#aces test

[solsticeamaris]

the ACES test is drastically uninclusive in my opinion. even as someone with a high score, there are so many deeply damaging childhood experiences left unaddressed such as COCSA, family working on the frontlines through military and/or law enforcement (not supporting the system, but the parents' lives are at risk daily and that can be one of the most damaging things for children to grow up aware of), sexuality and gender identity struggles, death of a close friend and/or legal guardian, NCCSA, CSEM, and so much other shit that isn't talked about. these things have also been proven to have a negative impact on people's physical health later in life, and therefore should also be options. i know people probably do not rely on aces anymore, and i support said departure from it, though it can be helpful in certain situations.

[ceeejus]

PERCEIVE

[notdonebeingmessy]

I feel like I get frustrated if I can't fast-track relationships sometimes. And that's on me. I don't really think it's normal to enter a cheat code and be besties immediately. It can't be normal. There's no way.

Why do I get so enthusiastic about befriending new people?

It's kind of hard to put into words, but I think it has to do with my PTSD 6th sense. Think I'm crazy yet? Hold up, lemme explain what I mean by "PTSD 6th sense".

So, you know how people have unconscious tells? And if you can read them, people normally ascribe that to being an "empath"? Well, I think I figured out that having to survive a mom that was an easily-triggered psychopath made me into a person whose amygdala became overclocked, and so I got really good at figuring out people's tells.

I'm scary good at taking a small bit of input and extrapolating a lot of data from it.

But on the other hand, I can also be really good at overthinking and erroneously attributing things to people that they didn't feel or do because I'm jumping to conclusions. To prevent this from happening and looking like a messy bitch, I normally ask the individual if what I picked up on resonates. It's like a failsafe before recording the information as fact in my brain. Maybe I should start cataloging the answers to figure out the percentage of time I'm correct, but so far I get a lot of "How did you know that?" which makes me feel like I'm a g_ddamn Professor X level super mutant. lol

So, in essence, I feel justified in fast-tracking relationships because I feel like I can understand people fairly quickly and determine if they're going to be part of my tribe or not.

Is this a good thing, a bad thing, or is it JUST a thing?

I don't know. Maybe that'll take some more overthinking about myself while my partner waits patiently in a corner for me to figure myself out. He's the most selfless bullshit-indulging shelf-sitter.

God bless him.

He says over and over again that I'm not so bad but I know that he deserves better. He deserves a wife that wakes up at 4am and makes little Japanese bento box lunches for him.

[khairosclerosis]

🍷 ' five fingers, two black hooves '

[ryllen]

okay, sebek has portrait on the wall, but does he have any photo stashed somewhere else that he j u s t doesn't show?

[otaku553]

How would you say Tage and canon Sabo's personality differ?

I think the main point they differ on is that canon sabo knows who he is even after his amnesia, because the revolutionary army gave him so much motivation and direction, whereas tage doesn’t have a supportive community or any direction to point his anger and trauma at after waking up without his memories so he becomes a lot more directionless.

I think the reason why sabo looks like a noble in canon despite a very pronounced dislike for nobles is that he uses his history as a noble to propel his motivations as a revolutionary. I think dragon would have told sabo from meeting him before that Sabo was a noble, and from that, canon Sabo regained that strong hatred against the nobles and willingness to fight against them. Tage has none of that. Since he’s been along for so long, he fights primarily for his survival, and so he focuses a bit more than canon sabo on appearance and deception. He’s more cynical of the whole world as opposed to just nobles, and is more willing to fight anybody who crosses him specifically.

I don’t think they’re very different on the surface— canon sabo and Tage both do things independently and at their own pace and have the capacity to go absolutely feral but present a demeanor of calm confidence and strength to the people around them.

[doctorsiren]

textured canvases for today :3

[codemonki]

I don't care if this trend was from last year

[huyandere]

beanix posting

[effen-draws]

I've started playing the first aai game so I'm thinking about them again:-)

[shmaroace]

it always makes me so happy when people who are discovering they're aro and/or ace and find this whole new group of people who are exactly like them. yes!! welcome to the community!!

[mister-mizu]

Didn’t you know? It’s Malleus’ Unbirthday too..

want a commission?

[thecoolsquirrel]

a continuation of grim as cat memes i find

ALSO

[m3llowm1sh]

do you accept his offering

[roachemoji]

I said it in the early 2010s and I'll say it again. I don't understand aphobia at all especially from within the queer community like we've all faught to EXIST and date and fuck who we want, but some of yall can't accept there are people out there who don't wanna fuck at all? or don't feel sexually attraction? or don't wanna date? or don't feel romantic attraction? get your head out of your ass???

we're all here to date and fuck unless we're not. it's that easy

[ryllen]