#kids with adhd

[anavatazes]

While trying to teach a 12 year old female child that has an extreme case of ADHD how to raise a kitten, who also happens to be a female Tuxedo... if you understood any of that, understand any of the pain I am in, then you know why I harken for the days when I had my Lab/Husky mix. He was easier to handle. My Malamute is easier to handle. Of course, that sweet darling, even in her terrible twos (as she is now), just wants momma happy. The child could give two shits. She caters to her baser instincts, her Id. She does care about others, but her ADHD makes it very difficult for her to see beyond how things impact herself. And you have to tread carefully in how you approach her about that, because you can do some serious emotional damage. And that's just the tip of the motherfucking iceberg with her.

She used some birthday money to buy her kitten a collar. Now, like many (not all) Tuxedo females, her kitten is very petite. Packs a punch (ask our resident fat ass chonker), but very petite. So a lot of the typical things designed for kittens are NOT gonna fit her. Like this collar. I can fit most of my hand between the collar and her neck. This will lead to so many safety issues, and the child is NOT listening. So I tell her, in no certain terms, after this kitten has already gotten out of it TWICE, she gets out of it third time, it's not going back on. I repeat it several times. And several more times. I could go into detail why, but last time didn't go over well, with her in tears, clinging to the kitten for dear life. So I just lay down the law.

I had to open her door to let her know the neighbors would be calling to complain soon because of her noise levels (she thought that was hilarious), and the kitten made a break for it. I couldn't catch her till it was time to let Mara out, and she wanted out with the backup ( I'll tell the story one day, but it goes back to my Vader). While the kid was distracted, I decided to help the kitten out, and this supposed break away collar 🙄 was a bitch to get off her. Finally did, made it look like it slipped off, and threw it towards the boxes I still need to take to be recycled (a mess the cats LOVE).

It has helped to bring that poor baby some freedom. The child's father and older sister have been brought up to speed. If that collar goes back on that kitten before she's big enough for it, the collar becomes mine. And I hate being that way because I want her to make the right decision here. I am trying to show her how to make the right decision.

It's hard. I wish we could get her back into therapy, but with the way our insurance is... and especially the way this stupid state is. Gods, I cannot wait to be out of here! I could really use the back up.

Beans, the kitten in question. Careful, she has a fierce 🤣🥰

[lyliana1277]

I’m “watching” my bestie’s 7 year old son and he’s watching Godzilla videos. He’s telling me all about the different Godzillas and their abilities. It makes my heart so happy. You go, T! Tell me all about your current hyperfocus and obsession. I love this kid.

[lesbian-disaster-academic]

i used to be so good at writing strong, thoroughly-researched, thoroughly-edited essays.

as a kid in hs, my teacher literally came up to me, holding my 40 page essay on the intersection of the European witch hunts and capitalism/exploitation/gender roles (it was supposed to be 7 pages...whoops) and went like "this is literally a master's-degree level thesis. what are you doing?? you could literally use this as your final dissertation in a master's program, what the fuck."

NOW??? NOW?? you'd think I'd be oh so skilled. but alas. i can barely piece together two ideas. adhd skill-regression is so so real. im SOBBING

[skullsandcorals]

"I'm dyslexic. I'm not stupid."

[thattheater-kid]

I am an aroace aplatonic agender autistic ADHD person with anxiety, which means I’m winning. I collected the most A’s. I got the high score.

[mothmonologue]

My life is a constant cycle between "I need to rest before I burn out" and "I'm wasting my potential, I should work harder"

[mavigator]

i talked about it a little bit already but i have things to say about it. for context, i was born with amniotic band syndrome. the amniotic band wrapped around my left wrist in utero and stunted the growth of my hand. i was born with about half a palm, four nubs for fingers, and a twisted half of a thumb. i can open and close my thumb and pinkie joint like a claw.

yesterday at work i had a shift in the room with 5-10 year old kids. i had my left hand hidden in my sleeve (a bad habit of mine). a kid asked if he could see my hand, and even though internally i was debating running into traffic, i said “sure you can” and showed him my hands. he stared for a moment, looking disturbed, and then said “i don’t want to look at that anymore”. that hurt to hear, but i understand that kids are new to the world and he probably didn’t mean it out of malice. i put my hand away again, told him that it was okay, and that i was just born that way.

he then went on to talk about how he knows a kid with a similar hand to mine and called it “ugly”. i told him that wasn’t a very kind thing to say and that he wouldn’t feel good if someone said that to him, and he replied that no one would say that to him—because he has “normal hands”, and he’s glad he does because otherwise he’d be “ugly”. i tried to talk with him for a bit about how everybody is born differently, but he just started talking about a girl he knows with a “messed up face” and pulled on his face to make it look droopy. i went on some more about how it wasn’t very kind to talk about people that way, but the conversation moved on to something else.

i’ve told my supervisors about it and they’re going to have a talk with his mom. what i wanted to say is this: i’m genuinely not upset with the kid. kids are young and naturally curious, and he clearly simply hasn’t been taught about disabled people and kind ways to speak to/about others. which is why i am upset with his parent(s). i know he’s encountered visibly deformed/disabled people before (he said so himself!), yet his parent(s) clearly haven’t had any kind of discussion with him about proper language and behavior. i knew from birth that some people were just different than others, but my parents still made a point to assert to be kind to and accepting of others. i wonder if adults in his life are the type of people to hush him and usher him away when he points out someone in a wheelchair. that kind of thing doesn’t teach politeness. it tells children that disabled people are an Other than can’t be acknowledged or spoken about; which, to a child, means disability must be something bad.

i’m lucky enough that this was a relatively mild incident, and that i’m a grownup with thicker skin. i’m worried about the other kids he mentioned to me. has he been talking to them this way? when i was a kid, i had other kids scream, cry, and run away at the sight of my hand. or follow me around pointing at me and laughing at me. or tell me i couldn’t do something because i was ugly or incapable or whatever. one time a girl at an arcade climbed to the top of the skeeball machine, pointed at me, and screamed at me to put my hand away and wouldn’t stop crying until she couldn’t see me anymore. another time, a kid saw my hand, screamed at the top of her lungs, and ran into my friend’s arms, crying hysterically about how i was scaring her. that second incident made me cry so hard i threw up when i got home. i can kind of laugh it off now, but having people react to me that way as a child is something i’m still getting over. why do you think i have a habit of keeping my hand in my sleeve? it just irritates me to see children that have clearly not been taught basic manners and kindness—their parents Clearly missed something pretty important .

[oatmiruku]

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[vibe2oda]

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[deadmomjokes]

Me during pregnancy: odd how they say the baby sleeps when you move and wiggles mostly when you're still, this kid literally never stops moving. Literally. Even when they fall asleep, they still twitch and wiggle. Wonder if that's normal....

Me with newborn: Huh. She really doesn't stop moving. Even while sleeping. But also she kind of never sleeps, I thought newborns needed, like, 20 hours of sleep. We're doing everything right, why isn't she sleeping? And if she needs that much sleep, why is she fine with not getting it? And she really wants more stimulation and interaction than they said was good and normal for a baby her age. Her favorite place to sleep is a busy mall. Wonder if that's normal....

Me with ambulatory infant: Oh my heck she's going to kill herself would you please stop climbing things how did you even get UP THERE, you don't even have kneecaps yet! She hasn't stopped moving since the day she was born. Is this normal? I wonder if that's normal....

Me with toddler: I mean, being still is really unintuitive when you think about it. So what if she's doing hand-stands and flips on the couch while she asks me about how computers work? That's just how it goes, I guess. She'll probably grow out of it. Pretty sure that's normal....

Me with small child: Yeah, she's pretty wiggly and her brain never stops going and she climbs on everything and she talks all the time and she forgets where her shoes are but remembers the details of a conversation we had once about a very complex topic, but that's just how she is. I mean, look at me, I'm the same way, always have been. I'm pretty sure by now that it's all perfectly norm---

*sees child existing next to her preschool classmates*

Oh?

*sees child existing next to babies half her age*

Oh.

*gets diagnosed with ADHD at age 30*

OHHHHHH

[tiffanyachings]

i have never been more in love with her

[ao3-crack]

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[guiltyidealist]

"my child is fine" your child was a pleasure to have in class

[wordsoup420]

Hot take: it's fucking idiotic to call someone who is just calmly trying to explain their actions or emotions 'rude'. It's ESPECIALLY idiotic to say that to a small child. You'll end up turning them into a fucking doormat unable to speak up for themselves (me)

Kids can't properly control tone yet. I ESPECIALLY couldn't due to autism. So to hold a kids tone to the importance of the tone of an actor on set to get the correct feel is completely idiotic. And some teen girls literally *just sound like that*. They aren't "being rude" that's just what her voice sounds like. They aren't "making excuses" they are genuinely trying to fucking communicate their reasons so that an understanding can be reached. This shit is why EVERYONE SUCKS AT COMMUNICATING AND WE NEED TO FUCKING STOP DISCOURAGING HONEST AND OPEN COMMUNICATION

Most kids are innately honest until they are taught to lie by society or their parents. By making them FEAR honesty. By punishing them for communicating you are teaching them to lie. You are making lieing feel like the safest option even when you punish for lies. Because at least with the lie there's a chance of no punishment, but with the truth you'll 100% get punished.

[calebsrottingcorpse]

Collector redraw with Kid Belos 🙏

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