#ramcoa

[ben-marco]

It is okay to mourn the child that you were, or the child that you could have been. It is okay to be sad or angry that no one protected you like you should have been protected. It is okay to grieve.

[judgmentbytheh0unds]

you. you made me out to be something special, your prized possession, your protégé, and i trusted you with the deepest parts in my mind.

you just left me like everybody else.

i’ll forever wait for you to return with my collar still intact, じま.

[the-alarm-system]

you guys are so mean to RAMCOA victims I’m so serious

[riflehound]

made a meme for anyone else out there who gets stuck in the "it wasnt that bad!" or "maybe im not traumatized!" loops because trauma denial sucks ass!!! you all are valid!!!

[egotisicenigma]

「　REMNANTS ?!   ｣

➜ @ a term for an alter who isn’t the core/original, but rather the remains/remnants of who it was. whatever was left of the core who intergrated with fragments.

(mainly for RAMCOA/TBMC survivors)

[hollowandcoldanddark]

i hate shoutout posts, so this is like... a whisper to every single fucking system who can't be in therapy. who arent safe. live with abusers. who dont have the money, dont have the location, cant find a therapist. who cant do this shit.

i think that most advice from the internet is like... if you have did go to therapy and i bet thats useful if u can have it but if you cant, its so isolationg. especially with an individualistic (every man for himself) culture, people often tell u to just... go to therapy bro. dont bother me about it.

here are fr some tips as someone who has a lot of problems and is not in therapy:

prioritise staying alive. it can never get better once you are dead.

take your time with it. you dont need to post alter intros or have a plural kit. you dont need to have a journal. take time to be comfortable as you can even if the circumstances are very bad

depending on your amount of control and interaction with your system, introduce people who don't have a lot of life experience to new things like food, new colours and textures and places. this especially applies if you have a bunch of alters who only really know the environment of their abuse

build community. its really really really hard but do try. having friends kept me alive. it still keeps me alive.

learn about healthy relationships - we all have internet access. learn about boundaries and triggers and talking to others healthily. a lot of people with did will struggle with healthy relationships even if they make them. learn and do your best to act with it

treat your body like a rental or a pot plant or an animal if needed - even if it doesnt seem like yours, you gotta feed and water and walk it bro. u need the sun. you need enrichment and interaction.

ignore the discourse if youre struggling - it actually doesnt matter and will make you more sick. thinkning about endo vs trauma or like.... idk... labels discourse can be a major stressor that can lead to warping your sustem presentation or repressing and harming bits that arent conforming well

engage in things that are irl like building mini legos or clay - it can help make outside a better environment and shit, aklso can help ground.

find your own triggers and talk about it with ur system. write notes or yap.

find joy in being alive and being a system. despite what reddit or youtube or whatever will tell you, as things improve they will get better. and u should look for joy and funnies when you can

dont give up

LISTEN TO YOUR SYSTEM. THEY'RE NOT ALWAYS GOING TO BE RIGHT. THEY LIKELY ARE ASSHOLES OR INSANE JUST LIKE YOU. BUT YOU LIVE TOGETHER.

healing is easier as a team.

i believe in you

[granulesofsand]

Me: So how am I going to remember this trauma with subsystem switching

The system journal: …

Me: And with the collective trying to put together a history of the body

The journal, open on the desk: …..

Me: I don’t really want the internet to know

The journal, pens sorted on top: …….

Me: Damn. Another day, maybe

The journal, bought for this purpose: ………

[cannibalcreature777]

Welp. My life has gone to shit so here's a notes game with me if you want to help out or not. I've been busy with work and therapy, and I don't do any self care or my hobbies and more, so here's bow many notes to do something for self care.

Update: Since you guys have actually been blowing this up, I decided if you guys can get this post to 1000, I'll deep clean my depression room. See new post for proof of teeth brushing and picture of depression room. Thank you guys so much for the help

Update 2: I actually ended up deep cleaning my depression room because I was very motivated one day, so feel free to leave suggestions for what I should do for 1000 notes

10 notes: I'll brush my teeth with toothpaste and floss

25 notes: take a shower

50 notes: Finish reading my book

100 notes: Process big trauma with our therapist

150 notes: eat three meals

200 notes: draw a full 2 page in my sketch book

250 notes: start and end chapter two in my memoir

300 notes: write and post a new poem

350 notes: make a doctor's appointment for my doctor to approve my top surgery and send it to my insurance

400: bleach and redye my hair

500: fill out 20 profiles simply plural programmed alters

600: do my laundry

700: fill out 30 of our simply plural profiles of programmed alters

800: reorganize our simply plural groups

900: read the Oculus South Park Fanfic

1000: leave suggestions and I'll pick!!

Not done yet

In progress

Done!!

[hahlilvndr]

“Yeah my parents would spank me as a child but it was never out of anger or emotional outburst! Only cool, calm, ‘biblical discipline,’ sometimes scheduled if necessary.”

[neoglowratz]

friendly reminder RAMCOA is real and exists. there are plenty of systems out there who have suffered this abuse and live their lives with the consequences.

i just think people need to remember them sometimes because they deserve to be acknowledged and feel seen too.

[lapinou]

I hate that the very serious word “cult” has become so overused that its meaning is now decayed. It is currently being used to describe an unpleasant or influential group of people or person. This new definition of a cult is so casually used, it’s as if cults are not an ongoing issue that traps and hurts real people of all ages; especially young children. It makes me inexplicably angry because ONCE AGAIN, people, especially children, are still lured into cults that destroy their lives or take them. The casual usage of the word “cult” is so dehumanizing and devaluing towards cult survivors, it's infuriating.

[creature-wizard]

With Trump coming back into office, it's more crucial than ever that folks with DID and those seeking mental health care in general understand that this whole idea of DID programming cults is a pseudoscientific far right conspiracy theory associated with all kinds of hateful garbage.

Here are some posts to read on this topic:

How Project Monarch fails the "Six Ways To Debunk Any Conspiracy Theory" sniff test

What the Project Monarch alter programming conspiracy theory is (and what it's not)

How the Project Monarch alter programming conspiracy theory developed

Cathy O'Brien - The First Project Monarch "Survivor"

Fritz Springmeier and Cisco Wheeler: Two Of The Most Dangerous Conspiracy Theorists Most People Have Never Heard Of

Unwelcome Ozian copied Fritz Springmeier and Cisco Wheeler - see for yourself!

I just read Unwelcome Ozian's "Rules of Programming," and Oh Boy.

How to explain to others that Project Monarch isn't real

Recovered memory therapy from the perspective of former patients

How singlets can be misled into believing they have DID

Don't let people guilt trip you into accepting substandard evidence

[survivor-of-what-though]

i go into the ramcoa tags

i block more anti-endos

i block more people who think ramcoa is a conspiracy

i see post after post about how goddamn isolating this all is, made worse by rampant exclusionism and gatekeeping

i try to join a server. “no proshippers”

i think about our teenage beta / forced perpetration part who copes with his existence through fiction

i close the ramcoa tags

[ben-marco]

It's not "anti-recovery" to acknowledge your parts, to give them names and to figure out what feelings and memories they hold. You cannot heal without acknowledging your parts or communicating with them.

[ramblesofakio]

If you don’t believe RAMCOA/TBMC is a genuine thing, please block me

I’m tired of seeing people post about how “it doesn’t exist” and say that “ramcoa doesn’t exist but the trauma does.” It’s irritating to be told what I went through doesn’t exist and does exist at the same time.

It’s important to hear survivors and to be able to understand that this shit happens and still does. Cults, trafficking rings, etc. they all happen. Just because you think that someone can’t force a system doesn’t mean it’s not possible. Do you know how much trauma that someone faces within shit like that? How easy it is for someone to see that there’s so much dissociation and use it against them?

I’m tired of so many people thinking that ramcoa survivors aren’t real. We are, we exist.

If you don’t believe it, please block me.

[cultsurvivorsafe]

Survivors of sensationalized and stigmatized abuse deserve healing, too. Those with trauma considered scary, taboo, or even interesting are your fellow survivors.