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[PT: "AroAce Saturn? /end PT.]

Aaaaaa as a fellow Saturn enjoyer, born on a Saturday, with a name that is related to it, and having a zodiac sign linked to Saturn, this makes me feel validated lol

[ID: a tweet by crying_anabell from 16 June 2025, reading "Saturn's dynamo is so symmetrical she's so tidy" teary eyed emoji, crying emoji, two hearts emoji.

It shows a picture of different planets' heatmaps. Each planet has a different pattern. Planets listed from left to right, top to bottom:

The Earth's dynamo goes from shades of blue at the top, to white in the middle, and yellow to red at the bottom; the coloured areas look wavy.

Jupiter's has shades of blue at the bottom, and stains of red at the top. They are also wavy and irregular.

Mercury has straight lines of colour with shades of blue at the top, and the bottom is completely yellow.

Saturn's are perfectly regular stripes, going from red at the top, to yellow, to white in the middle, to shades of blue at the bottom. This looks like the aroace flag.

Ganymede's are similar but less regular, and the pattern is upside down.

Mars just has a dull yellow all over, with a few coloured spots near the bottom.

Uranus and Neptune both have shades of blue on the outer part, and shades of red and yellow in the centre, but they are very irregular patches.

/end ID.]

AroAce Saturn?

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Don't mind me, I saw a similar attempt at an "uimate progress pride flag" a long time ago on Reddit and I wanted to see if I could do better. I left this project dormant for many months but I came back to it and finished it just now.

I call it:

The X Progress Pride Flag!

Disclaimer: it's just for funsies, I don't expect anyone to fly this or anything! I'm very well aware that it's an eyesore haha.

I also know that the rainbow flag already covered every identity, but the newer Progress Pride flag was made to shine a light on the trans, intersex and QPOC communities that were (and still are) being targeted in a particularly strong way, even within the queer community itself. That's the sentiment that inspired me to make this.

My stylistic decisions into the making of this flag were also influenced by what I feel were the most prominent (inner)discriminations that certain queer identities experience. Some of them have simply stayed stuck in the background because on top of that, they are invisibilized and as such there is little research on what they face.

(But it was also just a challenge to see how many flags I could fit onto the rainbow lmao.)

Anyway: can yoy guess what every bit of this monstrosity means? It's basically a riddle lmao.

Here's the image description, which doubles as an explanation:

The background is the regular rainbow flag—six horizontal stripes, from top to bottom: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, purple.

This doubles as a symbol for gay and lesbian people. I did not include their specific flags because LG people have been using this one for decades as their specific identity flag, especially gay men, although I'm well aware that being gay or lesbian can be much more complex than just homo attraction (e.g. lesbian as a gender identity) and that having a flag just for them matters. However, in the making of this flag, I had to weigh out which identities are more vulnerable to their fights being left in the dust by the movement, and I felt that gays and lesbians are basically never excluded from the conversation and therefore "including them" explicitly wasn't really a priority.

Over the background, there is a chevron on each of the 4 sides, pointing towards the center, which leave the rainbow flag taking the shape of an X.

Each chevron contains diagonal stripes parallel to its borders, and is split into two halves; top with bottom, for the side chevrons, and left with right, for the top and bottom chevrons.

Let's start from the left chevron, which overall stands for the a-spec community:

The top half represents the asexual flag through the first four colours, and the asensual flag through the orange stripe, while the yellow stripe stands for both the aplatonic flag and the first half of the queerplatonic attraction/relationship flag—six stripes, from top to bottom: black, gray, white, purple, orange, yellow.

The bottom half represents the aromantic flag, while the very first stripe stands for the other half of the queerplatonic flag, and for the (a)aesthetic attraction flag—six stripes, from top to bottom: pink, green, light green, white, gray, black.

Here's the aplatonic flag I used (I know it's not the most common), and the queerplatonic flag, for reference:

And here's the asensual flag—I actually picked the shade of orange from the demisensual flag, because it was too light:

Sadly I couldn't find a way to represent alterous attraction or the analterous flag (I personally use it almost interchangeably with queerplatonic but ymmv).

Moving onto the right side chevron, directly influenced by the original intersex-inclusive Progress Pride flag, and therefore standing for AIDS awareness, QPOC, the trans umbrella, and the intersex community:

The top half represents QPOC, and the trans and agender flags—six stripes, from top to bottom: black, brown, white, light green, baby blue, light pink.

The bottom half represents the non-binary and intersex flags—four stripes, from top to bottom: yellow, white, purple, black. The yellow stripe has triple the thickness as the other stripes, and inside of it there is a purple ring.

Of course, the black stands for both QPOC and AIDS awareness.

(For those wondering why I explicitly included agender even though it's technically included under the non-binary umbrella: many agender people see their identity as separate from it since the experience of having no sense of gender can feel different from having a non-binary gender. Many, in fact, see themselves more as being under the a-spec umbrella.)

Now, the top chevron, standing for fluid identities and the label "queer":

The left side represents the abro- orientation flag, and the last stripe is one half of the queer chevron—six stripes, from top to bottom: green, light green, white, light red, red, dark lavander.

The right side represents the genderfluid flag, and the last stripe is the other half of the queer chevron—six stripes, from top to bottom: pink, white, purple, black, blue, light lavander.

I felt the need to explicitly include genderfluid, even though, again, non-binary technically covers for it, because I've seen fluidphobia even from staticly-gendered non-binary people, so perhaps it is not as implicit as it should be. Same for abro within the m-spec community.

And here's the "queer chevron" I'm referring to, for those who've never seen it:

The V shape is also a direct reference to the way this flag looks.

This can also stand to represent all queer attractions not otherwise explicitly included, e.g. mono attractions like trixic, toric, feminamoric, viramoric… literally anything. Plus those who identify as genderqueer but not non-binary can refer to this!

And finally, the bottom chevron—probably the most cryptic of the four. It overall stands for plurian identities, using colours from the polyamorous, multigender, and multi-spectrum orientation (aka m-spec) flags:

The left side represents the polyamorous flag for the first three colours, and the multigender flag for the last three—six stripes, from top to bottom: blue, hot pink, dark purple, orange, blue, dark blue.

The right side represents the m-spec flag, combining the colours from the bi, omni, pan, and ply flags—six stripes, from top to bottom: pink, purple, dark purple, yellow, green, blue.

Here's the polyamorous and multigender flags I used for reference, for those who've never seen them:

(The latter isn't that widely spread, as it is mostly used as an umbrella term to talk about identities like bigender, trigender, polygender, and pangender, and not that often as a personal identification term.)

For m-spec, the pink and blue I used are a combination of the shades used for them in the bi, pan, ply, and omni flags. Ply would also cover every other m-spec attraction that excluded some genders (such as neptunic and uranic).

It was inspired by this m-spec flag (on the left), but I also added the dark purple stripe from the omni flag (on the right):

That's all! Hope this entertained you, and feel free to tell me what you think.

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Hell yea

at least the colour green exists

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Scott. Literally right away, could not think of anybody else. What's that say about me lol

[ID from the previous reblog: a gif of Michael Jackson on stage, spinning and landing on his knees]

Fuck personality tests. Who comes to your mind when I say “Michael”

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aro & ace books: Indigenous authors

This post is combining global Indigenous identities, not soley North American!

Elatsoe - YA fantasy / Lipan Apache / aro-coded ace MC

A Snake Falls To Earth - YA fantasy / Lipan Apache / ace MC

The Summer of Bitter and Sweet - YA contemporary / Indigenous Canadian/Métis / demisexual MC

The Witch King - YA fantasy / Seminole / demisexual LI, ace SC

Godly Heathens - YA fantasy / Seminole / demiromantic MC

Màgòdiz - dystopian/fantasy / I believe the author identifies as 'having Mi'kmaq/Anishinabe heritage while not being registered' / an aroace MC

Muneera and the Moon - folktale anthology / Palestinian / some with ace characters or queerplatonic themes (author also has lots of other short fiction!)

Odd Blood - paranormal romcom / Kanaka Maoli / demisexual MC

The Bone People - litfic / Māori / aroace coded MC

#aspec books / aspec database / tumblr masterpost

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Exactly! And we deserve to find representation where we can, too. Allo-amatonormativity and heteronormativity go hand in hand. Dare I say, since our orientation gets erased more often, maaaaybe we kinda need it *more*, actually? Just throwing ideas out there.

Leaving the door open for x historical figure to be gay/lesbian AND/OR aroace, though, is actually a perfect solution! We can't know a dead person's orientation anyway, so claiming they are *queer* because they have never had relationships with someone of the socially imposed gender would probably be everyone's safest bet. Taking a chance to bring the attention on the historical erasure of both communities.

everyone's all about queer subtext until it's aromantic or asexual

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I'm gonna say it… I'm gonna say who this is directed at… I'm gonna do it…

the way fandoms are desperate to make all aroace characters romance and sex favorable but then dont do anything remotely similar to any other identity is astounding. hmm i wonder why

PLEASE dont derail this about shipping characters of other identities please let this one post be about an aroace struggle

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Anon, it's normal you're not alone, doesn't happen quite in this on/off manner with primary sexual characteristics to me (not saying which ones lol gotta keep it vague)—I always want them gone, but, somehow, often more strongly when I'm presenting as the gender that they're commonly associated with.

Personally my understanding is that it has a lot to do with a sense of core non-binarity; if I'm already dressing masc/fem, I often want some of my masc/fem traits (respectively) to be less prominent because then my "masc/fem buffer" would go into overload, I'd be TOO masc/fem and that makes me weirdly dysphoric. (Sorry for being redundant!)

This was interesting to read, but I hope you find something that works for you!

Genderfluid culture is wanting boobs gone when I'm femme and liking them when I'm masc

Is.. is this normal? Or just a me thing?

yeahg :((

and sometimes the boobs just don’t go with the outfit/the outfit NEEDS boobs or it looks weird

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it's aro week so here's a quick reminder to all my fellow aros that you don't have to "make up" for being aromantic. You don't have to love your friends twice as much to "make up" for romantic attraction you don't have to have a wide family you don't have to find The One in a qpr instead. If those things are something you want, go for it! But you shouldn't have to feel forced to go into any relationship just to make your aromanticism more palatable to outsiders.

Aromanticism isn't a hole that you need to fill. Sure it's a lack of romantic attraction but it's not a lack of self. You're already full and complete, whether or not you have more or less love in other areas of life. Do what you feel is right for you, not what others expect of you.

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Shout out to aroallo transfems btw. I never see anyone talk about y'all and how the usual hatred towards aroallos is multiplied by a million for you.

To all aroallo transfems:

You are not dangerous or perverted for desiring sex without romance.

You are not a bad person for desiring sex without romance.

You are allowed to want sex without romance.

There is nothing "wrong" with you.

You are not "broken" or "dirty" for your romantic and sexual identities.

I care about you and I want you here. I want you in my community. I want to make this place comfortable for you. I want you to be happy. I will do everything I can to make sure the spaces I share with you are welcoming.

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I have another survey about autism! I'm curious about birth circumstances.

Neonatal and natal circumstances -- like if someone was born preterm, if they didn't get enough oxygen while being born, or if their parents were older -- is thought to make autism more likely. Autism is genetic, but birth circumstances might be what pushes someone from a subclinical "broader autism phenotype" presentation into an autism spectrum disorder. Additionally, some of the genetic causes of autism can make difficult births more likely.

I'm curious if that patterns of more difficult births for autistic people is also true for people on Tumblr and if it's more likely to be the case for people who have higher support needs.

Anyone is welcome to fill out this survey! In order to have a comparison group, I'd also love to get responses from people who don't have autism as well as people who aren't sure if they have autism. Parents are also welcome to fill out this survey on behalf of their kids because parents often know best about birth circumstances.

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I know it's not the point of the post, but other than saying I feel this so bad, I actually have recommendations that are at least *close* to the kind of rep we're looking for here. And since it's Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, allow me to take this opportunity to share them:

Common Bonds - a speculative aromantic anthology

A collection of short fantasy-themed stories centered on aromantic characters and non-romantic bonds. The title mentions aromantic (although it's in the smaller subtitle so only a more meticulous parent would notice), and it is pretty obscure media, but I seriously suggest it if you're starving for good representation (it's not even expensive at all imo!). Most of the characters are aroace, but there's at least one aroallo, I haven't finished reading it so there might be more—

Hallo, Aro - Aro Worlds

Another collection of very short stories centered around aroallo characters. The other great thing about this one is that IT'S FREE. Also very niche, obviously.

Aro Worlds also has other collections like "When Quiver Meets Quill" (includes all types of aros including stories that don't mention sexual attraction at all, which I'd interpret as non-sam aro coded), "Bones of Green and Hearts of Gold" (same), "Spirits Most Singular" (non-partnering aros), and lots of other things, but I haven't read any of these ones. They're also all available to download for free, as they are collections of public works written by the community.

Koisenu Futari

A J-drama starring two aroace characters. From what I've seen it's decently popular! I've posted about it before and got more engagement than I'd expected. There also exists a subreddit for it, sooo.

Honourable mention: there's also some aroace rep in this other fantasy-themed collection called Being Ace, but it is obviously focused on aces first. It's a really good read so far, though.

I hope this encourages someone to pick up these pieces of media!

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week <2 [non-normative heart emoticon]

Any time someone asks “Hey, does anyone have any good aromantic representation that they can recommend?”, the responses are always like:

Alloromantic asexual character

Headcanon

Asexual character who doesn’t use the separate attraction model (because the writers didn’t do enough research to know what that is) but who is vaguely implied to not like romance

Character confirmed as aroace via twitter post

Headcanon

Side character in a heavily romance centric story

Headcanon

Aroace character who is actually pretty decent representation but who is also from some incredibly obscure webcomic or podcast or something, so you end up becoming incredibly fixated on a piece of media that no one will talk with you about :(

Character from a book written for teenagers (but which closeted teenagers can’t access without the risk of outing themselves to their parent(s)/guardian(s), because it’s very obvious from the cover and summary alone that it’s an LGBTQ+ book)

Headcanon

And of course, there’s never a single alloaro or non-SAM aro on the list.

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I want old aros so badly. I want a history. I want a future. I want tales of lives that I understand. I want to see myself in a future where I’m happy and comfortable.

But I don’t have that, so I’ll have to build it.

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[ID: a stylized font over a vaporwave background that reads "I am too aromantic for this shit". /End ID]

My mood all the time—

I need a sticker version of this, but to react in real-life situations…

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Loveless people fucking rock. Change my mind (spoiler: you can't).

It's only morning here, and I've already had a discussion on lovelessness with two different people. I've never spoken about them before, and holy fuck do you have it bad when it comes to outsiders' perception of you.

I can only imagine how bad Valentine's Day must be for loveless folks. From people saying they "don't care about 0,00% of the population" (in a queer group of all places), to people who will insist on defining "love" in their own way in order to force the concept of love on loveless people, or saying "the only loveless person I've seen was a sociopath, it's pathological, we shouldn't normalize it" and "self-love is love too, if you don't love yourself you're suicidal"???

I am not loveless, but I've seen this same dynamic time and time again, enough to recognize it has the same roots: from allosexuals saying sexual feelings are intrinsic human traits, and that asexuality is an anomaly/pathological, to alloros saying the same about romantic love, to arolovics like me waving around their non-romantic love in order to prove that they are "human actually!", because, wouldn't you know, "love is what makes us human, but I mean ANY form of love!!!". It doesn't work like that!

Let people fucking define their own feelings or lack thereof! If they feel alienated by Valentine's Day (or any other day of the year because it's not just an attitude that comes out on this date), it's not "their problem"! This is why I have beef with alloros sometimes, *sigh*.

Anyway, fuck Valentine's Day, fuck amatonormativity, and fuck lovelessphobia (is that the right term?).

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TUMBLRINAS I NEED YOUR HELP!! I’m writing an essay about expectations surrounding romance through the lens of aspec identities for my creative nonfiction class. I have several short interview type questions and I’m trying to collect as many responses as possible.

If you identify as asexual, aromantic, or anywhere on the spectrum pls consider taking a look at this google form:

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Being aromantic kind of rocks actually I have zero complaints. There's no void to fill. Assuming that anything in my life is a substitute that I need to make up for the lack of romance is missing the point. You don't need an alternative to something that you don't need to begin with