#greyromantic identity

[blole-hack]

Requiteromantic (updated)- A romantic orientation characterized by the need for feelings to be mutual in order for romantic feelings to persist or deepen.

while recipromantic is defined that its a requirement for the person to like them first (to reciprocate), a requiteromantic will like the person first, but immediately does not like the person romantically anymore when their romantic attraction cannot be requited or is not requited.

Like, seriously, the romantic attraction will suddenly disappear. no more romantic desire at all. could still have other lingering feelings like emotional attraction, but no more drive for romance.

Etymology - Requiteromantics are not unrequited romantics as romantic feeligns disappear once unrequitedness is evident to them.

For some, feelings are still considered unrequited even if the person likes them back if they do not or cannot like them in the same depth as they have

Flag explanation:

Gray - Stable, calm, detachment (after rejection/unrequitedness). It is also because this label is closer to grayromanticism than pure aro since it initiates instead of starting off as none Lighter blue - tranquility and peace with unrequitedness/rejection Deeper blue - True feelings, even if its not apparent to some due to how easy it is moving on if someone does not like them

Blue could also represent logic, as requiteromantics will not be attracted to people that logically cannot like them back at all like people that are not attracted to their gender.

pattern is derived from the recipromantic flag but reversed because its kind of like recipromantic but in reversed order, not the opposite.

Why I believe it counts as aromantic/aspec

It is a greyspec identity since the person feels attraction only in specific circumstances.

little to no desire for a romantic relationship with specific people because you will kinda just stop caring at the end of the day since you also GENUINELY cannot be into people that are not into you <- i know that is very uncommon and similar to recipromantic people's experiences as well

It is similar to Frayromantic, as feelings disappear when a condition is met (a person not liking them)

Requite- flag (base flag can be used or modified for every attraction type forgot to include them again my bad)

[our-arospec-experience]

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[ace-sher-bi-john]

Just wanted to reaffirm to myself and the world that romance-favorable aros are valid. Greyromantics, demiromantics and any other aro-spec identities that experience occasional romantic attraction are valid. Aromantics who for whatever reason still desire and take part in romantic relationships are valid.

It's been a bit of a rough ride to get to where I know this to be true. When I first found out I was aroace, I felt broken for identifying as aroace and still wanting to get married someday. It felt like I was lying in some way, or that I was betraying the aromantic community by wanting what by definition of being aromantic, I should never want. I felt guilty knowing my future partners would feel things towards me that I would never be able to feel in return.

I know that most of the aromantic affirmations are themed around wanting to make sure that aromantics in general know they are valid in an amatonormative world. Most aromantics experience the exact opposite problem as me, not feeling valid in having zero desire for romantic relationships (which is of course valid, romance-indifferent, romance-averse and romance-repulsed aros are very much valid). But there is next to nothing on the internet that I've been able to find saying that it's okay to be aromantic and romance favorable. You're not betraying the community in some way. You're valid too.

So here's that post. If you are romance-favorable and aro-spec, you're valid too. Don't feel as though your identity forces you into a box. The label that fits you best isn't tailor made specifically for you and you can do whatever you want to make it your own.

[lifesizecorpsekit]

oh no! i was so comfortable with my aroace label why why why why sexuality crisis why again? you cannot let me have a peaceful year without either gender identity or sexuality crisis now can you

[arcticthef0x]

Having a species crisis (there is something here that's not fox or cat and it seems space related I? Think?) and a sexuality crisis (am I just pansexual? Am I pansexual greyromantic? Am I greysexual and greyromantic? Am I just fully aroace?) sure is. Fun-

[justablah56]

think I'm currently experiencing a crush for the first time in like . 5-6 years and what the fuck . how do you allos just . deal with this . I don't . how do you even function .

[boosystem]

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HelloOoOo there! Welcome to my first blog. Here’s just a quick introduction about me. I am not the most interesting girl ever but I am nice and enjoy to make new friends so don’t hesitate to befriend me or become mutuals.

You can call me So Young or Boo

I have  OSDD/P-DID, ADD and schizophrenia.

We are a traumagenic system

I am 21 years old.

I am French

I am a big fans of horror and anime.

My hobbies are crocheting, reading, photography, playing video games, writing, literature.

I am an INFP

I am under the AroAceSpec

I think I am a lesbian?? Not 100% sure but WLW 🏳️‍🌈

I am a shifter since 2019/ 2020.

I love cats they’re my favorite <3 I got 4 babies at home

Simply plural : soyoungsys

I love doing craft with yarn.

My Queens are literally Billie Eilish and Melanie Martinez 🫶🏻

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[your-pal-nebula]

Do you still count as aroflux if you're alloromantic most of the time but do have aro days/times and occasionally days where you just feel very weak romantic attraction/desire? Genuine question, I'm trying to figure myself out right now

[lore-gore]

Okay so since I ship Alastor with my oc I've been headcanoning him as grey ace. Well I did more research and I think I may change it to Uniromantic, which the MOGAI wiki defines as: "someone who feels romantic attraction towards one person and one person only, for advanced periods of time, or perhaps one’s whole lifetime. This is a more specific form of greyromantic, in which one only experiences romantic attraction a very small amount of times in their life. Once one is attracted to someone they will not experience romantic attraction to anyone else. One will be attracted to this one person regardless of their own or the other person's changing gender, sexuality, or appearance. One will be attracted to this one person for a long period of time and feels as though they will not experience romantic attraction to anyone else for the foreseeable future. "

Aka what I've been doing with him the entire time.

[frogjune]

sometimes i get myself all worried about whether or not im a lesbian when i don't immediately feel attraction towards women / thinking about them doesn't instantly spark things but then i remember that i am probably somewhere on the ace spectrum too so its ok bcs i can still be a lesbian

[plato-bfs]

acquiromantic : feels limited or alterous attraction but is open to both romantic and nonromantic relationships. similar to how a panromantic person may be open to both homoromantic and heteromantic relationships, an acquiromantic person may be neutral in preference between romantic and platonic relationships.

title derived from acquiescence - to accept without protest, as accepting either romantic or platonic relationships without protest

flag colors display neutral tones, representing neutral feelings towards different types of relationships

(created and designed by brennon lane, user @plato-bfs)

[clever-username-0103]

Just wanted to say happy Aro Week to everyone!!!! No matter where you fall on the spectrum, or whether you're in the closet or not, remember that this week is for YOU. Have a great rest of the week!

[dentixvoxel]

random shout-out to greyromantic/aromantic people who are also allosexual.

[genderfuck249]

Want to chat

Looking for someone to chat with because I’m bored, open to anyone. didn’t think to make this longer (Not looking for a relationship)

[moonjade]

I love being aro-spec but I can’t shake the feeling that I’m “faking it” :/

[ceo-of-sloppy-men]

When you start having a identity crisis after you think you’ve figured out your identity