#trauma-informed care

[gracegrove]

I know I should've written this quote down because it was literally that good while I was in training the other day. But it was something like

"Don't punish the past. Protect the future."

The main point being if you try to only come after someone and punish someone about their past, or behaviors that they have done, or what they have done wrong. Only spending time on trying to correct past actions, looking into the past, focusing on that alone. You're going to lose sight of how to move forward and how to make better-informed decisions for the future.

So for instance if John hits Sarah, but I only focus on giving John a punishment or consequence related to hitting her it will solve nothing. Because the action has already passed. I am giving a punishment for a past action but providing nothing new for John.

If you say that punishment will make him learn, that's called aversive therapy, positive punishment, or behavioral therapy. And is not allowed in most therapeutic settings.

What needs to happen is that a consequence can be given to John, but it also needs to be paired with future-planned actions and discussions so that John will realize he has options if he is in a situation again where he feels like he needs to hit someone. Such as skill building, interpersonal communication, emotion regulation, etc.

[drcloudehr]

[artisticdivasworld]

The Science Behind Mental Health and Mental Health Treatments

Mental health is a complex subject that involves our emotions, behaviors, and thought processes. Scientists have made great progress in understanding how the brain works and develops insights into mental health issues and treatments. Here is an overview of some of the key scientific findings: The Brain’s Role The brain is the control center for our thoughts, emotions and behaviors. Mental…

[moonlit-positivity]

You don't need a reason to distance yourself from people. If they give you bad vibes then you deserve to honor that gut feeling and protect yourself. Even if they're not doing anything wrong or bad or even if they haven't done anything to you. You can just straight up not like someone, no context necessary. That's valid af and there's not enough emphasis on intuition and gut feelings. Yes, absolutely. Listen to your instincts.

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt 273

You know what? We need more Good parents Fentons. 

And you know what else? Technically, Jack helped Danny defeat Pariah via the use of the Ecto-Skeleton. And like, that’s his son, his baby boy. Sure Danny is and has always been a mommy’s boy, but it doesn’t change that fact. They’re both already feeling horrible about the fact they could have hurt him, they could have hurt their son- they have hurt their son, killed him with their inaction and never again. 

So when these oversized jello-eyeballs try to insist that their baby, their precious baby boy, take a crown? Become a king when he’s not even out of highschool, when he doesn’t want it? No. Hell no! That is his Danny-o, his baby boy who was terrified of his own parents! 

Which is how Jack, despite technically still being alive even if so-very ecto-contaminated, became the Ghost King. 

And for some reason there’s several ghosts rather happy about this- oh, these are his Danny-O’s ghost-parents? Not-ghost parents seeing as some of them have never been anything but a realm denizen? That’s really fascinating- y’know what, want some fudge and we can exchange childcare- Maddie dear come over and meet our co-parents apparently!  

Now it’s not all easy, but they’re trying their best, and that’s all that can be asked. 

…

Which is perhaps why it’s so exasperating- or as Maddie would put it, downright infuriating- that it is now, almost an entire year and a half later that the Heroes finally arrive to investigate. Well, at least he has plenty of fudge since it’s almost time for the council meeting. 

[thepeacefulgarden]

[oliverinaestheticplaces]

Stinky Bear Motivation ✨❤️

Fear needs to be met with comfort and safety. Anxiety is all about fear. Define the fear, put a name to your worries, and then meet yourself with comfort and make a safety plan for what could possibly go wrong.

You deserve to be comforted through the fears! Feel the fear and snuggle it anyway!

[unfortunatesassycannibals]

watching the baghera & jaiden convo from baghera's pov was so satisfying, like watching someone pick all the correct dialogue options to unlock the Secret Information

[cat-eye-nebula]

Tips & Tools for Releasing Stored Trauma in Your Body

🌻Somatic Experiencing: Developed by Dr. Peter Levine, Somatic Experiencing can release trauma locked in the body. This method is the result of a combination of stress physiology, psychology, neuroscience, medical biophysics and indigenous healing practices. (Videos on youtube)

🌻Mindfulness and Movements: going for a walk, bike ride, Boxing, Martial arts, yoga (or trauma-informed yoga), or dancing. People who get into martial arts or boxing are often those who were traumatized in the past. They’re carrying a lot of anger and fighting is a great release for them. Exercise helps your body burn off adrenaline, release endorphins, calm your nervous system, and relieve stress.

Release Trapped Emotions: 🍀How to release anger from the body - somatic healing tool 🍀Somatic Exercises for ANGER: Release Anger in Under 5 Minutes 🍀Youtube Playlist: Trauma Healing, Somatic Therapy, Self Havening, Nervous system regulation

🌻 Havening Technique is a somatosensory self-comforting therapy to change the brain to de-traumatize the memory and remove its negative effects from our psyche and body. It has a calming effect on the Amygdala and the Limbic system. 🌼Exercise: Havening Technique for Rapid Stress & Anxiety Relief 🌼Exercise: Self-Havening with nature ambience to let go of painful feelings 🌼Video: Using Havening Techniques to rapidly erase a traumatic memory (Certified Practitioner guides them through a healing session)

🌻Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a psychotherapy technique often used to treat anxiety and PTSD. It incorporates rhythmic eye movements while recalling traumatic experiences. This combo changes how the memory is stored in the brain and allow you to process the trauma fully.

🌻Sound & Vibrational Healing: Sound healing has become all the rage in the health and wellness world. It involves using the power of vibration – from tuning forks, singing bowls, or gongs – to relax the mind and body.

🌻Breathwork is an intentional method of breathing that helps your body relax by bypassing your conscious mind. Trauma can overstimulate the body’s sympathetic nervous system (aka your body’s ‘fight-or-flight’ response). Breathwork settles it down.

Informative videos & Experts on Attachment style healing: 🌼Dr Kim Sage, licensed psychologist  🌼Dr. Nicole LePera (theholisticpsychologist) 🌼Briana MacWilliam 🌼Candace van Dell 🌼Heidi Priebe 

Other informative Videos on Trauma: 🌻Small traumas in a "normal" family and attachment: Gabor Maté - The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture 🌻Uncovering Triggers and Pattern for Healing: Dr Gabor Maté  🌻Understanding trapped emotions in the body and footage of how wild animals release trauma

Article: How Trauma Is Stored in the Body (+ How to Release It)

Article: 20 self-care practices for complex trauma survivors

[fosterwhat]

Felix was supposed to have a really experienced teacher this year. She’d been teaching second grade at the school for 10 years and has an excellent reputation as a trauma informed teacher. Felix met her at the end of last year. The entire class spent a day in her classroom, as part of move up. He has been mentioning her by name all summer. And I found out today (buried in an email!) that they moved her to a different grade AND put a brand-new teacher in the class. And by brand-new I mean she has never taught before, ever. I am appalled that the school didn’t reach out to parents of this class, and didn’t offer a meet and greet. This is a population of kids that relies heavily on scaffolding and previewing. And I find out right before school starts that what the school “promised” him last year is false; get ready for a horrible first week. Felix goes to a special school that has a high level of kids with serious needs; last year his class was considered the most challenging at the school due to all the behaviors. But they are making it worse, not better. This teacher may be great, but nothing replaces experience, especially not for kids like Felix. A twenty year old teacher is not equipped for a class of emotionally and behavioral challenging students, even if she does have a degree.

[beetlevsboy]

I want to preface this post by saying that I love the cat king as a character, especially one that has such a major impact on Edwin and his relationship with his queerness and learning to be okay with it; HOWEVER, I also believe that everyone that genuinely believes he should be a love interest for Edwin should read this. (Also if you just like the cat king as a character and want to understand his character better and why his and Edwin’s relationship is not something that would be healthy or “real” for either)

[ex-foster]

I can't really forget about that statistic about foster kids being significantly more likely to identify as trans than the general population. "What does this have to do with Ellen Page? She wasn't in foster care" you might ask. Well consider her sexual traumas. I don't think it is a coincidence that girls in foster care want to dissociate from their sex - we are frequently the target of sexual abuse.

Consider this painting called Just Take Them and Leave me Alone:

I really worry about Gen Z and Gen Alpha. Every single day I see another scandal with the trans movement. I read about stories of children removed from parents who would not affirm a trans identity. I read about teachers secretly transitioning a child behind their parent's back at school. I read about minors receiving a double mastectomy in order to affirm their "non binary" identity. I read about safe guarding concerns with drag performers with child audiences.

I wish that girls didn't feel such agony that they wanted to remove their breasts. It's truly a tragedy what's been happening. What has happened to my poor country? I remember that the foster care I grew up in used to save girls from Female Genital Mutilation - now our Children's Aid Society has the trans flag waving on the property. Girls who experienced sexual abuse should not be mutilated. This is not a form of medicine, it is abuse. It's shameful.

[ed-recoverry]

Glass Children Info & Masterpost

Only recently being recognized as a huge trauma itself, I’ve seen nothing on Tumblr being posted about glass children. And as a glass child myself, which is a part of the reason I’ve struggled severely with mental illness, especially in my early teen years, it can be very upsetting. However, it’s still incredibly popular to view what we experience as invalid and that we should “appreciate we aren’t like them” (which is incredibly insulting to both parties and I hate hearing it). Idk if this will get any notes, but I wish someone told me what I went through is valid and a real thing and I hope maybe this will show one person the same:

Glass Child: siblings of a person with a disability. The word glass means people tend to see right through them and focus only on the person with the disability. 'Glass' is also used because the children appear strong, but in reality are not. These children have needs that are not being met.

The term was popularized and recognized in Alicia Maples’s “Recognizing Glass Children” TedTalk posted in December, 2010 in which she talks about her experience growing up with a severely Autistic brother.

It is important to acknowledge that the disabled sibling plays no role in the conditions and problems a glass child endures as they did not choose to have a disability. The conditions and problems are a product of bad parental management and being a victim of circumstances. As a child, not understanding this bigger pictures may sometimes cause a glass child to see their sibling as the problem, but it is important to stress the sibling has no part in it.

Examples of challenges glass children experience during childhood:

Severe emotional and or physical neglect from guardians

Severe pressure to be the “perfect” kid

Feeling as if you must help others before yourself

Strong anger of not having a “normal” family, but feeling shame for feeling anger.

Putting in extra effort to appear okay even when they aren’t

Taking on the tasks (both physical and or mental) that are reserved for parents

Feelings of hopelessness

Hyper-vigilance and anxiety

Feeling of being taken for granted

These experiences during childhood follow you into teenage years and adulthood.

Symptoms a glass child can show later in life:

Trauma-related mental illnesses (ex: anxiety, depression, PTSD, personality disorders, eating disorders, etc.)

Self-sabotaging or self-injurious behavior(s)

Low self esteem

Putting other’s needs before one’s own, even at their own expense

Lack of self identity or never developing their own personality

Hyper-vigilance to an inappropriate degree

Extreme sensitivity

Struggles with trust and or vocalizing feelings and needs

Difficulty in adjusting to new, unexpected situations

Avoidance of any form of conflict to the point where it has negative impacts on day to day life

Learn More:

Glass Child Syndrome And Symptoms

Glass children: The overlooked siblings of the people we treat.

What is a glass child?

How We Can All Help Glass Children

Growing Up a Glass Child

Glass Child Syndrome And Symptoms

Glass children: The lived experiences of siblings of people with a disability or chronic illness

Glass Children

At least from my experience, one of the biggest problems that follows me till this day is being extremely sensitive as to when I feel my feelings or presence is being invalidated. This is not completely my imagination however as the term “glass child” as of now has no place in the DSM-5, any dictionaries, and not even a Wikipedia page despite the years and years of studies and proof showing that the existence and damage of being a glass child is very real and a problem. I myself didn’t know about this term until a few months ago. And that was from TikTok of all places. I hope this makes at least one more person aware that we exist, we are valid, and we are not “the lucky one.” Both the disabled sibling and the glass child(s) deserve the recognition for enduring the hardships life threw at them. We both deserve it.

[kaitlyn-pink]

What's your Summoner ambitious? Like what's their dream?

It’s pretty easy to answer since every game she’s in has one purpose, but there’s a couple dreams or end goals for her so I’ll rank them most important to least.

1. Protecting everyone.

-This always has included friends, children, women, sometimes men but mainly innocents and those who don’t have the strength or courage to defend themselves. It’s what she’s always stood for and by.

-She has strong morals and her duty mainly consists of saving the world, yeah, but also protecting innocent people who have been suffering or injured.

-This also is a dream of hers because when she was a child and in the beginning of her adventures she failed to save people. Multiple times. She doesn’t want that repeating and she’s willing to sacrifice herself, body mind and soul, (quite literally on all 3,) to do so.

-This does however tend to end up with her accidentally overworking herself until she’s about to drop and past that point, but it’s all she’s really ever known and it’s to the point she craves violence and the urge to kill. But just enemies and threats, don’t worry.

2. She won’t say it, but to be the strongest.

-She’s plenty strong now; an insanely powerful sorceress, a dark knight, a multi-class wielder, an omnicrafter, a knight, she saved a world from an apocalypse, she’s a highly respected person who can fight and kill anything and anyone, someone who can kill you in an instant despite your size strength or power without you even seeing it, a one woman army and much more that leads people to either admire or fear her.

-She wants to be strong and overpowered enough to kill and defeat anything or anyone threatening her people. She’s willing to achieve it through any means; dark magic, learning forbidden knowledge, extensive training and battling, pushing herself past her limit, traveling everywhere to find new threats and defeat them,

-I won’t say from which game or lore-dump on it but defeat to a foe that was unreasonably strong and killed hundreds maaaaybe had a lil effect on her. Her only fear is losing what remains of her humanity by becoming so detached and powerful. 2 other reasons are comments from others.

-She’s compared to others sometimes because of her duty and quests, if not called weaker than them and lumped together. She wants to be strong enough and well-known enough to be seen as her own person instead of a successor or replacement of someone. It doesn’t bother her that much but at times it gets under her skin when someone makes an off handed comment saying she’s just like someone. As if they’re equals.

-She maybe kinda got called weak even after she saved a different world and was saving a new one flawlessly because someone was stronger than her (Ahem cough whitehairguy1.) To be fair they didn’t know about a different world or what she’s been through, but she’s made it her goal to be stronger than him. (I’m pretty sure she is.) She got a bad taste in her mouth and a bit hurt after a few of the comments, and despite looking up to him (she won’t admit it because she’s shy about it) and respecting him, she wants to be the strongest. Just in case.

-The other one is the influence her mother had on her as a child as she got raised and taught a bunch of poor information and things that were just.. wrong.

But regardless of all that, she stays strong, quiet, calm, and kind to everyone. When people worry she reassures them because she sees nothing wrong with the way she’s living. All she wishes, out of pure innocence and good intentions, is to be the strongest and protect everyone. Out of any human, demon, or unearthly being, she must always come out on top as the victor. After all, how will she save everyone if she’s not?

[moonlit-positivity]

Very gentle reminder that no one is watching you. No one is waiting outside to hurt you, mock you, belittle you, or cause you harm. People are walking around in their own heads probably worrying about their own issues and worrying if anyone is noticing them. They're too busy wondering the same things to think any differently about you.

And even if they were, you're a pretty awesome person anyway. They're probably thinking really good things about you. Like how nice your shirt looks, or how cool ur hoodie is. People are actually a lot nicer than you'd think. 🌸

[revenantghost]

I somehow managed to go into Trimax with no spoilers as to who Razlo was and MAN that was a good twist, hats off to you Nightow for making this fun little mystery