#and it is fucking invalidating like
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the tradwife movement is the same as it has always been - back in the kitchen, back to breeding - it just has better branding.
when i was younger, i hated pink. i was not like other girls. this is now something i'm embarrassed of - this was not me being a "girl's girl."
but it was expressing something many of us felt at the time: i literally wasn't what girlhood was supposed to be. this is a hard thing to explain, but you know when you're not performing girlhood correctly. it isn't as easy as "i liked x when girls liked y" - because there were other girls that liked x, too - but i never figured out exactly the correct way to like x, or to be interested in y.
now there is the divine feminine. this is the same rhetoric it has always been: women are biologically driven to like pink and ribbons and submitting to our husbands.
the problem is that the patriarchy found a better PR team. because yes, actually, i want every woman to have the choice to be a homemaker. i also want her taken seriously for her legitimate home-making labor. i want her to be recognized as also having a job, just unpaid. i want men to have this opportunity, too.
but it is no longer "i made this choice and I love it." instead it is a sixteen-paragraph rant about how selfish it is that my generation isn't having kids. instead it's long videos about how if you feed your children processed foods, you're going to kill them. instead it is "this is what womanhood is supposed to be. i feel bad for any other choices you're making."
the shame spiral is just prettier. it is large houses devoid of personality. it is the implication: if you don't have this, you aren't happy. the solid, everlasting assurance: women are actually supposed to be submitting. this is the default. this is the natural state of things. all other attempts inflict suffering.
but you can no longer say i'm not like other girls. you can no longer reject this image completely. you cannot find it revolting, even if you know that the underbelly is toxic and festering. sure, it is the same repackaged patriarchy. but the internet does not have shades of grey. you should support and reward other women! your disgust is actually internalized misogyny. not because you are seeing a vision of yourself the way they're trying to train you to be. not because you feel her ghost pass within an inch of your earlobe. not because your father will eventually ask you - why can't you be like her?
because they figured out how to make it beautiful: women will sell other women on this idea, and we will find the singular loophole in feminism. sure, she's shaming you in most of her videos. sure, she implies that a different life is obscene. but she just wants you to be happy! you'd be happier if you were listening!
and the whole time you're sitting there thinking: i'd actually just be happier if i had that kind of money.
#spilled ink#writeblr#warm up#this is an incredibly difficult idea to express#but i basically keep watching the same timelooped interaction:#someone makes tradwife content where she's like ''i think it's SO sad when ppl don't have kids EW''#and then the response is ''... go fuck yourself? i think ur life is miserable and bad ?"#and instead of being like ''oh we are all under capitalism huh''#the response is like ''you CANT say that. she made a CHOICE. she is ALLOWED to have KIDS and be HAPPY#unlike YOU who is UNHAPPY bc you don't have KIDS.''#like .... these are people who will throw the first stone. and then when you lob one back#they ask why you're so violent. they tell you that you're a bad activist.#and you're like. PARDON????? you implied being a woman meant i need to submit to my husband???#and they're like - well it's just my belief. so what if i'm invalidating your entire identity.
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this is what i mean when i say people are playing a dangerous game and basically attempting to make gender essentialism trans inclusive. sick of it.
this is your friendly reminder i hate the men/non men binary you guys reinvented and you should stop
#i feel like this also puts queer men/trans men in such an uncomfortable position#like so invalidating to trans men first of all but also it’s this vibe of#you’re either with us or… the men#with the insinuation that being in the man category is bad/anti-queer#like#choose between maleness or queerness#also like… doesn’t that kind of imply that men are the default?#which is something you feminists have been taking issue with for ages?#like the vibe of your either a man or something else is really giving adams rib#it’s men and everyone else#weird fucking vibes tbh#like i’m willing to bet it probably doesn’t even sit right with a lot of cis women#to have your identity reduced to the opposite of a man#instead of just… women#so i can’t even imagine how invalidating that would be for queer/trans/gender non-conforming women#i mean actually i can imagine because i am a queer woman#and it is fucking invalidating like#stop putting me in a box#i’m so much more than a gender besides man#way to go alienating almost every group imaginable except maybe straight cis men lmao#weird fucking vibes#can we just throw the whole binary away already#y’all are just trying to make new categories on the same binary and trying to fit queer ppl there and we do not want#stop queering your gender essentialism lmao#*you’re#tag rant over
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girl if you EVER go 'men dni...... BUT TRANS MEN ARE OK THO' i swear to god i will punch you across the fucking face
#felix and his rants#transgender#transmasc#like do you NOT SEE how INVALIDATING that is?!?!?#fucks SAKE
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One of the things that pisses me off about MWIII and the lead up to it so bad is that whole "Oh I wasn't in the tank" thing around Graves.
Because it takes away from my success as a player and its just dumb.
But more importantly because Activision for some reason decided to play it like "Look at Soap being so dumb thinking he killed Graves, isn't he a ridiculous little man?" while Graves is given the "strong survivor" treatment by them.
Soap took out a tank.
Without dedicated gear.
He survived multiple assault teams while at it too. Not just survived, he took them out as well.
And then blew up a tank with nothing but some C4 to a point where no one in it could have survived.
Like he did that and you're telling me Graves wouldn't be fucking afraid of running into that guy again? If being in a tank can't save you from his wrath you're telling me he ever felt safe around him?
Nah. No way. We deserved to see him flinch the moment Soap enters the picture. To keep to the other side of the room. Trying his best to work with anyone but him.
Soap is unhinged and highly dangerous, or he would have waited for his chance to piss off instead of fighting that thing but he gets treated like instead of letting loose of his anger over the betrayal he was just a big dumb dumb and everyone else was in on the joke.
Like fuck man. That also means the player is seen in the same way, like you thought you just won a cool boss battle? Oh you stupid little player, that was for nothing and we're gonna take that feeling of success back. Games don't need to be gratifying, do they?
Actually that probably could be MW3s whole title.
#mw3 was such a heap of shit its still making me angry a year later#the fact that they just invalidated so much of mw2 is just part of it#but like i could rant for days and i shant#anyway I'm not going to because i just got up#soap is alive and well and he will haunt the fuckers at activision if i have any say in it#If they think I'll stop shipping they are so fucking wrong I'll just get worse about it#ghostsoap#soapghost#john soap mactavish#cod mwii#cod mw2#cod
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I do think at some point in the not too distant future, the 911 fandom, at least on Tumblr, is going to have to reckon with the fact that despite M!slash being the main driving force of the fandom, gay men like myself are in the vast minority (I think a recent poll put us at something like 6% but it didn’t separate bisexuals by gender so it’s hard to say how many mlm are actually in the fandom) and in the same way being a gay man doesn’t exempt him from being incidentally or purposefully misogynistic, being some other flavor of the rainbow doesn’t prevent someone from perpetuating homophobia against men who love men.
At some point the jokes about how Tommy is just here for dick or should just get dick and move on (when he’s already made it very clear that he wants a relationship with Buck) are going to start to sound like hypersexual stereotypes of gay men. At some point the constant push to get them to break up as soon as possible and for Tommy to die or get shipped off to Arizona or wherever is going to seem less like regular ship hate and more like wanting a gay male character to be punished for daring to seek a relationship with a man in the first place. We obviously aren’t there yet but I do think we should be aware that it is fast approaching.
#this isn’t even directed at anyone in particular but a post got on my nerves#and it was yet another one invalidating Buck and Tommy because they weren’t friends before they dated#which is like… you know how most people date nowadays?#like I WISH any of the friends I have IRL were interested in men because there are several of them I would date and YET#here I am on fucking Tinder#but ANYWAY#a nerve was touched sorry
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Once again it’s not classist to portray a character who grew up in poverty experiencing components of poverty. To headcanon Levi, someone who grew up wearing rags, malnourished with no formal education, as being illiterate is not classist.
You know what is classist? Thinking that illiteracy and no education is an insult and a moral failing rather than a factor of systemic oppression. Thinking that makes Levi, or anyone else who can’t read, inferior.
What is the reason for the negative reaction towards that headcanon anyway? To think it’s so outlandish and disrespectful for a poor person—who never went to school, who was raised by a prostitute and a murderer, and who then later became a violent gangster himself—to be depicted as illiterate? Is it because Levi is smart? Literacy isn’t the only form of intelligence.
His mother was literally a starving prostitute who died of disease, and he nearly starved to death too. That part of his backstory isn’t classist either, because it’s a reality of poverty. Kuchel was given a name and importance to the narrative and nothing about Levi, his mother, or his backstory was written to demean poor people. Become class conscious. Rewire your brain.
#it’s not only teenagers who parrot this bullshit that having unsavory headcanons about Levi is ~classist~#it’s so baffling it’s comical to me. you know his backstory! please learn class consciousness before calling something classist#you do not sound smart you sound like you don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about.#also I think it’s okay to believe the opposite—that he can read and learned in the underground#that’s valid. it’s the calling the illiteracy headcanon classist thing that’s Invalid. it is False.#levi ackerman#levi headcanons#aot headcanons#snk headcanons#bitchy writes
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HE'S CHECKING OUT GARY!!!! I REPEAT, HE'S CHECKING OUT GARY!!!!
#i havent posted anything on this site for years and i talk for these bitches..... as it should be#hes doing the marceline sexy smoldering eyes too i cant take this#i havent seen anyone talk about this and i am LOSING it over this detail i need everyone and their mother to know this#i already commented about this on youtube and someone was already doubting like 'i thought hes looking at the lemoncarbs'#AND I WILL SET THE RECORD STRAIGHT. U CAN SEE HIS EYES GO DOWN (TO WHERE GARY'S ASSETS ARE) THEN UP TO MEET HIS EYES WHEN HE LOOKS BACK#the lemoncarbs are clearly to the left where gary is staring at in horror.....keep up people.#he doesnt look at the lemoncarbs once until they started insulting gary's cute lil baking with the 'i hate their little faces' line#and then u can see his eyes move from left (to where lemoncarbs are) to right to look at gary again.#THERE. CASE OVER#I BETTER NOT SEE ANYONE INVALIDATE THEIR OBVIOUS FUCKING FLIRTING OR I WILL#cry. theyre very important to me. i love bubbline/gumlee so much i will die for them#its also funny that hes doing that NOW when our boy is clearly stressed tf out#its giving 'hate to see you leave love to see you go' energy lmaooo#gumlee#adventure time#fionna and cake#adventure time fionna and cake#gary prince#marshall lee
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sometimes pro endos and anti endos should just. chill. interact. don't limit yourself to only interacting with people with morals that are 100% the same as yours. everyone's all "no one is perfect" until the imperfection is that they don't agree with you on something. like no actually flaws aren't just skills people aren't good at, they're also moral things
tl;dr just chatting with people who disagree with you is ok and not everything is about syscourse
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#sorry anon have to disagree#we as a system refuse to talk to people who actively deny the existence and experiences of others who dont fall into their view of them#if an anti-endo talks shit about mixed origin systems we wont bother talking to them#our spouse is mixed origin and at that point they're insulting someone close to us#so no as a pro-endo system i refuse to speak with anyone who invalidates and fakeclaims anyone who doesnt fit their narrow views#on who is a system or not#if i meet an anti-endo in real life and they spout of nonsense we will walk away from them#like you act as if this is easy to do#its not and will not be because anti-endos are directly hating others for existing#nope sorry cant see this ever happening#makes me think you're secretly an anti-endo because you left out how they are hateful to others they don't agree with#just look at their hateful ass tags#like “endos fuck off” “endos not for you” “endos aren't real”#also this post is not an ok for anti-endos to start spamming asks because we will delete them#so yeah no not happening#endo friendly#plural community#pluralgang#plurality#pluralpunk#pro endo#mixed origin system#traumaendo#endogenic safe#syscourse
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All ff7 woman....get behind me. This fandom hates y'all too much
#YOU PEOPLE CAN'T BE NORMAL TO THEM!!!!#Zack being loved for the many qualities that Aerith has while SHE gets hated on#Tifa getting her trauma invalidated and people treating her relationship with Cloud like she's just an accessory(shipping)#Yuffie getting called annoying because GOD FORBID THE TEENAGE GIRL ACTS LIKE A TEENAGER GIRL!!!???#Lucrecia....were do I begin#There's some stuff even with Cissnei...#Fucking can't with some of y'all#Does this count as rant#Rant#Ff7#Ffvii#Final fantasy vii#Final fantasy 7#Final fantasy#ff7 rebirth#ff7 remake#ff7 crisis core#ff7 aerith#ff7 tifa#Ff7 yuffie#ff7 lucrecia#Ff7 Cissnei#aerith gainsborough#tifa lockhart#yuffie kisaragi#lucrecia crescent#Cissnei#QueenBird Rambles
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kinda stupid how at this point negative feedback has way more impact on me than positive feedback
#positive feedback will make me feel kinda nice for like an hour#but like i got two 1 star ratings (i don't know why i havent had any real criticism for my vn) and each one kind fucked me up for a bit#this is why if your giving a negative rating i want you to explain why that way i can either improve or decide that the critique is invalid
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I actually find it really bizarre and counter intuitive that clinically speaking, you cannot legally be diagnosed with a personality disorder until you're at least 18. The reason given for this is because "the personality has not fully developed before this age" like ???
Ah yes, my favorite strategy. Not diagnosing the problem until it's already been virtually cemented into your brain for life! Wouldn't it be easier (and more painless) to address the problem before it's fully developed?
#im also certain that the age that personality fully forms at is not a universally agreed upon number#like idk. maybe this raises less questions about age and more about the potential consequences of pathologizing personalities#it feels a little fucked up to me that some mental illness are 'just' mental illnesses while others are deemed a thing synonymous with you#and i can understand if some people with personality disorders do really heavily identify with their disorders#thats fine!#i also think the average person has a concept of personality which is relatively stagnant and thats just not realistic tbh#i mean if you think personality is stagnant then yours probably is so in rhat sense youre not wrong#but personality can absolutely change and i dont think it makes you a 'different person'#i think its a natural progression#anyways. got a little derailed but the point im trying to make is#lets find a way to give people with personality disorders a more realistic hope for recovery without invalidating them#and also lets maybe try to treat personality disorders preemptively so they don't get worse
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cluster b culture is just don't make this about yourself don't make this about yourself don't mention yourself don't do it I swear to God don't mention yourself don't please God anyways I did the same thing and you didn't even notice what about me how come you never notice me but expect me to always be paying attention to you why don't you—
#vent#bpd#bpd vent#bpd problems#bpd things#bpd thoughts#cluster b#like....sorry I really have such an issue with feeling invalidated and then I bring up myself like a selfish bitch#like oh? you're restricting? did I tell you I'm underweight too#girl shut the ABSOLUTE FUCK UP omg I do NOT DESERVE FRIENDS#I can just BARELY control myself when I'm in a negative headspace already#the urge to be people's safe space until I can't control my terrible impulse to invalidate others RUINS relationships
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short neuvifuri angst idea
"Oh, did you enjoy the script that she wrote? Did you like the role that you were cast as? I hope you were happy in those five hundred years, Neuvillette, because I never was!"
Furina storms off after pushing him, leaving him drenched to the bone and sitting awkwardly in the waters of the Fountain of Lucine with naught to do but contemplate his long lasting memories. Remembering the way she would smile is an easy endeavor. Furina always looked sincere when smiling; perhaps he wasn't looking hard enough, but surely even fleeting moments between just the two of them had to have brought her some amount of happiness, as small as it may be.
He thinks of one long ago night, during the third century of her reign. Actually, right on the cusp of the new milestone, he recalls the Palais had been eerily silent after wrapping up a week of festivities held in Furina's honor. The people of Fontaine were still celebrating, and would be doing so until the early hours of the morning, but all was still within the Palais. Except for them, that is. She had supposedly retired to her bedchambers, and him to his office, yet the two had bumped into each other within the kitchen.
"Let's go to the Opera," she had told him, in lieu of answering when he asked what she was doing. He supposes that the flecks of pastry crumbs on her clothes answered that, and he didn't ask other questions such as why she wanted to go to the Opera. He followed her as willingly as if she had simply asked for the time.
(Their whole relationship had been like that, hadn't it? A duty that extended beyond just an Archon and her Iudex. He once heard the Traveler mention a sea of flowers at the end of the world, and should Furina declare that she would like to see such a sight, he would tear down Celestia just to make it happen.)
Furina had packed a basket of food to bring, and two bottles of wine to go with. Then they partook perhaps more than they should've, and perhaps he should've questioned if Archons can get drunk, or if a Sovereign should be getting drunk with one. He definitely should have stopped her from going into the storerooms of the Epiclese and procuring even more for them. The memories start to get a little hazy after that, but he can vaguely recall a remark she made about the location not being the best choice, and that she wanted to get away from something. He can't recall who made the decision to go up, and have him help carry her as they climb to the roof, but suspects it was still her doing.
As clear as day, though, he can remember her smile, bathed in the light of the slowly rising sun as it crested over the waters of her dominion. Out of every beautiful sight in Fontaine, she is the one he gets to appreciate most often, but never before in a light like this. He could gaze at that moment for another hundred years and never tire of it. "Dragon of the waters," she had called him, "might you allow an Archon to call you theirs?"
Should she have asked him that at the start of her reign, should they have been in a similar situation, the answer would be clear. He might have even wondered, with the walls of the Court to block them from their peoples' sights, if an Archon so in love with her people would fall like one if he shoved her. But they were not in the past, and he already knew by then that he had come to love her, and thus his answer was "I was under the belief that I already was yours, Lady Furina, both within my capacity as your Chief Justice and without. The people of Fontaine adore you, yet it is my love for you that truly knows no bounds. Nothing would make me happier than to be yours."
"They do, don't they," she had whispered, a note he almost lost to time with how he just barely could hear her. "Promise me this, Neuvillette, if you wish to be mine- promise you will never stray from your duties to Fontaine, and you will always, always, do what is best for her people."
"I will."
"And promise that you will stay by my side forever, then, for another three centuries and beyond that, even if you grow tired of me!"
"Of course, Furina, is... is something the matter?"
It was the first time he had seen her come close to crying, droplets of tears clumping her eyelashes together yet disappearing as she blinked, "Oh, you silly dragon, only the fact that you make me ever so happy."
Leaving the warmth of the memory behind, Neuvillette returns to the cold of an overcast sky dripping with sleet, as a blue silhouette leaves him behind and disappears into the cloudy distance.
#i didn't feel like writing the beginning but it's just them getting into an argument over how they feel for each other#cause i love the idea of furina rejecting *everything* that anyone ever might have felt for her while she posed as an archon#bc then she'd have felt like they didn't love her. they loved *focalors*. they loved her for who she can pretend to be#and not for who she actually is.#she needs therapy!! so does he!! everyone in fontaine does!!#this may be barely edited but it's still getting posted :D#genshin#genshin impact#furina#neuvillette#neuvifuri#fanfiction#genshin fanfiction#angst#idk if anyone will see this but if anyone might start to be like “well *i* see them as having a parent-child or sibling relationship-”#do the fuck not. my headcanons do not invalidate yours and yours don't invalidate mine!#two people can interpret a canon relationship differently and that's okay! i also enjoy viewing them with a more familial relationship!#but i also enjoy getting to explore their characterizations within a romantic relationship! they've got multitudes! and that's fine!#and if you don't like something just block the tag and move on or smth you literally don't need to engage with anything if you don't want t#sorry for the rant!! love and peace everyone :D
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From what i've noticed, Proshippers are obsessed with criticism or criticism of why such a relationship is problematic, they say they are harassed, even though they have the same habit of harassing those who criticize them.
#proshitters dni#fuck proshitters#anti proshipper#anti proship#anti proshippers#proshipper cringe#anti proshitter#proshippers be like...#proshitters be like#i hate proshitters#i hate proshippers#proshitter cringe#proshippers are invalid#proshipper hypocrisy#i don't ship them#i don't ship it#proshippers dni#notart#not art#weirdarte's thoughts#technicallydelightfulpenguin#sincerious#sincerely#sincerity#sorry not sorry#truth#true that#true#not a stan is just me saying facts#i know the difference between fiction and reality but isn't a excuse to be hypocrital
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i think pro/anti ship discourse has some like toxic fumes in it. genuinely ive never met a single person who was deeply entrenched in it who had a single argument that held up. like all you guys are defining the same words 1 million different ways and assuming everyone agrees with you on word meaning when literally nobody does and then getting upset enough to kill when somebody with an entirely different interpretation of the words than u thinks something slightly different. also i don't get why those damn labels are even necessary. i think you guys should both call yourselves the normal correct fans and get way overblown upset about it. aren't there better things to do
#sorry to my handful of respected mutuals who do fall somewhere along that spectrum of identification i don't mean to invalidate ur thang.#simply i do not fucking get it. but like if we're mutuals atp that does mean i respect u. so.#txt#neg#sorry.saw that stupid fucking post come up on my recommended for some stupid fucking reason#pd lb
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I remove my mask (ADHD) only to reveal a second smaller mask underneath (Chronic Fatigue)
#chronic illness#chronic fatigue#adhd#not me slowly realizing that my energy levels are not in fact normal#took me 17 years to figure out that being in pain all the time wasn’t normal#of course it’s gonna take longer for me to find out that most people can do Multiple Big Things#and also#there’s this whole physical disabilities VS neurodivergencies that seems to have taken root in the disability community#which firstly I think is dumb because from what I’ve seen of chronic depression it acts a whole lot like chronic fatigue#and the brain is part of the body#and neurological disorders can absolutely be dehabilitating#driving wedges between these communities doesn’t help fucking anyone#especially when working together means more activism and pushing for resources and accommodations for everyone#but also because it tends to erase the people with both#because having both means that they stack onto eachother and make things even harder#my disability experience is fundamentally effected by my adhd#to focus on solely the physical stuff ignores just how much harder it is to have both#and really invalidates
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