#Reminders

[loveyourlovelysoul]

Sometimes we think we are over a certain behaviour or mental pattern. We think we have "healed" it, we are done and can move on. But if we look at it more deeply, we are probably not that done. And it's okay: it's something we have been doing and thinking for years, we cannot get over it in few days or months. So many aspects come into play, and we may need to work on the same thing more than once. With more and more determination.

So please be kind with yourself, and allow yourself to heal it once more. Do not feel bad about needing more work on the same situation. I know well it is really tiring and at times disheartening, but don't let this bring you down. You were (and still are) only trying to protect and save yourself, and cope with the lack of some form of care and affection you deserved to receive but probably could not for whatever reason.

Allow yourself to feel the pain, but know that you cannot find what you need where you used to search for it. You need to collect the strength and courage to look somewhere else. And not feel guilty for it, and for choosing yourself.

[kiindr]

you're allowed to celebrate even the smallest of your wins. any achievement is an achievement. any progress is progress.

[soulmvtes]

just a reminder that it's okay to change and fail and make mistakes and be imperfect and feel grief and not know what you're doing with your life <3 life will pass + you will succeed even if it looks different to what you imagined

[gentlenotes-moved]

you got to learn to not sabotage the healing process. i know it's hard to not pick at the scabs, i get it. but the wound will reopen and you'll start bleeding again. let it be.

[decembrghost]

NO METAPHORES TODAY

I wake up tired. Not the kind sleep fixes, but the kind that settles in your bones like a tenant that won’t leave.

The world moves like it doesn’t care because it doesn’t. Deadlines still show up. People still ask for things. And we still smile like we mean it.

I want to scream but I’m scared it’ll echo back and remind me how empty things feel when the noise fades.

There’s no lesson here. No golden light peeking through. Just a truth: some days are heavy. Some hearts carry too much. And also, a question-- is surviving enough?

[eagans]

(Ask Polly: 'Why Do I Always Try to Get Out of Every Plan on My Calendar?')

[gripping the sink] perfectionism does not help me avoid embarrassment or shame. perfectionism is in itself a form of shame. when i struggle with perfectionism i struggle with shame. when i struggle with perfectionism i struggle with shame. when i struggle with perfectionism i struggle with shame

[capric0rn]

[transvampireboyfriend]

i think "it takes a village" shouldn't be just "to raise a child". we should understand it takes a village to do literally everything we do. all day every day. without our communities we would not have drinking water or electricity or clean streets or food or shelter or anything. we cannot do any thing alone. we just can't. and with that comes the fact that you are not alone. you already have a community, seek to be an active part of it, you will feel better. reach out and thank them, they're happy to have you too. i promise. it takes a village to live.

[orchidbreezefc]

i made a variant of [link: two cakes] to illustrate a related principle

[the-hwaelweg]

Jumping into a cold lake on a hot day. The sound of waves lapping against a dock. Loon calls at dusk. Trees.

ANYONE!! QUICK GIMME A REASON YOU LIKE BEING ALIVE :3

[octoberloved]

[potato-face09]

[loveyourlovelysoul]

What you call self-sabotage might just be your body saying: "Familiar pain feels safer than unfamiliar peace"

What you call procrastination might just be your body saying: "I'm overwhelmed and everything feels too much"

What you call anxiety might just be your body saying: "I've been in danger before, and I don't know if it's over yet"

What you call neediness might just be your body saying: "I didn't get what I needed, and I'm still longing"

What you call overreacting might just be your body saying: "This feels like danger to me because it once was"

What you call emotional instability might just be your body saying: "I was never taught that feeling emotions could be safe"

What you call resistance might just be your body saying: "I don't feel safe enough to do what you want me to"

What you call laziness might just be your body saying: "I'm frozen because I had to work hard for too long"*

What you call numbness might just be your body saying: "I had to shut down to keep you safe"

What you call avoidance might just be your body saying: "Im not ready to face this yet. I need slower exposure to it"

(the.trauma.educator on ig)

*gentle reminder that body gets tired also after doing mentally draining work/job (which includes feeling stressed too, not just studying or working 9-5 in front of a computer -which holds responsabilities, anyway)

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[nando161mando]

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