#fuck you purity culture

[mitsuki91]

So! Some sort of good news (?).

As I said everywhere right now I am extra busy irl so I don't think I can write anymore new things (or if I do, I will write very slow) BUT

Ages ago I write (in italian of course) a "petty revenge" story that I think will trive on the international fandom of AO3, because this is the kind of story AO3 was born for (in fact, even in italian, this story has a boom of engagement compared to my other italian stories that... wow).

It is a dead!dove, of course. And the tale of "how was this atrocity born?" begin just right here on tumblr, when antis found me for the first time and I received threatening asks because I did the crime to tell people in english (my first attempt) that my otp is Severus Snape/Lily Luna Potter. They call me a ped0 and all of the names under the sun and I actually had a great laugh (the most funny thing was "I don't care if you say Lily Luna is an adult in your stories, in the book we see her as a child so of course you are a ped0" and the logic is so twisted I was in disbelief), but of course I am petty, so my mind went on "You want a ped0 story from me? You will have".

Don't worry, no Severus Snape in here (honestly you can thank god, I will never do something like this to him) because this is a story about the new gen. I recycle a silly idea I had in 2016 (being: "I want a story where Rose Weasley bang every male in the family", yes I know, but also I can not for my life write a p0rn without plot so I was missing the plot at the time) and added plot, context and angst. I ask myself: "What are all the wrong things I can put in there?" and that was my start.

Soooo back to the beginning. I asked a friend who transalte her fic in english how she does it, because I lack proper grammar and some other things, and she suggest me some tools... I proofread, of course, but maybe the english will not he the best (you can always suggest or correct me), BUT this is the occasion to unleash this monstrosity to the world, so stay tuned 👀

Also I put here a screenshot of the trigger warning because this is not a story for everyone and I don't want to traumatize random people so READ ONLY IF YOU CAN ACCEPT THIS. This is the most important thing to me.

This story will always be a giganormic "Fuck you" to the purity culture and also has feelings, so...

(Also just so you know: I triggered myself writing this. I found my limit as a writer with this story. Today I was listening to the playlist I created back then and there are some songs that trigger me again after months. I cried listening to them. That was not easy).

[thepeacefulgarden]

You are worthy, period.

Not "worthy unless..." Not "worthy until..." Not "worthy, but..." Not "worthy when..." Not "worthy if..." Not "worthy because..." You are worthy, period. Right here, right now. You always were, and you always will be. That worth is intrinsic to you, and it is fixed. You cannot gain more worth by doing X or not doing Y. You cannot lose your worth by doing X or not doing Y. You were born worthy, and you will die worthy.

[tiredyke]

every time queer discourse surges on this site everyone is so quick to jump to “it was actually the evil lesbians who divided us” because y’all heard the term “political lesbian” and never bothered to figure out what that meant

[toytulini]

listen im ace and im pro kink at pride and whatever, but the way some of yall are wording your posts in response to the backlash against it is uh. really taking me back to the ace shitcourse era.

yall know theres nothing wrong with being a "virgin", right? that its not inherently shameful to have not had sex, to never have sex, even if youre not ace, even if you do want to have sex someday, like, its fine that you haven't had sex?

maybe if your problem is that theyre trying to police your behavior and shame you for expressing your sexuality, you can say that? instead of resorting to "haha stupid virgin gets no bitches" like my god. do you not hear how fucking regressive that attitude is? i know, i know, youre "joking".

get a better joke

[dolls-self-ships]

just saw someone on a self shipping post say to not use the word "obsessed" to describe their feelings for their f/o bc it's harmful to those with ocd and as someone with severe ocd please shut the fuck up and go outside oh my god

[bxriles]

Watching people in this godforsaken fandom get big mad about Nyxlin is almost as funny to me as watching people get mad about Elaingate/Tamberlain.

[fandom-hoarder]

Stop fucking saying CP. 'Child porn' is not a thing. That's a harmful, outdated term that implies a child can consent. A child cannot consent. Sexually explicit material that exploits REAL children is CSEM (child sexual exploitation material) or CSAM (child sexual abuse material).

Sexually explicit FICTION is not CSEM or CSAM -- it does not exploit real people of any age to create. That's because it's fiction. Reading it also does not exploit a real person, of any age. It might affect the person that chose to read it, in an emotional/distressing way, and that may feel like harm. But it is not the same as the creator causing you harm maliciously. Dealing with coming across things that distress us is something we all have to learn when we grow up.

Reading or writing underage sexually explicit fiction doesn't make a person a pedophile or a predator. (A lot of you don't seem to actually KNOW what a pedophile is, at that. Frustrating. Words MEAN THINGS.) It's not evidence of being one, or having these desires, either. Yes, I mean even when the fiction portrays things that are horrific IRL. Yes, I mean even when something that would be horrible IRL is treated as romantic and consensual in fiction. And yes, I mean even the stuff that squicks you personally.

When you (general) throw terms like this around incorrectly, loosely, or vengefully, you actually do harm by watering down the meaning of words that describe actual, exploitative, illegal, and terrible real life actions. You do harm by making undue accusations and wasting time and resources that should've been spent elsewhere. You affect real people.

Sometimes people write from their own childhood experiences. Some people just have a fucking imagination for how a situation might play out under certain circumstances. Some people look at two characters and their history and fill in the blanks with all the twists and turns they see lurking in the shadows. Some people have a really fucked up idea they want to explore IN FICTION.

People can have their own squicks and boundaries about it, and that's fine. There's certainly fictional underage material that squicks me, even though I write and read tons of underage fiction. This is what tags, summaries, the back button, and the delete from history button are for.

Thought crime is not a thing. Quit equating it with real life.

[silvermoon424]

This is a prime example of how social media and internet clout-seeking has absolutely DESTROYED some people's sense of empathy. A famous TikToker had her newborn baby die of SIDS, and for some fucking reason people decided it would be a great time to cancel her for problematic stuff she'd said in the past. Someone crashed the baby's funeral to vlog it and shit on the mother.

I will say that I think some of the mother's past behavior warrants an apology, but I can't get over how ghoulish it is to drag someone whose baby just died. And how much of an actual fucking freak you'd have to be to vlog and try to get clout off of a baby's funeral. I'm the furthest thing from a luddite, but Jesus, social media has really set us back as a species.

[pisces-swirlix]

rip edwin payne you would’ve loved fundamentalist deconstruction youtubers

[mitsuki91]

Aaaand I did it :v This is my "Fuck you purity culture" for the fandom.

Remember: this is a dead dove. Read the tags!

Also, this is a story about the new gen in Harry Potter.

The hunter

Summary:

Molly stood for a few moments staring at the empty door, wondering about her cousin.

Why was Rose always so dull and indifferent? Could it be that she didn't really care what others thought of her?

Did she, too, harbor unmentionable secrets?

Link:

Screen of the tags:

If you think I have to add more, feel free to tell me.

[thepeacefulgarden]

You deserve happiness. You deserve safety and security. You deserve healthy relationships. You deserve support. You deserve love of all kinds, from yourself and others. You deserve to feel good. You deserve a job or career that's satisfying, and that doesn't make you dread going in every day. You deserve rest. You deserve nourishment. You deserve the same love and care you so freely give to other people. You deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. You deserve to feel at home in your body. You deserve credit for your small wins as well as your big ones. You deserve to honor your progress. You deserve time for you. You deserve to forgive yourself for your mistakes. You deserve to learn and grow. And you deserve these things no matter what.

[moonscape]

reminder that i don't want anyone okay with pedo or incest ships following me

[fournets]

i dont even really go to marble hornets anymore but if yall put shipping discourse on my dash im blocking you without a second thought thog dont caare

[bxriles]

nesta stans are so annoying. you all complain that she was “abused” by going to the HoW but she would be dead in a ditch somewhere without feyre intervening. get over it feyre was right you just won’t admit it

I am about to be the biggest dick right now because BRUH. I need you to be so for fucking real.

“ShE wOuLd Be DeAd In A dItcH”

My brother in Christ, with all disrespect intended, please shut the fuck up. My GOD. Nesta, a character who has been HORRIFICALLY traumatized, decides to cope by drinking, gambling, and having one night stands, and that means she was going to end up dead in a ditch?? You would be SHOCKED to hear how most people deal with their trauma. You would be SHOCKED to know how uncommon it is to lock a person up because someone else doesn’t like the way that person is coping.

(Disclaimer since you people have the reading comprehension of a fucking goldfish: I know some people do get locked up when they’ve been coping poorly for too long. That is not the majority of people though and you fucking know it. If you got locked up against your will for drinking a bit too much and were happy about it, GREAT. But I don’t think it’s a stretch to say that is the minority of people. And yeah, I am downplaying Nesta’s drinking because it’s not like she was guzzling liquor every second of every day and passing out on streets out in Velaris for everyone to think she’s a homeless drug addict and it’s not like she was having physical withdrawal from lack of alcohol. It’s also not like she was drunk every single time she saw one of her sisters or at family events like Winter Solstice. She was just partying hard. Not saying it’s great behavior. It’s not, but I also don’t care because I AM NOT THE PURITY POLICE.)

Why is it so hard for you people to admit that if you hate Tamlin for locking Feyre up then that means you need to AT LEAST be critical of Feyre for locking Nesta up? And before you say Feyre had her reasons, SO DID TAMLIN. I’m not saying Tamlin was right to lock Feyre up, but he had his reasons just like Feyre did. They both fucked up. I don’t know why that is so fucking hard for you people to grasp.

ALSO. CASSIAN LITERALLY SLAUGHTERED AN ENTIRE VILLAGE AFTER HIS MOTHER DIED. BE SO FOR FUCKING REAL WITH ME WHEN YOU BITCH ABOUT NESTA’S COPING MECHANISMS WHEN CASSIAN DID THAT.

[simplydnp]

Dan talking abt how tiktok is “the downfall of humanity” gave very millennial😭. Girl don’t act like you weren’t on tumblr in its peak years and don’t scroll on twitter every day (arguably worse). It’s just a pet peeve of mine when people say that because thats literally what gen x/boomers said about everything on the internet. MySpace was the true start of the downfall of humanity imo. Everything else just followed along! 👺

well he is a millenial 😔

i think he's trying to be conscious of everything that comes along with tiktok--safety concerns, privacy concerns, as well as the erasure of the creator and the platforming of The Algorithm.

he doesn't deny there's good content there, he even says in the video if his fyp gave him this content continually, he would use it. but he's all too aware of the advertising and prevalence of the algorithm. and, he's concerned about the amount of time people (cough, phil, cough) put into it.

i think they're valid concerns. i think having good-faith criticism about the things you choose to spend your time on are important. not that having guilt all the time is good, but something doesn't have to be 'perfect' in order for you to interact with it. (see youtube, twitter, and even here with tumblr)

i'll be honest, i'm a gen z who doesn't use tiktok. there's good tiktoks out there, but i prefer a different type of slop (everything is slop don't lie to yourself).

like if it really bothers you that much i suggest you sit with that discomfort and figure out why.

a lot of people older than gen z shit on tiktok because they think it's turning the frogs gay--it's just a title of something they can blame their hatred of everything different from them on, and their disgust for the youth who dare to not live by their morals. it's not about tiktok itself. whereas dan is seeing the flaws and faults of the app and the culture. you don't have to agree with him, but his opinion on it shouldn't ruin your day. he's just a guy.

[ihhfhonao3]

I thought tumblr was supposed to be the “we’re all weirdos and rejects, and we stand together!” site, not the “baby’s first reddit- sorted by controversial” site.

And that’s the funny thing. At least on reddit I can chalk up chuds to just be stupid conservative adults.

But on here?? By god, are y’all conservative adults or really, REALLY ignorant ten year olds?

I genuinely cannot tell. I. I don’t think I like that

Tldr kink belongs at pride, teach all history, learn queer history, kinky aces are valid, the only thing inherently sexual is sex itself, teach kids dutch sex ed, fuck puritans, sex positivity saves lives, weird queers are valid, sex work is real work, infighting helps the oppressor… y’all know the drill