#online positivity

[cosmiclion]

Love wins 😌

And a version for my aro/ace/not interested in kissing for whatever reason siblings:

[maxgicalgirl]

Being a “Fun Fact !” kind of autistic is all fun and games until you get halfway through sharing an interesting tidbit and realize that it probably wasn’t appropriate to share in polite company and now you have to deal with the consequences :(

[fixing-bad-posts]

I guarantee kink is part of pride, we need kink at pride.

[wellhealthhub]

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[hellyeahscarleteen]

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[the-bar-sinister]

"Normal people scare me" because I was recognized from an early age by my peers as a "freak" and an "outcast" and it's socially normal to treat people who are perceived as freaks and outcasts with condescension and violence.

"Freak" and "outcast" became part of my identity because they were forced on me-- so I wear them with pride.

"Normal people scare me" because its socially normal to be abusive and violent toward people who are perceived as abnormal.

"Normal people scare me" isn't just an edgy slogan-- its an implicit acknowledgement of systemic violence and my place on the social food chain.

[lynnavera]

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[mossy-aro]

ultimately i think my insistence on aro positivity honestly is as much a political stance as a personal one.

when i say aro positivity is crucial and that i dislike doomer-ist posts that express sentiments like 'I hate being aro so much I wish I was dead instead’ it's not because I don’t think there can and should be a space for negativity and acknowledging self-hate, or the many ways being aromantic can really suck sometimes. i find that to be very important!

that being said. there is smth here about how self-hate posts are sometimes just arophobia that we inflict on ourselves. and when we put that out into the ether it (intentionally or not) can become arophobia that we inflict on other members of the community. i think there absolutely needs to be a place for negativity and the expression of anger and frustration and self loathing even - these are all good things to talk about because these are things that we experience. that being said, it can also be genuinely upsetting and triggering to people to have what is essentially arophobia shown to them and then have that be validated by other aspec people. your personal thoughts can affect your wider community on a level you may not anticipate. and i understand it i truly do! it took me so long to be able to recover from accepting being aroace - it threw my entire world off kilter and made me question everything about my place in the world.

but my insistence on aro joy and positivity is because ultimately i do believe that building is at the core essence of it all. that ultimately discussions and the purpose of community should be about construction, not destruction. and this is both a personal and a political stance. talking about how much you hate yourself and cultivating online discussions/spaces where negativity about aspec identity is the main and only theme is destructive - if that’s where we let the conversation end. these thoughts can and should be used as a vehicle to look for a path forward!

joy and positivity create a space where the focus can become on forging a path forward, on construction, on community building instead of tearing ourselves and others down with negative thoughts. it’s not productive or healthy when it stops at a place of negativity - it becomes actively destructive to the essence of community.

and i do think that this is especially poignant considering the fact that being any kind of queer, but especially aromantic (and/or asexual) means forging a path for yourself and making your own happiness where there is no obvious way forward. our communities exist mostly online (right now, anyway), there is little recognition of our existence in the real world, the effects of amatonormativity are both pervasive and actively dehumanising, and there are legal, economic and social structures in place actively making our lives more difficult. yes that all sucks! it’s good to acknowledge that. we need to in order to change it. but more importantly, that’s not the end. we are still here and our happiness, our future is for us to determine. even if we can’t change the laws or society, loving yourself and understanding aromanticism as a political identity (as well as personal), as a radical worldview, and as a protest against amatonormativity is essential for both community and personal well being. the personal is political.

tldr. i guess my point is that as a community, we should focus on building, improving, and nurturing ourselves and each other (construction) as opposed to destruction. we should recognise aromanticism and asexuality as political identities as well as personal ones and rely on community and self-love in the absence of anything else as a form of protest and political power. destruction (the recognition of everything that is wrong) is essential as a starting point - but where do we go from there? we rebuild.

[69constellationsinatrenchcoat]

hey.. hey..

yeah, you <3

how are you doing?

you know, despite what some want you to believe, you're not a bad person if you don't interact with every post you see, or if you don't reply to DMs instantly.

you're not a bad person if you scroll past political posts because they're too much, or if you skip over discourse or graphic imagery

you're not doing anything wrong if you filter out certain tags because they're too much..

you're not a bad person for keeping yourself safe online

it may suck right now but i believe in you :) if you can, go have a drink of water, stretch, eat something... do something for yourself..

remember to take your meds, stay hydrated, warm, and if you need mobility aids, go forth and slay my friend! you look seriously cool with them

you've got this. promise. <3

[swifteainthesummer]

Something I love about Tumblr is that stalking (like in a looking at liking a ton of someone posts) is accepted and considered a love language

[annabelle--cane]

I really don't think the majority of kids online are overwhelmingly sex negative or puritanical, I instead think that most kids who don't think like that probably aren't going to be posting about sex positivity on public accounts with their real ages listed. for very obvious reasons.

[sergle]

what I was talking abt earlier. we have fully looped back around and away from feminism, societally, whereas before it was very Feminism 101 to acknowledge that many parts of existing as a woman in a misogynistic society are painful and upsetting. not that being a woman is Inherently Negative in a bubble. but that living on this earth, in the conditions we're living in, is hostile to women. and that gender is a performance. that many of the Staples Of Femininity as accepted by society are things that you have to create and perform and mold artificially and aren't inherent, that COMPLAINING about day to day difficulties of existing as a woman is something that you're allowed to do. acknowledging these basic, again, feminism 101 things, that something tied to womanhood is more time consuming or more expensive or more dangerous Because Of The Problems. does not CREATE the problems. that when women complain about having to perform femininity, they are not, in fact, oppressing themselves. the call does not come from inside the fucking house. saying that you HAVE suffered does not fucking equate that you believe you SHOULD have suffered.

like I could talk about this for hours. how braindead and one-dimensional the Takes are getting. "being a woman is looking in the mirror and going fuck yeah i'm a woman" damn. I guess any negative experiences you have by living in a misogynistic world... are your fault if you are anything but positive? "you don't actually want liberation" we've fully gone back to telling feminists "you WANT to be oppressed" when anything negative about our society is pointed out. it's not real until I say it out loud, I guess, and then I'm actually the one who caused it. if anybody expresses any unhappiness with how they're treated or the status quo or the language and culture surrounding womanhood and femininity. they've created it, right that second. they invented it just now. it wasn't a problem before somebody complained, right? also trans women aren't braindead zombies who just follow the flow of whatever cis women around them say. I am pretty fucking sure they are very much aware of pain, and are MORE than aware of the swirling torrent of misogyny and standards of femininity than anybody else. actually. and I am pretty sure someone complaining on tumblr that being a woman means always putting on a performance is going to make someone change their mind about transitioning. also "performing femininity" as a necessity to being treated well as a woman is not fucking NEWS to your Local Trans Woman. I AM PRETTY SURE SHE GETS THE CONCEPT. using trans women as a scapegoat for this braindead perspective on gender politics is spineless, meritless, and pathetic.

[camillecorrigan]

guide to living tip i.

how to have a sweet little treat

a simple pleasure for some, a difficult delight for others.

i dedicate this tip to all you darlings who battle with nutritional "noise."

<3 rack your brain. are you actually hungry? or are other emotions clouding your natural signals? if the latter, decide whether said emotions are negative (ie. stress) or neutral (ie. a small desire for something delicious).

<3 eating a sweet treat will not ease your stress, and perhaps only amplify your restless emotional state. if you are anxious, take a rest. listen to music, read a book, watch a video, take a walk. remove yourself from the kitchen. find a treat in the form of self-care.

<3 eating a sweet treat will satisfy a craving, if you are in the correct state of mind. before exploring the pantry, mentally evaluate your yearning -- what do you actually want to eat? avoid overstimulation through intentional preparation.

<3 have you decided on your desire? calmly select and plate your treat. enjoy your snack outside of the kitchen. sit down. relax. sip a large glass of water.

<3 stay in place for a few minutes after you have finished eating. breathe. return your plate to the kitchen. exit. continue about your day.

you deserve all that is good in this world. and good things are best enjoyed in small doses. you have the power.

xx

c.r.c.

[arttrampbelle]

Why ship canon x canon when you can just ship yourself with canon character?

It's 2023 get over yourself. Self ship. You self ship with that character rn!

Make an oc. Make a self insert. Make yourself love that blorbo. Ffs!

Fuck what people think. Stop being a bitch and do it! You go fucking love that character!!!

I am being aggressively self ship positive.

If anyone gives you flack for self shipping. I will find them and throw hands!

Like srsly cringe culture is dead. It's time to be clown!

[hellyeahscarleteen]

Funding update: We're still short

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[solarsapphic]

some outside studying in the nice weather ☾⋆⁺₊✧

not always glad to live in a warmer area, but days like these definitely make it worth it !! so glad i got to get some sunlight and away from my roommate lol. also very proud to say I'm slowly getting the hang of r studio <3