#authentic attitude

[jasontoddenthusiastt]

Imo Jason is “irredeemable” by default because I don’t see what he needs redemption from.

[maxiglow]

allow yourself to shine without the need to be seen

– unknown

[actoons]

People who draw and contribute to danganronpa fanworks really make me happy.

[leroibobo]

the paradesi synagogue in kochi, kerala, india. the first synagogue on the site, built by the city's longstanding malabari jewish community, was destroyed by portugese who'd colonized the area in their persecution of locals. it was rebuilt in 1568 by spanish and portugese jews who fled persecution and later expulsion, hence the name "paradesi" ("foreign" in malayalam).

these sephardic jews and a community of jews of mixed african and european descent who were formerly enslaved ("meshuchrarim", "freedmen" in hebrew) joined the malabari jewish community of kochi and somewhat integrated. they were later joined by some iraqi, persian, yemenite, afghan, and dutch sephardic jews. the middle eastern and european jews were considered "white jews" and permitted malabari jews and meshuchrarim to worship in the synagogue. however, in what seems like a combination of local caste dynamics and racism, malabari jews were not allowed full membership. meshuchrarim weren't allowed in at all, but were instead made to sit outside during services and not allowed their own place of worship or other communal rights.

as the "white jews" tended to be rather wealthy from trade, this synagogue contains multiple antiquities. they include belgian glass chandeliers on its walls, hand-painted porcelain tiles from china on its floors, and an oriental rug that was gifted by ethiopian emperor haile selassie.

[karouvas]

The thing about Blue is that compromising her wants and identity as a concept is antithetical to who she is, like she will do it in some areas because she has to as a girl in this world but it’s very against her nature to do it when there aren’t other external barriers.

[theegreenmuse]

𝐑𝐞𝐝𝐞𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐁𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐖𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐝: 𝐄𝐦𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐎𝐮𝐫 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐞 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡 𝐁𝐞𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐝 𝐇𝐲𝐩𝐞𝐫-𝐒𝐞𝐱𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐳𝐞𝐝 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐝𝐬

☞ The Pressure to Conform

🪷 Let’s talk about the elephant in the room: the pressure to conform to a hyper-sexualized image, one that’s both celebrated and critiqued. As Black women, where our feeds are flooded with images of glamour, wealth, and a very specific type of aesthetic appeal, it’s easy to feel like you’re falling short if you can’t keep up. The portrayal of Black femininity through the lens of artists like Megan, Ice Spice, Sexyy Red, and Rubi Rose offers a powerful narrative of control and confidence, but when these portrayals become the standard against which all Black women are measured, it’s problematic. This isn’t about diminishing the achievements or creative expressions of these artists; rather, it’s about recognizing the complexity of their impact.

☞ Influence of Media on Perceptions

🪷 This generation of Black men, influenced by the images they consume in media, sometimes unknowingly perpetuate these standards, equating a Black woman’s worth with her ability to fit into this hyper-sexualized mold. It’s crucial to recognize that this perspective is deeply flawed. Our value isn’t defined by our sexuality or our willingness to conform to these standards. It’s defined by our character, our intelligence, our kindness, and our contributions to society.

☞ The Exhaustion of Unrealistic Standards

🪷 It’s exhausting, really. The constant bombardment of these images can make it feel like our worth is contingent upon our appearance and how closely it aligns with the glamorized, sexualized portrayal of Black femininity in the music industry. But let’s set the record straight: our worth is intrinsic, not something to be measured against a fabricated standard designed for entertainment and male gaze gratification.

☞ Rejecting Unrealistic Expectations

🪷 Here’s your sign to reject these unrealistic expectations. Embrace your individuality, your talents, and your dreams. Remember, the confidence and self-assuredness displayed by artists like Megan, Ice Spice, and Sexyy Red can be channeled in myriad ways, not just through sexuality. Their underlying message of empowerment is about owning your identity, speaking your truth, and living unapologetically—let that be the takeaway.

☞ Celebrating Diverse Black Womanhood

🪷 It’s time we shift the narrative. Let’s celebrate the diversity of Black womanhood, which encompasses far more than what’s seen in music videos and on social media. Our beauty, intelligence, and worth extend beyond the confines of the hyper-sexualized standards set forth by any industry. We are scholars, creators, leaders, and so much more.

☞ Building a Supportive Community of Black Women

🪷 So here’s to us, to embracing our full selves with grace and power. To knowing that our worth is immeasurable, our beauty is diverse, and our potential is limitless. Let’s navigate this world with the confidence of knowing who we are, rooted in the richness of our heritage, and unfazed by the fleeting trends of societal approval. Your light is needed, just as you are.

🪷 It's time for us to reclaim our narrative and celebrate our diverse and intrinsic worth. Let's challenge and dismantle the hyper-sexualized standards that have been imposed on us and embrace the full spectrum of our identities. Share this message with your friends, engage in conversations that uplift and empower, and use your platforms to highlight the true beauty and strength of Black womanhood. Together, we can create a supportive community that honors and respects our individuality. Your voice matters—let it be heard.

- 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐞𝐆𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐧𝐌𝐮𝐬𝐞

[my-energy-draws-u]

GROWTH AND CHANGE ARE BOUND TO HAPPEN, GOOD AND BAD BOTH DONT LAST!💐

[blood-choke]

hi i just played the demo and i’m just asking for clarification! but will we have the option to be strictly monogamous with valentina? the conversation with hana where she talks about wanting her to care makes it seem like we’ll be in a v poly relationship. will there be a conversation between all parties if that’s the case?

you can be monogamous!

it's just... complicated. Hana and Valentina do have a bit of a situationship, but Hana is very aware that a lot of the physical and romantic aspects of their relationship were temporary/Valentina just needing someone to fill the space that mc left behind.

that's what Hana is talking about in that conversation. when she says she wants Valentina to care about her, it's that she doesn't want to just be discarded now that mc is back. she wants both mc and Valentina to acknowledge her as her own person, separate from mc, and she wants to be cared for as her own person now, wether as a lover or a friend. she just wants to be an equal.

[neverluckygoldfish]

47 -

Lately I’ve been feeling a sense of peace within myself. It’s really nice but I can’t help but wonder when it will go away and I’ll be back to the me as I’ve always known myself: melancholy, aloof, insecure, anxious…

But what if it stays?

Been trying this new thing where I trust my intuition (my greater She) in how I behave, the decisions I make, the things I say. I’m starting to trust in myself to choose the right thing over what’s easy or simply status quo.

I have faith that if one door closes, a window will open. Because it always does.

While I don’t have it all figured out yet, not even close, I’m trying to relish each present moment - the joy of figuring it out.

Happiness is a choice, it’s a mentality.

Not to downplay my own struggles or past regrets/mistakes - but I have a lot to be proud of. I’m not perfect by any means but that is okay too. Because I continue to try, be open minded, stay unassuming, learn and challenge myself. I don’t give up on myself.

Even if I think I am, I’m not. Because I’m still here and I’m still taking on the next day.

Does this mean I’m a good person? Or does this mean I am just human, with all the complexities.

A big thing I noticed is that black or white thinking. I’ve had a hard time forgiving myself for anything really….because it didn’t jive with me “being a good person” or “being worthy”. I couldn’t be one without the other.

But then I’d forgive others in a heartbeat. Second chances? More like 3, 4, to infinity. Because I believe in the power of people changing. I’ve been trying to view myself as how I’d view someone else. I’m much kinder to others than I am to me.

Like I have it all ass backwards haha.

Now I realize that I have to cheer myself on. No one else will do it for me. And if I don’t, I’ll never get anywhere because I’ll always be too scared.

So if anyone is reading this, do what you need to let it all go. The expectations of what “should be”or how you “should be”. Scream in the car, delete that person from your friend list, go on a road trip by yourself, write affirmations on sticky notes and post them everywhere, cry your heart out, listen to your favorite song on repeat, throw yourself into your favorite hobby or start a new one, write all your worries on a piece of paper and burn it, break some shit then break some more shit, journal all your feelings on a random tumblr blog (haha), do something that scares you, make conversation with a stranger….I don’t know - just do something! Anything.

If it doesn’t work, do it again. And again. And again. Until it does.

Don’t worry if you look stupid or silly or uncool doing it. Do it for you. Forgive yourself for it all. You were and still are doing the best you could.

And don’t laugh at me when I say that because I used to make fun of all the people on social media who would say “X and X” solved all my problems and now I’m just this happy little leprechaun finding rainbows and gold everywhere. It’s not that simple but it also is.

Way easier said than done am I right *rolls eyes*

Know that you don’t have to have all the answers and you sure as hell don’t need to be perfect.

You are the one who writes your story so you get to decide who the main character is. Who you are. Who do you want to be?

As I’ve been healing, slowly but surely, people have fallen off. It really sucks to lose people. But the right ones have stayed & our relationships are so much sweeter and truer.

As I’ve accepted what I can do and what I can’t do, it’s been so freeing to feel like I’m not disappointing the world.

One day it will work. And then life will feel like magic.

Because lately, the thought that crosses my mind is: this is what it was meant to feel like all along.

[jeanpatrice]

The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are. Carl Jung

[thedailylotus]

Perspective shift: It’s going to be a good day because I look forward to improving & experiencing -blank-

[healthyselflovetips]

Gratitude turns what we have into enough, presence makes every moment richer, and embracing ourselves brings true fulfillment. 💫

[ladycatastrophe7]

Finding your true self isn’t that complicated.

I used to wonder what was real about me; as opposed to societal norms, expectations, trauma responses, etc.

I used to think it was complicated. People I met told me it was complicated. Books I read said it was complicated. It isn’t.

It’s really simple. It’s STUPIDLY simple.

Just change the question from ’who is my authentic self’ to; what version of me makes me happy?

Our bodies are designed to tell us when something’s bad for us (we feel pain) and when something’s good for ut (we feel pleasure). I believe the same thing goes for our mind. Your brain tells you what’s authentic by what makes you happy. That’s your authentic self.

It’s stupidly simple.

[journey-to-balance]

Currently in my full surrender era:

Missed a train?

There's a reason I was meant to get there at a different time.

Somebody stops talking to me?

There's a reason we're not meant to connect right now.

Didn't get something I wanted?

There's something better coming along.

Failed at something I was excited about?

There's a lesson hidden I needed to learn for the next time.

Rejection equals redirection.

Trusting that everything is happening for me -

that what's meant for me, can't get past me.

Once I stop attaching, I can start allowing.

April is National Poetry Month, 30 days of celebrating the joy, expressiveness, and pure delight of poetry.

[theegreenmuse]

𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦

☞ Embracing Growth: Discovering my strength and the impact of truly supportive friendships has been a transformative journey

Navigating this journey of growth and self-discovery, I’ve come to see how much the people around us shape our paths. As a young Black woman stepping into my own power, I’ve realized the true value of friendships that lift us up, and the courage it takes to step away from those that don’t. It’s been a ride—filled with laughter, learning, and sometimes, letting go. From facing the sting of betrayal to recognizing when support feels missing, and the importance of being around those who really see and celebrate us. It’s about understanding our worth, beyond the shadows of external validation, and embracing the beauty of our own company.

Those are my tips if you are currently in this position of cutting someone that no longer elevates you:

☞ Growth Beyond Age

🪷 Here’s the thing about growth—it’s not just about you getting taller or older. It’s about evolving, seeing things in new lights, and sometimes, realizing the friendships you’ve cherished aren’t growing with you. This is your sign, that nudge you’ve been waiting for, to step away from friendships that feel more like anchors than wings.

☞ Betrayal as a Wake-Up Call:

🪷 We’ve all had those friends, the ones who seem to have your back until you’re turned around. The backstabbing—it’s more than just betrayal; it’s a clear sign that the foundation you thought you had was built on sand. True friends stand by you, not behind you ready to push you down.

☞ Unmasking Hidden Animosity

🪷 Then there’s that secret animosity, the kind that simmers under the surface, poisoning the air between you. It’s subtle, but it’s there—the passive-aggressive comments, the backhanded compliments. It’s exhausting, right? Friendship shouldn’t be a game of detective, deciphering hidden meanings and intentions.

☞ The Essence of Support

🪷 Support, or the lack thereof, is a deal-breaker. Watching friends cheer for everyone but you, or worse, diminish your achievements, it’s disheartening. It makes you question the very essence of friendship. Remember, true friends amplify your joy; they don’t mute it.

☞ Accountability in Friendship

🪷 Accountability is another cornerstone of genuine connections. Friends who can’t own up to their mistakes, who weave excuses instead of apologies, show a lack of maturity and respect. Growth involves learning from our errors, not dodging them. If they’re stuck in that loop, it might be time for you to move on.

☞ Choosing Your Light

🪷 This is your moment to reflect on the friendships that light you up versus those that dim your sparkle. It’s not about holding grudges or burning bridges but choosing your wellbeing and growth. Life’s too short for friendships that don’t serve you, that don’t cheer for you, and that don’t allow you to be your most authentic self.

☞ Letting Go with Love

🪷 So, if you’re starting to feel the weight of friendships that bring more shadows than sunlight, it might be time to lovingly let them go. It’s not selfish; it’s self-care. You deserve a circle that reflects your light, supports your dreams, and stands by you, genuinely and wholeheartedly.

- 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐞𝐆𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐧𝐌𝐮𝐬𝐞

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Kane 1999 (WWF Attitude)

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