#intersex allies

[orchidbutch]

Hi everyone!

I wanted to drop a few resources on some basics about intersex people and being an ally for intersex people. I'm perisex (at least to my knowledge at this time) but was interested to know more, and hope this will be helpful to others.

here's an article from HRC:

InterAct seems to have a lot of information, here is their FAQ!

They have several helpful pamphlets including basic information, a glossary of intersex conditions, and a pamphlet for allies:

and here are some videos, one from buzfeed:

and a playlist from Hi, Hello, Hans:

Of course, these are all super basic and as with anything, different intersex people may have different experiences. Please feel free to add more info or resources if you know of any!

[ipso-faculty]

Perisex allies: stop this shit

CW: intersexism

Came across this infographic during some google image searching and I'm still kind of a state of despair about it because it's not just offensively wrong about what intersex is, it was used to teach university students about queer issues:

Alt text: LGBTQIA+ are defined one by one. Intersex is defined erroneously as "These are people who were born with genital organs of both sexes (male and female). It is a genetic condition."

It's one thing for your rando perisex person to be getting this wrong on social media. It's another thing entirely when it's professionals getting this wrong in an educational setting. 😩 And that this infographic appears in a peer-reviewed publication. 😩

It's even worse to know the students that were taught with this infographic were medical students, who will be the ones traumatizing intersex people for decades to come 😩

It's so wrong in so many different ways:

Intersex is not limited to people with genital differences. Most intersex people have intersex variations that are not apparent at birth, with puberty being the most common time of life for variations to present. Many people find out in adulthood having no outward physical differences.

Of the intersex people with genital differences, they do not have two sets of genitals. Most genital differences are still recognizably female or male (e.g. spadias), and those who have ambiguous genitals have one set.

Intersex is not "male parts + female parts" or even "intermediate male/female parts", it is an umbrella term for anybody whose primary/secondary sex characteristics don't line up with what is expected for male and female bodies. Some intersex variations make women look more feminine, or make men look more masculine.

Defining intersex by genital differences doesn't just exclude most intersex people, it also sets the tone that we are defined by our genitals. To be publicly intersex is to have non-stop DMs about your genitals. This sort of framing sets up openly intersex people for invasive questions and harassment, and it keeps large numbers of intersex people from coming out.

Many intersex variations do not have a known genetic basis. Many intersex variations are caused by exposure to certain hormonal levels in the womb. Certain medications when taken during pregnancy can trigger intersex variations.

While bodily variation is necessary for being intersex, the social experience of stigma, discrimination, isolation, hyper-medicalization, and hyper-sexualization are all just as much a part of being intersex.

📣 Perisex allies: this is shit you can stop. When you see other perisex people parrot this sort of misinformation, correct them. Direct them to look up resources written by actually intersex people.

Here are some starter resources to give:

Intersex explained by Hans Lindahl

Media and style guide by IHRA

FAQ by intersex-support

A recent post I did compiling information for trans people who want to be better intersex allies

[liminalweirdo]

NOTE: this is NOT about sharing your pronouns with colleagues/fellow students/professors etc. in general, it's about those introductory circles where everyone introduces themselves.

*trans includes nonbinary, agender, and other gender non conforming identities including autigender for the purpose of this poll.

no nuance button, but feel free to say your thoughts in the comments/tags or so i can make a better poll if necessary

[morbid-lycoris]

If you are queer but transphobic, I don't think you should get to celebrate pride.

I am pretty sure Pride Month wouldn't exist without trans-people, especially black trans women such as Marsha P. johnson.

And you don't seem to like the community anyway.

[loki-god-of-mischief-13]

Pride Mezuzahs

If I forgot your flag, tell me. Happy pride to the Jews in my phone.

[nyxxx6]

Sexy right? 🖤😋🥵❤️‍🔥

[raccoon-queer]

y'know what? I'm gonna say it

asking if someone is afab or amab is transphobic

the only people who need to know what gender you were assigned at birth are medical professionals and potentially sexual partners. otherwise, there is literally no reason anyone needs to know your agab

"but I have trauma with amab people" "but afab people are annoying" that sounds like a you problem and does not justify asking people what's in their pants. because that is what you are doing – just with politically correct terminology

you cannot call yourself a trans ally and then ask to know what's in someone's pants. end of story

(also? some people aren't afab or amab. neither sex nor gender are binary)

[nic-coughlan]

happy pride month gays, bi's, lesbians, queers, asexuals, demisexuals, trans, it's our month and that's the

[yagikidd57]

The queer community isn’t necessarily based on and focused on sex. Trans, Queer, Intersex, Agender, Asexual, Aromantic, & Nonbinary have nothing to do with sex. People can experience romantic attraction and fall under the queer umbrella, like lesbian asexuals exist. They experience romantic attraction to other women but not sexual attraction. So no, the queer community is Not ONLY based on sex or sexual attraction, thinking this way erases Aspec people and the other labels i’ve mentioned.

[satyrradio]

bro an intersex person could make a post saying "don't call us the h slur" and there would still be a perisex person in the reblogs going "I AM AN ALLY TO YOU HERM*********S!! :D"

[gray-aroace-place]

It’s so weird to me how people wanna police straight people at pride

First of all, if straight people want to celebrate with us, by all means celebrate. We could always use extra love and support. As long as they aren’t a cop, who cares.

Also, straight people or relationships can be queer. Here’s some examples!

Straight trans people (ex: straight trans men and straight trans women)

Aces, Aros, and aroaces can be queer and straight, or have a straight partner or queerplatonic partner

You could be perceiving a non-binary person as a straight or cis person with their partner, or a non-binary person can identify as straight

Multisexual people (bisexuals, pansexuals, polysexuals, omnisexuals, etc) can have straight partners and should be welcome at pride

Polyamorous people. This can be a bit controversial but I don’t care if polyam people ate at pride. I’m ambiamorous and both labels are marginalized and misrepresented a lot in media and by scummy people.

Intersex people can be straight

[super-ace]

Sending love to our trans siblings at this time. Love from the ace and aro communities x

[nyxxx6]

can we play together and Ill give you head- I MEAN heals haha 🫣

[isobug]

Rainbow Intersex Ally Flags

For anyone included under the Rainbow flag who is an ally to Intersex people!

Requested by anon and made with two versions of the Gilbert Baker Rainbow flag, along with the most commonly used Intersex flag by Morgan Carpenter. Made with my Ally flag PSD template so the proportions are the same as the original Ally flag.

Free for anyone to use anywhere as always! If you would like a variation of these with a different Rainbow or Intersex flag feel free to send me a request !! The parallel flag set can be found here.

Taglist - @radiomogai, @daybreakthing

[therealamperssand]

I Love My Friends!

I love my transfem friends

I love my transmasc friends

I love my nonbinary friends

I love my agender friends

I love my genderfluid friends

I love my intersex friends

I love my questioning friends

I love my closeted friends

I love my cis friends

YOU'RE AMAZING AND I LOVE YOU!

[kaseykeii]

Zipped up or zipped down? 😉😉😉