#girl advice

[colebabey888]

LIVING THROUGH YOUR ALTER EGO | IT GIRL DIARIES

I've had a lot of girl's tell me how hard it is to be an It Girl, just because of the amount of changes you have to make in your life. Which is understandable, it's not easy to just wake up one day and decide to be a completely different person and forget who you were yesterday or your old habits.

Truth be told, I used to be one of those many girl's, I thought I could never be who I wanted to. I could never be that confident diva who achieved everything with ease... so I made a plan, a plan to begin living through my alter ego and eventually, I became her.

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Here is your Guide for an Easy Start to Living Through Your Alter Ego.

Step 1. | Create your alter ego ( this is who you want to be. Decide what they do, how they think, what they look like and what their daily routine would be. Give them a name )

Step 2. | Create a Vision Board that resonates with your alter ego ( you can find many ideas on Pinterest or head over to my Pinterest here, for a already drawn up vision board, I've create many )

Step 3. | Wake up everyday as your present self and then, start implementing small routines throughout your day that your alter ego would do. Always start small. ( remember, it's harder to wake up and just be different person )

Step 4. | Choose atleast 1 small routine that your alter ego would do and make that a consistent daily routine for yourself ( skin care routine, hot lemon water every morning, reading, walking or doing your makeup ) It doesn't have to be something big and drastic, just something small to give you direction and discipline.

Step 5. | Gradually add in more routines as the days go by. Think of your current reality as plain white cake batter and your alter ego's life as pink food coloring, everyday you add more food coloring into your batter and in the end, you will just have pink cake batter.

Step 6. | Try this for 2 months, this will give you enough time to take things slowly.

Tip : Everytime you've successfully remained consistent with a routine from your alter ego, cross it off your vision board, because this means it is no longer a vision, it is your reality.

( use your vision board as a to do list on this journey )

I hope this helps many of you in starting to your IT GIRL persona and become the pretty divas you all are. 💋🩷🎀🌺

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This is your daily talk with @colebabey888

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: Game-Changing TED Talks Everyone Should Watch

"How Five Simple Words Can Get You What You Want" by Janine Driver

"Master your Mindset, Overcome Self-Deception, Change your Life" by  Shadé Zahrai

"How to talk to the worst parts of yourself" by Karen Faith

"Think before you speak, hacking the secret of communication" by Catherine Molloy

"The Hidden Code For Transforming Dreams Into Reality" by Mary Morrissey

"Don't Believe Everything You Think" by Lauren Weinstein

"The public speaking lesson you never had" by DK

"Programming your mind for success" by Carrie Green

"How to stop screwing yourself over" by Mel Robbins

"Own Your Behaviours, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success" by Louise Evans

"The psychology of seduction" by Raj Persaud

"Why we're unhappy -- the expectation gap" by Nat Ware

"Think Fast. Talk Smart" by Matt Abrahams 

"Increase your self-awareness with one simple fix' by Tasha Eurich 

"5 steps to designing the life you want" by Bill Burnett

"Staying stuck or moving forward" by Dr. Lani Nelson Zlupko

"To reach beyond your limits by training your mind" by Marisa Peer

"Emotional laws are the answer for better relationships" by Diana Wais

"Feelings: Handle them before they handle you" by Mandy Saligari

"Cultivating Unconditional Self-Worth" by Adia Gooden 

[4theitgirls]

productive ways to fill up your notebooks

money & savings tracker

it’s always a good idea to keep track of where your money is going and save when you can, especially if you’re looking to boost your finances and start taking charge of them. you can track your pay days, how much you receive, how much you can put away into savings, and budget the rest into what you’ll need until next pay day.

long & short-term to-do lists

a lot of us make daily to-do lists, but i also like to include long term to-do lists to keep track of the things i would like to achieve eventually. for example, a long term to-do would be to learn italian, while a short term or daily to-do would be to study italian for 20 minutes.

wishlist with a reward system

you may want to keep track of the things that you would like to buy for yourself, but if you want to be a bit smarter about it, you can make yourself a reward system tailored to your specific goals. for example, if your goal is to lose weight, you could allow yourself to spend a certain amount of money on your wishlist for every 5 or 10 pounds you lose depending on how much you’d like to lose.

books you want to read

i always see books i think look interesting or think i would like to read, but end up forgetting the title or where i saw it. you may want to keep track of the books you want to read and cross them off once you finish them.

prayer list

if you are religious or spiritual in a way where you pray or meditate, you may want to make a list of the things/people you want to pray for or meditate on.

habits you want to start with a plan for each

it’s easy to say you want to start waking up earlier, eating healthier, taking care of your skin, etc. but it can be difficult to make those things part of your routine without taking small steps each day to get used to doing those things each day. have one broad habit in mind and figure out what it takes to get there.

fitness tracker

whether you’re just getting into working out or if you’ve been doing it for a while, it can be useful to keep track of which workouts you do each day so you can see what you do the most and what you want to do more.

random beauty & health tips

i don’t know about you, but i hear random beauty and health tips all the time in media or just in daily life, but end up forgetting what i’ve learned. you may want to write them down when you hear them so next time you’re in a situation where you could use it, you remember it.

specific monthly goals & tracker

as y’all know, i make 5 goals at the beginning of each month and post them on my blog. i highly recommend this, as it is a great way to put emphasis on certain things you want to focus on at monthly intervals rather than trying to do every new thing at once.

[0notreallyimportant0]

⋆˚｡⋆୨୧˚ Simple Habits I'll start to upgrade my life ⋆˚｡⋆୨୧˚

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Mental Health:

Sleep at least 7 hrs every night (I was sleep-deprived during school since like 3 years ;-;)

Compliment myself every day <3

Say at least 3 things I'm grateful every day <3

Reading manifestation every day

Meditate every time before going to bed <3

Take all my meds consistently (We stan a healthy queen xD)

Read every day <3

Take more walks (:

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Physical Health:

Do a plyometric workout + dance workouts + pushups at least 3 times a week (I already play 6 hrs volleyball every week ⸜(｡˃ ᵕ ˂ )⸝♡)

uhhhh thats all girlies tbh (:

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Academic Goals:

Honestly I am kind of a victim of the typical gifted kid stuff :/

I am very ambitious and often neglect myself to be as good as possible at school. At the same time I hate myself for example having a B at a random subject etc. :(

That's why I'd like to put myself under less pressure because of school ^^.

Doing homework every day, so I'll have more time on the weekends <3

Learning at least one week before every exam <3

Bye pretty girlies, have a wonderful day

∧,,,∧ (  ̳• · • ̳) /    づ♡ I love you♡ 🧸 ♡

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[theereina]

🦋 THAT GIRL CHALLENGE 🦋

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Start a daily gratitude journal to cultivate a positive mindset.

Practice mindfulness meditation for at least 10 minutes each day.

Set specific, achievable goals for yourself in all areas of your life.

Read a self-improvement book or listen to a motivational podcast each week.

Create a budget and track your expenses to improve your financial literacy.

Take a new fitness class or try a different workout routine to stay active and healthy.

Volunteer your time to a cause you're passionate about.

Practice self-care regularly, whether it's through skincare, baths, or relaxation techniques.

Develop a morning routine that sets a positive tone for your day.

Learn a new skill or hobby that interests you, such as painting, cooking, or coding.

Practice forgiveness and let go of grudges or resentments from the past.

Surround yourself with positive, supportive people who uplift and inspire you.

Start a savings account or investment portfolio to secure your financial future.

Practice assertiveness and boundary-setting in your relationships.

Spend time in nature to recharge and reconnect with yourself.

Take a solo trip to explore new places and gain independence.

Eat a balanced diet with plenty of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains.

Schedule regular check-ups with your healthcare providers for preventive care.

Practice saying "no" to obligations or activities that drain your energy.

Explore different forms of spirituality or connect with your spiritual beliefs.

Declutter your living space to create a more organized and peaceful environment.

Practice random acts of kindness to spread positivity in your community.

Learn to manage stress through techniques like deep breathing or progressive muscle relaxation.

Attend workshops or seminars to continue learning and growing personally and professionally.

Set aside time for creative expression, whether it's through writing, drawing, or crafting.

Practice self-reflection to identify areas for growth and improvement.

Cultivate a mindset of abundance and gratitude rather than scarcity and fear.

Set boundaries around technology use to prioritize real-life connections.

Experiment with different styles and fashion choices to express your unique personality.

Create a vision board to visualize your goals and aspirations.

Practice self-compassion and treat yourself with kindness and understanding.

Explore your passions and interests to find what truly lights you up.

Develop a morning or evening skincare routine to care for your skin.

Take up a regular exercise routine, whether it's yoga, running, or weightlifting.

Practice effective communication skills to express yourself clearly and assertively.

Set aside time for hobbies and activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.

Invest in experiences rather than material possessions for long-lasting happiness.

Foster gratitude by expressing appreciation for the people and things in your life.

Practice forgiveness, both towards others and yourself, to release negative emotions.

Engage in acts of self-love, such as positive affirmations and pampering sessions.

Cultivate a sense of curiosity and wonder by exploring new ideas and perspectives.

Invest in your education and personal development through courses or workshops.

Practice empathy and compassion towards others, seeking to understand their perspectives.

Practice mindfulness in everyday activities, such as eating and walking.

Set realistic expectations for yourself and celebrate your progress along the way.

Surround yourself with supportive friends and mentors who encourage your growth.

Create a financial plan to save for future goals, such as buying a home or traveling.

Practice gratitude by keeping a daily journal of things you're thankful for.

Take time to relax and recharge by engaging in activities you enjoy.

Reflect on your values and priorities to ensure your actions align with your true self.

[desigirldairies]

AFFIRMATIONS —

These affirmations blend elements of spirituality, mindfulness, gratitude, and empowerment, reflecting the holistic approach to life often found in Indian philosophies and teachings. How do these resonate with you?

1. I am a manifestation of divine energy, worthy of love and abundance.

2. My mind is a temple of peace and clarity, rooted in ancient wisdom.

3. I embrace the cycles of life, knowing that change brings growth and transformation.

4. I radiate positivity and kindness, spreading joy to those around me.

5. I honor my ancestors and carry their resilience and strength within me.

6. I am connected to the universe, in harmony with nature's rhythms and cycles.

7. I trust in the unfolding of my journey, guided by the wisdom of my heart and soul.

8. I celebrate diversity and unity, recognizing the beauty in every culture and tradition.

9. I cultivate gratitude for the blessings in my life, big and small, with a grateful heart.

10. I am a co-creator of my destiny, manifesting my dreams with intention and perseverance.

11. I am worthy of love, kindness, and respect from myself and others.

12. I embrace my imperfections, knowing they are part of my unique beauty and strength.

13. I forgive myself for past mistakes and release any self-judgment or criticism.

14. I trust in my abilities and believe in my potential to achieve my goals and dreams.

15. I prioritize self-care and nourish my mind, body, and soul with love and compassion.

16. I set healthy boundaries to protect my well-being and honor my needs and values.

17. I celebrate my progress and achievements, no matter how small, acknowledging my growth.

18. I speak to myself with kindness and encouragement, nurturing a positive inner dialogue.

19. I let go of comparison and embrace my unique journey, trusting in my own pace and path.

20. I am enough just as I am, worthy of love, happiness, and fulfillment.

AFFIRMATIONS are made not only to be recalled or spoken every morning for a good morning, you can always remind yourself with all these beautiful AFFIRMATIONS whenever you are free, not being in a good mood, need some motivation, not feeling good about yourself or just want to! ✨️

[princess-ari]

💚Get rid of toxic people

💚Throw things away you dont need

💚Clean your room

💚Delete people you dont talk to anymore

💚Buy new things

💚Start a writing journal and write about your mood and how u feel

💚Meditate

💚Change your diet

💚Start drinking water

💚Exercise 3x a day /week

💚If u gotta take time of from everyone do it and dont hesitate

💚Learn to love yourself 

💚Don’t be negative towards others

💚Find new hobbies

💚Take care of your skin 

💚Work on your confidence 

💚Remember positivity is key

[neverinsignificant]

First date idea: you follow me around the mall from a distance and when I go to checkout you rush to put your card down

[femmefatalevibe]

25 Life Lessons I've Learned In 25 Years

In honor of turning 25 this month, here are some lessons I wish someone could've baked into my brain by 18. Hope this helps xx

Putting yourself first is not selfish, it is an act of self-care. Actively discounting others is not the same as protecting your peace.

Pay attention to who gossips and keeps to themselves amidst an interpersonal conflict. Insecure people or those in the wrong will speak the loudest and go on the longest in a fight to prove their innocence. Individuals who are self-assured and comfortable with the truth know it's better to communicate their feelings appropriately and then move past it. Confidence is assertive, tactful, and relatively silent.

If you want to know who to believe in an argument, pay attention to how both sides speak about the conflict. The perpetrator will often speak about the individuals' character/morality while the victim will explain their personal experience in the context of the relevant situation.

Display empathy and consideration, but don't live to satisfy others' emotional needs and expectations. Say farewell to anyone who dismisses or guilts you for your own needs, emotions, priorities/life goals & aspirations.

Your needs matter. No one needs to approve or validate your desires. If someone feels they have control over you or tries to persuade you to change your mind to ensure you put their emotions and needs first, cut them out of your life. They do not care about you.

Almost no one deserves insider access into your life and mind. Upholding your right to privacy – especially regarding your finances, dating life, health conditions/concerns, and long-term goals – is the simplest way to protect your peace.

A friend to all is a friend to none. Be wary of those who will not stand up for you behind closed doors. These people do not care about you, they care about what your place in their life does for them and their ego.

Be radically honest and accepting of who you are. Don't apologize for your preferences, aspirations, and values. You deserve to live in a way that makes you happy, not to appease others in hopes of their approval or future favors due to your karmic good deeds.

You deserve happiness, love, and nice things, life experiences, relationships, and opportunities in your life regardless of what others may or may not possess/ be able to experience. Dispel this scarcity mindset ASAP. Jealousy and internalized shame are destructive to your self-esteem and all your relationships.

You are worthy and offer many incredible, unique gifts to the world. Don't allow naysayers, critics, or bullies (of any age) to dim your light or sacrifice pursuing your dreams. Decide you're the leader of your own life. Then act accordingly.

Direct communication is always the way. Remain tactful, but at least when dealing with non-manipulative people, always say what you mean and mean what you say. It will save a lot of trouble and petty disagreements that could've been avoided with clearer communication.

You don't owe anyone an explanation for your feelings, emotions, and actions that don't have a direct, inescapable impact on someone else. "No" is a complete sentence.

Approach conversations as a meeting of the minds. Healthy debate or conflict is about seeking to understand the other person, not prove yourself right. Leaving your ego at the door will allow you to expand your mind and avoid many unnecessary conflicts or arguments.

If it's not a hell yes, it's a no. For a job, date, sex, attendance at a time-sucking social event, family gatherings, an informal meeting not essential for you to keep your job, a wedding, birthday party, holiday invitation, etc. Outside of your contracted hours and time necessary to keep yourself/your home clean & well-maintained, you should spend your time exactly as you please. Doing things you don't want to do will only breed resentment down the line toward yourself and others.

Detangle yourself from any who refuses to self-reflect and take accountability. This person is selfish and will never see you as fully human with emotions, needs, and a complete life/internal world of your own. Cut them out (or at least fully emotionally detach and limit contact with them) immediately.

Speak your truth, but always say a little less than you feel necessary. Overexplaning and oversharing do you no favors. At a minimum, this approach allows you to protect your peace. In the worst circumstances, this tactic can also save you from a lot of trouble in your personal or professional life.

Learn to ask for a little more than you're comfortable with, but do so with grace, tact, and confidence. Whether it's a salary/rate negotiation, flight/hotel/restaurant accommodations, get in the habit of making that slightly higher/up-leveled request like you're expecting a "yes." You can't get something you don't ask for, so speak up and show you know your worth. This habit can bring a lot of great opportunity into your life and builds up your confidence.

Everyone is on their own timeline and path. Don't compare yourself to others' credentials, job titles, relationship status, net worths, or jean sizes. Comparison is truly the thief of joy. Remaining envious of others only takes up the energy that could otherwise be used to elevate or enrich your life.

Become clear on your priorities, and remain diligent with your habits & routines. Set SMART goals. Implement healthy habits and rituals into your daily lifestyle. Be consistent with goal-supporting and wellness rituals (generous sleep schedule, healthful eating habits, daily movement/regular exercise, reading, task time-blocking, cleaning, and life/work admin schedule), so they become second nature. Help yourself by creating these default habits to ensure your brain is wired for success whether you're in an easygoing era or a stressful life season.

Stop seeing other people (especially other women) as your competition in your profession/dating life and within your platonic relationships. Use your immediate criticisms as a tool for self-reflection. Actively deconstruct the patriarchy in every aspect of your life. Other women coworkers, dating prospects, and friends are not your rivals nor individuals who should be evaluated based on their assertiveness, sexual history/appeal, relationship status, or desire to perform traditional maternal/domestic roles.

Understanding how to interact with others in a cordial, tactful manner is significantly more important than having everyone like you. Learn how to positively influence people without seeking approval. What other people think of us is none of our business. All we can do is show up as the best version of ourselves, and remain optimistic about a potential connection.

Acceptance, accountability, and consistent discipline are the holy trinity to creating a sustainable change that you can maintain for the long haul. There's no shame in starting from the bottom, but you need to be honest about where you're at, so you can create a realistic game plan/small behavior-changing habits that stack up over time to help you implement the radical change you're craving.

Let go of any internalized shame. Being the "good girl" does you no favors in life. Set a standard and expectation to be respected, not to be perceived as "innocent" or submissive – this is how you get taken advantage of in professional, platonic, and intimate relationships. Remain ravenous for respect. It's the only way to live life to the fullest.

24. Investing in your appearance is a form of self-respect. Wanting to look & feel your best and present yourself in the best light possible to others is not a superficial pursuit. Remain unwavering about your hygiene/beauty/grooming routines, deliberate styling choices, healthy eating & workout habits, and mindfulness of social graces. You're your #1 publicist, so act like it. Life is all about embracing satisfaction with a sprinkle of reputation management.

25. Be unapologetic about your financial ambitions, priorities, investments, savings goals, etc. Financial freedom IS freedom. The only way to change the system is to break it from the inside out. Leverage is everything. Allocate, and assert your (financial) power wisely.

[4theitgirls]

i dont know if you have done it b4, but can you recommend a beginner workout routines and some channels 4 them?

if you want to start with strength training or weights, i definitely recommend madfit on youtube. she has quite a few beginner workouts on her channel and i know a lot of people start with her. personally, i will always recommend pilates. pilates gives you the core strength, coordination, and body control you would need for any other type of workout. i’ve noticed more progress with pilates than i have with any other type of exercise i’ve tried. you can search ‘beginner pilates’ on youtube, but here are some of the routines i would recommend:

[samoadoll]

No Bad Spirited Bitches. They get no reaction..since their empowerment is through your attention. Anyone who attacks you unprovoked intends to keep your eye away from looking at your blessings. They want your mind immersed in the drama they created so it distracts you from bigger things to focus on. Protect yourself through centering your being in Angel Energy Only. If someone isn’t speaking from love..don’t listen. If someone is trying to dim your light…ignite it even brighter. Heaven never had a war. God simply kicked out who was stirring up trouble. Do the same. You don’t need to fight..just remove who wants to be against you.

You’re above them, it’s indicated in your stature because you can only pull something down that is already high. They try to get in your way on your path because they devote their existence to being in competition. You’ll never lose when you refuse to lose yourself so don’t demote yourself to the gutter they reside in. They go low because that’s all they know..you go with God. Throughout your elevation God is your protection. Your provision is through God so they can’t cut off your source of blessings. Your antagonist has become their own agony. They are tortured by your prosper. They did the most to stop it but now they watch you enjoy the fruition of your answered prayers. The demise they hope for will never become your reality because no curse can do you harm. You have to laugh at people who hate on what they don’t have and realize..they are hating because they don’t have it. Keep reminding them of their lack by getting everything they said you couldn’t have. It’s not your fault that outdoing yourself also happens to surpass them. You are your standard. You didn’t choose to be theirs..their envious feelings is what it made it a one sided competition.

No Bad Spirited Bitches. Angel Energy Only. Written by Areli Soleil.

[smoothpowerforthestreets]

🧠 🔇I finally stopped using subliminals 🔇🧠

Hello everyone! It's been awhile...

I made another post about the dangers of using subliminals and I finally given up trying to find good subliminals makers. I'm pretty sure there's good people out there but I spent months trying to make the perfect playlist of subliminals and it's almost impossible.

If two subliminals are good there's always one that ruins the effects and I didn't get my desired results to last or get them at all.

So I stopped using subliminals for 2 months and I recently started creating my own subliminals. SO PLEASE, BELIEVE ME WHEN I SAY IT'S THE BEST ADVICE I CAN GIVE YOU. I got results the same f- day, that's when I finally face off the reality that the subliminals comunity is NOT SAFE.

MAKE YOUR OWN SUBLIMINALS!!!! IT'S THE SAFEST OPTION.

How do I make my subliminals?

Audacity app (easy and simple)

Be clear about what is the subliminal for

Write the affirmations

Find a silent place to record your voice (preferably with headphones)

Find a song that matches your energy (be careful with the lyrics)

The songs I used for my subliminals:

Cheri Cheri Lady by Modern Talking -> magnetic energy and power

The girl from Ipanema by Frank Sinatra and Antonio Carlos Jobim -> physical glow up and magnetic energy

Dragon Slayer by Lana del Rey -> protection and angelic energy

I'm a woman by Peggy Lee -> body glow up and powerful energy

Love to love you by Donna Summer -> attracting true love and passion

All of them slowed + reverb

Feel free to ask anything or suggest any topic!

[abixmoonx]

Reminder: Being a nice person means being nice to yourself as well˚ ༘♡ ⋆｡

Hello honey *·˚

Is good to take care of others and spend time with them, but sometimes we forget that is super important to take care of ourselfs as well, it has a lot of benefits:

It improves your physical and mental health

Gives you a lot of energy

Takes your stress away

Keeps you motivated

Makes you feel happier

Makes you feel way more confident

Reduces anxiety and depression

I personally love self-care activities, it makes me feel so much more relaxed and connected with myself.

I know that a lot of people usually struggle with bad days or bad weeks, so today i want to share with u a list of self-care activities that you can do whenever you want *ੈ✩‧₊˚

Some Self care ideas:

Listen to your favourite songs

Watch your favourite TV show

Do your nails

Buy something cute for yourself

Eat your favourite food

Take a bubble bath

Do your skincare

Take a nap if you feel tired

Brush your hair

Light your favourite candle

Drink a glass of water

Smile!!!

Go for a walk

Meditate

Write on your journal (one of my favs)

Write positive affirmations

Try yoga or pilates

Read your favourite book or magazine

Make your bed

Tidy up your space

Quit an unhealthy habit

Strech your body

Draw something

Spend time with your pets

Make a vision board

Get 7-8 hours of sleep daily

I hope that you take a really good care of yourself <3

Bye honey, xoxo ·˚ ༘