#I love talking to you all

[noodle-shenaniganery]

Friendly reminder:

[Plain text: Friendly reminder:]

You can message me literally any time. I love getting messages, especially from mutuals! Ignore your social anxiety (which I know is hard, trust me)! You can send me things. Even if it’s a vent, or a meme, or the word “cheese” 276 times!

Edit: You can also vent to me! I will try my best to help in any situation.

I’m tagging everyone so they know:

@foxtail1311 @rndmpunk @midnight-soulless-system @j-snapdragon @bear-owo (<- please message me, I am worried about you) @your-strange-internet-person @box-of-stars-and-stories

[positively-peachy-143]

Guys rq, if I'm doing an RP with you and I haven't responded yet, please LET ME LIVE MY LIFE. I will get back to you eventually I swear, but repeatedly reaching out about it will not get a response faster. I'm busy with school, I have mountains of work to catch up on, and feeling like responding to an RP is just another *task* I have to do just makes me distance myself from it more. Please give me more slack, I understand it's frustrating, but I am like this with EVERYTHING social atm. I am periodically responding to all rps when I have time and motivation to do so, and I'm even limiting irl things too. Please be patient with me.

[sardonic-the-writer]

Me when I get asks so I can talk with people :D <3

[twelvedaysinaugust]

i'm so confused? tanika told you about louis' dm a couple months ago and now she's saying he never said anything like that to her and that the screenshot of his dm is fake, do you think she's lying? none of this make sense to me ?&#@&?

I will make one last post about this today but then we must let the dust settle.

In April, Tanika reached out to me in regards to some things I said in the tags about the FaceTime and how I thought Louis exhibited poor boundaries. We had a long conversation and, during the course of the conversation, she said Louis DM’ed her after the FaceTime and said basically everything that was contained in the screenshot. I reiterated that in this post. Nothing about Eleanor or being “scared” of Larries. She did not share the screenshot with me. It seems like a lot of people are sharing similar stories. I hinted at this interaction on my blog, hoping people would read between the lines, but I didn’t feel comfortable sharing the specifics. I will not be sharing screenshots of our conversation. There have been far too many of those today. Tanika messaged me off anon, from her Tumblr account.

I have not been keeping up with the drama on Twitter, it seems like there’s a lot of misinformation. Most of what I’ve been seeing has been on Amy’s blog (@/lesbianslovelouis). I’ll link the relevant posts. x x x

Tanika said that the information in this comment was 99% wrong, presumably the part about Eleanor, Louis being “scared” of Larries, and she and Louis being besties. But to my knowledge, she has not said the screenshot is fake and has dodged that question repeatedly. I believe it’s real (again, this post). It seems like she was caught off guard by Louis’ DMs, too. As far as I know, her conversation with Louis took place back in November, shortly after the FaceTime, and before tour had started. That’s literally all the information I have. I’ve known about this since late April/early May, so anything I’ve written on my blog after that point was said with that knowledge.

[ofthecaravel]

I’ve never put someone on post notifications faster oml

AW SHUCKS

[the-gayest-sky-kid]

god i love my friends. shout out to people who love their friends. this is a post for friend lovers

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Hey now, Let her cook!

[adriles]

when we’re done with our overwhelming grief we’ll eat i guess

[ronanlynchbf]

tshirt that says NO LIVE ORGANISM CAN CONTINUE FOR LONG TO EXIST SANELY UNDER CONDITIONS OF ABSOLUTE REALITY

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[acrownforaking]

Absolutely obsessed with the House renaissance happening on tumblr right now. Really glad everyone woke up 12 years after the show ended and went "Wait a minute. what the fuck was THAT"

[cowgirlcherrie]

PRETTY PRETTIEST EVER ILY SM you're literally so beautiful and the bow aw you're a dream <3

you are going to make me cryyyy AHHHHH that was the sweetest thing, baby ur adorable ♡♡♡ thank you so much my sweet angel !!!

I loveeee bows with even the most simple outfits, it’s a signature in my style and I tried to mute the outfit by wearing sneakers so I wasn’t too overdressed. I did forget my thigh garter </3

but I went to ulta right after seeing barbie and some lady asked if I went to go see the movie and that she loved my outfit. Nearly collapsed on the floor.

now i’m going to stop talking bc I am rambling WOOPSIES

the outfit reveal is gone incase anyone is wondering sawreeeee

[soupinaboot]

In my opinion, Bruce should be above average height or at least average. But since he surrounds himself with demi-gods, aliens, meta humans, etc, he's just dwarfed next to them. Like maybe about 6'1 or 6'2, but that's NOTHING compared to Diana '7'3 feet tall' Prince. Or Clark '6'9' Kent.

All the tabloids claim he has to be at least 5 feet tall because the only photos they can get of him are when he's next to his giant ass friends.

It is also my personal headcannon that all the robins stay shorter than him, except Jason, who should be at least 4 inches taller.

[egophiliac]

What do you like about the Diasomnia boys if I may ask?

I always love hearing about the different reasons people enjoy characters.

I mean, c'mon. he has split custody over Sebek okay

also, Lilia in particular has maybe the best timeskip character development of all time

[the-trans-advice-blog]

If you are a person who hates men because they are men not only are you inherently alienating anyone queer person who identifies as a man but you are failing to hold the actual horrible men accountable for their actions.

Being a creep, a predator, a pervert, etc. is not inherent to being a man and thinking/saying that removes any sense of responsibility from the actual disgusting men who exist.

Call out the individuals so they can face the consequences of their actions, don’t just shrug it off as “well that’s how men are because they’re all terrible”. “

All men are evil” is just a round about way of saying “boys will be boys” and although both statements have different intentions they remove all accountability from those who deserve it.

And do not ever expect any trans man to change themself because you associate masculinity and manliness with being a predator. Love your trans brothers and embrace them as men or you don’t have the right to call yourself queer.

[lil-puppy-prince]

where are y'all getting people to send you asks? especially dirty asks?? tell me your secrets I want to be flustered like all of you :(