#arospec identities

[aaa-battery-not-rechargeable]

we as a queer community don't talk enough about the reality that some people are forcibly outed.

i was forcibly outed and it is jarring and uncomfortable and i wasn't ready for it. it's emotionally violating, and you cannot ever go back into the closet.

the reality is, some people are just not safe, just not trustworthy, and don't actually value your well-being.

it shapes your experience in the world, especially for a young child to learn that someone they thought was trustworthy is not actually willing to protect them. it sets up the basis for fear, and denial, and repression. it cements in someone's brain that no one is to be trusted with your identity, and that you are somehow wrong.

it's never a good thing to tell someone to repress their identity, but the reality is that some people do not have queer safety in their minds. some people do not care.

[lovelessrage]

Shoutout to mean aros. Aros that are a hard pill to swallow. Aros that aren't palatable. Aros that are angry, cold, and distant. Aros that don't want to be "good representation". Aros that don't love and don't care what's said about it. Aros that do love and don't care who understands it. Aros that don't sit right with alloromos. Aros that want to be left alone and don't want to talk. Aros that are loud and opinionated and refuse to shut up. Aros that are bitter. Aros that don't want to answer questions about their labels. You shouldn't need to be warm and approachable to earn respect for your aromanticism and avoid harassment from arophobes.

[knifearo]

ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story

[shmaroace]

"you can't be aromantic if-" actually labels are inherently personal, you aren't entitled to know why i picked a label, and also i can do whatever the fuck i want

[chrishangry]

Let me just say as someone who hides a lot of myself in public how nice it is to see aroace and gender flux folks like me being unapologetically proud of expressing their nonbinary attraction and identity. I’m proud of you and I want to be like you when I grow up….even though I’m 35

[feelingthedisaster]

i just love how aspecs are so present on tumblr. not only posts about being aspec, but in posts about literally anything else, you see the profile picture of the original poster/reblogger and it has a aspec pride flag on it

[redysetdare]

"This fandom is so queer friendly!" This fandom literally hates, bisexual, trans, nonbinary, and aspec people but ok.

[aspenonpawzzz]

27 days till June

my fellow queers, start preparing. put on ur binder, take ur pills, put on ur flag.

we ride at dawn, June first.

[greenteaandtattoos]

You know what? 

You’re SO valid if you’ve met someone(s) that’s causing you to reconsider your identity as aromantic.

You’re SUPER valid if you identified as completely aromantic, but realized that you’re somewhere else on the spectrum.

You’re ABSOLUTELY also valid if you used or continue to use aromantic as an umbrella term.

[aromantic-diaries]

My favorite argument against literally anything like "it's not natural" or something along those lines is simply I Don't Care

[demi-romantics]

Feel free to tag your gender identity if you would like or if I forgot to list it!

[aaa-battery-not-rechargeable]

there's something i don't like about using the word 'valid' in conversations about queerness. 'valid' implies that someone or something has to be approved, and that there is someone doing the approving. i don't need approval from society or other queers to be what i am. you can't 'validate' my identity if i don't need to search for approval.

[arofulboyfriend]

obviously you should respect the original tags on any post you reblog, like if you reblog an aroallo's post don't tag it as asexual because that's rude and erasing OPs identity (unless they say it's okay of course), but if someone makes their own post and tags it as aromantic but it's talking about sex instead of romance, that's not mistagging, and you should believe them when they say that their relationship with sex is a part of their romantic orientation, because it probably is.

not all aspecs use the SAM nor are they required to pretend to do so for your comfort. believe aspecs when they say their experiences are tied to their identity, even if it isn't the same identity you would use, I'm begging you.

[arromantica-lucha]

the fact that my friend discovered she was demisexual and aromantic because she met me and i explained what those were is why its so important that aspec identities get talked about in the real world and not just online cause a lot of people just wont ever be in these spaces

[shmaroace]

i'm going to be honest that yes i do love increased awareness of asexuality but i am so, so tired of having aromanticism purposefully ignored because "there's ace rep!!". asexuality and aromanticism are NOT the same thing and they both deserve representation and awareness outside of each other.

[sleepssonicsideblog]

IM AROACE AND ABOUT TO MAKE IT EVERYONE’S PROBLEM!!!!!!!!!!!!