#vent incoming:

[artbyeloquent]

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[crowwithaccesstotheinternet]

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[phoenixyfriend]

IDK how to put this but there's this revolving Thought in my head about how some people often tend to be really dismissive of certain discretionary expenses that don't fall into their specific understandings of 'expected' expenses.

I don't drink. I don't go out to clubs or bars or anything. Now, some of this is depression and suburban life; I just don't have anyone to go to places with except my little sister. But the big thing here is that:

I don't drink alcohol. (I also don't drink soda, but since I do drink iced tea and juice and coffee, that's not exactly relevant.) The average American spends $30-$40/month on alcohol. So, after six months, that Average American has spent $180-$240 on alcohol.

I view alcohol as one of those things that I just... can recategorize. I don't drink or smoke, so I can reprioritize that money. I like having colored hair, so in my mind I can go 'well, people spend this much money on something I don't have any interest in, and consider that normal; I'll spend that same money on something I do have interest in." The salon is expensive, sure, but it's something I prioritize well over a similarly expensive thing; it's just all at once instead of over the course of months.

It's just a matter of what a person's priorities are. This also goes for things like gym memberships, acrylic nails, or... whatever, IDK what people consider normal for discretionary spending. Nice nights out with their partner, maybe. Sportsball tickets. All that.

What it comes down to is really that I'm wondering what it is about certain categories of spending that has people viewing them as inherently more acceptable.

Why is This Much Spent On Baseball Tickets more acceptable than This Much Spent on Taylor Swift Tickets.

Why is This Much Spent On Alcohol more acceptable than This Much Spent On Lattes.

Why is This Much Spent on Chipotle more acceptable than This Much Spent at Trader Joe's.

These things are all in the same family of costs. Baseball playoff tickets appear to be more expensive than TSwift. The alcohol is marginally cheaper than the coffee. The food is more or less on par, dependent on what you get.

So why is one usually more worthy of a side-eye or mockery?

(And it's not just 'white girls like it, so it's fine to make fun of,' no matter how common that phenomenon is.)

[cosmosbunni]

Being an artist and slowly losing your ability to create due to disability has got to be something they make you go through in hell

[cephalog0d]

Yeah I'm not done yet.

The thing I keep coming back to is that as much as I'm down to nit-pick things like how characters are written and plot details (and boy are there a whole infestation of nits to pick), what it boils down to is that the basic premise here shouldn't even be happening.

I get they're doing a Thing with Bruce and the after effects of Failsafe and Zur and Insomnia so sure I guess it makes sense to have him acting totally unreasonably. I'm not saying it's a plotline I'm thrilled with, but whatever. This is about everyone else.

You have half a dozen people routinely patrolling in Gotham, who've been doing it for years, who know the city and how it works, who have at least two people who are particularly inclined towards collecting and parsing data for patterns for crime fighting purposes, and none of you noticed anything amiss until Selina called and was like "Hey did you notice my neat new plan I've been doing?"

To that point, in a room full of literal canonical geniuses not a single person has thought to ask any of a dozen very practical questions that occurred to me, a non-genius reader, roughly 10 seconds after reading what The Plan was. Things like, oh, I don't know

How is this going to be a sustainable long-term effort?

For example, what happens when Gotham's wealthiest realize what you're doing and dramatically beef up their security (with tech or with actual people), making it much harder and more dangerous?

Like iirc you, Selina, have definitely had some real dicey situations as a result of your profession, and you're a lot more experienced than these people.

(Hey speaking of which isn't there a whole secret society of Gotham's wealthiest and most powerful who have access to nearly unkillable assassins? Who keeps coming back even though they keep being taken down? You think any of these people might belong to that?)

What happens when the rich folks get pissed and sic the heavily militarized GCPD on you? Don't act like they won't, I'm sure someone's squirreled away stuff from that whole Fear State fiasco.

For that matter, what happens when the costumed villainry figure out who swiped all their henchpeople and decide to object to it, presumably violently?

How many people are we talking here anyway that you're training? How many ultra-wealthy people live in Gotham? How many easily stealable things do they have sitting around to take? (As opposed to, like, other non-liquid fake assets like stocks)

How are you fencing all this anyway? Isn't that a great way to get caught? Or is everyone just stealing cash? (Or did nobody think about the part between "got the valuable thing" and "have usable money from it"?)

How on god's green earth did you ever assume this was going to end in anything other than violence?

Like of course one of your guys got killed. It doesn't matter that you told them no violence, even if they fully buy into that it only takes one panicked reaction when someone's home who shouldn't be, on either side, and there you go.

Look I get what they're trying to do. It's supposed to be a big moral quandary about whether it's right to allow some crime if it decreases other crime, the struggle between Batman being unreasonably violent and unwilling to listen and this new plan of Selina's. First of all that's a weird debate to have when everyone having it is technically a criminal to some degree. And second of all, it doesn't matter, this isn't about the morality, this is about how this plan is fucking dumb and was destined to fall apart even if Batman was still asleep and the fact that any of you are buying it just means there's a gas leak in Gotham somewhere.

[thatslytherinbitch54]

This is gonna sounds so fucking stupid and I apologize in advance…

TW V3NT: I in the car with my aunt when outside the windows I saw a couple, both hugging each other and laughing together, I felt so sick, I lost so many friends, my relationship with my family is shit, I’m so alone. I really badly want/need a hug. When I got back to her place I locked myself in the bathroom and cried. Sorry for my vent, I just need to express myself to anyone willing to listen. Don’t worry, I’ll delete this later. If you actually took your time to read this, thank you, it’s helps, a lot :)

P.S. this morning my parents forgot when my birthday was, they thought it was tomorrow. How does a person forget their child birthday? Oh whatever

I apologize again, I promise I’ll go back to my normal content but please, just bare with me, you’re the only ones who kinda care for me ❤️❤️❤️

[angstyaches]

100 x 10

To commemorate this blog passing 1,000 followers, I wanted to write 10 new 100-word drabbles. (Because 100 x 10 = 1,000!)

Please don't send anything too elaborate; a sentence/dialogue starter/some keywords etc. + OC name(s) please! 🖤

[fenrishion]

growing older is weird once you start becoming more emotionally mature than your parents and start realizing how emotionally instable they are and that none of these fuckers should be allowed to have kids in the first place

[1o1percentmilk]

i kind of just realized that literally everything i do is a job to me

[wlwinry]

was so excited about the d20 madison square garden liveshow bc i live in the nyc area but presale tickets sold out before i could even add any to cart and the tickets today are 1500 USD. this is just a vent ig its not really a big deal but i just feel kinda sad and disappointed.

[softpine]

oh god i'm spiraling thinking about how this is going to make elaine feel after she hears asa did this as soon as she dropped him off! and beth and cara? danny and casper? stevie maybe being the one to find him?? IM LOSING IT

seriously i feel so bad for elaine, she has the least context of anyone in this situation. all she knows is that asa was acting weirder than normal and very secretive, then she takes him home and within hours he takes his life. she'll be rethinking everything he told her that day, i mean he literally said “If I can’t help anyone, then… I don’t know why I’m even here. I don’t know how much longer I can stand to be so useless.” she's going to feel so guilty :(

beth, who has been battling with herself over whether she should let asa be a normal kid with privacy and agency, and who only just convinced caroline to ease up on him a little. and cara??? this is quite literally her worst fear:

danny and casper, who both chose to pursue something for themselves instead of putting their family first like they always have in the past, who are terrified of being far away when their family needs them.

stevie, who convinced asa to look for finn in the first place, and who already has guilt over the way she froze up and watched a woman die because she couldn't jump into action quickly enough. stevie, who will have to be the one to intercept asa's parents at the door if the paramedics haven't gotten there yet.

jada, who we aren't sure how much she saw or knows yet, but the sheer amount of guilt she has weighing her down is already so so heavy. i can't even imagine how responsible she would feel for potentially being unable to save her best friend since the literal day he was born.

and finn??? the real kicker for me is that finn would/will be horrified when he finds out what asa put his family through, all for him. he got upset when asa did something as innocuous as burning family pictures, because asa's family loves him so much and he hates that asa has put such a strain on their relationship because of finn.

but i hope i've made it clear enough that this isn't really about finn. asa hasn't been cycling through antidepressants and seeing countless doctors since he was 12 for no reason; he genuinely does struggle with severe depression, losing finn was just the last straw. asa's ability to see ghosts has caused him so much pain over the years, but finn alone made it worth the heartache. without him, he feels entirely helpless. he's surrounded by people every moment of every day, but he can't connect with a single one of them. so while his motivation here may not have been to die and stay dead, i also can't say that he had a clear enough mind to be worried about the emotional impact this would have on the people around him. he knows that if caroline found his body, she would never recover from that, but even that is only a short-term consequence – he's not thinking about how his loved ones will feel in a week or a year or the rest of their lives. i can't really fault him for that. but the whole thing is fucking tragic :(

[jewishfalin]

Ngl still hurt by the anon who said my partner and I are both too feminine to tell im the butch despite the photos in question being from halloween and everything

[batwynn]

I literally offered free work for a few projects because it was a bucket list item for me and I still got turned down. I genuinely don’t know where to go from here because what does that mean about my work when it’s not even worth free?

[killerslowpoke]

OH I am so tired

[transxfiles]

im gonna be sick

[wompwomf]

kids these days will want anything to be a trauma story for them

"my dad groomed me" and "im a ramcoa survivor"

and then when you ask them about it they end up describing their dad being a normal loving parent and they just left a church because the pastor was mean once (he was probably pointing out bad behavior in sunday school)

and as a survivor of grooming, i can't say anything on the ramcoa bit, its fucking disgusting how many kids will call me a groomer for wanting to be friends, or for calling them a nickname, you can be friends with people of other ages and not be romantic

and im sorry if this part specifically offends you, but 2-3 year age gap IS NOT GROOMING, grooming is 5 or more years apart when one or both is under the age of 18!! and 17 year olds, stop trying to make every adult out to be a groomer for trying to help you

ive met people who are actual groomers, and people who have been groomed, if an adult inconveniences you YOU ARE NOT BEING GROOMED, being groomed is when the intent is specifically and clearly romantic and or sexual INITIATIVE FROM SOMEONE OLDER, if you are making advances on an adult, youve been groomed or your fucked up, but that is on the adult to stop or block you!!! YOU making advances and them stopping you IS NOT GROOMING and im tired of people acting like it is!!!

stop pretending to have actual trauma from something non traumatic, when you ACTUALLY get groomed i will listen and console you, if you say your groomed i will believe you UNTIL i hear your story, if your story is just a normal encounter with someone 2 years or older and YOU interpreted it as romantic or sexual, im leaving you and your trauma at the door because I couldn't care less

here are the definitions if grooming and pedophilia, YOU ARE NOT BEING GROOMED!! if your experience does in fact fit into these definitions, i recommend getting help from a friend or a professional to get out of this problem, whether you are a pedophile, or are being victimized by one, and i sincerely hope everything gets better, my prayers are being sent to you and to a safe recovery 💜