#unlearning

[this-antisocial-crank]

Life Lesson

Lose any expectations you have of how your life may turn out. Also, lose all idealisations you may have of how your life used to be and ease that unnecessary pressure on yourself.

That means there is less room for disappointment and for feeling that you are a failure.

Stop grieving for a version of you that doesn't exist and learn to appreciate you for who you are now.

Be present, you dumbass.

[thepeacefulgarden]

It's okay to not know the answer, and to admit you don't know the answer. It's okay to not have it all figured out right now. It's okay to not understand. It's okay to ask for help. It's okay to make mistakes, and to own up to those mistakes. It's okay.

[brownwomanisland]

I have a woo-woo ish video to share but it's because my life full of trauma led me to not realize these things. And so I share them with y'all, young and old alike, because I believe these are the messages women need to be inundated with and not the casual brainwashing that we all get exposed to growing up.

[entheognosis]

[wehavewords]

“It took many years of vomiting up all the filth I'd been taught about myself, and half-believed, before I was able to walk on the Earth as though I had a right to be here.”

James Baldwin

[momentsbeforemass]

The summons of Lent

Next Wednesday is Ash Wednesday. The beginning of Lent.

One of the great mistakes of my life has been to waste far too many Lents.

In years past, I wasted it by ignoring it entirely. More recently, I’ve wasted Lent with meaningless abstinences and half-hearted devotions. Or by using it for self-improvement.

All of which miss the point of Lent entirely.

I want so badly for this year to be different. I’ve been reading, praying, preparing. So I don’t waste this Lent.

To make sure that this time, I get the point of Lent – repentance.

The thing that’s done me the most good? “Mere Christianity” by C.S. Lewis.

It’s really helped me to get clear about the point of Lent. Especially this,

“Fallen man is not simply an imperfect creature who needs improvement: he is a rebel who must lay down his arms.

Laying down your arms, surrendering, saying you are sorry, realizing that you have been on the wrong track and getting ready to start life over again from the ground floor—that is the only way out of the "hole."

This process of surrender—this movement full speed astern—is what Christians call repentance. Now repentance is no fun at all.

It is something much harder than merely eating humble pie. It means unlearning all the self-conceit and self-will that we have been training ourselves into for thousands of years. It means killing part of yourself, undergoing a kind of death.”

This is something we cannot do on our own. This is something we can only do with Him.

This is the summons of Lent.

Today’s Readings

[hereiswhatremains]

"You never thought your body could be anything except bruised/ your locked door/ your haunted house/ the unlearning is taking so long."

— Fortesa Latifi, Fingertips

[milkoomi]

₊˚⊹ ᰔ things to unlearn in the new year ᝰ.ᐟ

“new year, new me”, right? so it’s time to let go and unlearn all the negative things that brought you down this year. do not take negativity energy into the new year, and don’t let it continue to ruminate in your heart and mind! if it no longer serves you, let it go.

let’s begin !!

ᝰ.ᐟ social media beauty standards

stop. letting. strangers. on the. internet. define. your. beauty.

set your own beauty standard! be your own beauty standard. there’s literally no one else who acts like you, looks like you, or just is you. let your own beauty be your beauty standard.

it’s hard to find your own beauty in yourself when you’re bombarded by so many other people who have thousands upon thousands of likes and views solely because of how they look, and it’s even harder to not compare yourself to those people. but guess what? those people can never be you.

one thing i’ve noticed about all those people who get so much attention on social media, and this may come off as harsh but it’s just what i personally think, is that they all look the fucking same. you, on the other hand, you’re different and your differences are what make you gorgeous. you stand out, and you have to let yourself see that!

ᝰ.ᐟ comparing yourself to others

this kind of piggybacks off of the previous statement, but seriously, stop comparing yourself to other people. whether it’s people on social media, your friends/peers, your siblings if you have any, or even strangers you see out and about. comparing yourself to other people who are clearly not you and not living your life will only hinder your own progress in your journey.

there’s that saying of “everyone walks different paths of life”, and that’s 100% true. we’re all on different chapters in our own stories, so why should we compare how our story is being written to someone else’s? we live in a world where comparison is everywhere, and it needs to stop.

your life is yours, alone. whatever someone else is doing with their life should not be of any concern to you. you can live your life at your own pace, you do not need to try and “catch up” with others. your life will go the way you want it to when you set the pace.

ᝰ.ᐟ people pleasing

i will admit that i have been a people pleaser, and you wanna know what i gained from it? having my boundaries crossed, having my emotional energy drained, being disrespected, feeling like i wasn’t good enough unless i was someone’s “yes” man; that’s what i gained from it, and no, i’m not happy about it!

learn to say “no”. you are allowed to say no! you have every right to decline anything that you don’t feel comfortable doing or simply just don’t want to do! being a people pleaser will only slow you down. put yourself first, always. you should always be your number one priority. don’t let anyone change that about you!

ᝰ.ᐟ following trends

for the love of god, please free yourself from these trends. live how you want to live, do your makeup how you want to, dress in whatever clothes you feel like wearing, eat whatever the hell you want; just do what you want!

trends can be fun and silly, but when all you ever do is chase after all the trends that are on social media to “keep up” with everyone you just turn your life into a chore. have fun in the ways you want to have fun!

there’s also way too many trends that are heavily influenced by consumerism. i promise you, you don’t need 15 different stanley cups or every single face/sheet mask that’s trending on tiktok. sure, there are products out there that are actually worth purchasing, but when you’re mindlessly spending money on things solely because it’s “trending” you’re not only just wasting money, but you’re wasting your time!

𝜗𝜚 final notes 𝜗𝜚

let 2025 be the year you finally start letting yourself be happy. we’ve lived too long in a world where we feel like we can only be happy by doing what everyone else is doing. please live for yourself! do what makes you happy, not what makes everyone else happy and you think it’ll make you happy. let go of the feeling of needing to conform to society’s standards. let go of the feeling that you need to make everyone else happy before yourself. let go.

live and love, babe.

sincerely, juno ⭑.ᐟ

[motivatedaily]

[thixcy]

Source: Michaelbbeckwith via instagram

✨ Abundance begins inward✨

[milksockets]

on the inconvenience of other people - lauren berlant

[audreyrose7]

We don't talk enough about how hard it is to work on things like, regulating our emotions, trusting others, (and ourselves) dealing with anxious attachment issues, and figuring out what love and respect actually look like when we were never shown these things growing up.

It's like trying to build a Jenga tower, you know you probably have all the right pieces but it's so hard to stack them the right way.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[soulinkpoetry]

Learning how to receive love is as important as knowing how to give it.

-Soulinkpoetry

[entheognosis]

[kamala-laxman]

"Recognize that unlearning is the highest form of learning." Rumi