#introject self care

[citizenoftmrrwlnd]

self care for : a deinonychus including some stim toys requested by @bastardusrex-official

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[brbuttons]

Self-portraits from a DID System ▸ Rupert Rogers (they/them, human)

Social alter, hyperactive darling, proud user of xD.

Part of the 'We Will Be Perceived' zine.

[virtualcare]

a self care kit for a marcy wu fictive with soft things, fidget toys, and the colour green!

requested from anonymous, thank you!

read our dni before interacting <3

- mod gumi

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[hskinhome]

A self care board for a Dammek introject who liked space imagery, forests, soft things, and sketched a lot as a hobby

Chew necklace

Plush

Sketchbook

Slime

Blanket

Pencils

[chick-kin-nuggets]

Noncanon DSMP care kit

For an anonymous DSMP introject

Pink flower hair clips

Pink butterfly Squishmallow (alternate cheaper link, but less reliable seeming- I hate Amazon as much as the next guy but a scam isn't quite as likely)

Quackity keychain

L'Manburg flag

Pink articulated slug fidget

Soda pop crush tangle

Total price: ~$75 USD

All items except Amazon Squishmallow under $20 USD

L'Manburg flag can be ordered in bigger or smaller sizes for higher or lower price

[stayathome-ts]

The problem with accidentally viewing your life through a semi-fictional lens due to context is that you start applying that to the present as well as the part, and often reality doesn’t work that way, except when it does and that just confuses the whole thing.

[citysinternetangel]

Hey, hey, hey! ✧*̥˚ Introduction *̥˚✧ ❥ Hi ^_^ I'm an Ame / KAngel fictive but you can just call me Angel <3 I'm 19 yrs old bodily (20 in may) and use she/fizz pronouns! Alongside being apart of a DID system, I have bpd + autism ❥ I made this blog to spread positivity for both my headmates & others! The world needs a little more kindness <3 ✧*̥˚ Boundaries *̥˚✧ ❥ Fakeclaimers will be blocked, I'm not letting a stranger decide the validity of my disorder! ❥ Basic dni (Racist, Homophobic, Pedo, Zoo, etc) ❥ Please do not compare me to my source! While we're similar, fictives are not their source! ❥ This blog is about positivity & healing so please keep venting out of replies & reblogs ^^ .・。.・゜✭・.・✫・゜・。. Thanks for stopping by and reading! Stay wonderful chat, and remember I love you! ᓚᘏᗢ

[wawhii]

Some rambling in the tags

[wgsblogofwhatever]

Goals 4 2024

MY SPECIFIC GOALS (W. GRAHAM)

Start a Sims based comic of my inner world life as a werewolf

Keep up with these positivity post better

Blog often/once a week at least

Write poetry at least once a week

SYSTEM SPECIFIC GOALS

Allow me to front in therapy at least once a month

Keep the room clean and the body too

Develop a schedule for everyone to stick to self care duties

[citizenoftmrrwlnd]

self care for : steven grant (moon knight; fictive) with jewelry and lights requested by @ethercollective

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[sonic-and-friends-positivity]

Heya! Just a reminder that it's good to go at whatever pace suits you best. Listen to your body, take breaks when you can, and try not to go too fast!

[eldritch-queern-magicat]

We've been running away, too. Not just Charles. We still also hate ourselves. But we expressed it all very differently. It's part of the ‘not good enough’ bullshit. When we watch things crash around us, time after fucking time, it was a matter of feeling like we let it happen because we weren't good enough. So we decide to start over in a sense. The thing of starting out in new places made it easier to run away and reinvent myself all over again. It's been harder since we've been living in the same general place for the last twelve years, but that hasn't entirely stopped it. We still end up at some point playing chrysalis with ourselves over and over again. it's part of why we have so many splits. We're never really happy with who we end up being. But it's not like we'be ever been in a good place for one thing or another to begin with. Life has always been Hell. I had too much shit to handle, and despite my internalized transphobia, I had somehow done the mental gymnastics to back myself into the stereotype that ‘men can handle it’, and that I was just weak.

Coming out of foster care, I had the first grade to start. I was scared and had a lot to recover from. I was with my family again, but was switching schools from where I went in foster care for kindergarten. We also had problems with biting and picking the inside of my mouth due to the pain of the trigeminal neuralgia until I had reconstructive surgery before the fifth grade. Along the way, my maternal grandfather died and we watched Mom fall apart. I was barely eight, I think. Then she had to get both legs amputated, one at a time, because of gangrene (she had type one diabetes since she was a teen). It really wasn't that far apart. I stayed with my maternal great-grandma during her time in the hospital, and she was very much a Christian fundamentalist, just not as bad as the Pentecostals. And I was actually her favorite great-grandkid. It's complicated. She hated Dad for a long time, until he proved more dependable than her actual grandson. And Mom could never seem to really get her approval.

I was in the fourth grade when 9/11 happened. I honestly barely understood what was going on, but things seemed to vaguely be getting worse in my isolated neck of the woods. Fifth graders were supposed to go to DC on field trips.

I wasn't really weak as much as I had just been utterly screwed over in life already. I never had it easy in the slightest. Nevermind how the ADHD just hung over my head as an anvil. It was an absolute nightmare. I was already in a self-destructive cycle of perfectionism and feeling unable to measure up to my potential.

-Catra 🧨😺

[allaboutthemoonlight]

How to Master Motivation

Hi friends,

Today I want to talk about motivation and finding ways to maintain it in our daily lives. Motivation is a crucial factor that drives us to achieve our goals, overcome challenges, and stay committed to our development.

Understand the locus of control

Our locus of control, internal or external, is the degree to which we believe we have control over what happens to us in our lives. It influences how we respond to circumstances that impact us and how motivated we feel to take action.

An external locus of control is when we believe that our life and the outcomes we experience are a result of external forces beyond our power. We think everything that happens to us occurs because of chance or luck—two things we can’t control.

The key to staying motivated is to develop an internal locus of control. This is when we believe that we’re responsible for the things happening to us and understand that we have control over the outcome. It’s a level of self-determination where we realize our efforts, decisions, and habits create the life we live.

So, how do we adopt an internal locus of control?

The first point I want to emphasize is that, regardless of your perception of how much control you have over your life, the amount of work you put into something is always within your control. The first step is to abandon the mindset that everything is left up to chance and, because of this, you should stop trying. You need to understand that you always have some level of power over your circumstances, even if you’ve been told otherwise:

Be more aware of the choices you make and realize there is always a choice to be made.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help or guidance from those around you.

Spend time self-reflecting and trying to understand yourself better. Reflect on previous instances where you’ve felt a lack of control and write down what could have been done instead.

Don’t be afraid to fail; it’s an opportunity to learn.

Know the different types of motivation

Next, I want to talk about the different types of motivation and how they impact you.

There are 4 different types of motivation, each with their own distinctions:

Intrinsic motivation: This is where you do something because it aligns with your values or just because it’s fun. Although it’s good to have intrinsic motivation, this type is fragile and can be undermined when we start feeling like we’re losing autonomy over our choices.

Extrinsic motivation: This is what most people think of when they imagine motivation. It’s when our motivation comes from outside of us—we’re doing something for a reward or to avoid a punishment. It’s the opposite type of motivation that you should seek if you want to be self-driven.

Introjected: This type of motivation can create resentment or tension. We do something because if we don’t, we’ll feel shameful or guilty. For example, you might go to the gym not because you enjoy it or care about the health benefits, but because you feel guilty if you don’t work out.

Identified: The reason you’re doing something is because it aligns with your idealized self. It’s something that you’ve internalized to be important and allows you to behave in accordance with your self-concept and identity. This is the most important type because it creates habitual behaviors are no longer choices. We understand our identity and that certain habits and behaviors need to be done so that we’re constantly aligned with our higher selves. For example, you might regularly volunteer at a local shelter or organization because you’re someone who values compassion and community service.

So, how can we implement identified motivation more into our lives?

Really try and understand the reasoning behind a goal you want to achieve. Ask yourself “why do you actually want this thing?”. This is also a good time to review your values and whether or not your goal aligns with them.

Constantly remind yourself about why the outcome matters to you because we often forget the reason that we started in the first place. —ex.

Like James Clear said, make your goal, system, habit, or whatever you’re wanting to accomplish more motivating or fun. Beyond that, start associating the reward with the challenge itself. If you’re training for a marathon, instead of seeing the finish line as the only reward, find or fulfillment in the training process and the discipline you developed along the way.

Adopt a positive mindset. Rather than complaining about having to workout in the morning or studying for an exam, start saying “I get to study for this exam and further my education” or “I’m blessed to have a body that works for me and allows me to exercise”. It’s all about perspective and embracing gratitude. If you put half the energy that you use from complaining into figuring out how to take the next step, you’ll accomplish a lot more.

Don’t neglect your emotional and mental health

Slumps are very real, and mental health can impact every aspect of motivation. Self-improvement and changing your life aren’t easy journeys by any means, and there will be times when stress and feelings of being overwhelmed can paralyze you. In these moments, it’s critical to take a break, a breather, or anything that can help reset your mental health. Remember to engage in activities that support your emotional needs. Not every second of the day needs to be spent doing something productive or working toward your goals. It’s okay to take breaks and have rest days; in fact, I think it’s crucial.

Reward yourself often, even for the smallest achievements. It’s not about what you completed, but the fact that you completed something at all. Spend time acknowledging your accomplishments.

Take it one step at a time and remember no action is too small. Starting small is what helps us build consistency in the long run.

Embrace positive self-talk. Avoid talking yourself into a negative spiral, as it will only make you lose motivation and put you in a slump.

Get an accountability partner. Having someone in your corner who will cheer for you and keep you accountable is a game changer.

Stay motivated, stay grateful, stay resilient.

Love,

Luna<3

[mysillytdsideblog]

My headcanons for mike & co

Vito

Co-host w/ Mike from ages 14-16

Mentally 18-19 ish

System big brother

Handles a lot of the family issues

The one who steps up fr

Sexual Protector Alter

Trauma Holder, but doesnt have a full picture of their trauma

Sexualizes self for attention

Just a cool guy if u get to know him

Wishes he was more built irl lol

He was the one dating their first girlfriend

She didnt know about their DID, both Mike and Vito would rather keep that private

Wants a normal life

Also held down their first job (semi-canon)

He gives a shit but can be emotionally reserved

He doesn’t hate Mal, he just finds him frustrating

A bit of a troublemaker but not out of wanting bad for the system, it’s just the way he is

Creeped out by Mal, thats why he doesn’t like him

Secretly holds grudges but doesn’t tell them unless he’s picking a fight

Kinda a pothead

Chester

Mentally 60s-70s

No specific trauma memories, but he was split from trauma

Has never been the host but he switches in quite often

One of the first alters to have been discovered by their psych

At first the psych thought they were faking just cause of how theatrical Chester was, and how much it annoyed Mal

The psych thought they were faking to get out of juvie

Not to help, Mal said it was a “voice in his head” and would talk to him out loud, not caring who heard

He’s not an introject, but they don’t know why he’s old

He just is who he is

They don’t know why he has a scar over his eye, they presume there’s a trauma reason for it but nobody has any memory of something bad happening to their eye

He feels like he’s a grandfather to Mike, but the feeling’s not reciprocated

Not yet at least

Mike learns to love him

He gets annoyed by Chester still but he finds him more endearing

He likes his hot beverages and pastries

And yelling at the tv

He finds commenting on everything so entertaining

He’s co-con 80% of the time

He finds fronting to be physically exhausting, like it makes him physically feel his age

Has chronic pain in his hips and joints, his psych says it’s phantom pain

He loves his psych, he could go on for hours

He loves little kitty cats! There has never been a cat he couldn’t pet

He wishes he was more welcome when visiting nursing homes, he feels lonely but they don’t like his “portrayal” of an old man

He had gotten kicked out before

Actually, he gets kicked out of places quite often

He has health anxiety and constantly thinks he’s going to fall ill and die

His doctor is so fed up

He believes so many wives tales and basically you can tell him anything and he will believe you (unless he’s in a mood, then he’s just going to shout at you)

Mal

Ambigious early childhood to age 13 host

Mentally shifts between 13 to 17

Persecutor/Protector

Mainly a physical protector, kind of the mind’s back up plan for when things get rough and he needs to protect himself or take action

Holds most of the memory of the physical abuse

Split directly for that reason

He was one of the first

Hates his parents and tries to cause problems as a revenge for all the abuse he endured

Sadistic for this reason

He knew from a very young age that nobody was coming to save him, and they never did

Telling all the trauma he knew about in a court ordered psychiatric evaluation was the main reason he got diagnosed, but he was hoping it was going to put his parents in prison

It didnt

He was originally going to be diagnosed with ASPD before they scrapped that for just a DID diagnosis, mainly because his symptoms were too mixed and inconsistent due to the other alters existing

He still agrees ASPD fits him though and after TDAS he does more specific treatments for it in therapy

They do get diagnosed with ODD though

Basically everyone but Svetlana shows symptoms for it

Mal has it the worst because he has so much pent up hatred from everyone who hurt or failed him

And he only gets the bare minimum when he takes it into his own hands, but its better than nothing

Really clashed with Zoey at first but he was the one to make her understand them more, in his own roundabout way

Actually became close friends with Zoey even if they have their conflicts

Mike

Same age as body

Kinda bigender tbh but he’s not ready for that

Thinks he should be the one to call all the shots because he thinks hes the original

Hes not, there is none

Doesn’t have a lot of childhood memories

Nobody tells him about their trauma

Besides Mal when he’s trying to prove a point

He hates Mal because Mal threatens his sense of control

He overcompensates, being a system scares him so if he’s in charge he will be able to make sure everything’s ok

Just finally coming out of denial, still half in it

He hates being a system

Rude to his alters!!!

After All Stars, he sees his psych again who scolds him

And teaches him to accept his disorder

He does better

He compromises more, he learns that his alters are people too, he adapts to his multiplicity and eventually is the key to achieving functionality between all of them

He struggles to accept Mal, because of his persecutory nature, but he learns why Mal does what he does and with a little work from them both they are able to compromise

Mal has to grow and learn too don’t get me wrong

Svetlana

Same age as body

Transbian

Doesn’t mind being a system tbh

She likes the company

Hosts for short periods but only for upcoming competitions really because its hard for her to pretend to be a singlet

She doesn’t like hiding who she is, she’s way more open about her DID than the others are

She wishes she has more girl friends to talk with but they all know her as mike or mal :(

Total sporty girl she is multi talented in soooo many sports

Gymnastics is her fav obv

Why she has an accent? Who knows? Possibly an introject or maybe shes just like that but as far back as they remember she was there

They are all confused

Has good childhood memories, trauma free

She definitely loved recess and fronted a lot during the school years

Loves making friends, shes very social and kind!!

She’s also the most understanding and gives the best advice

Very emotional and it can be quite theatrical, on par with chester

She’s the one who gets along the most with their parents

Picky eater

She likes to eat clean and hates that the other alters eat meat because she finds it soooo gross

Has her own separate drawer in their dresser for her clothes

Bird lover and has owned pet birds before

Manitoba

Introject, half indiana jones-half steve irwin

Not a fusion he was just made like that

30s-40s

The most recent split

Has a fleshed out part of the interworld including NPCs (like his wife) and spends most of his time there (semi-canon)

He doesn’t prefer to front, he just found total drama fun to compete in

Dreams of traveling the world

Really longs for his innerworld to be real

Tries to keep everyone in line

Wishes they would be less trouble

He doesn’t side with anyone, which makes Mike very angry but he can also see a side to Mal that Mike can’t

He’s the most logical and level headed one

Loves collecting things especially memorabilia from places he’s been

He knows so many animal facts and just general knowledge

It makes Mike feel stupid cause he doesn’t know all that but its in his brain, it confused him how that works still

[funnier-as-a-system]

ik u have a big ask load still but wanted to point out: a lot of singlets have unhealthy relationships with themself, and I wonder if they could improve their life so much by treating themself like they were their spouse? Like would they attempt to fix any eating disorders they might have gotten? would they properly rest? Would them treating themself like how system with insys relationships do help them improve their life?

While I don't know if singlets treating themselves like their own spouses specifically would improve their quality of life, numerous people have found their quality of life has improved after treating themselves like multiple people, or like how headmates treat each other (in systems that get along, of course).

For instance, some singlets may be more motivated to take care of themselves if they see self-care as doing something for their future self. Or, by imagining one's emotions as a separate entity they must help or cooperate with (for example, anxiety as a skittish horse that needs to be gently walked through whatever is causing it distress), a person may be better able to handle their emotions. Personally, we find humanizing our worries and fears to be a great help in understanding and resolving them; by listening to our fear like we would a scared headmate, we are able to identify what is causing this distress and take steps to resolve it. I've always seen this as a plural-adjacent approach to self-care, and I've heard many tales of it improving one's life.

On that note, while running this blog over the years, I've received many submissions about posts that describe very plural-adjacent experiences that led to the poster taking care of themself. Have you noticed that I've gotten a lot of submissions lately about people eating better because they imagine characters from Dungeon Meshi telling them to eat well? That's just one example of this type of post that I get! It's not uncommon for people to take care of themselves because they imagine or visualize people or characters (or religious figures, in some cases) they admire telling them to do so, which is rather reminiscent of healthy intrasystem relationships, don't you think (especially ones with introjects in the mix)?

If you're looking in more clinical settings and are open to parallels that are less clear than the above examples, some therapeutic practices approach patients from the angle that every person is made up of multiple parts, and that treating each part of oneself with understanding will improve one's quality of life. IFS, or Internal Family Systems, is the most overt example of this, but it's also discussed in other circles; it's not a new idea in psychology that the mind has many parts that all work together, and that treating a patient requires treating, or at least acknowledging, each part of their mind. In some cases, these circles/practices help and encourage the patient themself to acknowledge and treat each part of their mind. You could find parallels in these therapeutic and psychiatric treatments to singlets "treating themself like they were their own spouse". However, I feel this may be drifting from the topic a bit.

I do think many singlets would benefit from practicing a form of "soft" functional plurality along these lines, by accepting their multitudes, multifacetedness, and complexity, and taking advantage of their ability to personify things to lend themselves some kindness. Hell, we thank our body for working hard to keep us alive, and that helps us have a better relationship with it! So, yes, I do think singlets treating themselves like their own spouse – or rather, as a separate, if connected, person they wish to do good to and for – would help them in many aspects.

[pluralcultureis]

plural culture is painfully watching people compare system alters to kins, irls, "DAs", etc etc... When those things and experiences aren't comparable... Or watching singlet kinners/irls use system terms... Sighing, no buddy... No one is "fronting" for you if you're a singlet... No, you are not "switching" when you swap from one kin to another... no, pal, that introject is not your "double" (not including systems that just haven't found out yet)

I really don't care how people identify, if you're a kin or irl or whatever, I don't care, not my business... But do not compare those things to being systems and do not come into system spaces demanding things... We are not the same... Yes, there do exist systems who may also kin or have self misidentification delusions caused by a different disorder... But the experience of a headmate and a delusion and a kin are all so different, they aren't comparable...

And comparing systems to "DAs" only further creates this misconception in other peoples heads that DID/OSDD is a delusion disorder and causes harm to us and our community... We have enough bullshit myths because of Hollywood and movies that portray us as "evil alter egos", stop adding to the fire... Identify as whatever you want, but don't drag systems into it...

-Sincerely, a DID system that also has struggles with a psychotic disorder and self misidentification delusions

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