#AceSpec

[yagikidd57]

[feelingthedisaster]

atraction is just a lie made by the goverment, hope that helps

[p0ssumlord]

My arospec ass be like:

[thund3randrain]

And now, a moment of silence for all the asexual vampires who cannot consume the holy bread of life. Stay strong soldiers 💪

[paladinofmidnight]

I'm aroace. Always have been, always will be. And you know what ticks me off the most about it? It's the sentiment from allo people, that tell aces/aros/aroaces that the love they feel "must be platonic!" Or that if the have sex or date they aren't a real ace/aro/aroace.

This is wrong. It is wrong now, it was wrong then, and it will always b wrong.

Aros are defined as people without any romantic ATTRACTION. They can date, fall in love, or maybe they never will, and they find happiness in that.

Aces are defined as people without any sexual ATTRACTION. They can fuck, fuck around, make dirty jokes, or maybe they never have sex, or are uncomfortable with even the idea being brought up.

Ik this, because I'm aroace, and I'm in a poly relationship. I love my two partners, my boyfriend AND my girlfriend, but you wanna know what? I was never romantically or sexually attracted to them. I, oh so simply, just fell in love with them. I trust them completely, and I love them more than myself.

If I was not in love with them, I would not be in a relationship with them. It's as simple as that. I am not allo, I find no meaning in pretending to be attracted to someone. I've dated before, although it was more from societal pressures than any feelings, and that is why I'm so certain.

I never got a crush phase, never got the butterflies in my stomach or the fantasys about someone I was not close too.

Many aros/aces/aroaces will probably never want or find such relationships with a person. And that's okay, but it does not mean all are like that. People under the A-umbrella are 1000% valid, regardless of their wants/needs to have or not to have a relationship.

The Acespectum is always one of the hardest things to figure out if you are, because it is impossible to teach what the absence of something feels like. So, if you think you are, take it slow. Figure it out at your own pace, and don't be afraid of someone else's anger that you may not fit what they think you should be. In the end it's your choice, your wants, your needs, and your life.

[mlmshark]

“Omg, I don’t get why people get so mad at a canonically asexual character being sexualized! Just don’t read it if you don’t like it!” Are you fucking stupid? Repeat that back to yourself

[devils-sacrament-catering]

I am the horniest asexual I stfg I need there to be sex all the time thinking of it looking at it reading it writing it just pls I don't want to be involved

[shak3sp3are]

i like this character! . . . aggressively shoots with the aspec and trans rayguns

[xxx-ang3l-w1th-a-sh0tgun-xxx]

Hello!!! i rlly love your stuff and ur userboxes are so unique <3

can i request a userbox that says "This person is aroace but feels alot of platonic love" no specific theme but i heavily appreciate it if you make it <3 tysmmmm again!!! i hope you have a good day!!

ofc! and thank u :) <3

[text: this person is aroace but feels alot of platonic love]

feel free to reblog/download and use on your profile but keep my username visible ty! :)

[flowersofadoration]

I was telling my friends about how I want to have a baby without a partner and they replied with “it’s going to have so many gay aunts around it. It’ll grow up perfect”.

I love my friends 🥹.

[codthefishgod]

Am I the only person who hates telling other people about my sexuality irl? I'm proud of being aroace and all, it just gets tiring to explain it every single fucking time.

I mean, I can just say I'm not straight or I'm queer, but then people immediately default to thinking I'm gay if I say that.

It usually goes like this:

Stranger: "Are you straight?"

Me: "Oh, no."

Stranger: "Oh, so you're gay."

Me: "...Nope. Try again."

Stranger: "Bisexual?"

Me: "Nope!"

Stranger: "Can you give me a hint?"

Me: *long sigh* "I can, but I don't think you'll like the answer"

Now cue the explaining it for ten minutes and gods forbid they're aphobic (which, unfortunately, a large percentage of the people I've told are) because that's just a whole other fucking rabbit hole

[finnslay]

A reminder for those who simp over Alastor from Hazbim Hotel

Even Niffty, who "loves bad boys", doesn't hit on him

He's ace :) leave him be. Let ace characters be ace 🙌

Thank youuu

[aspecpolls]

Arospecs and Acespecs, are you comfortable with the idea of having a life partner?

(i.e. Someone to spend the rest of your life with; can be romantic/sexual/platonic/whatever)

- Yes (AroAce)

- No (AroAce)

- Yes (Aro)

- No (Aro)

- Yes (Ace)

- No (Ace)

[ramblingaro]

I always find it interesting that the same discomfort ppl have when I talk abt being a loveless aroace emerges when I tell them I don’t like music

I am not kidding when I say people respond the EXACT same way. They’ll start naming genres or songs or artists or asking if I’ve had certain musical experiences or tell me how it’s weird bc music is a part of being human. Often times too they’ll ask if what I’m saying is really true or if I’m just trying to be quirky/contrarian.

Idk I think maybe we should be spending more time teaching people that no matter how universal they think one of their experiences is, there are very likely people who don’t have those experiences. And that’s okay. We should be taught to have more open minds to listen to how others experience life