#polysensual

[oh-my-im-ply]

Recently was told that being attracted to women and enbies "doesn't count as attraction to multiple genders," and that if you're attracted to women and enbies, you "should just identify as lesbian or straight."

As if nonbinary people are just an extension of women. As if nonbinary genders aren't real genders. As if enbian attraction is just an extension of sapphic or romeric attraction instead of a valid and beautiful experience in its own right.

And the person who told me this shit was also nonbinary.

I'm so tired.

[the-delta-quadrant]

[silliest-fckindumbboy]

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🔪 The body is 26; Agefluid, multiage- mainly nepedage and traumatot, but I also sometimes linger around the body's age

🦷 Agender, transmasc, boycunt, periboy, offboy, bordergender

🔪 Polyromantic, hyperromantic

🦷 Polysensual, polarsensual, hypersensual [unless touch-repulsed due to fatigue, low energy, sensory overload, etc.]

🔪 Greyace, hypersexual

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We got the 'tism

ICT survivor

I have so much trauma, & always happy to share & talk about it [for anyone!] (I'm cisharmed, cisgroomed, cisabused, cisICTsurvivor, cistortured, cisSA/CSA, cisraped.. etc.)

Chronically ill & physically disabled!🫀

🪦I AM a radqueer! Get outta here if you cant deal with that! Im super duper inclusive & believe everyone has a right to be themselves (even if I may not agree with them!) I have absolutely no room in my life, my heart, or my safe space for hate, drama, or discourse!!! Im also a [REDACTED]queer! I value privacy & non-disclosure of stances or other information, I think everyone has a right to discretion & safety within the community & elsewhere. My business is no one's business unless I say so- no one's business is my business unless they say so. All information, conversation, etc. with me is strictly confidential. I dont believe in call outs or other forms of non-consenual information disclosure. 🪦

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[mogaidori]

My Monica headcanons (☆▽☆)

[Pt: My Monica headcanons (☆▽☆). End pt]

Tsukushi Futaba is musicbodiment, angelcringe, caedsexual, sillyb?y, apolladox, alloace, flitallion, friegroupportic, lesbian, hushgirl, blanketfrilled, 🫀🏹emojic, transmasc and a saphboy!

Rui Yashio is silencesoundic, nonbinary, friegroupportic, cemeangelstatua, trigender, flitallion, transfloral, kosmimal, girlboy, musicbodiment, oleandtyric, transolar, polysensual and a lesbian!

Nanami Hiromachi is friegroupportic, bizarreaesic, frilloripup, parantogirl, sillygirl, patchgirl, lesbian, flitallion, musicbodiment, girlsonigender, weirdritic, urbivakarsian, reciproromantic and greyromantic!

Mashiro Kurata is sunceandow, friegroupportic, gai, lesbian, g?rl, lopboy, phoscoolial, phosoulqueerial, facelessneutral, les4les, flitallion, lesbigender, lesbivesi and musicbodiment!

Toko Kirigaya is flitallion, arovesil, valentienoaesive, deadgirl, friegroupportic, lesbian, afterhourssic, sweesomnal, musicbodiment, pupcute, bloomsick, arofluid, aro4aro and aromantic!

[lesewut]

✨❤️When a book, becomes a polysensual experience ❤️✨

Milton, J. “Paradise Lost” with illustrations of Gustave Doré, originally published 1667, this edition is from 1885.

[posi-pan]

[ID: a peach background with three signs that read, "ply pride", "pan pride", and "omni pride" in black, each with their flag colors. Black text above them reads, "happy pride to ply, pan, and omni people! your identities get debated and hated, but you are a historic, important part of the community, and you deserve to take pride in that and yourselves." End ID.]

happy pride to the mspec folks who are constantly getting hated or erased by the community!!!! 💗💚💛💙

[tapet-wallpapers]

polysensual backgrounds/wallpapers

polysensual is like polysexual but with sensual attraction.

[m-grouped]

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Requested by / For: Matt (M-Group) [me!!]

In order, the flags are: Aegosexual, Alexmosexual, Aversifinattractional, Breace, (caed-)Vincian, Callisexual, Cogitarisexual, Esthesiosexual, Erosflux, Idisexual, Lithosexual, Peculiace, Polarsensual, Polysensual, Nofinattractional, Sexuexperial Sensual, Troumaric

[rainycrowssystem]

╭ 🐝 ── Bea/Rue/Gregory ˖⁺. ༶ ⋆˙⊹

⬡⬢┊➤ Age: 12

・➤ ₊˚ Gender: paradoxgender, Schrodigender, xenogender collector,

⬡⬢┊➤ Pronouns: he/him they/them em/er it/its gho/ghost 👻/👻s

・➤ ₊˚ Sexuality: polysensual, omnisexual, split attraction, Tertiary Attraction, ace-spec, aro-spec

⬡⬢┊➤ Likes: art, minecraft, MCYT, cosplay, collecting things, pride flag making , Dimond dotting

・➤ ₊˚ Species: non human ghost

╰ ˖⁺. ༶ ⋆˙⊹ ── 🐝

[beguines]

The Word will be incarnate as flesh; without incarnation, it remains inaudible, spoken to no one. The light becomes flesh, too; without this becoming, it remains invisible, its shining indistinguishable from darkness. Flesh is not simply that which blocks the light but that which makes possible the very fact of illumination, as both medium and object of luminosity. Flesh, which is both Light and Word, is also the medium of touch, which enfolds and cuts across a nearly bewildering array of meanings. And so this spiritual son, who is also God, is given to the material world through a polysensuous presentation: sound, sight, surface.

Karmen MacKendrick, Words Made Skin: Figuring Language at the Surface of Flesh

[oh-my-im-ply]

Happy pride month to all polysexual, polyromantic, and otherwise ply-oriented people out there!

Plain text: Happy pride month to all polysexual, polyromantic, and otherwise ply-oriented people out there!

[varioriented-pride]

Variangled | Periangled flags

Vari-angled (or vari-angular): people with differing orientations that are unlimited to just romantic or sexual attractions, applying additionally tertiary forms of attraction. I.e. aroallo grey-aplatonic; biplatonic panro asexual.

Peri-angled (or peri-angular): people with identical orientations, not limited to just romantic or sexual ones, including tertiary attractions; not having any type of crisscrossed orientations. E.g. aplatonic ace; polysensual polyro.

I asked @official-angledaroace before using -angled (from angled aroace) for these situations. Flags are based on vari-oriented/peri-oriented by BMPF. I personally consider my sensual and platonic forms of attraction to be split/varioriented, but that’s a descriptivist point of view, the coinage of -oriented delimited romantic/sexual labels only, perioriented seems to be a conforming norm (periorientism), while both periangular and variangular are orientation variants.

You can use these terms as standalone identities, useful for non-SAM (folks not using split attraction model) not specifying everything, plus semi-SAM, reidems & ays.

[lowercase-gay]

For those who don’t know me from my other blog. I’m Agender. Legally Female. Gay (with a lowercase G); I like boys and girls, all the in between and off the scales. If you like me, no matter your gender, it sorta kinda means you’re gay. Sorry, that’s the rules. Anyway, have a nice day.

[overelegantstranger]

I had a headache at the time I saw your original post so I didn't feel up to engaging with it much, but if/when you have the time and energy, please could you expand on your behaviour model of queerness? (feel free to answer privately or publicly, whichever you prefer)

Hey,yeah, so! First off, sorry this took me a little bit to get to; I wasn'toperating on full brain for a while there. Anyway, the idea of Queerness as aDiscrete Identity only really started to happen in the late 1800s, when EdwardCarpenter (a gay guy in a long-running relationship, incidentally) startedyelling about it. This is part of an attempt to assert queerness as a thingseparate from morals, as a part of one's identity and as something thatdeserves a struggle for rights same as any other demographic.

I agree withthis, just in case anyone watching this thinks I want queer folks to end uplike Oscar Wilde and Simeon Solomon. I don't. But, nevertheless, in my personalopinion we lost something, as queer people, when the identity-centered approachCarpenter started took hold. The thing about identity centered approaches isthat they more easily create an us/them dynamic. Queer people become discreteunits that Straight Society can dismiss as a "them", when before - asDeborah Lutz puts it in my favourite ever book ever, "if people discoveredsuch things as sodomy existed, they might try it for themselves". StraightSociety is, by and large (but not Fully) "safe" from that anxietynow.

You're either "Gay", or you're"Straight"; you're a "them" or an "us". Thisforms an essential bracketing off of experience, because identities areactually much slippier. The lines between trans identity and gay identity areincredibly slippy, for example. Carpenter himself articulates gay male identityas having a "woman's soul". Trans and gay identities are very closelywound together; to be gay, in the late 1800s and early 1900s, is to begenderqueer.

This got separated out; I'm not sure what came first, greaterunderstanding of transness or respectability politics, but nevertheless, to adegree, identity politics allowed this distinction to happen because it hadlaid down a framework in which there could be uses and thems with regard to sexuality and non-cis gender experiences. Once"them" became a discrete class rather than just an immoral version of"us", it could be further distinguished and shifted, by both the inand out groups. I am not sure of quite the dynamics at play here but queernessgot stripped of its aspects until the only difference between the"us" and the "them" was the gender of the person you hadsex with. This was your identity, now; this was a Category you could exist in.It gained some nuances (Carpenter suggests all queer men are effeminate andarty) and lost others (your gender wasn't inherently slippery, any more). Butbecause of that slimlining of the categories, lots of people found themselveswithout category. Due to the new framework, we make identity after identity.That's fine. I have no problem with that. But categories come with measuringdevices, and all out-groups measure you for "fitness".

I've lost my thread. Anyway, you start with two distinctcategories. "Gay" and "Straight". "Gay" lost itsgenderqueerness quite early, if I recall, though I'm not sure of the actualdynamics. "Bi" immediately troubles this bracket, because you can'tfit bi folk into either. They don't measure up to the requirements of thecategories. This is why, in my opinion, a lot of biphobic folks will fall backon behavioural models. They'll use your behaviour to try and figure out whereyou fall. Rightly, a lot of bi people have fought against this and establishedfor themselves their own box.

Mainstream queer history is the constant creationof boxes. I don't necessarily disagree with this; I certainly see the impulse.But boxes necessitate measuring yourself. You have to always be enough to fitin the box, even if you made it for yourself. You're always seperated, even ifyou share a line with another person's box. Everything you do is measuredagainst the box. If your identity changes or your understanding of yourselfdevelops, you have to change the dimensions of your box (generally impossible,because we don't have personal control over many of the boxes. Boxes can changeshape if enough inhabitants decide it needs to change, but most of the time wejust move boxes).

This is an exhausting process because it requires you watchyourself at all times, to measure every aspect every time it changes. This is,in my opinion, especially exhausting because of the lines we've put up aboutnot claiming words unless you fit this box or that box, not talking about thisissue if you're not a Known Inhabitant of Box 54 And You Can Prove It. Likebringing an electric bill to prove your address, you have to present yourexperiences to prove your box-membership. So we become constantly aware and onedge; constantly waiting to whip out a ruler and measure, to prove to ourselvesor others that we belong.

Another aspect of identity models is that the act ofboxing isolates one part of your identity from another. Your gender is hangingaround in one box, while your sexuality throws a ball against the wall ofanother, and never the twain shall meet. What happens if you feel those aspectsare intertwined? What if, as I have seen often, you feel more a man whenattracted to men and more a woman when attracted to women? What if you feel youfit the definition of cis woman but your attraction to women makes you feeldistanced from womanhood in some way? What if you're aroace and a woman but youfeel isolated from the "woman" box because so many of your fellowinhabitants are allo? Do you make a new box to hold All of you or do you justcontend with living with your identities boxed apart?

Constant measuring is stressful and painful and confusingand I reject the lot of it. I reject the idea that my identity can be boxed.I open myself to the idea that my orientation and gender do not have to be pegson which my identity hangs; I open myself out to the possibility that none ofit fucking well matters. I am queer, and that's it. All the little pieces of itdon't matter. There's nothing to measure, nothing to live up to; I'm queerbecause I reject "straight" norms, and that's it. I'm not going toreplace it with another set of norms just so that I can wave my electric billin front of a REG.  What I do is moreimportant to me than whether I could fit this identity or that identity. How Ibehave is more important to me than proving I belong.

I could call myselfa polysensual, polyalterous gray-ace, aromantic androgyne; I could chase categories until every aspectof me is defined. Those categories, however, because every spare corner isfilled up with gatekeepers and discoursers, require things of you.

Polysensualrequires you to evaluate what you want from people and who you want it from,and not only what you would do butyour gut responses, the hypotheticals, the maybes. Polyalterous requires you,even though the very word is meant to mean a slipperiness between friendshipand romance, to make sure you can’t tellthe difference. Aroace requires you, again, to understand distinctions youmay not even be able to read. It requires you to measure every incident of attractionagainst a measure you don’t understand and feel constantly like someone’s goingto look through your list of attractions and make sure you count as aromantic,as ace.

Does the single time I felt sexual attraction to some celebrity discountme? Was I really talking myself into this crush or that crush? The time Iwanted a male classmate to look at me, to be impressed with me, to hold my handand kiss me – is that a romantic crush? Was that alterous, because of the timea bit later when I was dating a roommate and I felt full of glass? Androgynerequires you to examine your whole life, to evaluate yourself against girlnessand boyness and every time you tip away from one or towards another or away fromthe system entire, you find yourself lost and confused and remeasuring, but everytime you measure the ruler has changed dimensions.

I chose other words, but those too leave you dogged by the feelingthat you’re not enough, that you don’t deserve those words or communities ordefinitions; that someone’s going to see right into you and find you don’t fit.I got tired of it, I got pissed off. I’m sick of the idea that something elseinside me can be measured; that what I choose and want and claim is somehowless important than some essential Inner Self.

I fully support the use of labels, self-identification, thewaving of flags, the coining of words. I think everyone should have access toall the tools they possibly can find in order to find communities, to feel likethemselves, to understand themselves, to be understood. I don’t believe thatany identity inherently requires extreme self-analysis but I think the systemwe have, certainly on tumblr and online more generally, is sliding rapidlytowards requiring it.  I do not mean tosuggest that everyone should take ona behavioural model for themselves. I do however think that the climate we haveonline is making things less helpful, more opaque, via constant gatekeeping.

That is not a fault of the labels themselves, but it is a consequenceof identity-based models falling prey to respectability politics andauthoritarian mindsets.

That is not a fault of the labels themselves, but it is a consequenceof identity-based models falling prey to respectability politics andauthoritarian mindsets.

Moving away from a behavioural model was, at first, a goodthing, because it moved discussions of queerness away from morality. It did,however, wash us up where we are now – full of “discourse” and infighting andconstant, constant measuring.

Not everyone is going to be unhappy with the system as it isand that’s fine. Perhaps in encouraging them to do as they want while I do as Iwant I’m making another box, but perhaps I’m not.

There are aspects of the identity model I keep, but wordsand definitions have become less important to me as I’ve gone on. It is, forinstance, important to my sense of self now that I use he/him, that I feel asense of odd kinship with those troubling, “effete”, arty, dandyish, decadent,immoral gentlemen of the late eighteen-nineties. How I specifically define mysexuality is less important to me than the fact that I’m with Book, that I’mgoing to be with Book my whole damn life. How I define my sexuality is lessimportant to me than what I actually do and who do it with. It’s imperfect. I’mnot sure I’ll ever be able to fully move away from an identity-model in someform, partly because the identity-model is so pervasive that if you refuse anidentity you’re presumed cis and straight. This is happening even now with queer; even though queer is itself anidentity label, its lack of measurability has lead it to be considered spicy cishet.

If any box can be redefined as “cishet” the second a morevocal box disagrees with it, I don’t want to play by those rules and wait to bemade cishet; I want my behaviour to speak for me. I want people to have to consider me queer because theycan see I’m not-straight, I want to evade those who would shove me intostraightness just because I don’t fit their boxes.

[dusk-dawn-longposts]

My Tumblr (Neuroqueerflux) ~#Transpersonal matrixial #emergentist-#emanationist process-relational #Rhizomatic materialist #Anticapitalist ~#Autistic (pro dx Level 2, 2016 self-dx as Level 1 in '14). Semi-verbal. Partial intellectual disability ~Phys-Disabled/crip (post-neuroleptic tardive #dyskinesia [laryngeal adductor breathing #dystonia // oropharnyngeal #myoclonus // nasopharyngeal spasm, #torticollis], pro dx 2015, first observed clinically in 2008) ~♦#ENTP♦ (tested by professionals, but one said i "seem INFJ", conferred enfp with #Socionics + #Big5), ~♠"assertive" subtype♠ (per commercial testing) ~[Russian mbti]: ♦C–#ILE–Se♦ (Creative ENTP, "Force-recombining" subtype') ~[Temperament]: ♠#Choleric-Phlegmatic♠ ~[#Oldham traits]: ♦Adventurous–Conscientious–Idiosyncratic♦ ~[SLOAN/global5]: ♠Calm (9.6 /10) > Inquisitive (9.2 /10) Social (8.8 /10) > Egocentric (7.1 /10) > Unstructured (5.8 /10)♠ ~[#MOTIV/little5]: ♦Vital > Subjunctive > Offbeat > Withholding > Emotivistic♦ ~[Cognitive functions strength, which is why i seem like INFJ]: ♠Ni>Fe>Ti>Fi>Se>Ne>Te>Si♠ ~[#Enneagram]: ♦#8w9–6w7–4w3 (SO/sx subtype)♦ ♥♥EIGHT (°"The Rock"° ✓magnanimity+initiative✓, ☠️territoriality+ruthlessness☠️) ~ ♥♥SIX (°"The Loyalist"° ✓fidelity+thoroughness✓, ☠️vaccillation+ambivalence☠️) ~ ♥♥FOUR (°"The Individual"° ✓connection+accesibility✓, ☠️brooding+self-sabotage☠️) ~ ♦♦♦ GENDER ~Para-nesciōaporaflux adepto-yingender (neuro‐‐#aporagender w/ affinity for fem ppl socially), socially Ludo-vestifaun (expression) ~#Pronouns= they/them for starters, then with good friends it's w/e vibe other person gets from me at any given time. Their choice; otherwise apathetic. No "It/its" ATTRACTION ~Faunsexual, faunqueerplatonicfluid/-#alterous‐fluid, polysensual, panaffectionate, full #aromantic ~Atyp-dysphoric nb. ~30yo, Out irl simply as n‐b +bi+aro, ca. 21yo, "meh, bi, gay, #bi, #queer, pan, shrug," ca. 13yo, if inquired/relevant) ~Specifics are for #neuroqueer effects, attraction prefs., etc) ~Present gender based on convenience & tactile sensory preferences ~Expression= apathetic, sometimes #queerpunk ~Closed #polyamory with #polyfidelty. 2,3,or 5 ppl in #polycule preferred https://www.instagram.com/p/CPDOMVALC_Z/?utm_medium=tumblr

[posi-pan]

It’s so easy to support pan, omni, ply, any other mspec labels not mentioned as a bi person, and I do so, I think y’all are fantastic and I’m glad y’all found an identity that you are comfortable with, I am metaphorically shaking your hand if you’re comfortable with that.

💙💙💙💙💙💙