#am i asexual?

[bichenique]

i need to stop using three semesters of anatomy class to write smut. i get all medical and academic, and one of these days i might put "they were coitusing" bc the word fuck makes me feel not great? any thought of fucking repulses me it seems.

however, i will counter that this makes me better suited to writing gore.

but i wanna learn something new, and writing smut is kinda part of it? girl, idk. my gender identity crisis and sexuality questioning are bleeding through my works.

whatever, i will do it. i can improve.

[library-goblin]

I wish I had taken the opportunity to explore my sexuality more when I was in my late teens/early twenties, because now I'm nearing 24 and I have no clue who I am and everything feels wrong. Pretty sure I'm not your regular straight gal, but then wtf does that make me?

[mok-a-chino]

When I have a crush on someone (99% of the cases, a fictional character) It's not because I wanna fuck them. I want to protect them from all evil. I want to make them a cup of tea and give them hugs and kisses and tell them they are safe. I want them to feel happy and comfortable and do things they like together. I want to tell them they are beautiful inside and out and that they are perfect the way they are. I want them to know they are not alone.

Is it because there's a possibility I'm asexual or because I'm traumatized? We will never know. Maybe both.

[lidiabob]

my sexuality is so confusing literally no one knows what it is atp

[captainjackscoat]

I want to go to a gay bar

However I do not want to go to a gay bar because I do not, nor will I ever, drink alcohol. I do not particularly want to be around drunks.

So instead of a gay bar, I propose a Queer Cat Cafe.

Hypoallergenic cats ofc

There's a section of the cafe where the cats can't go if you don't want cats near you. That section is the library.

There are lil pride flags everywhere, even the obscure ones.

They sell pride pins for £1.50ish each at the counter.

There are LED lights.

It's autism friendly, lights can be toned down if needed and everything is neatly spaced out

You can have a sticker to write your pronouns on

Mostly queer artists/songs played

feel free to add on

[onlyasimp4-2dbitches]

"You aren't aromantic if you like cuddling! Cuddling is romantic!"

Straight people making up new definitions for Aromantic/Asexual cause they don't like the actual pre-existing definition.. Anyway whats new!

[almostshamelesspenguin]

Character: I think boys are pretty

Fandom: oh! They're gay! That's canon!

Different character: I have no interest in romance or sex. I don't understand it. Relationships confuse me. They seem pointless to me. I have no desire to be in a romantic or sexual relationship. I am an aromantic asexual.

Fandom: well, I guess you can interpret them as aroace...I don't see it though.

[ddddd-pixels]

For International Asexuality Day, I'm hitting you all with the Ace Beam. ☺️

(This took a lot more effort than I thought it would, lol...)

Edit: 800 notes?! In less than five hours?! Thank you all so much!!

Edit 2: 2000... The most I got on any post before was just over a hundred, lol. You are all so nice!

[autisticadhd]

Ok, this is starting to vaguely annoy me. I’m starting to wonder if I’m actually aro or ace or aroace of some level. Not completely aroace, but maybe somewhat? I don’t usually think about this kinda stuff when relating to myself, but I’ve been reading some posts about what it’s like to be one and what it’s like to realize your one and I kinda recognize me in them?

I wouldn’t mind a relationship. I don’t mind that I’m not in one and that I’ve never really been in one. I don’t mind if I never end up in one. I actually feel that I’m unlikely to end up in one, with my inability to maintain friendships unless I’m unable to not see them relatively often such as through work or school or living with them. In the looks department, I’d be more interested in a relationship with males than females, but I suppose I wouldn’t mind a relationship with a female. In the physical relationship department I have little interest in being with another female, as the whole girl w girl sex seems kinda tedious to do, but I’m curious about what sex feels like. However, I wouldn’t do it with someone I’m not going to be with long term. I wouldn’t mind an open relationship, but everyone involved would need to be in the know about each other. I know being open to such a relationship is more likely to get myself cheated on or left than actually finding a partner that’ll actually do a proper open relationship.

I’ve crushed on a few boys throughout my life, but I’m unsure if it’s actually a romantic crush considering one of those crushes I had crushed on since, like, before elementary school, and I’m not sure if it’s possible to have a romantic crush at that young of an age. I don’t think I’ve ever had a crush on a girl, but I think I would be able to.

I very much enjoy reading porn. Watching it is something I don’t usually do, though. I don’t think I’ve ever managed to make myself feel pleasure, though reading porn does make me feel lust. I don’t think I’ve actually had much lust for my crushes, past wanting to maybe kiss them? But, again, I am curious about sex.

Any opinions from the aroace community?

[strangepersonhere]

Being aroace is so cool, but so, so hard sometimes. Watching all the persons you hold dear finding *their* person. Grieving the idea of an allo relationship. Realizing that, maybe, somehow, you're the second choice fo everyone. Because friends are great, but **lovers** are the goal in our society.

Most of the time, i am sooo happy to be aroace. And then, when im alone in bed, at 3 am, i find myself crying by fear of being alone.

And I think it's normal. It's grieving a certain way of thinking. And it's hard, especially when you were raised this way, and that everyone keeps doubting your identity.

So yeah. Shout-out to all the aroace people, wanting a deeper connection, without wanting romantic love.

I love y'all

[elchampwon]

Hey did you know they flirt with you on dating apps?

Wild thought. How did I not think this through

[ale-arro]

been going a little bit insane about this sentence from Ace by Angela Chen for the past week

[bloggingboutburgers]

Yeah, I know "not all aro/aces" and all, but please don't use "not all aro/aces" as an excuse to not explore anything exclusively aro/ace ever. Otherwise any trace of aro/aceness might end up effectively lost to fandom osmosis.

To sum up... If you wouldn't be homophobic that way, please don't be aphobic that way.

[love-too]

Just heard the sentence "non practicing bisexuals" for aroace people and I'm losing it

[reality-schmality]

I’m starting to realize that I don’t find anyone attractive anymore?? I truly can’t tell if I’m just depressed and not interested (it’s true, I keep oscillating through heavy suicidal thoughts this last year) or if I’m just not really not attracted to people anymore? I’ve always called myself bisexual. I don’t see gender in regards to attraction. Guy, girl, trans, I don’t care. If you’ve got a cute face, then you’ve got a cute face. (I’ve been attacked on this platform in the past that I should call myself pansexual instead—and you can go fuck yourself if that’s your reaction now.)

But I mean. I really really want a significant other. I want someone to hold hands with. Whisper in movie theaters with. Take brisk walks in the park with. Pick out kittens in animal shelters with. Cuddle with. Garden with. Play tennis or soccer with. Do yoga with. Go grocery shopping with. Argue over reality shows with. Watch old games shows with. Play at-home game shows with. Make lazy late morning omelettes with. Throw flour at each other while baking brownies with.

I’m not interested in sex, but that’s more of a PTSD problem than an asexual problem. I do get aroused occasionally. It’s not often and it takes a lot to get there, but I do get there. I mean, I wouldn’t mind if I never had sex again, but I also wouldn’t mind if I did either.

Does any of this make sense???

[growing-past-me]

Okay Alastor being aro just makes radioapple infinitely more funny to me. Evil and fucked up QPR. Enemies to lovers with none of the romance or sexual tension. Just two guys who hate each other so much they have no choice but to spend the rest of their lives together.