#manipulation mention

[moths-wc-aus]

R U KIDDING ME

"i was groomed and manipulated by my mother almost since birth."

"well thats your own fault because you decided to be manipulated and groomed."

BITE BITE BITE KILL KILL KILL

[borderline-culture-is]

Manipulation ment //

BPD + psychosis culture is being unsure if your fp's joyfriend is manipulative or if you're just unsubconciously having an episode of bpd and jealousy because every time they do something you try to flirt with your fp or something.

(It doesn't help that your other fp and partner also see red flag with the joyfriend)

The bonus BPD culture is that matches, if thats true then i need to protect them!!!! My fp!! But i know its a situation where its better to do nothing.

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[brettdoesdiscourse]

So, I saw a Tiktok recently of a young person who had been in a relationship with a much older person and I wanted to talk about it.

According to their story, they were homeless at 18 and suffering from some medical issues when a person who was 90 met them. The older person offered them a home, stating they didn't want to be alone and they ended up getting married to them.

They, by their own admission, consummated the marriage and that they had "grown to love" this person.

They also then defended this person by saying they were not a groomer. However, it was followed up by talking about all the things this person gave them that they needed.

And to be clear. This person was a groomer. Or at the very least, incredibly manipulative.

This person was 18 years old, homeless, suffering. And an older person took advantage of that. I doubt this 18 year old would have married and slept with a 90 year old had they had a home and security. I doubt this 18 year old would have married a 90 year old and had to "grow to love" them if they had a home and security.

Grooming and manipulative relationships can look like all kinds of things. They're not always the typical "older man is using a younger woman for sex."

Sometimes, they can be a seemingly just lonely woman putting a young man in a position where he has to be in a relationship with her to avoid being back out on the street.

He talks about her as though she's his savior, which is understandable. He was experiencing something horrific that she took away from him. But these actions were not selfless. This was not an act of charity. This was someone using someone's situation to get what they wanted, intentionally or not.

[ghostonly]

9 times out of 10, if someone accuses you of being ungrateful, it has nothing to do with you showing gratitude wrong and everything to do with them never wanting to help in the first place.

More often than not, "you're ungrateful," is literally just code for one of these:

"I did something for you because I felt obligated to and I now blame you for my past inability to set my own boundaries."

"I did something for you and expected you to do something of equal value for me immediately after, without ever stating that expectation, and you didn't hold up your end of the deal I decided we made."

"I did something for you because I felt morally obligated to and, because the entire situation you're in that caused me to feel that way wasn't immediately resolved by my act of charity, I've decided that you're actually doing this on purpose to extort people's time, energy, and resources."

"I did something for you because I'm a good person and you didn't adequately sing my praises and boost my ego to everyone we know, which is what any normal person would do if they were gifted with my invaluable services."

"I did something for you and expected you to do things for me in return, but your lower class and lack of resources means you have nothing of value to offer me in return, so you're therefore unable to pay your debts for my services, regardless of if you've wasted your time doing things for me that I deem worthless."

"I did something for you and expected this to mean undying loyalty and subservience, but you've dared to disagree with something I said, refuse one of my demands, or treat me as an equal when you needing my help made me superior."

So basically, if someone calls you ungrateful when you've actually put in an effort to show gratitude (like saying Thank You, expressing appreciation, etc.), they were never looking for gratitude to begin with. They're simply using gratitude as a way of making their sour feelings your fault when what they're actually upset about is that their attempt at insincere help didn't gain them anything.

In simpler terms: they're selfish.

People who genuinely care and genuinely want to help don't do so expecting something in return.

If someone wants something in return, they should state that right away, making the entire thing transactional and not an act of help, charity, or assistance.

The same goes for people who say you took advantage of them when you only accepted what was offered.

It is your responsibility, when you offer something (time, energy, money, resources), to make sure that what you're offering is something you actually want to share out of the goodness of your heart.

If you don't put down any boundaries regarding your offered help or resources, it is not the fault of the person you offered them to for not determining your boundaries for you.

[just-antithings]

I hate how people always assume they know exactly what it is you're getting out of a dynamic. I also enjoy older male / younger female ships, not because I LOVE it when dirty old men manipulate and take advantage of innocent young women. (Hell even if it's not for me I don't care if people DO like it because of that.) I like seeing a powerful man brought to his knees in pure wonder and awe of her sheer amazingness, that she's able to be considered an equal contender to him or even more. (And I know EVERY potentially toxic ship dynamic is always blamed on THE STRAIGHTS!! But, I'm lesbian and just like narratives and love stories that run off of the power of "girl is super cool and hot, wow!")

I also like the fantasy of a girl who's only known hardship getting with a man who's established in a position of power and wealth, and instantly having all her needs met by somebody who loves her while being elevated in status and getting to enjoy luxuries for the first time in her life.

Yes I love a big tough man on his knees for the tiny love of his life its just ssoooooooo good. Also yes the powerful man taking care of a girl who's been through so much and just deserves to be taken care of. Oh God that's the best 👌 .

[puhpandas]

I like to imagine people sort of assume Evan and Gregory are brothers because of how similar they look. They both decide to roll with it and end up being pretty close despite their different personalities.

(Side note, Henry finds them and their shenanigans delightful while Pewpaw is coping and seething.)

William was manipulating Evan because of his meek nature with the Fredbear-walkie and seethes now that Gregory is bringing him out of his shell and helping him become more confident

[chronic-gastro-illness-culture]

ok i have uysed this blog to vent in the past so i figured out i could share something more positive-ish ? still some cws for mentions of manipulation and guilt tripping so in short , i am aiming to get a job soon , and with that i hope i can deal with my illness on my own , it sucks that people have used me and my condition in my childhood to get money (forcing me to lie about the cost of my meds being higher than it rlly was) or manipulate me or make me feel guilty for being ill , but it will get better once i have more control and the idea of that makes me feel relieved and excited even , i wish i could go back and tell my younger self that things won't always be unfair and that i promise to take good care of myself because we deserve it

im v proud of u for looking out for ur current self n past self like u r its not easy but ur doing it anyways

thnx for sharing ur positivity n good luck w the job hunt let us know how it goes 🙏🏻

[whumperofworlds]

BLOODIED FANGS OCS

This is a list of OCs that are set in the Fierce Forests world. However, none of these characters or any of the Fierce Forests characters will meet in this story. Set in the region of Ascar, Ciro, a human, had come across a vampire named Blade during his travels and was cursed and forced to work under his rule for reasons Ciro doesn't understand. He managed to break free and escape, but was looked down by society, and he struggled to adapt to being a half vampire, half human. However, he met a human, a blacksmith and hunter named Edwin, and the two became good friends and eventual lovers. However, Blade seemed to have caught wind of where Ciro was, and decided to pay a visit...

All characters made by Hero Forge!

Ciro

A dhampir man who was cursed by Blade and was forced to work under him and his wife. He managed to escape but was shunned by society... until he met Edwin, and the two became close. He is a grump due to how he was treated over the years, but he can be soft to those he cared about. He fights with a knife for emergencies and to help Edwin with his hunting, and he has four red fangs that could be used to drink blood, but he never used them, instead hiding them in shame.

Edwin

A blacksmith and a hunter who works in the small town of Millstone, he was a shy and sweet man who wanted to help others, hence why he took the job as a blacksmith after his father passed away. He met Ciro while out hunting, and realizing he needed help, he took him in and saved his life. Despite knowing that Ciro was a vampire, the two became close. He used all sorts of weapons thanks to being a blacksmith, though the bow was his specialty.

Blade

A mysterious vampire who roamed Ascar, finding humans to drink their blood before killing them. A cunning and manipulative man, he even kidnapped a human woman, Darcia, and forced her to be his wife and made her a dhampir, like Ciro. After learning of Ciro's whereabouts, he and Darcia paid him and his new boyfriend a visit... He used his fangs to drink the blood of humans, and also used a sword to fight.

Darcia

A dhampir who was kidnapped by Blade and forced to be his wife. After years of manipulation under him, she grew obedient, willing to do whatever Blade wanted. She was once a woman with honor, having served under a king before she retired, but became a shell of her former self and became an obedient puppet, speaking in monotone and doing whatever Blade wished. Deep inside, she wanted to escape... She used her fangs to drink the blood of humans and used a staff to fight.

NOTE: ANY OF THIS IS SUBJECT TO CHANGE.

[mewintheflesh-2]

Gonna be honest, it was originally gonna be me in place of that girl but I SAW AN OPPORTUNITY! An opportunity to introduce one of Fuse’s lab assistants. But if we’re talking about Fuse, who knows if she’s still alive

AnyWAYS she’s got a FAT crush on him, which he doesn’t hesitate to take advantage of

A very timid and intelligent girl, Fuse convinced her to help him in his research by almost pure charisma. Of course this girl couldn’t deny she was intrigued in getting hands on research with Pokémon fusion, it’s not exactly a common thing. You see, not just anyone can get a license in this stuff. She didn’t know it’d be Pokémon and Human fusions. She tried to back out of the job but Fuse “convinced” her to stay. It set off some red flags, and kind of made her a little scared of him, but he seemed perfectly fine and good to be around any other time, just… as long as she did what he said.

She has a soft spot for the Fusion Victims, and would try to help them and comfort them in any way she could when she thought Fuse wasn’t looking. But of course, Fuse has eyes everywhere. With some coercion via forcing her to watch some… unpleasant operations he was preforming with his bare hands, she was forced to stop talking to them or else there would be consequences. Wonder what he threatened her with :). It broke her heart to see the Fusion Victims look at her with such pleading eyes when all she could do was just stay silent.

And the worst part of it all? She knows she’s being manipulated and used by him, she’s well aware, but she can’t shake her feelings for him, the flutter inside her chest every time she sees him. It’s awful. And she hates herself for it.

THANK YOU @xerofresh FOR GETTING THE MEME REFERENCE IMAGE FOR ME I was having trouble with intrusive thoughts and compulsions so I wouldn’t have been able to get it on my own

[this-world-of-beautiful-monsters]

"He hurt you." The boy's voice is low, cautious. "My ancestor, I mean."

Or, Leo and Miyamoto Usagi's descendant have a talk.

Inspired by relax. by @leonsi.

Warning: literally everything I know about Samurai Rabbit is from leones' writing.

Title taken from the song Begging For Thread by BANKS.

Also, celebrate July the Fourth by checking out or boosting indigenous creators, businesses, or charities.

[trauma-culture-is]

Internet manipulation trauma culture is being afraid to tell anyone what you went though but also knowing that's exactly what they want you to do, Not tell anyone :/

❤

[hold-him-down]

🤡 for Leo and Parker please!

this ask game

🤡- does whumper pull tricks on you? What’s the meanest they’ve done?

"I wouldn't say he 'pulled tricks' on me," Leo begins. He keeps his eyes to the ground as he shrugs. "I felt like he was pretty straightforward in what I could expect. He was... really manipulative, a wolf in sheep's clothing, so I guess that could be considered a trick.

"The meanest thing he did was convince me that I loved him, and that he loved me, and that I'd be safe there."

His posture, his expression, the way his fingers tangle together, the way his voice breaks at the end. The pain runs deep. It's evidenced in every line of his body.

[cryoexorcist]

Chongyun is leaning against the sofa, staring over at Kami, who's curled up, with a pillow in front of him. Kami's staring up at the ceiling, very clearly avoiding eye contact with Chongyun.

"So..." Chongyun prompts, trying to get some kind of conversation going. "You said you wanted to talk. I'm listening."

"I don't know how to talk," Kami finally says. He doesn't lower his gaze. "I'm shit at talking to people in person, you included. This is all stupid. Forget I said anything."

The corners of Chongyun's lips curl downward, anxiety starting to pool in their own gut. They don't exactly know what is going on, and the thought that Kami is hiding something is even more apparent now.

"Uh, I can't. You had a panic attack at work earlier."

"Yeah, cause I'm a mess and everyone knows it. Maybe I should call in tomorrow. Or whatever, it doesn't fucking matter." Kami offers a shrug, before shifting his position. He's stretching a leg out in front of him. "You can sit down, you know. I'm not contagious."

"I can sit down," Chongyun echoes. "But are you going to bolt the second I do?" They're moving to sit anyway. "Talk to me, I don't understand what's happening, and I don't-"

"Nothing," Kami interrupts. His gaze shifts to Chongyun. His brows furrow into something that's a mix between anger and. Fear?

"Nothing is going on, and I think that's my problem! I'm waiting for the ball to drop. Like I feel like I'm waiting for shit to go down. For Ren or Arakan or Niwa, or even you to just decide you've had enough and dip."

"I'm not going to!"

"You don't even fucking live in town, Chongyun. What if you drive back and decide you weren't serious about moving here? What then? Maybe I did push you away."

"Where is this even coming from?" Chongyun reaches a hand out to rest on Kami's outstretched leg. The second he makes contact, Kami's jerking his leg back, making an attempt to kick Chongyun away from him. "That's uncalled for," Chongyun complains.

"I never told you about..." Kami begins, trailing off immediately. He turns his head to the side, expression going completely blank.

If Chongyun were honest with themself, they'd have to say in all the years of knowing Kami, they have never seen Kami look like this before. Kami looks completely zoned out. He stays that way for several seconds.

"Kami?" Chongyun prompts. That spark of fear they felt earlier is back, even stronger now. "You with me?"

"I don't remember," Kami whispers. "I don't remember half the shit she did..."

"She?" Chongyun's head tilts to the side as they purse their lips in confusion. "You mean Ei? Or Yae?"

"No, it's..." Kami blinks a few times, snapping out of whatever trance had just held him in a vice grip. "Nevermind, I don't know how to talk about it." His gaze again lands on Chongyun, but he doesn't look as frustrated. "Look, some shit happened to me, and it's eating at me. I told Ren about it."

Chongyun's jealous over that. He doesn't have a reason to be, Ren is Kami's family. But Chongyun's known Kami for years, they're practically brothers at this point. At least, Chongyun had always seen Kami as an elder brother. Why would Kami go to someone he hasn't spoken to directly in years?

But then again, Chongyun had pushed Kami to talk to him more. Is this the result of cousins finally bonding? Chongyun shoves that feeling of jealousy aside, it's not worth getting upset over in the first place.

"Have you told your sibling, too?" Chongyun asks.

"I want to," Kami says, looking down at the pillow, Kami's fingers play with the corner of the pillow, folding it over and pulling it back up, and repeating the process. "God knows I want to talk to Arakan, and even you. I want to just scream at people so bad about what I went through, but I also don't want people thinking I'm even more weak than I already am? I mean, what if people leave?"

"No one's leaving you," Chongyun says firmly. "People care-"

"You don't know that!" Kami spits out. "God, stop telling me I have people in my corner. Yeah, you're there, but I don't know Ren and Arakan, and I know Niwa even less. I don't know them. I don't know what they think or how they feel, and for all I know, they still hate me! I can say some shit and mean it, and they say they care, but fuck. What if it's all just another fucking mindgame? What if I'm still being...nevermind. Fuck it, nevermind."

"Talk to me!" Chongyun says forcibly. "Jesus, Kami, talk to me! Tell me what's going on with you so I can help!"

"Please go back home. Tomorrow or the day after," Kami says. "Not because I want you to leave, fuck. If I was allowed to be selfish I'd have you move in with me right now. Cause yeah, I just. I dunno 'Yun, I need people. But I can't drag you down with me when I'm trying to get my head sorted. I'm so fucked up mentally." Kami waves his hand around his head to emphasize his point. "I had shit done to me. Like. I can't tell you details. God I want to. But crying and leaning on people is doing more harm than good at this point. I'm tired, I have a headache. I don't fucking know left from down anymore."

"What about therapy?"

"Yeah," Kami nods. "Therapy. I need it, I know I do. But I need some time to myself. In this apartment, or something. The past several days were really fucking overwhelming. You here, people constantly coming and going, and half of said people being so mentally screwed up. I. Fuck. I need a day or two alone."

"What about Cyno?"

"I'm not ditching him to the streets. He needs a home, I have a bedroom and a bed. I still want him to live here, but I need a day or two. I fucking need space. Physical space, not emotional."

"Okay. I can leave. I'll go back home and keep checking up on you. But don't you stop talking to your family, okay?"

"Do you think I can trust them?" Kami looks at Chongyun, staring intently. "I want an honest answer. Maybe you don't know them that well either, but you can talk to them easier than I can."

Chongyun stares back. This is a hard question to answer, because while Chongyun and Ren have joked with each other on streams before, in spite of being different categories, Kami's right. Chongyun doesn't know Ren outside of social media, and they know Arakan even less, other than Arakan seems introverted.

"I think you can," Chongyun says carefully. "They're your family. Just because your mom and aunt messed up doesn't mean they did."

"I know, but I feel like there's. It's all shit, 'Yun. I feel like everything is shit. Garbage."

"It's not." Chongyun rests his hands on Kami's knees, pulling on them to lower his legs. "Look, I may not know exactly what happened in your life, and I don't expect you to tell me, either. But I do expect you to keep trying. With everyone, with a therapist, or whatever you think helps, because whoever you were when we first met, I know you're not him anymore."

"I feel-"

"You're not. You're happier, you're more outgoing, you're even making giant steps to keep going. You have a great job, you're starting a new career, and you have gained a lot more over the past few years than you realize. You're not alone."

They watch Kami swallow a few times, blinking rapidly. But Chongyun hopes the emotions are positive, rather than negative.

"Thanks, little bro. Man, I am shit." He forces a laugh. "Go home though. You've been helping keep the peace around here. Go take time for yourself too. Don't be like Niwa, don't take on more than you can chew. Cause if you fall, I don't think there's hope for the rest of us."

Chongyun delivers a light pap to the cheek. "Don't worry. I'll help all of you through this. I'll force dms or something. And hey, I'll be back permanently before anyone knows it."

Kami doesn't say anything to that. Instead, he just leans forward and gives Chongyun a hug, letting his body relax.

"Thanks 'Yun. Know that I... y'know. Care."

"I love you too, Kami."

tagging: @artificeheart, @erabundus

[volot]

thinking about the way volo goes about manipulating people. if i don’t write this headcanon post later i’ll explode

[psychic-master-will-archive]

((Headcanon for Will’s manga verse:

> Not only did Pryce split up the kids by age and gender so that they wouldn’t rebel (Actual canon), he also pitted the pairs of masked kids against each other to keep them further apart/divided. If they were a united front, he wouldn’t have been able to easily control/manipulate them.))

[aro-but-not-ace]

hey idk if you did get my other vent, if so ignore this.

it took me a while to find out i was aro (aegoromantic) because i l o v e romance fics and shipping, until i googled ages for crushes and was like huh. it was such a weight off my shoulders!

in school, when i was like 10, this boy and pack of boys (i'm fem presenting) told me his friend liked me, obviously as a joke. it hurt.

earlier, this boy said i was his girlfriend (no he didn't ask) and that i wasn't allowed to talk to anyone else. if you're reading this F U colin.

thanks for letting me vent! this bothers me a lot.

I didn't get your other ask, sorry about that!! I think my inbox is acting a bit odd.

Anyways, that is super weird--and also hella toxic. I don't know your situation (i.e. by earlier do you mean recently or a long time ago? and are you friends with this person?), but if you're close with them, I really recommend keeping your distance. Other than the labeling your relationship without consent part (which is bad enough), saying that you aren't allowed to talk to anyone is a form of emotional/psychological manipulation and is not normal. Even if he said it was "for the better" or something, it isn't. Please try and get out of that situation if possible.

Otherwise, I'm really sorry that you have to go through this and I wish you the best. Non-romantic hugs all around 💚💚