#nonbinary trans guy

[ftm-radio]

[SCENE: driving back from my appointment]

dad: ...am I going to have to teach you how to shave?

me: uh yeah! at some point, lol

dad: hm. well I can show you the way I prefer, with mug soap and a brush, because the aerosol cans are just no. I showed your brother my way and he likes it a lot better too...

dad: [rambles for a bit]

dad: ...it's really just another chore, you look in the mirror and go 'ugh I have to shave soon' so it's just one of those things you do every once in a while

me, externally: haha yeah, I can't wait :]

me, internally: he's talking about this like it's no big deal, it's not weird at all,,, he doesn't mind the idea of teaching me despite the fact that he never expected to be doing this with me,,,, he's my dad and he supports me even if he doesn't completely get it,,,

[vampb0yz]

[sirenium]

growing up is realizing that those people depicted in the 'trender' drawings that transmeds made are super fucking cool.

like holy shit, you're stargender? you like your chest and wear dresses as a man? you like dyeing your hair with super colorful patterns? you use bun/vampself???? you love and celebrate being transgender? you're nondysphoric? so fucking rad

[interstellarstorms]

One year on testosterone means the mandatory voice update video!

[mg-system]

Usually, when one of us women alters fronts, we can vibe pretty well, maybe a bit of dysphoria (we are a nonbinary trans man), but nothing affirmations from our partner can't help.

But ugh, since I've been fronting I've been feeling the dysphoria, wanting to dress up in traditionally feminine clothes more, and do my makeup.

Not that these are bad things, but having neighbors in close proximity makes that anxiety inducing when we are as stealth as we can be (not telling random old conservatives we're trans).

As the weather heats up it also poses a challenge to most of us in general, when it's hot enough, we care less about presenting as masculine and more about staying cool. Crop tops and shorter shorts are our life in the summer.

Idk what the point of this post is? A little vent? It doesn't help that me feeling like this is triggering a bit of an identity crisis, even when logically I know a lot of us are men, and the current host is a man.

I guess if things in the US get to the point we have to temporarily detransition for our safety.. Then I can host..

Part of me wonders if we should eventually come out as a genderfluid trans man or something, explain that our identity shifts around some, but to still refer to us as a man, or just compare ourselves to the gay dude influencers that put on makeup? 🥲

I've also been feeling generally depressed and I hope that's not dysphoria kicking my butt. And when I dress up I get to feel dysphoria coming from internally from other alters, lose-lose situation-

-🧝‍♀️ (she/her)

[foolishfynnesse]

Does anyone have any voice acting tips for someone who’s on testosterone and whose voice is actively changing? Should I wait for my voice to settle before I try to audition for any projects? Because that might be a while and I want to make money voice acting if possible. I do intend to keep practicing my voice acting while my voice changes, but idk if I should actually go for any auditions yet.

[r-e-dax-t-e-d]

We added on to our FOB tattoo as a way to commemorate getting on testosterone

When these came across our feed[thank you @beardtrick for sharing the PNGs you snagged] we knew what we needed to do

We are so incredibly happy with how they turned out, and we actually managed to get them done the same day that we got the go-ahead to increase our T to weekly instead of every other week

Fall Out Boy has been a steady presence in our life for many a major milestone

Here's to many, many more

[fruit-stripe-tum]

I'm posting some cutesy graphics on Facebook to simplify some things I've been wanting to explain to my family, and I'm very worried I'm going to find out I shouldn't have been getting this comfortable.

(Cutesy Graphics Below, not perfect, but something I slapped together in an hour or two while I tried to narrow down everything I needed to say)

[ftm-radio]

so I found this ⤵️ on pinterest...

...and went down a bit of a rabbit hole, found a neat article/blog post about it (did you know these babies are from 1884???!?! ), went on the pronoun dressing room, et cetera...

and idk, I'm very happy with he/him and they/them, I wasn't really interested in searching for any other pronouns (neos are cool but don't do much for me, personally) but thon/thons has kinda snuck up on me and I'm just like

oh??? 👀

so I think I might add these to my collection, as a little treat! I figure they'll probably be more of an online special, at least for the time being, but yeah. kinda doing a test run with 'em. :)

aaaaaaand here's a bonus usage chart thing I nabbed off of the pronouns wiki !!

[vampb0yz]

[midnight-fox-boy]

Ya know, it took me a long time to accept that gender (and sexuality) is so complicated and individual that for some people, there may never be a perfect word or even a perfect few words to label it with 100% accuracy. I spent many years trying on different identities, trying on identities that felt partially right but like I was missing something, and many that felt comfortable for a little while and then things changed.

In my strong desire to just find a few labels that could encompass all of me, I got really stressed and frustrated. I wanted to know which communities I would relate to the most! Even when I tried to just take a break and allowed myself into trans man spaces and nonbinary spaces, I found that I related to some or many people in each category, but not everything. After so long of just giving up it hit me. One, that I was allowed to be both. I could be nonbinary and a guy. Two, that everyone is so diverse that I'm going to relate to people of so many different identities, and there will be people who share the same labels as me that I will not relate to at all.

I can relate to some genderfluid people in some aspects, androgyne people, nonbinary trans mascs, binary trans men, femboys etc. and it's okay for me to look at experiences of people who don't share the exact same labels as me. I used to feel as if it was wrong or "intruding" for me to do so. I don't have to use a label to relate to common experiences, and I also realized I don't need to fit a label 100% to use it. I had similar issues with my sexuality.

In addition, I had to learn to be okay with not knowing every facet of my gender. I know who I am, and what I like, but I can't tell you every piece that makes up my internal gender puzzle. And I can't say with full accuracy that my sexuality is one specific thing set in stone.

I'm a nonbinary trans man. I know I'm a guy, I know I'm nonbinary. I know at least one aspect of my gender is androgyne, and I'm not sure if that is the reason I have some internal sense of feminity with my gender, but I'm fine with that. I can't say I'm fluid but it's not completely static either. I do have some fluctuations that are usually small, with the extremely rare stronger change.

I consider myself gay. I include nonbinary in my gayness because I'm both a guy and nonbinary (also the majority of my partners have ended up coming out as nonbinary during our relationships). But I know I'm capable in some circumstances of being attracted to a woman or someone who leans heavily on that side of the spectrum. Primarily if a partner ever came out to me as one and went down that transition path. But generally speaking, I'm gay, in my own way. It'd be more accurate to say men and in many cases, masculinity and androgyny. Feminine guy? Hell yeah. Feminine woman? depends lol

I'm also aspec which is weird and unique. I consider myself demisexual(/romantic). I do experience strong sexual attraction and am very sex favorable, and Ive come to understand that's partially the reason why I'd still love and be attracted to a partner if they ever realized they were a woman. But my Demi-ness doesn't require knowing someone for a long time necessarily. I can develop an emotional bond very very quickly in the right circumstances. I don't have a lot of issues when it comes to relating to a lot of "allo things" because I can relate to many, just maybe but in the traditional sense of the word. I can find random people hot AF, but it's more strong aesthetic attraction than actually wanting to bang them.

I can consume adult content because I don't do so for the people in the content itself, I just naturally "self insert" for the fantasy aspects of what's going on.

This is all to say, it took me way too long to understand that I'm not ever going to be exactly like another queer person, and that's okay. Yes it can feel alienating when I can't relate to so much that is correlated to a specific identity I use, but I know I'm not alone in that, even if not in every way.

It's been 8 years since I came out as trans, as of December 3rd 2023 💜 I'm so proud of how far I've come.

[genderqueerdykes]

listen to me: you can love and support trans men and trans women at the same time. you can love and support transmasc and transfemmes at the same time. you do not have to make things into this-or-that decisions. you do not have to turn everything into us-vs-them, friend-vs-enemy, sports team ass dynamics. transfems and transmascs are not at opposite ends of ANYTHING, and we will never, ever be enemies or polar sides that cannot intersect or co-exist peacefully. you can support more than one type of trans person and distribute that support equally. i promise you fucking can.

[the-trans-advice-blog]

Never forget that the purpose of transitioning is to make you happier not to make you pass!! You may never end up being able to pass but don’t let that take from your happiness.

[canigetahuuuuu]

Hey dude, I wanted to talk to you. I was changing by you in the locker room, and I couldn't help but notice, uh well, that you're trans. I swear, I wasn't trying to be a creep! But listen, I just want to let you know I support you. No matter what anybody used to think, you're obviously a dude now. But hey, if it's not too weird, I was wondering if, like, you have a dick or not? I saw you have those scars on your chest, and I was just curious. You know, it's cool if you don't. I just, I can't picture what it would be like, a dude. You know, it's all good, but hey, if it's not too much to ask, would you mind showing me? I want to be supportive and learn more about you. Hey, I'll show you mine if you show me yours. I'll go first. It's not that big, but I wouldn't call it small, either. I bet yours is awesome, dude. Just pull down your boxers for a sec. I just want a quick peek. Oh wow, you have a mini dick. It's got a head and everything. And it looks so soft. Can I touch it? I just want to feel it. Damn dude, it twitched when I put my finger on it. No, dude, don't apologize, that's totally normal. You want to see mine? Go ahead. Touch it. See? One little touch, and it's moving around like crazy and getting stiffer. Hey look, yours is getting kinda stiff. You're getting hard, too! That's cool. Yours looks wet, too! Mine gets wet a little before I cum. It tastes kinda salty and bitter. But you definitely smell different than how mine usually smells. Can I get closer? I'm just curious. I want to know the difference between your dick and mine. Mmmmm. You smell nice. Can I lick? Just one small one? Just to compare us, that's all. Ok, here we go. Holy shit bro, you taste good. So much better than mine, for sure. Want to try mine? It's starting to get a little wet, like yours. You can see the clear liquid on the tip. Get your mouth on there. You've gotta get the whole experience. It's only right, since you let me get my mouth all on you. Oh wow, man. Your mouth is so warm. Damn, I wouldn't mind if you keep going. Honestly, you should. You'll get a chance to taste my cum. And then after that, I want to try you again. Your dick looks even harder and wetter than before. And hey, I definitely owe you. You're sucking mine, so it's only fair that I return the favor. I'm your bro now. That's what friends are for.

[stellawilsonx]

Eyes are good but hands are better😊

[blakelovely3]

So do you think you can handle me 💋