#arospec and aplspec

[aroworlds]

[image description: six different cartoon-style bunting graphics, featuring six pride flags hanging from a brown rope. The flags are rectangular, finishing in a chevron shape, and have rows of brown stitching across the top of the flag and along the bottom of the chevron. First image in each set shows the flags with the topmost stripes facing the left; second image shows the three right-hand flags flipped, so all topmost edges face away from the centre of the bunting.

The first flag on each banner is an aromantic spectrum identity and alternates with the corresponding aplatonic spectrum pride flag. Banners in descending order: aro-spec and apl-spec, cassromantic and cassplatonic, ceaseromantic and ceaseplatonic, cupiroflux and cupioplflux, duraromantic and duraplatonic, mesi aromantic and mesi aplatonic.]

Aromantic and Aplatonic Bunting

Flags: aro-spec and apl-spec, cassromantic and cassplatonic, ceaseromantic and ceaseplatonic, cupiroflux and cupioplflux, duraromantic and duraplatonic, mesi aromantic and mesi aplatonic.

For flag creator posts, please see @aroflagarchive.

[angelheart-bunny]

people who deserve more respect and recognition:

intersex people

trans men

aromantic people

multigender people

people in qpr's

aplatonic people

[auggator]

not having sex is morally neutral. having sex is morally neutral

not engaging in romance is morally neutral. engaging in romance is morally neutral

not having friends is morally neutral. having friends is morally neutral

[edwardallenpoe]

Whenever I see aphobia this is all I can think about. If you think loveless people are "psychotic" or "narcissistic" or "broken" I know how you actually feel about disordered/disabled people. Just telling on yourself with this one chief.

[infiniteorangethethird]

sure "romantic" isn't the only type of love but also "love" isn't the only type of positive feeling. So maybe stop insisting everyone needs love to be happy and accept that loveless ppl exist? Pretty please?

[life-gives-you-lemons]

as someone who isn't even aplatonic, why does the arospec community put so much emphasis on the fact that you need platonic bonds and friendships to be happy?? there's infinite types of bonds, it feels hypocritical to try and force a community into a label when that's exactly what we're against.

anyways. date. or don't. befriend people. or don't. it's none of my business!! do what makes YOU happy!! please!!

[dhddmods]

Cishet =/= not queer. Conformant is the word you are looking for.

The opposite of queer is conformant. We are so sick of people saying "cishet" when they mean conformant.

A person could be...

-Intersex and cishet.

-Transcis/Cistrans/Trisgender and hetero (ie; some intersex people, some multigender people, etc.)

-Cishet and genderqueer.

-A-spec (anae-spec, afam-spec, apl-spec, asen-spec, ace-spec, aro-spec, aroace-spec, etc) and cishet.

-Cis and heteroflexible.

-Cishet and objectum.

-Cishet and auto-spec.

-Cishet with nontraditional attraction (queerplatonic, alterous, waveric, etc.)

There are many other examples, but you get the point! You can be cis and het while also being queer!

[januscorner]

Thought this would be funny, credit if you use

[radioactive-yuri]

reflecting on it all, i really think one issue that the aspec community refuses to actually talk about (or, at least, those of us who aren't affected by it refuse to talk about) is that acceptence of aromanticism is still entirely conditional.

i'm not aplatonic myself, but even i can see how the aspec community excludes them. like, yeah, sure, being aromantic is cool!...as long as you still experience platonic attraction and have platonic relationships and replace romance with friendship at every turn.

and if you're aromantic, you also have to be asexual. because sex without romance is immoral and dirty and abusive. and every aroallo is an invader who's trying to destroy your perfect, pure, sex-negative aspec community. if an aromantic is not asexual, they are not a valid aromantic.

if you've ever found yourself wondering why aplatonics and aroallos alike have their own small communities instead of just being a part of the wider aspec community, this is why. you drove us away.

and your acceptence of aromanticism is still entirely conditional.

[aaa-battery-not-rechargeable]

A does not stand for ally, it stands for ASPECS. aros and aces and agenders and aplatonics and ASPECS damn it.

i will fucking swallow a motherfucker whole if I hear that argument again.

[flagautismguy]

alt ace-spec, aro-spec and apl-spec flags

symbols used : 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6

based on these flags : 1, 2, 3, 4

[theexhaustedqueer]

Guys, there’s a really obvious enemy here and— Oh! What a surprise!

It isn’t each other.

[basil-being-afamilial]

Oh my fucking god aspec isn't just arospec and acespec and it's getting on my fucking nerves seeing people be like "I support aspecs!! Aros and aces are welcome here!!" Those two sentences mean different things. Aros and aces are aspecs but so are aplatonic people, afamilial people, analterous people, a-aesthetic people, asensual people, et cetera.

[auggator]

if you can understand that sex and romance aren’t essential to the human experience, you can understand that friends and platonic feelings aren’t either.

[fun-k-boards]

All aspec people are awesome as fuck

[lovelessrage]

Yes, normalize "I love you" not always being romantic. At the same time, normalise asking someone if they are comfortable with it. I cannot count how many times someone thought platonic meant "no boundary questions required" and thought the fact it was platonic was enough. Yes, normalise this expression being used in this way. Yes, normalise boundaries around platonic love.