#Healthy friendships

[thegardenofbae]

Self care can look like this 😴🌙💐

But it can also look like this. Sometimes the best way to care for your spirit is to surround yourself with people who love you and pour into you 🤍✨

So I encourage you, while you’re cultivating and curating your individual self-care routines, to remember to leave time and room for cultivating life-giving friendships.

[daughterofanarcissistwoman]

[diaryofanenchantedprincess]

i crave friendship more than i crave a relationship. i crave sleepovers and taking turns watching our favorite movies. i crave game nights- both irl and online. i crave the feeling of knowing that even if i was delusional about a toxic situation, they would snap me out it and vice versa. i crave those late night talks about serious things and about absolutely nothing. i crave the support and encouragement we would give each other and the jealousy we wouldn’t feel towards each other. i crave a circle where no one gets left behind. i crave times where we just meet up at someone’s house and just chat while we each pick up a task of making food together and eat together. i… want to belong. more than anything.

[conscious-love]

One of the most amazing things that can happen is finding someone who sees everything you are and won't let you be anything less. They see the potential of you. They see endless possibilities. And through their eyes, you start to see yourself the same way. As someone who matters. As someone who can make a difference in this world.

Susane Colasanti

[rolaplayor101]

AroAce Hunter week 2023 Day 6! Squish! @sergeantsporks

GUS! GUS! GUS! GUS! I LOVE GUS!!

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[dontthinkorjudge]

act of intention: day twelve

today my bestie left for her vacation, so i’ve been keeping up with her as she’s on her way and sending messages of support.

it’s hours upon hours of travel, and she’s never travelled this distance before, so i made sure i was there to check on her and do whatever she needed to help make the experience as joyous as it’s meant to be.

[vulpine111]

These pages from The Borderline Personality Workbook by Daniel J. Fox, PhD. are useful to me. My therapist has been trying to help me build an awareness of how to sense who is good or bad for me. I've made enough progress in my treatment that BPD is no longer on my file, however, I'm glad I decided to disregard labels and see if anything in this book resonates. :)

[compassionandtruth]

It seems like many people do not realize that in any kind of lasting relationship - romantic, platonic, familial, and so forth - a bond is not something you simply form and then it's there and it's solid forever; it's something that must be maintained through your interactions with that person.

It can be dismantled, piece by piece, through hurting one another, whether by intention or by accident; but it can also be put back together if both people care enough and try enough.

[a-hope-story]

You are tired of scrolling and seeing these friend groups who perfectly seem to understand and "get" each other. And you wonder, when will you not need to fit in? when will you find your people? your tribe?

The truth is, you would not need to fit in with the people who really enjoy being around you. If you're trying to fit in that cool group thinking they are your people, no they're not. The quirky you is cool enough for people who think being like that is normal.

Actually you don't even need to find the right people, they will find you.

You just need to be real enough to be found.

[astro-studying]

this is not at all my usual content, but hear me out real quick.

I was talking to my friend about the concept of being the type of friend you long for. I was explaining how I've historically given more than I received in almost all my close friendships, how I have a hard time setting boundaries, and how I'm actively learning how. And that makes me feel wary of that advice because I don't want to fall back into giving too much.

What did they say back?

"yea it’s definitely smth to take w a grain of salt. but then u have to take into consideration that part of “being the type of friend u want” SHOULD include being a friend w solid boundaries that they respect"

This just changed my outlook on life, and I wanted to share.

[maryren]

Daily reminder <3

Whenever you feel too lazy to get up to wash your face, or too lazy to remove make-up or apply cream, drink water, etc. Tell yourself this “I´ll do this for myself, because I am a princess, I am a queen, I am a goddess and I deserve to be treated as such for the simple fact that I exist and that treatment must come first from me to me ”. And I swear it works!! and you´ll feel very very well. 

You deserve all the good things life has to offer <3 

[dre4mzandvisi0nz]

If Someone:

Makes you feel unwanted

Let’s you down all the time

Makes you feel unloveable

Keeps making jokes on your behalf

Makes you feel Bad in any way

Keeps ignoring/ghosting you

Let’s you think you can’t even trust yourself

Then the person isn’t supposed to be in your life and isn’t worth wasting your time and energy to.

Cut them off and focus on yourself even if you are scared to be lonely, it’s better and healthier for you than being with the wrong people for too long.

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

[Image description: Book and album cover for "Woody's 20 Grow Big Songs: Woody & Arlo Guthrie And the Guthrie Family." The cover art includes a photo of Woody Guthrie standing in front of a microphone, strumming a guitar, with several of the watercolor sketches of different people that Woody Guthrie had painted, scattered across the background. Description ends.]

So -- When his kids were little, Woody Guthrie made a book of songs for them, all about the pleasures and troubles of being a little kid. In 1992, the songbook was published as a hardcover, along with a music CD. I don't care that some reviewers think the album is a disaster,* I love it. And this is one of my favorites:

Don't you push me down! (lyrics)

[Chorus: Don't you push me, push me, push me. Don't you push down! (x2)]

You can play with me. You can hold my hand. We can skip together Down to the pretzel man. You can wear my mommy's shoes, You can wear my daddy's hat. You can even laugh at me. But don't you push me down! No!

[Chorus]

You can play with me. We can build a house. You can take my ball And bounce it up and down. You can take my skates And ride them all around. You can even get mad at me. But don't you push me down! No!

[Chorus]

You can play with me. We can play all day. You can use my dishes If you'll put them away. You can feed me apples, And oranges, and plums. You can even wash my face. But don't you push me down! No!

[Chorus x2]

*(Woody was an untrained musician, and his family trying to sing along with a recording of him comes out rough)

[little-lee-froggie]

Ok, yeah, sex and romance is cool, but have you ever been worried about a person you care about not liking you but then they ask if you’re ok when you aren’t feeling happy when you thought they were asleep? Yeah, sex and romance is cool, but have you ever had a person hold your face making you feel safe and comfortable in your friendship with them? And yeah, sex and romance is cool, but have you ever been called someone’s favourite person?

[armageddontyoudare]

I remember feeling less than whenever a "best friend" always made me feel like a sidekick next to them. Now i realise that a healthy friendship is one where you switch the roles constantly. Where one second I'm Maverick and you're Goose, and the next, you're Lightning McQueen and I'm Mater. That's a healthy relationship. Where we're each other's cheerleaders, each other's foundation. And i think that's beautiful.

[vulpine111]

Selfie with Chris!