little obvious) crush on Luigi that he stays entirely oblivious to for the entire movie or... better yet... I want them to handle it exactly the same way they handled Peach and Mario's relationship.

There's no moment that sparks fly, but you can see tiny things clicking into place: soft moments of connection and little instances of Daisy paying especially close attention to Lu's emotional state. From a distance it looks like just a strong friendship forming, but if you look harder you can see something a little stronger than that brewing beneath the surface.

[agnisleftpec]

the fun thing about being a nonshipper who's forcibly desensitized themself to romance so they can actually survive in fandom spaces is i am truly free. nothing can stop me. evryone is dating everyone and no one at once. and i get so much gorgeous art and fanfic

[virgoevenus]

my default mindset of “yeah im aro but it’s not really a big deal i kinda dont care. it’s nice to have a name for it but it’s whatever” vs when i realize how it very much is a big deal and feeling seen through other people having my experiences and being so alive that i feel like my skin is on fire

[widowshill]

happy aro week to everyone who celebrates. give your local aro a hundred dollars to compensate for their suffering (me).

[sparky-is-spiders]

Thinking about Jon feeling the emotions and experiences of statement givers through the lens of Aro!Jon. Jon who went through his entire life thinking everyone else was just very odd about romance. Not understanding the obsession. Feeling vaguely resigned to the idea that he'll probably have to date at some point (but just not right now; he's too busy you see). And sometimes someone will come along and he'll sort of... center them. Find them so fascinating, so admirable, crave their kindness and approval and enjoy talking with them for hours at a time and maybe that's what romantic love is?

But then there's a statement (maybe Naomi Herne's?) where there's this alien, cloying, oily emotion flooding him. It feels wrong in his body, his head, his chest, like it doesn't belong at all. It takes him several statements to recognize it as romantic love, and suddenly he realizes he's never experienced it at all.

[icarianlibrary]

Some stuff me and my friend said over DMs while we were talking about love:

"because in the end, I don't need a missing piece. I'm not a puzzel to be solved, I'm a rubix cube, trying to get all my colors into place"

"romantic love to me isn't about kissing or touch, its just about feeling safe with them because they're willing to help me help myself and vise versa"

"I feel like to me, romance is just its not fireworks, its calm, its gentle. Like a sea. its patience, it fluctuates, the ocean is very interesting. It's beautiful and still. Yet rough and loud. You never know what happens next, and still, something draws you towards it. Most of the ocean is undiscovered, but it has this interesting light to it, that draws people to it"

Anyway that's a take from my friend and me

[dandelionsprout42]

Cartoons that adults relate to

I've noticed that when most people talk about cartoons that felt relatable to their adult lives, they meant somewhat boring stuff like jealousy, vengeance, sacrifices, dating, breakups, things like that.

So as an aro I'm thinking "Why would anyone want to watch shows about those things, let alone do any of those things?"

Meanwhile, only one cartoon in that category to the best of my knowledge have discussed other aspects of adult life, such as pyramid schemes, the Oregon Trail games, stock market estimates, court cases, badminton, Tom & Jerry, landlord economics, Cleveland Show, Daleks, the metric system, S&P, or Flat Earthers.

The whole show feels to me like the golden ages of South Park. Watching the pyramid scheme episode on my phone on a Schiphol-Kastrup flight even managed to cure me of fear of heights. /genuine

[love-ardour-anarchism]

shoutout to the person with the aro ace painted bottlecaps I met on the bus last week, I totally blanked on the fact I could ask you to exchange some kind of contact information and this is about a zero percent chance to reach you but it was really cool talking to you + I'm also aro/ace

[aspec-mafia-official]

So it's almost pride month, and I want to do something on this blog (probably polls) but I don't have much of an idea what so if anyone has suggestions drop 'em in the DMS of my main @dread-is-decaying !

-Dread