#like i’m a aspec nonbinary lesbian

[tulsa24]

this is old news to probably everyone but the little italian fish boy i named myself after is queer & that makes me so happy!!

[theaspecyear]

I’m reading “The Seven Necessary Sins for Women and Girls” by Mona Eltahawy and I’m so tired of the aspec erasure.

The seventh necessary sin is lust. The author speaks about women’s frustration with virginity (fair!) and how we should claim our body back (I agree).

Claiming your body means having the right to decide when you have sex and with whom, which is absolutely right. But of course the chapter doesn’t speak about the possibility of not wanting to have sex altogether. You have the right to decide how much sex you want to have, but there’s no mention of the possibility you might want NOT to have sex not because you’re being oppressed into not having it but just because you don’t want to (for any reason).

This might seem like nothing, a detail to be hung up on, but I’m just so tired. This author constantly talks about intersectionality, references gay and lesbian and transgender and nonbinary people and experiences, but [at least so far; I haven’t read the whole book yet, though I’m not holding my breath] no mention at all of aces and aros.

I don’t think that’s a malicious choice, the idea I got is that the author doesn’t even know we exist. Or maybe she does but doesn’t care, I don’t know.

Point is, I’m so tired of feminists and queer people being all about “It’s your body, your choice!” while constantly forgetting that for some people—sex repulsed aces among them—the choice is to not have sex at all, and that’s fine and revolutionary too.

Society is amatonormative and allonormative, and yes, there’s a lot of shame around having sex that shouldn’t be there, but everyone is still expected to have it. To want it. Maybe just with your spouse, maybe just in a committed relationship, maybe with the other gender only, but not wanting to have sex ever with anyone? Unconceivable.

Asexuality actually offers a very interesting lens on compulsory sexuality, but most allo people just don’t care. Even if they’re feminist, even if they’re queer.

And I’m just so tired.

[shentheauthor]

Fuck it, I’m bored. Nine sols gender/sexuality headcanons.

Kuafu: Gay cis man. I adore him. Look at him. He’s not subtle. He says jiequan, who literally walks around half naked, is “stylish.” I know what you are.

Goumang: She gives trans lesbian vibes. I also adore her. Free my girl, I could fix her

Yanlao: Homophobic /j. Nah fr tho, I think he’s a cis het man, but like, he isn’t gonna be homophobic or transphobic. I don’t think Penglai has that kind of thing. Grandpa is an ally, yay

Jiequan: That is a GAY MAN. Trans maybe? I haven’t decided, but what I do know is he is GAY. Look at how he talks to Yi. He’s gay and down horrendous and needs some therapy PRONTO. “Gay people who cannot be in a healthy relationship because they suck so bad” representation

Lady Ethereal: Bisexual demigirl, she/they! Also I hate that they didn’t let her keep her original name in the EN version. Fu Die is pretty!!! Dammit!!! But yea Lady E gives me strong bisexual vibes. She also had a thing for Yi. EDIT: SHE CANONICALLY HAD A RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN LETS GOOOOO THE BISEXUALS ARE WINNING

Fuxi: Listen. Listen. He and Nuwa are identical twins. ONE of them bitches is trans. To me, it’s Fuxi. Trans man Fuxi is real to me. No clue what’s going on with his sexuality, and frankly, I don’t wanna know

Nuwa: I think she’d fw neopronouns. Her gender is a mess, and she wouldn’t really care to define it. Rotating her around in my brain. As for sexuality, same as Fuxi

Ji: Agender, he/they, and bisexual. The devs wanted him to be agender/nonbinary and I am CLINGING to that. They’re real to me. Also I think they and Jietong had a thing. I won’t elaborate.

Eigong: cis lesbian with every mental illness, banned from all public spaces. She gives old, wise queer energy until you dig deeper into her personality and see oh, she needs to be on some kind of list. Kind of iconic, ngl.

Yi: arospec/aspec, probably agender, but he has a job so he doesn’t care about that shit rn. He/him because that’s generally what people default to. Would not touch jiequan with a ten foot pole. Could have potentially had a thing with Lady Ethereal had everything not gone to absolute shit.

Heng: same as Yi lmao. Genuinely. They’re the AAA siblings

Shennong: Pansexual. Considers himself cis, but there’s definitely something else going on there. He doesn’t want to unpack that. Frankly, he is valid.

Bonus:

Chien: Trans girl

Shanhai 9000: gender is a solarian concept it doesn’t give a flying fuck about (it/its pronouns). Same with sexuality.

Abacus: also doesn’t care about gender or sexuality, but he will accept whatever pronouns. It’s whatever to him.

Shuanshuan: Intersex! Might grow up to be queer, but honestly, he’s just a baby rn. I’m not about to go in depth there

Chiyou: finds the concept of gender fascinating, chose he/him pronouns because he liked how they sounded. So what I’m getting at is: trans Chiyou

[blkaroculture]

This probably might be the most vulnerable thing I post on this account ever, but I think it’s important.

I often feel very insecure coming onto this app and seeing opposing opinions and stances from other aspec people. It’s common to talk about insecurity from those outside the aspec community, but i don’t think i’ve seen much about insecurity gathered from inside the community. At least, not in way im gonna talk about it here.

I am a black nonbinary oriented aroace lesbian. I am sex repulsed and romance averse.

Often times I feel as if i am not a real lesbian. Often times I feel as if queerplatonic love is just not enough to be considered lesbian. I’ve only recently begun to gain confidence in this part of my identity partly due to the lesbian apocalypse in tiktok, seeing and following other fellow oriented aroace lesbians, and proudly stating my aroace lesbian identity in comments to which i see people follow me for. Seeing people advocate for more non-partnering aros and those who don’t want or like QPRs makes me feel shame and hurt not because what they want is wrong, but because i’ve come to internalize that my desire and deep gratitude for QPRs will always come second to romance (as well as, in my case, sex because i prefer sexless QPRs) and that I’m not worthy of acceptance or importance. That people will always read it as a “fancy word for friendship.”

I also often times feel like my sex repulsion is what causes annoyance in people. I often times feel as if i may be taking away from my (possibly) allorose queerplatonic partner by wanting us to stay monogamous. What if im restraining her from sex? Is my desire for monogamy selfish? I feel like a burden when wanting to express my sex repulsed feelings. I feel like i will hurt others by wanting to express my distaste for sex. Seeing people advocate for increased visibility for sex-favorable aces makes me feel shame and hurt, again, not because what they want is wrong, but because I’ve internalized that sex is human nature for everybody that i should want it too if i’m really human, and in the case of race that as a black person sex is something i especially should want and be aggressive about. That people will always read me as being overly sexual.

See how all of what I had vented about deals with my personal feelings and experiences and not the wrong doings of others inside the community? I think that as a marginalized community we forget that we are… well, marginalized. That insecurity from simply being who we are is kinda… part of the point? Acceptance is important but it doesn’t come before insecurity does. Ignoring this insecurity can lead to increased defensiveness, higher sensitivity, and feelings of anger which can cause us to project our feelings onto others. We can act out in bias/ one-sideness (which is something i’ve done recently on here, unfortunately), act out as if the other person is being unreasonable or stepping on another part of the community, this that and the third. So, with this vulnerability, I want to tell you if there was something someone on here or anywhere said that made you feel insecure, even if the message was important and necessary, you’re not a bad person. You’re not bad for feeling insecure either. Insecurity is something to mend, to tend to and fix as a community. Bottling it up only causes tension within ourselves and can ultimately cause us to project that outwards. Maybe I am just posting this to make myself feel better and no one else thinks like me or is in my current position, but I refuse think that’s a bad thing either. My feelings matters much more than I tend think, and the same applies to all of you. And, just as much as I hate those hugboxing ass “___ is valid!” posts that just check of the list for the days identities, god dammit can it feel good once in a while. But it doesn’t just stop at those, we need active healing.

Find out and experiment with what you were hesitant to or felt ashamed to experiment with before and learn to own it. Learn to be okay with the fact it makes you feel good and that no one can take it away from you. Learn that there will always be some place or some people who you can share it with enthusiatically. Find your creative outlet and find your inspiration. You cannot learn to support your fellow aspec siblings if you can’t even learn to support yourself.

Insecurity doesn’t have for be forever, but it for damn sure don’t have to be never, either.

[sage-thee-herbmaster]

Hello everyone! I’m planning on making an pride icon headcanon prompt in April to celebrate my birthday! You’re free to join in if you like under the tag “Sage’s Headcanon Event”. Here’s the list:

Mono spec (Lesbian, Gay etc.)

Multi spec (Bisexual, Pansexual etc.)

Asexual | Aromantic | Aspec

Tertiary orientation (platonic, aesthetic, sensual, etc.)

Polyamorous | Ambiamorous | etc.

Trans | Nonbinary

Multigender/Polygender | Fluid/Flux 

Xenogender | Neogender

Genderhorder

Therian | Otherkin | Alterhuman | Etc.

Neurodivergence | Disability

Femme | Butch | Futch 

Omegaverse mogai/liom (sfw)

Atypical Dysphoria | Dissconnomei | Aldernic | Moresever-/Lessever-

Objectum | Objectix | Objectra | Humanotin

Chronosian | Permaregressor

Neo/Xeno AGAB | Altersex

Nonconformity

‘Contradictory’ identity

Headcanon of your choice!

Tagging: @thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra @acetrappolaswife @en8y @honey-makes-mogai @mogai-headcanons @mogaimagic

[disventure-rewrite-takes]

for when u get back:

I'd make Jaiden t4t. bc that would be pretty rad and also it would be nice to have a canon trans character that isn't the skinny white twink named Aiden

like don't get me wrong, I know tguys like Aiden, I know tguys called Aiden, but like. the very stereotypical trans guy being the Only trans character period is. weird. i don't like it.

also while I'm here... let's see... Gabby, Alec, Rosa, Lake, Grett and Kai. All trans. Also also we should have a canon nonbinary and/or genderfluid or bigender character. gimme enbies who use multiple sets of pronouns pretty please!

like if ONC are going to claim that like half the characters were super intended to be LGBTQ and have pride posts filled with a bunch of characters they 100% just. decided were queer for brownie points so the posts would have more than 4 characters... then we might as well go all the way!

- 👽

YES TO ALL OF THIS!!!

jaiden being t4t would solve every issue in the world ever i think . make this canon ONC pls.. actually dont bc you’ll fuck it up horribly. keep your hands off trans james.

i’m glad you think, just like me, that they announced some of the cast as queer just for people to call them progressive and praise them. i’m fine with having a few characters not mention their queer identity and still be queer - i’m basically doing this with my own original story - because it can sometimes get exhausting to hear everyone outright stating their identity. it’s not in-character for everyone.

but when you have over half the cast never mention or show queerness then they just appear in the pride posts... red flag. trevek is a MAJOR example of fan service and stuff like this: they had zero chemistry, derek was always a dick to trevor, and now, somehow, for some reason, trevor is in love with derek AND we have a SECOND LOVE TRIANGLE. another few examples: huntessally never got together and never once mentioned queerness despite being set up to do both, and guess what? they’re portrayed in official art always together, with bi and pan flags respectively, despite never ever mentioning anything. karol was there for 0.2 seconds, but ONC realized they don’t have enough lesbians and forgot about trans and aspec people and decided to make her a lesbian. dan was probably made asexual just because his color scheme is purple, and emily is “part of the LGBT community” because the majority of fans hc-ed her that way so god forbid they are let down. they didn’t even tell us if she had a specific label, was unlabelled, or simply labelled herself as queer. what a slap in the face.

if you want to represent queer people, do it well. do your research. don’t make your characters gasp at the mention of a trans person (seriously what the FUCK). don’t include a kissing challenge because romance-repulsed/touch-repulsed people and/or aspec people simply could not do it. if you want to have a stereotypical queer character, that’s fine as long they have a personality outside of it and there is at least another character with the same label who does not adhere to the norm.

[telumendils]

hello yes i am bee or bean. nonbinary aspec lesbian. they/she. 32. i like to post about whatever hyperfixation i happen to have at the time. currently obsessed with DRAGON AGE, but i’m also into baldur's gate 3, fallout prime tv, the magicians, my chemical romance, horizon: zero dawn and forbidden west, lucifer, star trek, star wars, and a variety of other fandoms. you can find a running list of things i blog about on my tags page.   * all posts are rebloggable unless otherwise stated! 

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[imaginariancathouse]

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[pokichusramblings]

I’m just now realizing how much of my worldview and the way I perceive things is influenced by how weird I am. I’m queer (using the broadest umbrella terms I’m lesbian, aspec, and nonbinary), invisibly disabled in multiple ways (multiple mental and physical conditions, the only visible one being the fact that I need glasses), toe the line between perisex and intersex thanks to my messed up endocrine system, and all in all I have been the ‘odd one out’ pretty much everywhere I go.

And despite being the freak of nature that I am, I have found community everywhere as well. I have become shockingly good at finding things I have in common with people- be it interests or hobbies or minorities. There are people who consider me one of the most important people in their life.

And the thing is, most of the people in my close circle are similarly odd. Maybe less odd, maybe more odd, but all in all I find myself surrounded by love when I’m with the Freaks and Weirdos and Outcasts.

All of this affects how I interpret so many things in the world. I take people on their word for things, because if I exist then this person who claims to be a part of multiple minorities could also exist. Anything can happen. I also trust majorly when people talk about their own experiences with discrimination because I know what it’s like to be ignored. For example, I’m white, if a black person is talking about their experience with racism, why wouldn’t I believe them?!

Also I have found that the world is filled with equal parts love and hate. It is up to you to find the love. Sometimes the love is an online friend. Sometimes the love is an animal. But there is love. There is also hate. We can acknowledge the hate, but we also have to find the love. I have seen the hate. I have seen the bad. But I have also seen the love. The good. I have been discriminated against but I have also found community in other minorities. I have been bullied but I have also been comforted and protected.

There isn’t much of a moral here, I just think it’s interesting how my worldview is influenced by *checks notes* being really weird.

[mspec-to-aspec-pipeline]

@pantasticenby -> @mspec-to-aspec-pipeline

Url and header inspired by this post.(link)

So, it’s been two years since I last logged into tumblr, and since then, I’ve realized some things about myself:

I’m not aceflux, I’m just ace.

I’m on the aro-spectrum as well; nebularomantic(link) to be exact.

Pan as a label no longer fits me (hence the url change), but bi-angled does.

I am, in fact, a we! Not gonna talk about it much, and don’t ask me my opinion on syscourse. All systems are welcome here; if you don’t like it, you can leave.

Still Ram, still a they/them (although I don’t really care about singular vs. plural usage anymore), still a neurodivergent nonbinary guy.

I’m back because I missed coining weird, niece terms for my queer experience and making flags for them. (Coining masterlist here)(link) Likely won’t be posting much else.

I decided to remake this blog rather than just changing my url for the sake of everyone who’s ever linked one of my terms. The links will break if I change @pantasticenby .

I’m disappointed (but not surprised) to learn that queer discourse is still a prominent feature of tumblr, and I’m too old and too tired to deal with it. So, let me get this out of the way:

Queer isn’t any more of a slur than gay or lesbian.

Censoring and arbitrarily policing queer people who reclaim slurs puts the power back in the hands of the queerphobes.

I’m out here fagdyking it up, and you will not stop me.

Gatekeeping is stupid. Policing queer identities and queer language is stupid. Go touch grass.

A-specs are queer. Yes, even aroallo cishet men.

“Weird,” “cringe,” and “contradictory” labels are valid. Queerness is about non-normative relationships with sexuality/romance/gender/sex. Stop trying to make a new norm to conform to, and accept that there will always be queer experiences that you don’t quite understand.

Transition is for anyone who thinks their life would be improved by it, regardless of identity or dysphoria.

I’m not giving you a free pass to misgender me by handing out auxiliary pronouns. If you genuinely have difficulty using they/them for whatever reason, I’ll be patient with you, but I’m sick of gatekeepers using disabled people and non-native English speakers as an excuse to be transphobic.

Transandrophobia and transmisogyny are both real, and neither experience invalidates the other.

If you disagree with me on any of these fronts, that is a you-problem. I’m done playing along with bad-faith discourse and people taking out their internalized queerphobia on the weirder queers.

I can’t stop you from interacting or using my terms/flags, but I can block you and wash my hands of the situation.

[twomanyfandomshelp]

Exactly. And then there’s the more extended, LGBTQIA+, but even then the A only stands for asexual. Not aromantic. Not aspec. Just asexual. We’re still an afterthought. And a lot of people seem to think that the A stands for ally, for some reason. No, stop trying to take away what little we have!

I’m gonna go on a rant real quick.

Narrator: It was not, in fact, quick.

A lot of being aspec (in any way, shape, or form) feels like just not belonging anywhere because the world we live in is so focused on love and sex.

Even the LGBT community can be a little hostile, because they fought so hard to have gay marriage and things like that, but then we tell them, “nah, we’re good” and they don’t understand why we don’t want the same things they do.

Sometimes being aspec feels like being too queer to be put with heterosexuals/allos, but then, at the same time, and some people don’t consider us “queer” enough. So we’re in this weird middle ground and all we really have is each other.

I’m not saying that we can’t be friends with allos or other members of the LGBT community, I’m great friends with people on both ends, but there will always be something that they just don’t really understand about how we are, because what they think is natural and part of what makes you “human”, we just don’t feel.

The other large part of being aspec is that a lot of people just don’t know we exist. I’ve seen so many posts of other aspec people complaining about the fact that, when we want to come out to someone, we have to be prepared to give an entire explanation for what that is and answer so many more questions. I live in a very progressive area that is very friendly to members of the LGBTQIA+ community. Heck, my neighbors are a lesbian couple and their two little boys. But I still had to explain to my friends what being aroace was and what it meant for me. They’ve all been supportive, but it wasn’t like telling someone you’re gay, or a lesbian, or trans, or nonbinary, or whatever. People know what that means, so they either accept you or they don’t. And I’m not saying that’s not hard, I’m not saying that’s not scary, I’m just saying that having to explain my sexuality on top of the fear that they won’t accept me makes coming out even harder. Part of me wants to try coming out to someone by just saying “I’m aroace by the way” and then running away and leaving them to google their way through what that means. I didn’t even know what it was until I read and then watched Heartstopper, but that’s a story for another day.

I’ve yet to come out to my family because I’m worried about how they’ll react. I know they’re supportive of queer people, but it’s hard to know how they’ll react to it being they’re own child versus just other people. I’ve heard horror stories of people who seem supportive until it’s their own kid. And I know my parents aren’t like that, but it’s just an irrational fear that I can’t seem to get over. I keep telling myself that I’ll come out to them eventually, but I also keep postponing it.

My whole life, I’ve wanted to have a love story like my parents, I’ve wanted to meet the perfect guy and start a family and live happily ever after. Then, for a while, I thought it might just be perfect person (thought I was bi or pan for a while until I found out that aromantic and asexual existed and just went “huh, that is exactly how I’ve been feeling”). But now that whole plan has been shattered.

Do I want to find someone to spend the rest of my life with? Yes. Do I want it in the romantic sense? No. Do I want a QPR? Yes. But, even though I live in a progressive area with a lot of members of the LGBTQIA+ community, I’ve only met a small handful of asexuals or aromantics, and they’re rarely both. Will my partner for the rest of my life possibly end up just being the crap ton of dogs I plan to adopt as soon as I have the means? Maybe.

queer is better than lgbt+ because if you're in the + you're an afterthought, an etc., less important and valued to the community than anyone lgbt. queer however, queer works for us all, queer includes everyone

[ask-pride-color-schemes]

Clearing up some things about the “”official”“ gay man pride flag:

[Image: A flag with 7 stripes. The first three go from dark blue-green to light blue-green. The center is white. The bottom three stripes go from light to dark blue. It was designed to mirror the lesbian flag]

[Original post about it here] [Deviantart original posting with updated description here] [ @archivalflags​ more detailed post about it here]

Mod Hermy of the Pride-Flags Deviantart here: I just found out during my hiatus from this blog that there’s been a lot of discourse surrounding this flag that I helped make.

APPARENTLY some truscum/transmed took this flag and reuploaded it (that got 8.2k notes vs the 9 notes my original post has), wording it in a way that made people think it was made by them (and also "official"). Also, it seems like it's been co-opted by truscum and transphobes to exclude trans and nonbinary gay men.

I am beyond pissed off at this, especially since I don’t remember anyone telling me it was stolen.

To be very clear:

I never want any of my flags being used to exclude part of the LGBTQAI+/MOGAI community. I am fully supportive of all aspec identities, “MOGAI” genders (including xenogenders, kingenders, neurogenders and neurorientations) pronoun noncomforming gays and lesbians (or anyone, really), GNC trans people, people who use the SAM, low/non-dysphoric trans people, and anyone else who may get excluded.

Basically, any identity (that’s not centered around harming people or animals) is amazing and valid.

Also this was never meant to be a finalized design (especially since I’m nonbinary and bi), it was simply a suggestion since the anon that asked me about a gay man flag suggested one that was too similar to the butch lesbian flag.  They never followed up on it so I posted it on Deviantart for opinions but didn’t get much interaction there. I saw it around a few times but didn’t realize it took off like that and was being credited to a truscum, no less.

I’m not quite sure what to do regarding damage control around the exclusionists that are using my flag, but I started by working with several gay men in a pride, and my personal server to come up with meanings for each stripe (based on @gayflagblog​ ‘s flag) that explicitly include GNC, nonbinary, trans, ace/arospec, split-attraction, and pronoun nonconforming gay men (also made it prettier).

[Image: The same flag as above but with meanings superimposed over each stripe: [Community] [Inclusion] [She/her and pronoun noncomforming gays] [GNC, nonbinary, and trans men] [Ace/arospec and split-attraction gays] [Love and attraction] [Diversity]]

Here’s a better version made by @gayflagblog​ to deal with the problems with my proposal/suggestion:

[Images: Two flags made to look similar to the first flag but with bolder colors. The blue stripes are slightly more purple and the green stripes are slightly more green. The first flag has seven stripes and the second is a simplified 5-stripe version]

And [Here] are some more gay man/MLM flags (including PNC and SAM gays) made by other people that I’ve been collecting (gallery is incomplete though, please send any missing flags/sources to me).

[smashy-headcanons]

Super Smash Bros Pride Headcanons v5.0!

Don’t worry, I didn’t forget. Well, not completely anyways.

As you can probably guess (especially if you follow my main), my attention has been mostly taken up my other special interests as of late. In such a state, it’s difficult to make myself focus on the blog even when I want to, and it’s even more difficult to think of headcanons that are both in-character and interesting.

I’m not putting the blog on any hiatus, though--when people think of an “indefinite hiatus” they think, “Well, the blog is dead, time to pack it up and move on.” I don’t want to do that, because I do still like coming back when I find myself in the mood. The difficulty is just in finding myself in that mood. As a result, things on the blog will be slow, and there might be several days or even a couple of weeks of next to nothing.

But enough of my unrelated rambling. All my queer headcanons for Super Smash Bros, below the read more!!! Not a lot has changed admittedly; most of the change is regarding pronoun usage.

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Mario: Gray-aromantic, bisexual

BotW Link: Pansexual

Samus: Aromantic, asexual

All Yoshis: Yoshi-gender

Kirby: Nonbinary and nblw (canon in the Japanese version); He canonically uses he/him and it/its pronouns

Luigi: Bisexual; bigender; He uses he/him and she/her pronouns

Captain Falcon: Gay

Jigglypuff: Lesbian

Peach: Gray-aroace

Daisy: Pansexual

Bowser: Bisexual

Sheik: Nonbinary; They use any pronouns

Dr. Mario: Bisexual

Falco: Aromantic and asexual

Marth: Bisexual

Young Link: Nonbinary; He uses he/him pronouns

Mewtwo: Canonically genderless; It uses any pronouns

Roy: Gay

Chrom: Bisexual; polyamorous

Mr. Game & Watch: Gay

Meta Knight: Aspec; Trans man (genderless-to-male); He uses he/him pronouns

Pit: Gay; Trans boy

Dark Pit: Gay; Trans boy

Ike: Aroace; Trans man (Path of Radiance!Ike is pre-t and Radiant Dawn!Ike is 2-3 years on t); He uses he/him pronouns

Lucas: Bisexual

Sonic: Gay or bisexual; Trans boy; He uses he/him pronouns

King Dedede: Gay

Olimar: Bisexual

Wolf: Gay

Female Wii Fit Trainer: Lesbian

Male Wii Fit Trainer: Aroace

Rosalina: Aroace

Mii Gunner (SSBU): Lesbian

Pac-Man: Bisexual; Polyamorous, with 3 (or 4) wives

Male and female Robin: Bisexual; Polyamorous, with both dating Chrom

Bowser Jr: Gay, but not aware of it yet because he’s young

Roy Koopa: Gay

Male and female Corrin: Canonically bisexual

Bayonetta: WLW, either m-spec or lesbian (I believe this is canon, but I have not played the games so I can’t confirm)

All of the Inklings: Gay

Richter: Demiromantic

Isabelle: Pansexual (canonically m-spec)

Piranha Plant: By virtue of it being a plant, it does not comply to the gender binary; It uses any pronouns

Joker: Bisexual

Eleven: Nonbinary; He uses he/him pronouns

Arusu: Genderfluid; She uses either he/him or she/her pronouns

Byleth: Genderfluid; They primarily use they/them, but they switch between using he/him or she/her

Min Min: Trans woman

Steve: Agender, uses he/him and they/them

Alex: Agender, uses she/her and they/them

Zombie: Agender, uses it/its

Enderman: Agender, uses any pronouns

[trans-aroace-culture-is]

This culture blog is for trans AND aro/ace people!

Asks and submission ideas:

genderfluid aroace culture is ...

agender aroflux culture is ....

bigender aegosexual culture is ....

demineutral demiromantic asexual culture is ....

disabled trans aroace culture is ....

Then add in either a trait of yours, a situation you've been in specifically related to these labels (or not) or something you like! Have fun!!

About me: Hi I'm Rhys, I use they/them and the/the's pronouns! I'm an aegosexual and aroflux nonbinary.

other labels and pronouns: https://en.pronouns.page/@JuneRhys

If it's no trouble, can i get a promo? ty! Feel free to dm me to take you off the tag list!

@aro-culture-is @ace-culture-is @aroacecultureis @orientedaroace-culture-is @aceflux-culture @aegosexual-culture-is @gray-culture-is @greyromantic-culture-is @demisexual-culture-is @demiromantic-culture-is @tertiary-attraction-culture-is @romo-aro-culture-is @romo-repulsed-aro-culture-is @auto-orientation-culture-is @mspec-culture-is @bi-culture-is @bigender-culture-is @biromantic-culture @mspec-gay-culture-is @trixic-culture-is @enbian-culture-is @mesque-culture-is @lesbian-culture-is @omnisexualcultureis @polyamorouscultureis @polyam-culture-is @pan-demi-culture @pangender-culture-is @agender-culture-is @demigender-culture-is @demigirl-culture-is @demiguy-culture-is @boyflux-culture-is @girlflux-culture-is @trans-culture-is @transmasc-culture-is @kenochoric-culture-is @xenogender-culture-is @genderfluid-culture-is @genderflux-culture-is @bigender-culture-is @poly-and-multi-gender-cultureis @lgbtqcultureis @queercultureis @queercutlureis @abro--culture--is @spacegender-culture-is @princoric-culture-is @aroallo-culture-is @closeted-culture-is @disfluency-culture-is @questioning-aspec-culture-is @variorientedcultureis @genderfaun-culture-is @genderfae-culture-is @neptunic-culture-is

[star-scrambled]

yes!! gimme those classic team sonic hcs!! >:DD

OKAY IT’LL MAKE ME LESS ANXIOUS IF I RESPOND DIRECTLY TO YOU, OH SO LOVELY ANON 🥺 YIPPEE HERE WE GO!!! (NOTE: the pics i use were created in December so if u see lgbt hcs not on the visual then yeah. i forgot/updated em haha!!)

Sonic

- Uses he/xe/it pronouns! usually only likes it/its in contexts like being called “The Fastest Thing Alive” and such (he thinks they make him sound Really Cool LMAO)

- Biromantic Aroflux Ace and without a preference! whatever happens just Happens, as with most things he goes about in his life 👍 it just so happens he’s around this One Guy his age most of the time SOOOOOOO 🤨❤️💙🏳️‍🌈?

- Transmasc (he’s somewhere on the nonbinary spectrum lol!)

- very much Canonical combined type ADHD

Tails

- Transgender, Nonbinary, Aspec!

- Mixed feelings ab she/her pronouns, otherwise they typically use they/he

- absolutely No gender conformity in his house

- Tails was already going through gender stuff when he met sonic but they were super closeted and teased. He made them feel a lot better 😢 sob

Knuckles

- he/they but in a way that’s like. “yeah i’ve always used he/him for as long as i can remember but strangers also use they/them when they first meet me and i’m used to that too” or vise versa. The master emerald came With the Pronouns. Pronouns emerald.

- he’s SO FUCKING BISEXUAL ITS NOT EVEN FUNNY (he has a big preference for men HE LIKES MEN)

- also greyromantic/arospec obviously (messed up the colour palette scheme of the flag sorry i made it look a little too much like the aro flag ughh)

- he usually gains small crushes on people he isn’t even really aware of (he’s also TOTALLY prone to confusing his romantic and platonic feelings LMAO), out of sight out of mind yknow! but in those moments when he’s face to face with them he falls HARD

- agender, does it look like he cares

Amy

- primarily she/her pronouns HOWEVER she is ABSOLUTELY A NEOPRONOUNS USER!! gotta assign her more in the future but she definitely likes star/stars very much

- DEMI. GIRL. (she’s really into xenogenders aswell YIPPEE)

- mixed between her being panromantic or a lesbian with comphet? still leaning towards the latter by a Lot tbh (totally not projecting!!) either way she’s ace too every sonic character is aspec we know this

- SHE LOVES PRIDE SHE LOVES MAKING PRIDE MONTH ART OF HER AND THE OTHERS AND ALL THEIR FLAGS IT FILLS HER WITH JOY 😭💖‼️

also they’re All the definition of the autism spectrum and I love them for it. inquire me about every single one of these hcs i Dare You

[ethereafae]

welcome to my nature nursery!

howdy y’all! it’s reign here with yet another mogai blog, ethereafae! if you don’t know me, my main blog is @mogai-sunflowers and i created this blog to specifically focus on nature-themed mogai coining! requests are always open, so if you’ve got any feel free to send’em my way!

obligatory info before i get to my dni and stuff- i’m a white singlet, and my pronouns are she/xe/xor/xira! i’m a radinclus and a critinclus, anti-proship, and anti-contact pro-paraphilia! i hate ableists and that fully includes ppl who demonize paraphilias so i don’t really want you here if you do that kind of stuff!

alrightie, here’s my dni! it’s pretty standard, but please be respectful!

dni-

an exclusionist of any kind in relation to queer identities (anti-lesboy/turigirl, anti-mspec lesbian/gay, anti-pan, anti-aspec, transmed, anti nonbinary lesbians/gays, anti-PNC, anti-mogai)

if you don’t believe in transandrophobia or exorsexism

racist, sexist, ableist, anti-semitic, anti-BLM/ACAB, you know the drill just leave pls

proshipper, pro-contact for paraphilias like pedophilia and zoophilia

anti-endo