#heartbreak advice

[bsidebookslug]

Heartbreak in your 20's

Anyone out there have any advice for managing heartbreak when you're in your mid-20s, lived with them, got a dog together and then suddenly they discover they can't be with you right now because of their dwindling mental health?

Anything to make the pain subside for even a second would be much appreciated <3

[justkenz]

Hey friend, I'm dealing with a phenomenally painful breakup (aren't they all though) from a 10+ year relationship. I'm really desperate for any help and advice for how to truly process and feel my emotions, and then how to take advantage of the opportunity for healing and growth provided. But I feel like total shit, have no willpower right now, have never doubted myself so much in my life before, and every waking moment is full of fear and anxiety. Grateful for any help or advice or empathy. Hope you're doing well, truly

Hey friend! wow I am sooo sorry you are going through that! That definitely would be painful!

I think the best advice I can give you is even though it is extremely painful, you have to let yourself feel the feelings, don't force yourself to just get over it, or box it up and try to push it down. Right now, you get to grieve, mourn the loss, and know that it's okay to be sad or hurt, or however, you are feeling.

But, this is the most important thing to remember, know that you will be okay, that right now you are grieving, but you will pick yourself up, and start living your life again.

You made a life with this person for 10+ years, that is a lot of memories, plans, a whole life that no longer exists, and now you are left to start over from scratch, which is extremely overwhelming and can seem impossible. But, I know that you will get through this.

Use this time to grieve, but also use this time to grow, learn about yourself, and who you are as an individual, and use your experience with your partner to teach you what you might want or not want in your next (which I know might seem like not something you want to think about right now),

but the whole point is that you are strong, you will get through this, and above all, be gentle with yourself 🤍

Keep me updated with how you are doing, if you want! 🤍

[lipikkawrites]

A lot will go wrong before everything goes right.

Keep moving forward.

-@lipikkawrites

[whendidmythoughtsgocrazy]

If you don’t accept me at my worst I make sure you won’t ever see the best of me.

k.b. // u never deserved my best in the first place

[minimalist-quotes]

A lot will go wrong before everything goes right. Keep moving forward

-@lipikkawrites

[conscious-love]

Even at your absolute best, you still won't be right for the wrong person.

Karen Salmansohn

[academic-vampire]

Do you remember how you saved your stickers for the perfect spot to stick them? Do you remember how seriously you waited—how important this decision was?

Why do you not do the same thing with your heart? Why do you give your heart out so easily when you saved your stickers for perfection?

[triplethreat77]

There are many people that will go quiet on you and those people aren't for you. In the moment, you will try and convince yourself that you did something wrong, they are worth going after - they are not your energy babes. After mistakes and heartbreaks, you will eventually find someone that fucking loves your double texting, your weird scars, your silly stories, and looks forward to seeing a notification from you. Maybe even praises and compliments you. It might not be perfect, but it feels good - and you should feel good. This person means well and will continue to try to see you smile. If they aren't obsessed with you? They aren't your person.

[ae-cha08]

[errolzunic]

We have nothing in common but our pain. And if we heal each other, what would be left ?

[uncanny-tranny]

I think it's only natural to feel anger when somebody isn't "taking your advice" or listening to you about their mental health or what will help them. People want to help people, and the anger comes when you are perceiving somebody as not being receptive but...

It can be a selfish impulse to say that your opinion about their illness is the only thing they need. It isn't about you, even though the advice you give is given by you.

Nobody deserves to suffer, this is true. But, also, nobody deserves to be forced to do things that either won't help or won't be genuine. If somebody isn't taking your advice, there's a reason for it (maybe it's not a good enough reason for you, but this isn't the point). It's okay to be disappointed or angry, but it's not going to help to lash out at them. That is only pouring water onto a grease fire.

[justkenz]

How to get over someone who doesn’t love you back?

Ugh, this is tough, and I am so sorry if you are going through this!

I think the biggest thing to remind yourself is that person will never love you back the way you want to be loved, or the way that you love them. You deserve to find someone who will love you, value you, enjoy you, and respect you.

It can be hard to come to the realization that this person does not, and likely will never, love you back the way you hoped they would, but it is so important to realize this in order to be able to heal and grow past this.

Be gentle with yourself, it will take time, but you will get through this🤍

Take care of yourself!

[lipikkawrites]

Today, take a few minutes to sit quietly and be thankful for all that you have.

-@lipikkawrites

[whendidmythoughtsgocrazy]

The moment you understand and can answer that question as to why they hurt you, you become them.

k.b. // @/coachlorrainelindsey - tiktok

[usefulquotes7]

Therefore, do not hesitate to make a mistake and continue searching until you find the right person. k.b. // human design analysis

[conscious-love]

Value yourself. The only people who appreciate a doormat are people with dirty shoes.

Leo F. Buscaglia