#invalidation tw

[auschizm]

This is plain not true! It might be partly true for a couple low support fully verbal high functioning autistic people, but autism is a genuine developmental disability, and if an autistic person struggles socially it's NOT just because they "aren't trying" and "didn't care to learn." And it's very ableist to imply that

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Opinion: when non- psychiatric doctors who hear about any mental invisible disability/disorder they start lecturing the patient about how they should learn to live life happily rather than focus on past but they won't even give the patient a listening ear! The patient is to understand their unsolicited opinion and reflect when there's so much going on at the same time.

I really don't think psychiatrists are excluded from this phenomenon nor that it's limited to invisible psychiatric disabilities... Ableism is far broader and more insidious than that!

[ekowolf]

okayyy tumblr i need you to be less based today

"low support needs disabled people are often not believed to have a disability at all and therefore struggle to get accommodations."

"high support needs disabled people's accommodations are often seen as 'too much' and therefore are not met."

"neurodivergent people's needs are often dismissed because nothing is physically wrong with them."

"physically disabled people people often cannot physically access buildings and people refuse to do anything about it."

"invisibly disabled people are seen as lazy by society."

"visibly disabled people are ostracized from society."

IT'S ALMOST LIKE THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS A SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE DISABILITY

[everythingwasnormalhere]

There's so much wrong with "everyone is a little bit autistic"

Yes, allistic people might know a lot of facts about the things they like. Yes, allistic people might get a bit overwhelmed or underwhelmed sometimes. Yes, allistic people might not get an expression sometimes, mostly if it's the first time they hear it.

That doesn't make them autistic.

Those traits only make someone autistic when they become disabling. Because, big shock, autism is a disability. Yeah, even if someone is low support needs, because that doesn't mean they don't need any support at all.

Saying "everyone is a little bit autistic" is like saying "everyone struggles with this, so suck it up, you have no right to need help". Which is just pure ableist bullshit. It denies the fact that autistic people have higher support needs than NTs, no matter where in the autistic spectrum they are. We're not "neurospicy", we're disabled, and denying this fact is denying us the right to get the help we need, we deserve, to have a good life.

(yes, this rant is just because I made the awful decision of listening to "neurospicy (interlude)" by Jax. honestly I'd rather be called a slur than listen to that shit again.)

[imsodunwiththis]

She told me that other people have it worse

She told me that I chose this

She told me that it is what it is

She told me I was being dramatic

She told me that I was faking it

She told me that I am just being lazy

She told me that it’s not that bad

She told me that everything happens for a reason

She told me to just stay positive

She told me that I should be grateful

She told me to just be happy

She said that some people deserve to be bullied

She told me that I look depressed

Why do I have to look a certain way just to be valid? Why do I have to be a certain way just to be valid? I feel emotions, isn’t that enough?

[supernaturallyliterate]

I think this was the hardest thing for my mom to understand when I was diagnosed with a chronic pain condition. She wanted to fix it. Make it go away. Take the pain away. Find some miracle cure.

And I did too, for awhile. Until I slowly started to understand my condition, to learn how to adjust my daily routines to work with my chronic pain rather than against it. Until I grieved. Accepted.

She is still grieving

Sometimes I don’t think people get that chronic means chronic. It means forever. I’m going to be stuck with this for the rest of my life and I’ve had to learn to make peace with that myself. Telling me ‘hope you get better soon’ and ‘it won’t always be like this’ is pointless because you’ve completely ignored the definition of chronic illness.

[xvelvetcoffinx]

[sokkabaddiebender2021]

honestly i think it’s so gross how many adults i have seen on this app upset that heartstopper is a show rather mild in its sexual content. it’s a show that’s target audience is young queer people….about young queer people……played by young queer people. the show is not “anti-sex” at all, if you actually watched the show charlie and nick discuss that they WANT to do more, that they want to “go further” some day. charlie has a boat load of trauma (including trauma about having his physical boundaries ignored) however and nick is still processing his sexuality, so why are you pushing for them to be intimate?? i’ve known people who have dated for years and didn’t actually have sex until they were adults and mature enough to do so.

viewing this show as a adult woman i find it honestly disturbing that there is this fixation on the necessity of sexual content including children. because that is who these characters are. children.

the show does not bash sex (uhh the teachers very clearly banged??), it merely advises against forcing yourself to be sexual before you are ready. the queer community has always been demonized as a “hypersexual” group of people, but that is merely a label forced upon us. heartstopper is the one of the only queer pieces of media that defies this expectation, and tells queer kids everywhere that it’s ok to take your time, and that sex is not the end all be all.

[crucispidey]

traumatized more than the average person, not traumatized enough to be dead because of it.

[auschizm]

Maybe it's less about me "not seeming" like I'm mentally ill/neurodivergent, but more about some people being unwilling to re-contextualize their negative judgment of me as the ableism it is

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Sometimes I feel like my struggles are invalid cause it’s not Actually Pain. It’s always nausea or dizziness or fatigue. Sometimes people lash out at me as a result of pain because their pain is worse than mine. It’s true but I still wish that they were more understanding

Pain isn't the only valid way to struggle with your health. There are tons of debilitating symptoms which aren't defined by pain and they can be just as much of a struggle to cope with. Don't let the internalized ableism convince you otherwise ❤️

[vannalamba]

it’s always “just fiction, doesn’t matter” when it’s an abusive/toxic relationship and/or sa but it suddenly becomes real when it comes to pronouns

[hikakaomybeloveds]

*VENT POST*

cw for mentions of cocsa, grooming, and intrusive thoughts (specifically surrounding csa)

note: i am talking about my own incredibly personal trauma here. please do not speculate on what may have happened to me outside of what i say here, and please do not ask invasive questions. thank you

okay. i need to vent rn.

i'm so FUCKING SICK of antis.

i'm so sick of them and their stupid fucking rhetoric around fiction.

i am a survivor of cocsa. i lost my early teenage years to grooming due to the vulnerability caused by that sexual assault. i am proship and a shotacon who ships both shota/shota and non-shota/shota. THEY ARE COPING MECHANISMS. shipping yuu and tsubaki has genuinely *made me feel better and less gross* about being in a relationship with a 17-year-old when i was 12 because i was being groomed. i don't know why. i can't explain it. i just know it helps.

i also have HORRIFIC intrusive thoughts that often involve graphic imagery of me committing csa, specifically against my own siblings. don't feel this needs to be said, as it's kind of in the name, but these thoughts bring me immense distress.

antis will say, with their full chest, that i'm a groomer and pedophile and need to be kept away from children because of the things i ship and the kinds of characters i am attracted to. they will tell me i should not be able to see my own siblings because i'm going to harm them. this is DEEPLY triggering.

i live in fear that one day i will hurt a child. i don't want to. i know that. but i've had intrusive thoughts about it regularly *since the age of 11*. i am so scared that one day i will act on those thoughts. and regularly seeing people call me a child abuser for the way i cope with my own trauma is absolutely not making that any better.

genuinely fuck antis and their moralizing bullshit about the ways fiction affect reality. try this on for size: you are actively triggering a childhood sexual assault and grooming survivor when you call shotacons or proshippers in general pedophiles.

fuck you.

[pr0-dollie]

Cw: talk of trauma + trauma dysphoria + kinda long lol

I did not feel comfortable reblogging this person at all.

- Melody[host]

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[This is more tri-harmed thing at first but I do bring up, full trans-harmed things like no trauma at all.

Also these feelings I'm talking about is for me and not for everyone]

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I actually want to feel this /srs /gen

I'm already traumatized but it isn't enough? People always and will forever undermine my [cis]trauma, and my [cis]trauma is already unseen or not as important and I've internalized this for so long that words of reassurment doesn't help.

My dysphoria gets to me so bad and if this is the only way to be valid is to live ashamed, uncomfortable, emotionally unstable and with nightmares I would do it, no questions asked, the only way I can be valid if I go through my trans-trauma.

But also identifying as my trans-trauma is kinda euphoric because if not all then most trans things are valid.

Also, not all people's trauma responses is like this, that's stereotypical responses[not saying if you have stereotypical responses you're invalid, you are completely valid <3], there a different responses to trauma.

Also I would feel special if I did go through my trans-trauma.

And then people with absolute NO trauma, maybe not all but I know some of them just want trauma because it's the only way for them to be seen or heard because people make trauma a competition and badges.

So if you actually feel that strongly about this, then let's go to the root issue and stop the glamorization of trauma, stop saying one trauma is worse then the other, stop making people feel special for their trauma, stop blaming people for feeling like they need more trauma as a result of trauma and then already invalid feeling people seeing other people get seen and heard while their unseen especially if they dont have a 'normal/big trauma/'everyone has it''/mainstream trauma, make ALL trauma seen, stop it all <3

But you won't. and you'll continue blaming it on rq's and transx's even though most of the time their trying to cope from society's doings.

And since you and most people won't try to stop or spread awareness to the main root of this all + it's already too far in how society and people see trauma/not normalized/not seen trauma for it to be reversed, transharmed people will always and will continue to use these labels to cope, for fun, and ect.

And you'll continue blaming them when it's not their faults.

[Also reminder not all transharmed's feel this wayz this is just my take on it]

- Melody [host]

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[Off topic/short talk about my tri-harmed-ness]

Also I might just refer all my cis-harmed ids as trans-harmed ids, idk why but it makes me feel better, when I don't refer it as my cis-trauma, makes me feel normal or something, like I said before I have contradictory feeling and in contradictory to myself lol (-ω-｡).

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[tbalderdash-art-blog]

From 14/01/2025. Based on the WikiHow page for cuddling, I want to draw more like this

[borderlinereminders]

My friend keeps making fun of a typo I made and I know they’re just teasing me but I’ve asked them to stop and they won’t. They said I’m just being sensitive and embarrassing

That’s not okay, anon.

I actually have a friend who routinely makes fun of my typos but the thing is that she’d never do it if it actually upset me. In fact, on days I’ve been upset, I’ve noticed she lets my typos slide because she’s worried I’ll feel upset by something that normally wouldn’t bother me.

It’s okay to be upset by things. There doesn’t need to be a big reason. Sometimes they’re just upsetting.

I think it’s absolutely awful when people try and make it your fault for being upset with “you’re being sensitive”. You’re allowed to be upset. And someone being a good friend to you should respond to you being upset with something like “I’m sorry. It wasn’t my intention to hurt you but I’m sorry I did. I won’t do that again. Thank you for trusting me to tell me this.”

It’s up to you, but I wouldn’t continue being friends with someone that disregarded my feelings. Especially about something they were actively doing that was upsetting me.

At the very least, I think you need a serious heart to heart with your friend.