#bad memory

[nippelitietoturva]

glitter text gifs for ppl w bad memory inspired by my last night's rambles

[i-may-be-an-emu]

I love it when men have healthy friendships 😭

THE WAY HE LAUGHS INTO TOM’S CHEST/SHOULDER GETS ME EVERY TIME

[p1xels3nd]

chat I drew Hermes based how I remember him in my head 😔

HE LOOKS LIKE A DIF PERSON GRELP, WHAT

[cosmicredcadet]

I need people to understand how difficult alarms are when you have ADHD.

Alarms are only helpful if you do the thing when they go off, which is not easy when you have ADHD. if I am in the middle of something when my alarm goes off, chances are I cannot switch my task immediately. Hyperfocus can make it difficult to change to a different task because I worry about losing the momentum i have. I say I will do the task after I finish my current one because if I don't finish my current task I will forget what I was doing. I snooze the alarm. It goes off every 5 minutes for 15 minutes before it stops allowing me to snooze it and suddenly it's dismissed. I never switch tasks for the alarm.

"set more alarms" I have. but then suddenly I have an alarm every half hour. Screaming and begging for me to switch my task. they all get snoozed. I'm busy doing other things. I cannot drop everything to do the one task I am trying to remind myself to do. suddenly it is the end of the day. the tasks aren't done. I say I'll do it tomorrow. Rinse and repeat.

And people tell me I'm not trying. I just need to do it when the alarm goes off. That's not how ADHD works. I cant control where my focus is that easily. it takes a lot of energy to pull myself away from something that i could forget after doing the task the reminder was for. Switching tasks can throw everything off and leave me less productive then before. this isn't even to mention the fact that not every task can have a timer. some tasks can't just be relegated to a time.

Please believe us when we tell you that alarms don't work. Don't assume we haven't tried them. I have so many alarms set to remind me of things. I'm ignoring an alarm right now to finish writing this less I lose my thought process. We are trying. We have used alarms. They don't always work. We aren't being difficult. We want it to be easy.

[howifeltabouthim]

He imagined her thinking of him; but her face did not soften at the memory, it grew more bitter.

L. P. Hartley, from My Fellow Devils

[lecanel]

Today (because of this GIF on twt) I found out that Whirl was in Cyberverse....

I didn't remember that.. as I remember, I met him for the first time in IDW comics, but I read them after watching all the animated series....

Mission: re-watch Cyberverse

[smokietaylor]

One of the beautiful things about having ADHD is that my memory is so bad that I forget some of the fanfics I’ve written. It's like I get to read it for the first time and it's tailored to my exact trope needs.

[damianscapeandsword]

The funny thing about being on Tumblr and having memory issues is that you'll reblog something from yourself several times in a row and you won't even notice until like the fifth time. And your like waaaaait a minute.

[csuitebitches]

how to develop a brilliant memory - pdf

[xeavy]

Family and Friends: Hey do you remember when

Me:

[thatonearanara]

I feel bad about the fact that I know the names of literally every character in games life fe3h (there are a lot) yet I genuinely can’t remember half the names of people in a class I’ve been in for like 4 years

[themanirealityshifter]

me scared to send an ask to one of my mutuals/post something, cuz i can’t remember if i asked it already or said it already (bad memory go brrrr):

[greenteacryptid]

Inside you, there are two wolves

One has a terrible memory and forgets everything

The other is unable to forget the stuff you don't want to remember

[ghosty-dsmp]

Guys, i just realized that ny mories is fucking shit

Definitely why i kin c!ranboo soo much

[nine-is-not-a-ten]

the problem with me is that i keep seeing the same posts over and over again but i forget them every time so i'm just like

me: OMG THAT'S SO COOL

me: *goes to like*

me: wait a second

[cosmicredcadet]

People will always say "Write it down so you don't forget" And I tell them that won't work. That still requires that I remember that I wrote it down. it requires that I remember to look at the note I wrote to remember what i wrote down.

and they will say "Put it someplace you'll be forced to read/see it" And i tell them that won't work. The thing with my ADHD specifically is that it is trained to not notice things. the background is the background. If I'm not actively looking for something in the background then it does not register in my vision. If I put the note on my computer, instead of reading the note my brain is like "something is stopping me from doing the task so I will get rid of the thing stopping me from doing the task" and then suddenly the note is moved and unread. if i hang the note on a door or the fridge then my brain will not read the note on the door or the fridge because my brain is focused on doing a different task, usually exiting the door or looking in the fridge. why would i read a note on the fridge if my task is inside the fridge? I'll pin the note on my phone notifications but then it gets drowned out by my other notifications or i don't check my phone until it's too late.

Then they say "Set alarms" and i say that won't work because If I'm in the middle of a task then I'll snooze or dismiss it without ever reading it because I'm busy doing a different task. Sometimes i do read the alarm and I'll be like "I'll just finish this first" and then suddenly it's been hours and I still haven't done what the alarm was reminding me of. Some reminders don't have a specific time for me to need to remember them and so how can i set an alarm for something that doesn't have a time? how can i guess when I'll have free time to set an alarm reminder at that exact time?

And then they get mad at me. they say "you're not trying hard enough obviously" or "You're making this more difficult than it needs to be!" they get annoyed that I say their advice doesn't work. And I want to say "How do you think I feel?" because this isn't any easier for me. I'm the one living with these memory problems. I'm the one struggling with switching tasks. You don't have to live with this; I have to live with it every day of my life. forever.