#mental health discourse

[moonlit-positivity]

Please stop pathologizing yourself. You're a human being at the end of the day. Getting so hung up over how you handle your symptoms & whether or not you're "right" or "wrong" to act that way? This only induces more shame, guilt, humiliation, and fosters more resentment for your inner self talk.

There is so much talk in recovery spaces about how to be this perfect idealistic vision of health at every possible stage. But that is not realistic at all. People have trauma. People have mental breakdowns. People have anger and rage and people have to live and go through things before you ever really know what to do with some of this stuff, how to handle it, etc.

At the end of the day, finding solace in your diagnosis can be cathartic, of course. But if you're dragging yourself through the mud because of what you've been handed in life and not knowing how to carry that like the Mona Lisa? Thats causing you more harm & distress than you'd think. Your diagnosis can be helpful for clarifying what's going on up there in the spicy brain noodle shop, but to be completely honest that's about it.

Why?

Well, because you're still you. You're still a human through and through. No matter what you've done on this earth, no matter what you were born with, no matter what you've been through- you deserve to rest easy knowing you're doing the best with what life has given you to work with.

So long as you're not trying to hurt anyone? Or if you're trying to be a little bit better than you were yesterday?

There is no need to further drag yourself down because the spicy brain demons don't dance the way society wants them to.

You don't deserve to suffer for the way society frames this shit. That is one of the best things you can learn how to do, is break free from the constant need to pathologize yourself at every nick and turn. Sometimes you just do stuff because you want to, because you like it, because it's helpful and beneficial to how you live. You don't need to put yourself in a straight jacket for that.

[wecandoit]

i honestly don’t hear enough people talk about how bad social anxiety gets post high school, particularly in work environments. Over the past two years I’ve become extremely hesitant to even speak in a lot of the spaces i'm in—classes, social events and especially workplaces. And as someone who has never felt socially anxious before I feel really alone in navigating this new obstacle.

like tell me why i have been at my workplace now for almost six months and can't muster up the courage to converse with my coworkers comfortably, while this guy who has been here for two weeks is already cracking jokes about Julie's terrible love life.

[xqueerneurosisx]

Ya’ll I’m all for something meaning something else to someBODY else, but I’ll tell you right now this is what I truly believe

“Trauma dumping” is NOT:

Posting your own experiences with trauma to your own social media accounts

Opening up to a friend/family member/loved one about your trauma

Seeking some support for your trauma from friends family loved ones etc

Talking! To! Your gatdamn! Therapist! About it!!

Asking for reasonable accommodations to avoid triggers

Letting those directly involved in a situation know, when a trigger has been set off and/or a flashback IS occurring

Using personal to real life examples that just so happen to include a traumatic experience for advice (of course when ASKED for said advice)

Being open with the fact that you have trauma responses/deal with the effects of trauma in the day-to-day

Idk it just seems like ppl keep ‘calling out trauma dumping,’ and then start describing one of those above, and that’s just NOT IT!!

[brettdoesdiscourse]

The people obsessed with accusing people of faking disorders never want to address the real issue.

"But it's hard enough to be taken seriously about this disorder, even for the REAL people affected by it."

So, why are you harassing people struggling with their mental health rather than the toxic system that makes it difficult for people to get help they want?

[redd956]

Seeing all the hate in the tumblr cluster b sphere on Empaths really irks me. Like oh sorry that I happen to be the opposite of you, as you use a term incredibly incorrectly. It doesn't stand for person with empathy. It stands for a person with increased empathy than the "norm". Oh sorry that you turn around getting mad at people using cluster b terms incorrectly, and then do the exact same for altruists and empaths. Ugh just makes me so mad since these people are ruining it for the rest of the cluster b community.

@heavenlysoup Are you seeing this shit? Or is this just me at 3 am over thinking it. Like of course I find it insulting, I'm an empath, but what about you, my opposite, my greatest thing to ever cross my path.

[artemisia-black]

hello! I read something the other day about how Sirius was mentally 'unhinged' / unstable BEFORE he went into Azkaban and I wanted to see what your thoughts are on this? x

Ooh ok. So this is nothing about your ask anon- I appreciate you asking me. ☺️

Firstly, I deeply dislike the term ‘unhinged’ when describing mental illness. And further from this, I don’t like the idea of the ‘Black family madness.’ While mental illness can have a genetic component- this always feels like using mental illness as a means of creating drama and is often linked to their morality.

I’ve seen the same argument before and the ‘werewolf incident’ is often cited as key evidence for Sirius having a mental illness pre-Azkaban. I dislike it for the main reason that people conflate his morality to his mental health and they are not the same thing. You can be a ‘mentally healthy person’ (a term that is up for much philosophical debate even within Psychology/Psychiatry) and be immoral.

I do think he had attachment trauma, and a reckless side but that’s not quite the same thing as the fandom discourse about being ‘unhinged’ (I cringed when I typed the word lol).

[fortheloveofdeaddove]

One of the major things I'm working on in therapy is giving myself permission and self validation. I do very little of either, so it's no wonder I'm always seeking it externally.

I see other authors get tons of asks, and I feel a lot of things when I see that: rejected, left out, reviled by others. But those feelings are just feelings. If I stop before I make them my reality (that I AM rejected, left out, and reviled), then I have the energy and self esteem to accomplish myself, WITH myself, what I'm seeking from that outward interaction I'm seeing in others.

The idea that others might see the pie on my window sill and think it's obviously poisonous is painfully true. But all that makes me is the spooky village witch that I've always wanted to be. :D (Thank you @do-androids-dream-ao3acc <3)

I'm going to provide my own author questions to myself. I seriously had considered sending myself my own anonymous asks, but that feels deceptive and cringey. I have no need or desire to be deceptive.

I have an inkling that this will also help with brainstorming for the fic.

I'm so grateful for my therapists and for all the fairy godparent figures I have in my life right now. I'm sharing this so hopefully anyone who needs to see it will see it.

We only live one life, so please, YOU DO YOU.

[randomspider]

Oh baby we love reading a DID article and one of the first 15 words being "Exorcist" oh yummy yummy propaganda, scare the little neruotypicals

[whatdoeschronicevenmean]

Agency in suicide

MH professionals like myself say die my suicide to remove responsibility and therefore agency from the person who died and place responsibility on the illness. But is that fair? Why does anybody or anything need to be blamed at all? In America, death is seen as always bad and preservation of life always good, but maybe that’s not fair. If the person theoretically wanted to die, is it fair to take all agency away from their actions? And does this take away agency from other very depressed individuals?

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Hi everyone,

I saw this on Reddit a few days ago and wanted to share it. It talks about the cost of getting a diagnosis if you’re neurodivergent.

This is crazy. How are others supposed to get the right hell and support if people aren’t even able to pay? It’s so expensive, and I understand that doctors aren’t cheap. But I just don’t understand why.

It’s like everyone is after money and not considering/thinking of helping others.

[xqueerneurosisx]

Hey I have a question for my mentally ill siblings with PDs. What other word do you want Narcissistic Abuse to be called? Can we just get a proposal please???

I’m gonna just say this the only way I know how okay? “Just call it abuse,” doesn’t help survivors. The word abuse is literally already right there! They already are calling it so! It’s called N. Abuse!! C’mon!

“Narcissistic,” is what the white coats call the pattern that’s made up of more than one abuse. So example: physical, mental, AND financial abuse can make up N. Abuse. So, what do y’all wanna call that pattern? What’s the different word? Us survivors only need one here. And y’all have made it clear Narcissistic harmful, so what’s the word that won’t do that?

[brettdoesdiscourse]

Just a reminder that supporting people who are addicted to drugs and people struggling with their mental health is supporting their choices. It's supporting addicts who don't want to go into rehab/recovery. It's supporting people who don't want to seek therapy or anything of the sort for their mental health.

Only supporting people who are going through recovery the way you think they should be isn't truly supporting people.

[zamusvstheworld]

those of you saying self-immolation isnt effective are either zionists or think youre smart for some other reason.

its visceral, hard to look away from, and once spread becomes the talking point it is now(and no not in a discourse way). that alone makes it successful and effective protest.

the message is very clear. your efforts to obscure or undermine its visibility have failed, give up.

[convolutedblasphemy]

Btw I still haven't forgiven the Tumblr userbase for that time Tumblr added the Community Labels and with it a function to effectively filter out these triggers without having to manually block 50+ synonyms and related words for the same thing and you all collectively refused to use them, calling them censorship and making up the lie that your posts will not be seen if you use them because tumblr automatically turned these filters on for everyone. I have this function enabled to not see posts with the sexual content label and all that does is hide it behind a warning with a button to click. Even if someone had this accidentally turned on, if they wanted to see your post they still could. So that was a straight up lie. Putting a Community Label on your post literally does not affect you.

You all talk about accessibility and how much you support it but not when you have to put in the bare minimum of effort (aka clicking 3 buttons) and when it's about groups that the internet convinced you are a danger to your freedom of speech or whatever. Tumblr added an option that could make the site more user-friendly to people with PTSD, sex-repulsed folks, minors and addicts and you guys collectively failed us and I think we should talk about this.

[pinkeoni]

if the party does find out about byler the one way that i DONT want them to react to them is any way that feels to perfect or even to the point of clinical. like, at least let them respond like real people