#queer platonic relationship pride

[cheesemenace]

Before finding out about queer-platonic relationships I had this immense fear of being abandoned by all my friends once they all found partners (This was enforced by some of my friends at the time getting into relationships and going completely radio silent for months or just not having time for me anymore). I thought that being ace/aro meant I would never find someone I could love in my own way because they would want what I couldn't give or I wouldn't be able to fulfill my role in the relationship. Finding out that a relationship can be whatever my future partner and I agree on or are comfortable with is encouraging. I don't have to be what society decides is normal or conform to their standards. The label of QPR makes it all the more easy to find others who feel the same.

[dietcolqz]

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Pride Month Art Challenge !!! <33

Day 30 :: QPR (Queer Platonic Relationship) <3

:: I honestly like the thought of Jon and Tord having a qpr, I think it would be cool tbh-

( Also, ITS FINALLY MY LAST DAY OF THIS CHALLENGE! This is the first challenge I’ve Ever completed, and I’m ready to just relax and not touch my sketchbook for a week, lmao! )

[gothfatherr]

for an aro person, I fantasize a lot about intimacy. but not in a romantic context like smoochy ooky pooky boo-boo...hell no.

intimacy as in being completely emotionally open to/with someone, being so comfortable with them that you just feel safe and warm. I want to have that type of closeness with someone without having to feel guilty that I won't be able to give them romantic love.

it can be something so very deep within my core, but it's just...not romantic. is that so bad?

[temporaerthaervaerk]

Queerbaiting sucks... but

I find it so affirming as a person who struggles with their romantic orientatation. I just live for that state of not quite friends/not quite lovers.

Like yes, they are partners, yes, they live and die for eachother, yes, every other relationship they have loses all meaning compared to them. But also no, they haven't kissed, and they don't want to kiss, and yet, somehow, every single word, every single glance, every single touch carries so much meaning and conveys so much love because this amount of platonic love is usually unheard of and they don't want the other to misunderstand. And I just- aaah, it gives me so much hope and reminds me that romantic love isn’t the only type of love worth experiencing and showing on screen/paper.

I do wish it was done intentionally and wasn’t just a product of homophobia and capitalism. Like I really, really hate the reason I get this representation. Like, it also leaves a somewhat sour taste in my mouth, because I can see that if the world was more accepting, it would probably be a romantic relationship.

(I sometimes see people calling queercoding queerbaiting, and just to make it clear, that isn't what i'm talking about)

[neuroticboyfriend]

there is nothing wrong with having a long distance relationship, especially if you haven't met in person. what matters most in a relationship is that you improve each others lives and can grow and change together. you fulfill each other - and you can do that without being together in person. if toxic in person relationships can be normalized, there's no reason a healthy long distance/online relationships should be ridiculed or judged.

(this post includes friendships, sexual relationships, and queer platonic relationships!)

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

Aspecs do not have to be in a queer platonic to make them valid, that’s just aphobic

[aroace-and-has-a-mace]

reminder that:

pronouns ≠ gender

gender ≠ sex

romantic orientation ≠ sexual orientation

aromantic ≠ asexual

dating ≠ QPR

thanks for your time <3

[acollectionofas]

How does one find a QPP? Asking for a sad aroace friend who just wants someone to go on adventures with, and talk to after a long day of work, and cuddle on the couch with, and tell stories to, and infodump with, but who very much does not want a romantic or sexual relationship. (The friend is me).

[aroacearchangel]

feeling real strong queerplatonic feelings in the studio tonight

[userwaddles]

I really need someone to sleep with. Like literally hold and sleep and wake up next to. I don't want to date you or anything. Just be a friend, be a roomie.

Let me listen to your voice, let me count your heartbeat and let us drift off oversharing.

[bishiglomper]

I have been reading a lot of QPR/acespec/arospec Alastor fics and lemme tell you

I am so immensely greatful y'all are truly exploring his asexuality. I've never seen fics do that. I, an ace, haven't even really done that past the foundational "Yeah that's not (for) me" speculation.

Some fics really delved into his thought process and his place in the situation and its been very enlightening. Just seeing through another's take on asexuality/aromanticism has been eye-opening. I know others have confessed to finding out some things about themselves because of Alastor fanfiction.

It's true, representation does matter

Don't get me wrong, I live for the smut and seeing all the different dynamics the different ships bring. Those are fun. But there do be some big feels from some of these seemingly innocuous self-indulgent drabbles.

LET ME TELL YOU

THE YEARNING I feel after some of these characters just. Accept Alastor? For who he is and what he wants/doesn't want. Who are willing to metaphorically hold his his hand and walk him through the conficting ideas he has about himself and what he wants? I have no words for how special that is. It's so damn special, y'all are truly out there doin' the lord's work. (ノ_＜。) I luff you all so much

[qprconcepts]

qpp that’s sleepy x qpp who stays up to 2 am

[lyra-idek]

Appreciation to queer-platonic people. I think that in addition to recognising aros and aces, today is a good day to remember that there can be deep, intimate relationships without romance that aren't just friends.

[aquatic-bees]

I think a good way to describe a qpr is by using my Guinea pigs as an example.

My Guinea pigs very close with each other and do not like being apart. They are bonded to each other and hopefully they will be together for the rest of their lives but that doesn’t mean what they have is romantic. They are simply lifelong companions and that’s all.

[aroace-cat-lady]

Amatonormativity is OUT queerplatonic relationships are IN

[oroniusn]

mood fixed, thinking about spending the rest of my life with a QPP and cooking together, and braiding each others hair, and going hiking together, and living in the same house, and getting pets, and owning a farm, and-