#self care is not selfish

[thepeacefulgarden]

Promises you must make to yourself (and keep) when it's time to detach with love

I will stop trying to control anyone but myself.

I will set boundaries with this person, and I will not rescind those boundaries.

I will make those boundaries clear.

I will not give in to temper tantrums, threats, tears, bargaining, guilt trips, or other manipulative tactics. Instead, I will walk away.

I will stop doing things for them that they are capable of doing for themselves, and should be doing for themselves.

I will stop "loaning" them money I know I'm never going to get back.

I will let them be responsible for their own lives, and their own choices, and I will take responsibility for mine.

If it's necessary, I will remove myself and any children and/or pets from the household, and I will get us to safety.

I will prioritize my safety and well-being, and the safety and well-being of any children or pets.

I will not cover and lie for this person anymore.

I will no longer defend or make excuses for their unacceptable behavior.

I will prioritize my needs over their wants.

I will know that I am doing this because I love them and care about them, and I will absolve myself of guilt.

I will cultivate a support system of my own.

I will absolve myself of responsibility for their happiness, their life choices, their behavior, their words, and their responsibilities.

I will regulate my emotions when they try to dysregulate me. I will not lose my cool, no matter how much they agitate me.

If I cannot deescalate them, I will walk away.

I will absolve myself of responsibility for their feelings. I will let them be mad. Or sad. Or whatever else.

I will not bail them out of legal trouble.

I will not bail them out of any other kind of trouble or crisis.

I will no longer give this person second, third, fourth, fifth, hundredth chances they don't deserve.

I will accept that the situation is what it is, and I will stop trying to minimize or deny how bad it is.

I will accept that I cannot change or control them, and I will stop trying to do so.

I will find a sense of meaning, identity, and purpose outside of my relationship with them, or feeling "needed" or "wanted" by them, or anyone else.

I will let them face the consequences of their behavior, and I will absolve myself of responsibility for those consequences.

I will know and understand that I have done my best, and I cannot help someone who won't help themselves.

I will know that, no matter how much they may protest otherwise, I am not being selfish.

[girlbossagenda]

HOW TO GET A GLOW UP

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I used to be the ugly dunklin, till I change in 1 week and turned pretty much half of my life upside down, it happened right after my 16th catastrophic birthday, at the time I was already following Liz and her tips which helped me so much!! So here how to glow up in minimum 1 week

౨ৎsmell good౨ৎ

This is so important, I noticed how people react to good smelling people, they just say it out loud how much they like the fragrance, knowning that it's you, will just make you more approacable, it boosts your confidence and overl all more liked

౨ৎexercise + diet౨ৎ

This was huge for me, not only it imroves your moods but it also makes your prettier, you need to fist know what goals you want to archive physically, if you want a bigger butt, eggs and potatoes salad can be a good alternative, if you want to have a snatched waist try to do more cardio, at the time the only cardio I used to do was jump roping, which is amazing!!

౨ৎwardrobe౨ৎ

This was the revolution, just dress how ou want each outfit can have at max 2 trendy elements, not more, and the rest it needs to rappresnt YOUR personality!! This is going to make you unique and recognizable!! Also I suggest to go shopping on friday lol, the beauty day!

౨ৎmentality౨ৎ

This is how everything started, a munch of motivational viddeos, the wizard liz and confidence targetting posts, moodboards and much more, at the time I was getting treated really harshly from my classmates, it was probably one of thelowest point of my life, bit I pick myself up, cause I had a goal: Changing my narrative.

There was not sense into staying bitter and hating not only myself but the world around, I wanted to prove to myself that I actually mettered, you don't glow up for other, but for yourself, never, ever welcome in your life people that before put you under the rug, have some respect for yourself and clear boundaries.

Hi bonitas I hope you liked this short post, This is just part of my expereince, tell me if you want to know more + other tips!! maybe I'll make a longer version in the future, Have a great day xoxo gougeous

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[champagnexowishes]

[maxiglow]

the woman i want to be loves to

educate herself on various topics

take care of herself mentally, physically and spiritually

be pretty in her own way. prettiness doesn’t hurt and isn’t strict, it adapts itself through her authenticity

explore her inner world & the outer world

be in tune with her inner child

embrace and understand her emotions, even the bad ones

be kind, specially with herself

be organized, but flexible with what life gives her

work hard, rest hard. she loves to be in harmony and have a balanced life

eat light and nourishing food

feel good in her own skin and she actively work on it everyday

take her meds because she knows it’s good for her

[inmyperfectworld]

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[positivelypresent]

Happy April! ☔️ Here are some ideas to add to your to-do list!

[angelicenergyonly]

Change is a powerful thing,

people are powerful beings

Tryin' to find the power in me to be faithful

- Lana Del Rey

[aestheticemi01]

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[siseliestudio]

a quick reminder for everyone who needs to hear this 🥰

[girlbossblog444]

Pretty privilege is real and I'm having a blast

[thepeacefulgarden]

[girlbossagenda]

Things that are going to make you think highly of yourself

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People always tell you "just be confident", but part of begin confident is to think highly of you, the other part it's goe to accept you shadow side and the third is how to recognize your flaws (I'll make separate guides for each one of these), it's easy to be confident, but it's hard to find the procedure to be confident, so I'm here to share with you the first steps, that I used to become more confident.

୨୧Positive affirmations୨୧

This is a basic step and a very useful one, sometimes we don't get enough words of encouragement from others, try to show those lovely words to yourself and oversaturate your mind with uplifting affirmations.

୨୧Hygiene୨୧

This is a very important point. Smelling good can make you way more confident, it makes you feel take care of yourself compared to the average individual. When you smell good people want to be more around you and you also want to be more around people, which makes you feel social, enjoyable and cared for.

୨୧Hobbies୨୧

When you have hobbies you feel interesting and have a more arguments to talk about, it helps connect with others,and if you have solo hobbies you will start growing into loving yourself and feel comftable in your own company.

୨୧Help people when they need it and when you can୨୧

Help people but not in people pleasing way, but in a "I want to help you cause I love the feeling of begin able to make someone's pain less relevant", helping others in your means makes you feel good.

Today's guide it's quite short, I want to thank you hunns for your supports, I'm really grateful for this opportunity and begin able to share tips with you, I hope you have a LOVELY day, if you want to ask a sepatated advice just send me an anonymous question, I'll gladly answer!! xoxo gourgeous

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[allglittery]

[maxiglow]

[inmyperfectworld]

Amongst the chaos of life, don't forget to press pause ⏸️. Taking the time out for self-care isn't just a luxury, it's also a necessity. Embrace moments of stillness, recharge your spirit, and nourish your soul. You truly deserve it! 💕🛁🍷

[positivelypresent]

June self-care ideas!