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hey im not sure if youre aware so dont feel pressured to post this ask at all but this blogs been marked as anti-trans by shinigami eyes. ive been seeing this happen more and more to trans blogs, im not sure if theres a way you can rebut it but at this point im just uninstalling the extension because its getting ridiculous

Never heard of this extension or anything so I don't think I can do anything about it sadly! After looking it up it has a good amount of negative reviews from people saying it's not always accurate

Part of why it's been done to me might be because of posts I've made supporting AFAB transfems/AMAB transmascs, trans male lesbians, and so on, it shouldn't take long for people to figure out that this is a trans-friendly space if they look at it though

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check out my friends' AAC symbols that double as emojis! they're super diverse and really cute and allow people of all speaking abilities to talk about big issues like this too!

IDs in alt

symbols for 'systemic inequality'! the arrows are meant to represent the systemic aspect of it

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Mspec Lesbian Misconceptions

I still get exclusionary comments and reblogs on my friend's mspec lesbian infographic so I thought I'd make a sort of 'addon post' that answers basically everything!

Please check the infographic out! It's much shorter and it looks pretty

🌺 "Mspec always means that you're attracted to men"

⤷ Mspec is short for the 'multisexual (or other multi- attraction type) spectrum', meaning the attraction to multiple genders. Most folks who experience attraction to women and non-binary genders don't consider themselves mspec, but that doesn't mean that nobody can

⤷ As we understand the complexities of gender more and move past the 'only two genders' way, what counts as being bi or otherwise mspec will change

🌺 "There's no reason to reclaim old uses for the word lesbian from before lesbian separatism"

⤷ Lesbian separatists tried to exclude anyone that associated themselves with men or masculinity from lesbianism. This included bi people, trans people, butches and mascs, lesbians still married to men, lesbians living with men, and more. Some went as far as considering butch-for-femme relationships to be harmful. Why wouldn't people want to reclaim lesbian from a time before this ideology spread? See more here

🌺 "But bi women wanted to make their own spaces and stop using lesbian spaces and the lesbian label" ⤷ Obviously, some bi sapphics of the time would've wanted to be distinctly and only viewed as bi, and have no affiliation with lesbians, but plenty didn't. Implying that the rise of radical feminism in the lesbian community was wanted by all of the people they excluded is ridiculous. It wasn't a consensus

🌺 "Mspec lesbians just want to feel included in lesbian spaces"

⤷ You've hit the nail on the head actually, this isn't the gotcha you think it is. Mspec sapphics were originally welcome to use the word lesbian and exist in the lesbian community, and then they weren't, so some of them would like to be included again yes

🌺 "It takes away spaces that are just for monosexual lesbians"

⤷ There have been attempts made to create terms for monosexual lesbians (though usually people just mean 'not attracted to men' rather than monosexual), but the lesbian community thrived with bisexuals in it for a long time. Lesbian spaces are heavily dominated by monosexual lesbians as well

⤷ The real question here is why are you so keen to know for definite that nobody in your space is attracted to men? And what are you counting as 'attracted to men'? Are you assuming it based on dating habits? What label they use? What you consider to be attraction? Everyone views this stuff differently, you can't police it properly

🌺 "Lesbian can't be used in the split attraction model, it means no attraction to men at all"

⤷ Insisting that someone has to use 'homoromantic' rather than lesbian just because they're bisexual or vice versa is pointless. Not only is lesbian a more open and functional label (it specifies attraction to women and doesn't imply that the user is also a woman), but defining it as an absence of attraction to men is very 1970s lesbian separatist of you

🌺 + "If you're fluid between mspec and lesbian just say abrosexual", "If you heavily prefer women just say homoflexible" and so on so forth

⤷ There are probably terms that technically apply to you that you don't use because you're not connected to the label or it doesn't fit quite right. The same applies here. Abrosexual is very broad, homoflexible implies 'same gender' attraction to women, and we've established that there's nothing stopping them from using mspec and lesbian instead

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I love to see my friends' symbol in use!

ideas for anyone to snatch. i'll leave a template for these below! these are common queer presentation labels but specified on using specific colours c:

【🌈】 — rainbow futch; pink futch, red futch, orange futch, yellow futch, lime futch, green futch, cyan futch, blue futch, indigo futch, purple futch, magenta futch + white (#ffffff) futch, black (#000000) futch, brown futch

"futch" can be replaced by chemme, bemme, stemme, and/or stish (stud + fish). u can also make flags for butch and femme if u want im just kinda dropping these ideas... i might speedrun coining green futch! as u can tell these are similar to the color queer presentation terms. maybe mixing them would be cool but also separately having them mixed / standalone queer term + color would be even cooler

you guys should also totally make some for bear, hunk, otter and twink. methinks!!

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AGAB Non-Conformity - AFAB Transfems, AMAB Cis Women, Neo-AGABs, and more (Infographic)

Icon Credits: ANC flag and term by sanrio-kotto - coining here AFAB Transfem and AMAB Transmasc hearts by @ijustwannamekemojis Intersex emoji by @eldritch-emojis Trans emoji by @k9emote

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Spinsonas and Fixsonas - Neurodivergence and acting as / pretending to be a character

*dumps this term I made on a whim in your direction*

Have you ever found yourself acting as or pretending to be a person/character from your special interest or hyperfixation to mask, to cope, or for fun? You're using what I'd call a spinsona/fixsona!

A spinsona/fixsona is a persona heavily influenced by or completely based on someone's special interests/hyperfixations! The combined term is just spinfixsona

They may be temporarily adopted (voluntarily or not) as a form of masking, for enjoyment/as a way of engaging with the interest, to socialise without feeling so much pressure, to process emotions or thoughts/experiences, and lots more!

Multiple spinsonas/fixsonas could be adopted at once and switched between (eg. acting out conversations), or you could switch between a character and yourself

For example, when I'm worried about something I often switch between spinsonas out loud or in my head. Usually, I'm acting out one of them venting about the issue and the other giving them advice. Obviously the thoughts are all from my own head, this just puts them in an easy 'problem vs solution' form, makes it less of a stressful situation, and is overall comforting!

This rentry I made lists many more examples!

(tags are autism/adhd/personality disorder-based because I'm yet to hear about this experience outside these communities, and don't want infinite tags pff)

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I need Aplatonic Infographic Ideas!

Following an extremely annoying conflict I had in the comments of an aplatonic post on @aspec-vents, I think people need help understanding the aplatonic experience and what platonic attraction/feelings actually are, and what it means to not have them

Send in your asks, comments, or reblogs for your questions for aplatonics or your aplatonic experience/what aplatonic means to you!

(reach tags: @aplatonic-culture-is @our-aplatonic-experience @aplatonic-stuff @aplatonicsafespace)

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hello!! we have found your info graphics, and I just wanna say that we personally love them. I do have a question, though! /gen, pos, lh

if we're non-black (white/white-passing), can we still reblog the black butch/femme/futch flags? /nf, genq, pos

we love the design (and don't plan on using them since we're, y'know, non-black) and want to spread them! /gen, lh, pos

reblog anything you like! Reblogging doesn't mean you necessarily identify with the term at all

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welcome to being a lesbian, I'm so glad this has helped people!

Lesboy and Male Lesbian Infographic - repost from my friend thelesbianbakugou

Since his account got terminated a few years ago, me and thelesbianbakugou decided to replatform this lil info sheet! There's one on mspec lesbians too but we just have to find it

Sadly we don't have access to the original image credits, if you know who made some of the images, please let us know and we'll credit them here!

tags for reach woo! @mogai-place @mogai-sunflowers @neopronouns @genderqueerdykes @ghosttypebeat @our-lesboy-experience @transonlyspace @mogai-faggot @enbermoonlish

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I'm going to put this as nicely as possible.

You're fifteen, according to your bio/pinned post. I'm 30. I have been alive literally twice the time you've been alive in this world. You are a baby queer. I don't mean that demeaningly. I mean this as to say this - you don't know smack about the LGBTQ world beyond the walls of the internet, maybe a queer club at your local school (high school if you're in the USA).

The online and club spaces for the LGBTQ world are so incredibly sanitized, period.

No, bi lesbians and their sister labels (pan lesbians, omni lesbians, polysexual lesbians, straightbians, fagdykes, lesboys, asexual lesbians, aromantic lesbians, etc.) ARE NOT putting their lesbian/dyke sisters in danger, period.

Pushing that the idea of "m spec lesbian" is somehow damaging...

victim blaming for ladies attempted to be 'forced converted' by straight men

Xenophobic towards MANY global gender IDs that are specific to certain cultures (2-spirit for indigenous USA tribes, Hijra in India, etc.)

Shifts the blame from the rapist to the victim, regardless of circumstances

Also minimizes the fact that asshole men are going to be asshole men, regardless of whoever they're being a jerk to. A jerk is going to be an asshole, regardless.

The idea of a "m spec lesbian" has been around FOR YEARS. Documented since at LEAST the 1950s.

I strongly recommend reading "Stone Butch Blues" and "The Stonewall Generation" as well as "PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality"

You might get lucky and find them at your local library. There's a free PDF floating around of Stone Butch Blues. I got Stonewall Generation by going to a LIVE PRIDE event that was local. You should be able to find them on Google Shopping, Amazon, Ebay, and/or Mercari.

Human sexuality is complicated, period. Many women who were exclusively (or almost exclusively) attracted to other women often paired up with men for the sake of affection, protection, and companionship rather than genuine attraction (Elenor Roosevelt and Virginia Woolf are the first two famous people who come to mind). Also, Kristen Stewart recently came out as a bi lesbian in a recent interview.

We exist, period. NO ONE is helping by LGBTQ identity policing. Y'all are only hurting yourself. PLEASE talk to real life queer people face to face, beyond the safety net of social media and school clubs. You will learn so much.

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Some much needed info for pride month

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Calling all aroaces and aspecs! Please spread this around!

If you related to this infographic and want a space to vent and/or hear more about other people's aspec experiences - I've made a blog for it! @aspec-vents

I want to create a space where aspecs feel comfortable talking about both the positives and the negatives of their experiences as aspecs

If you want to hear me yap for 5 minutes about aroace problems and the new blog I also have that under the keep reading thingy (I'm talking about aroaces here! But the space is also open to the whole spectrum including aplspec etc):

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https://www.tumblr.com/nonconformityhub/752900218271547392/a-few-people-had-issues-with-my-friends-use-of

Hi! I like that your blog is dedicated to exploring new language about various identities, but as a lesbian, please know that "bi lesbian" (or "mspec lesbian") is a harmful, lesbophobic and biphobic term.

"Bi/mspec lesbian" erases both identities (implying that bisexuals are under the "lesbian umbrella" and that lesbians are attracted to the opposite gender/men, both which are factually untrue). "Lesbian" is not an umbrella term for all sapphics.

Also, "bi/mspec lesbian" confuses the greater public (including cishet men) who are mislead to think lesbians are into them, therefore contributing to ("corrective") r4pe culture. Lesbians are not attracted to men and do not date men, period.

No need to co-opt "lesbian" by attaching "bi" to it, when terms like "bisexual", "sapphic" and "wlw" exist (not to mention that "lesbian" already encompasses women and woman-aligned nonbinary people).

Erasure and misleading language is the last thing we need in our community. Could you please amend/correct your post?

Thank you!

Hello! I appreciate your views but plenty of lesbians and bisexuals support this term too (see all the reblogs and likes on that post)

You may personally see no need to reclaim a historic interpretation of lesbian or no need for people who are fluid between bi and lesbian, bisexual homoromantic/homosexual biromantic, and so on to use the term bi lesbian - but they clearly see a need to, that's why it exists

The term has come back into use from the 1970s/80s/90s because people needed it to, language doesn't just come back when nobody needs it. People have a use for the word, many of said uses are described in the post and in those 70s/80s/90s accounts (poetry, interviews, all sorts can be found out there)

You'll also notice that the identity is yet to confuse the general public into thinking all lesbians like men or even enter public awareness, and if it does, identifiers provide resources and definitions for their identity like the infographic my friend made to clear these things up

I will not be 'correcting' the post because not only did I not make that infographic, but the information being presented is correct. It correctly tells you why people identify as bi lesbians and it correctly tells you the history of the term, you can think it's a pointless or damaging term but the information there is correct

By far the biggest reason people find use in it is because they are bisexual homoromantic or homosexual biromantic, and they're clarifying that the 'homo' part is lesbian - hence bi lesbian, bisexual lesbian, biromantic lesbian

This is my favourite carrd for talking about the historical and modern reasons for combining the two

Labels are personal and exist for an individual to understand themselves and express their experience of the world in a way that works for them, and we can't just decide what way works for them

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Aroace Experiences We Don't Talk About Enough (Infographic)

(If you're interested in a blog where aspecs can talk about experiences like this, I've since made an aspec venting space!)

Icon Credits: hands with hearts - @blackholemojis face holding flag - @sammywammyclone paw - @paw-pride hug - @eldritch-emojis gem - @genderdoomed

Some @'s for reach: @our-aroace-experience @gray-ace-space @aroaceculture @acespec-ed @acexualien @cordwaner @asexualadvice @aromantic-diaries @aroacespecsafeplace @arospec-daybook

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So I saw you were looking into making queer infographic and as an agender AFAB transfem I would really love to see one on AFAB transfem and AMAB transmasc or at the very least one on AGAB non conforming mainly because it is so hard to explain my identity and find acceptance because people boil my gender down to my sex and my AGAB and like to me sex and gender are not at all the same.

I'd love to do this! Feel free to submit some personal stories in my inbox if you're afab transfem/amab transmasc or some informational things you'd like included :D

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Lavenique / Laveniq by thegenderthieves

a term for all black and mixed black lesbians

Continuing to repost some of my friends' stuff from their terminated accounts so that it's more easily findable (with their permission ofc) All text is pasted straight from the original coining!

Lavenique (lav-en-eek), also called Laveniq (lav-en-ick) is here!

It is designed for those that feel a disconnect from the lesbian label, typically due to the white-washing and white domination of lesbian history, and lesbian stereotypes - it’s open to use by any black or mixed black lesbian, and lavenique doesn’t gatekeep what lesbian as a term means unlike other terms, it’s all about your experience

Historically, black lesbians have been pushed out of lesbian spaces, many feeling completely excluded and choosing to use queer, sapphic, or gay as an alternative, so I wanted to make that alternative! 

Black sapphics all participated in giving their input for the term! The symbol of a violet was the most popular option for a symbol, so there’s an optional variant of the flag using this symbol! Violets are symbol of lesbian love, given by sapphics to other sapphics as a symbol of being attracted to them

Stripe meanings:

I've also made black butch/stud, black femme, and black futch/stem flags

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This is another informational thingy about lesboys! It's more in-depth than my friends' more simplistic infographics if anyone's interested

A little guide! Hope this helps clear up any confusion 🫶🏻