Yes you’re not fatphobic but are you capable of talking about fat people in a positive manner without saying somft/round/rotund/squishy/tumby/chumby/any other variation of the sort. Are you capable of talking about us in a positive manner without it being about beauty or attractiveness. Are you able to talk about fat people in general without being dehumanizing or infantilizing. Can you treat fat people with respect.
Always use "excuse me" if you have to get into someone else's personal space.
Someone at the store is standing in front of the shelf where there's a can you want to grab? Don't just reach into their personal space without warning, say "excuse me" or "pardon my reach" first so that they at least have a warning that someone is about to reach into their personal space, and most importantly, so that they have a chance to move before you get into their space.
Or if someone is standing on a walkway or in a doorway you need to get through, don't just silently shove past them or squeeze past them, say "excuse me" so that they have a warning that a someone is about to squeeze or shove into their personal space, and they have a chance to move out of the way before you do you.
People deserve a fair warning if someone is about to squeeze or shove or reach into their personal space. A lot of people are not okay with having someone, but especially a stranger, randomly shove or squeeze or reach into their personal space without warning. They also deserve a chance to move out of the way first for the sake of their comfort.
Try to avoid just staring at people who are in your way and expecting them to read your mind that you want them to move. Most people cannot, in fact, read minds, so having someone stand in front of them and stare at them often only leads to making them feel uncomfortable and frustrated.
But also more importantly, if you are standing somewhere someone needs to get to, and they say excuse me, you should move aside for them even if just temporarily, so they can avoid the discomfort of having to reach into your personal space or squeeze past you.
If someone is saying "excuse me" it's because they would like you to move because they don't want to have to get into your personal space, whether it's out of respect for you, or just because they themselves are not comfortable getting in your personal space.
All of this goes double for people with trauma and/or people who are neurodivergent. If someone has trauma related to abuse or assault they may find it more upsetting or possibly triggering to suddenly have someone shoving or reaching in their personal space without warning.
Or, many types of neurodivergence can make it especially disturbing and unpleasant to have someone else in your personal space, especially without warning.
You can never be 100% sure who is and isn't traumatized and/or neurodivergent, so always practice respecting other's personal space by giving them a fair warning with "excuse me" or "pardon my reach" before getting in their personal space, and moving aside when you hear those magic words. Or, even if someone isn't traumatized nor neurodivergent, it's still fair to not like someone in your personal space without warning and not being given the opportunity to move first.
Your posts about fat phobia made me realize why my friends calling me stuff like cuddly/soft/squishy/huggable made me so uncomfortable, I always though it was just me being weird about it since they weren’t being mean but god will be woobifying of fat bodies ever end?
It is genuinely so incredibly insulting and uncomfortable LMAO. it's also just jarring to constantly be described in terms of How It Feels To Touch Me. hey! that sucks! also why is all of it so infantilizing!
Long haired twst characters they could never make me hate you | LeoVil animatic 👑🦁 | (CW: cursing)
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(slightly OOC, sorry!)
This one’s for the LeoVil shippers! I personally like this ship, because the comedic potential they have as exes is limitless! Powercouple fr, until they tragically and very dramatically broke up 😔
Fuck everyone i wanna walk out of my room naked and just do whatever the fuck i want but these nasty greasy old pigs are in my fucking living room instead of going on a walk that their fatasses need kill ypurself oh my goodness gracious no playlist seems to put feminine rage jnto words and i think im experiencing that rn cause j feel a bunch of other shit but i don't know what i am if im woman or not or whatever the fuuu TV g i fud fuck jdjcbxwudbrhec eycsibc i hate this
okay internet, i know that you not ready for this but
it's strange being all omgyes #slay yay totaly okay for like, all kinks, but going #omg wtf cringe scull emoji about fat kink
like we as society know how kinks works (importance of consents, special rules for practices like using special candles for wax play, etc), we know how really infinite can human fantasy go and so on and so on but why is it still taboo to be openly horny about things like big tasty meal with your lover
can we be finally chill about it
p.s. i have post which gives good arguments on this topic but i couldn't find it by search, only in my blog archive, so here is the link.
The problem with fat kink is not in it existing, but in not-exsisting of range of image of fatness in media
Owen, peacefully existing: “Hey guys! It’s me Owen 😋-“
The td fandom: “SHUT UP SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU FAT ANNOYING PIECE OF SHIT!! ALL YOU EVER DO IS EAT AND FART!! 💢EAT AND FART 💢
YOU DIDN’T DESERVE TO WIN TDI YOU INSUFFERABLE TUB OF LARD! HOW DID YOU EVEN PULL IZZY?? IM GLAD SHE DUMPED YOUR UGLY FATASS WHEN SHE HAD THE CHANCE! THIS IS WHY ALEJANDRO IS BETTER (and hotter) THAN YOU! YOUR PARENTS HAVE NEVER LOVED YOU AND I HOPE YOU FIND A CORNER TO CURL UP IN AND STAY THERE FOR THE REST OF YOUR PATHETIC LIFE UNTIL YOU SLOWLY STARVE AND DIE.
clicked on a fat activism blog bc it was recommended to me and the first thing I see on it is just a "uwu soft tummies..." post. I'm Fuckin Out Of Here