#asexual aromanitc

[the-siren-in-your-fridge]

For anyone who’s aspec and doesn’t know what term to use for someone they like because “I don’t know if it’s a crush or a squish or something else” then worry not and use my chosen term: POI which stands for Person Of Interest. It’s literally just someone you’re interested in in some way and I generally don’t specify which way I find them interesting because eh sometimes I don’t know and it’s easier to say POI. It also makes them sound like a murder suspect or something if you’re into that lol

[schrodingers-intelligence]

Someone low key aphobic: Romantic and sexual attraction is what makes us human!

The A-Spec community, holding up a penguin: BEHOLD A HUMAN

[thecommunalfoolboy]

Why can’t we have a campy musical about an aroace person figuring out what they are, complete with a running gag where they constantly almost throw up when sex is mentioned

[drizzledrawings]

Happy pride!!!

[warm-tap-water]

i think some people need to realise the lgbtq+ community isnt the fucking oppression olympics. "ace/aro people arent a part of the community because they havent faced as much oppression and violence as the rest of us!" okay but theyre still queer. they dont experience love and attraction the way straight people do. theyre always welcome at pride, lgbt youth clubs, queer safe spaces etc.

people ALSO need to realise that just because you're queer in some way doesnt mean you get to be hateful to other queer people because you dont understand it/ dont think theyre "queer enough"(?)/ dont think they are actually queer.

gatekeeping and excluding certain groups who come to you for support and comfort makes you just as bad as any other homophobe. but in this case you're just hurting your own community.

[daybringersol]

as someone in the aro community (and i think this is also applicable to the ace community, which is why y’all are included), i think there is something to be said about people trying to find a moral explanation to their repulsion. in a some situations, it is helpful and there is a conversation to be had about it but in a lot of others, it’s just recycled purity culture, i’m going to be honest.

before you send a post about how you think it’s actually exhibitionist to kiss in public, or predatory to talk about people you want to sexually pursue with your friends, please ask yourself first if there is genuinely something wrong morally going on there, or if it’s just something that grosses you out. it’s completely okay if it’s something that grosses you out. you don’t need to make up a moral reason behind it. you can just say ‘it grosses me out’ and find a way to remove yourself from that situation, for exemple, by looking away, or asking your friends to not talk about those topics around you (if they refuse, that’s another problem entirely and you should get better friends).

it is as unhealthy for allo people to repress their romantic and/or sexual attraction than it is for us to repress our aromanticism and/or asexuality. this isn’t like an theoretical extrapolation, this is a proven phenomenon, we’ve seen it with the catholic church. i understand and empathize with the fact that it feels like all of this is forced upon us, because it is, but there is a difference between someone telling us ‘i like this’ and someone telling us ‘you’re weird/broken if you don’t like this’.

anyways, sorry for the rant, i keep seeing posts in the aro and/or ace tags that try to justify their repulsion with morality, and i don’t want to single out anyone so i thought i’d make this post. there is no issue with posting about repulsion itself, for the record, it’s the moral justification that i think is unhelpful.

you don’t need any justification for your repulsion, you can just be repulsed. that’s fine.

[no-fear-queers]

FRIENDLY REMINDER #5

BISEXUAL MEN ARE REAL AND ARE VALID

BISEXUAL MEN AREN'T "sEcReTlY gAy"

BISEXUAL WOMEN ARE VALID

BISEXUAL WOMEN AREN'T "eXpErImEnTiNg"

BISEXUAL TRANSMASCULINE ENBIES ARE VALID

BISEXUAL TRANSFEMININE ENBIES ARE VALID

BISEXUAL TRANSNEUTRAL ENBIES ARE VALID

BISEXUALS REGARDLESS OF GENDER (or lack thereof) ARE REAL AND VALID

BISEXUALS ARE STILL BISEXUAL AND VALID REGARDLESS OF WHO THEY'RE DATING

BISEXUALS ARE STILL BISEXUAL AND VALID IF THEY'RE NOT DATING ANYONE

BI ACES AND BI AROS ARE REAL AND VALID

[thegenderisnope]

you gotta accept the entire lgbtq bro, it’s all or nothing

[spindlekick]

Can you believe it took me over a decade to come to this realization

[whoopsie-do0dles]

Just a little vent

[rocksanddeadflowers]

character: *shows the slightest disgust/disinterest in romantic or sexual anything*

me, grabbing them and shaking them violently around, chanting: ASPEC ASPEC ASPEC!!!!!!!!

[samijami]

Aro/ace people can be otherly orientated too, so aro/aces can be pan, bi, gay, whatever.

And if you don't understand that, then that's fine. But please respect others and not make it your personal mission in life to make it your problem.

[beawritingbooks]

Here is how I explained asexuality to my mother:

*

My Mom: What exactly is asexual?

Me: It means that I experience little to no sexual attraction.

My Mom: I just don’t understand that. You thought [name redacted] was cute.

Me: I still think [name redacted] is cute. I just don’t experience any sexual attraction towards them.

My Mom: That doesn’t make any sense to me.

Me: Well, I can recognize when someone is ugly, cute, uniquely hot, and when they are considered sexy, but I still don’t experience sexual attraction to any of them.

My Mom: I’m not saying that you don’t feel this way, or that I don’t believe you, but how could that be possible?

Me: Okay, so, let’s say that I have 4 pairs of shoes in front of me. The first pair are crocs, the second pair are ballet flats, the third pair are those chunky spice girls platform sandals, and the fourth pair are red stilettos.

My Mom: Okay…

Me: Now, I would classify the crocs as an ugly shoe. Do you agree?

My Mom: Yes.

Me: I would classify the ballet flats as cute.

My Mom: So would I.

Me: I would classify the platform sandals as ugly-hot. I know you hate them, but they call to me, and I still love them to this day. Does that make sense?

My Mom: *laughing* Yes.

Me: Lastly, I would classify the red stilettos as hot and/or sexy. Like, that’s a sexy shoe.

My Mom: Absolutely!

Me: Okay, now, even though I can recognize that these shoes have varying degrees of attractiveness, I do NOT want to fuck the shoes…and that is also how I feel about people.

My Mom: Ooohhhh, that makes way more sense to me. I get it now. Well, I don’t “get it,” because I’m straight, but I understand what you mean.

*

Basically, this is how I felt trying to explain things:

[wonder-womans-ex]

what if I told you that

"aromantic and asexual are two separate identities and grouping them together/conflating the two only further propagates stigma and misinformation about both"

and

"asexuality and aromanticism have faced many of the same struggles when it comes to rights, representation, and visibility, and that's one of the reasons it's so important that we stand up for each other"

and

"for some people, their own lack of romantic attraction and lack of sexual attraction are intrinsically linked, and it's important that those people feel included in all aspec spaces because they are an important part of our community"

are all ideas that can and must coexist

[its-kayyyy]

(please reed all of this)

trans men are men.

trans women are women.

trans children are valid.

cis or cisgender isn't a slur.

nonbinary people are valid.

genderfluid people are valid.

agender people are valid.

aromantics, asexuals, and aroace people are valid.

bisexuals are valid.

pansexual are valid.

polyamorous people are valid.

neopronouns are valid

xenopronouns are valid

xenogenders are valid.

they/them pronouns are valid.

it/its pronouns are valid.

therians are valid.

furries are valid.

otherkin are valid.

neurodivergencey is normal.

stimming is normal.

autism is normal.

adhd is normal.

systems are valid.

age reggresion is valid.

witchcraft is completely fine to use.

paganism is valid.

theistic satanism is valid.

polytheitic satanism is valid.

luciferianism is valid.

demonalotry is valid.

worshiping deities or ancient gods/goddesses are valid.

this should be common sense but to some people it isn't. if you do not agree with one or more of these please don't interact with my blog. If you agree with these feel free to check out my blog. i am a agender cupioromantic pansexual minor named kay. I love mushrooms, bluey, melanie martinez, and gravity falls. im also a fictionkin and a polytherian. if you are interested in my blog , read the dni (should by at the top, i pinned it) and follow me!

[person25]

Something that has always bothered me is when a show/movie says something like “I want you to find the person for you. Then you’ll understand how it feels to be truly happy.”

Every time it’s said i yell “wrong!” at the tv. Really, are you saying the only way i can find true peace in life is if i’m in a romantic relationship?

My parents never understand why i have such strong feelings about this but that’s not much of a surprise.