#nonbinary trans guy

[ftm-radio]

[SCENE: driving back from my appointment]

dad: ...am I going to have to teach you how to shave?

me: uh yeah! at some point, lol

dad: hm. well I can show you the way I prefer, with mug soap and a brush, because the aerosol cans are just no. I showed your brother my way and he likes it a lot better too...

dad: [rambles for a bit]

dad: ...it's really just another chore, you look in the mirror and go 'ugh I have to shave soon' so it's just one of those things you do every once in a while

me, externally: haha yeah, I can't wait :]

me, internally: he's talking about this like it's no big deal, it's not weird at all,,, he doesn't mind the idea of teaching me despite the fact that he never expected to be doing this with me,,,, he's my dad and he supports me even if he doesn't completely get it,,,

[samijami]

I liked my fit, had some extra time this morning to put together smthn fun

[r-e-dax-t-e-d]

We added on to our FOB tattoo as a way to commemorate getting on testosterone

When these came across our feed[thank you @beardtrick for sharing the PNGs you snagged] we knew what we needed to do

We are so incredibly happy with how they turned out, and we actually managed to get them done the same day that we got the go-ahead to increase our T to weekly instead of every other week

Fall Out Boy has been a steady presence in our life for many a major milestone

Here's to many, many more

[04thz2]

For my fellow young adult transmascs

For those of you who, like me, are in the process of applying for your first “real” jobs, or maybe going to college, or moving away from home: I know it can be really scary and dysphoric, especially since a lot of us haven’t been able to/just don’t want to medically transition, or perhaps you are still closeted. But I am here to tell you, it really doesn’t matter if you pass, or if strangers gender you correctly every time, because the way you’re percieved by other people really doesn’t change the fact that you ARE YOU, you ARE the gender you feel you are, and you are super valid! We’ll get through this mess, and we will kick the world’s ass together! I am proud of you, and I love you, and I totally believe that you can do this. You are so much more than the world’s perception of you. Now let’s turn on that playlist that makes us feel good, throw on our binders and dysphoria hoodies if we need to, and face life with pride and belief in ourselves!

[bentonthegay]

Ya know, it took me a long time to accept that gender (and sexuality) is so complicated and individual that for some people, there may never be a perfect word or even a perfect few words to label it with 100% accuracy. I spent many years trying on different identities, trying on identities that felt partially right but like I was missing something, and many that felt comfortable for a little while and then things changed.

In my strong desire to just find a few labels that could encompass all of me, I got really stressed and frustrated. I wanted to know which communities I would relate to the most! Even when I tried to just take a break and allowed myself into trans man spaces and nonbinary spaces, I found that I related to some or many people in each category, but not everything. After so long of just giving up it hit me. One, that I was allowed to be both. I could be nonbinary and a guy. Two, that everyone is so diverse that I'm going to relate to people of so many different identities, and there will be people who share the same labels as me that I will not relate to at all.

I can relate to some genderfluid people in some aspects, androgyne people, nonbinary trans mascs, binary trans men, femboys etc. and it's okay for me to look at experiences of people who don't share the exact same labels as me. I used to feel as if it was wrong or "intruding" for me to do so. I don't have to use a label to relate to common experiences, and I also realized I don't need to fit a label 100% to use it. I had similar issues with my sexuality.

In addition, I had to learn to be okay with not knowing every facet of my gender. I know who I am, and what I like, but I can't tell you every piece that makes up my internal gender puzzle. And I can't say with full accuracy that my sexuality is one specific thing set in stone.

I'm a nonbinary trans man. I know I'm a guy, I know I'm nonbinary. I know at least one aspect of my gender is androgyne, and I'm not sure if that is the reason I have some internal sense of feminity with my gender, but I'm fine with that. I can't say I'm fluid but it's not completely static either. I do have some fluctuations that are usually small, with the extremely rare stronger change.

I consider myself gay. I include nonbinary in my gayness because I'm both a guy and nonbinary (also the majority of my partners have ended up coming out as nonbinary during our relationships). But I know I'm capable in some circumstances of being attracted to a woman or someone who leans heavily on that side of the spectrum. Primarily if a partner ever came out to me as one and went down that transition path. But generally speaking, I'm gay, in my own way. It'd be more accurate to say men and in many cases, masculinity and androgyny. Feminine guy? Hell yeah. Feminine woman? depends lol

I'm also aspec which is weird and unique. I consider myself demisexual(/romantic). I do experience strong sexual attraction and am very sex favorable, and Ive come to understand that's partially the reason why I'd still love and be attracted to a partner if they ever realized they were a woman. But my Demi-ness doesn't require knowing someone for a long time necessarily. I can develop an emotional bond very very quickly in the right circumstances. I don't have a lot of issues when it comes to relating to a lot of "allo things" because I can relate to many, just maybe but in the traditional sense of the word. I can find random people hot AF, but it's more strong aesthetic attraction than actually wanting to bang them.

I can consume adult content because I don't do so for the people in the content itself, I just naturally "self insert" for the fantasy aspects of what's going on.

This is all to say, it took me way too long to understand that I'm not ever going to be exactly like another queer person, and that's okay. Yes it can feel alienating when I can't relate to so much that is correlated to a specific identity I use, but I know I'm not alone in that, even if not in every way.

It's been 8 years since I came out as trans, as of December 3rd 2023 💜 I'm so proud of how far I've come.

[strawberrybouvine]

Went heavy with my makeup today and also look ! Short hair :D

[I go by He/They !]

[the-ineffable-ace]

Ace's Journey Day 19

I got my hair cut today and it's giving me so much gender euphoria!

Pics of the day:

Fav song of the day:

'say yes to heaven' is an unreleased song by lana del rey

[browniepokemon]

none of my irl friends understand the transmasc experience i am going to scream

all of my friends are either:

1) cis but an ally

2) nonbinary (no transition/hormones)

or 3) transfemme

don't get me wrong! i love and care about my friends

but it'd be very cool to have someone to talk to about being transmasculine AND/OR nonbinary in a masc way

y'know

*sobs*

[goeticprincecorbin]

They hate me for my tboy swag

[transgendergoblinfromspace]

🎶And it hurts cause we survived🎶

[mysinstonight]

Planet Stickers

I love space a lot so I created these. I'm selling them on my shop

[ftm-radio]

so I found this ⤵️ on pinterest...

...and went down a bit of a rabbit hole, found a neat article/blog post about it (did you know these babies are from 1884???!?! ), went on the pronoun dressing room, et cetera...

and idk, I'm very happy with he/him and they/them, I wasn't really interested in searching for any other pronouns (neos are cool but don't do much for me, personally) but thon/thons has kinda snuck up on me and I'm just like

oh??? 👀

so I think I might add these to my collection, as a little treat! I figure they'll probably be more of an online special, at least for the time being, but yeah. kinda doing a test run with 'em. :)

aaaaaaand here's a bonus usage chart thing I nabbed off of the pronouns wiki !!

[samijami]

Day 4

[p01son3d-ent1ty]

“All About Me” collage 🚭🛸👽

Inspired by the awesome @cyber-therian

[genderqueerdykes]

more than anything else on this planet, trans men need other goofy ass transmasculine people to hang out with and be the dumbass bros you've always wanted to be together with. i need you to know this, this is like the #1 thing

[queerism1969]