#are the allos okay

[crunchmaggot]

I think the most asexual moment of my life would be when my mom was talking about how hot and sexy her cousin was and I was like "Damn I bet youre glad hes your cousin" cause I thought it was her just being really proud and impressed by her cousins physical appearance and by being related to them that means you must also be attractive plus you can brag about how cute they are but then she was like "no i wish he wasnt so i could kiss him"

[thousand-winters]

See, I'm not saying the queer couples in these books tend to be better but I, at least, don't remember them using the "I have to forget" excuse to kiss someone and start a love triangle.

I could NOT care less for the James-Cordelia-Matthew love triangle. I'm mostly bothered the scene with Cordelia and Matthew kissing feels so similar to those of the other trilogies, get a new coping mechanism, geez.

[starrytalking]

OH MY GOD I’ve just texted with an allo friend of mine and we agreed to have a talk about allo- and asexuality soon when we meet in person so that we can understand each other better and I’m finally getting answers y’all😭😭✨

[scrollingfan]

Uncomfortably remembering how everyone kept pushing me and my pseudo brother to have crushes on each other

Like it was to the point where we both uncomfortably and awkwardly acted out how we thought crushes interacted with each other despite seeing each other as brothers at most, cousins at least

[throesofincreasingwonder]

You know what? I want a whole post for this:

Sex Repulsion is not the same thing as, or an excuse for, Sex Negativity

non-negotiable!

I am a sex-repulsed asexual. This means that I am uncomfortable and repulsed by the idea of engaging in sexual acts. This does not mean that I have an excuse to be repulsed by other people's sexual attraction or the right to police how other people engage in or express sexual acts or attraction.

Young queer people need to learn the difference between sex repulsion and sex negativity, and actively work to unlearn sex-negative attitudes. Asexuality, even sex-repulsed asexuality, is and should be fully compatible with sex positivity.

If you are uncomfortable with the idea of other people feeling sexual attraction or engaging in sexual acts that do not involve you in any way, that is not sex repulsion it is the cultural Christianity and you need to seriously work on that.

[miitopia-cake]

I wish some aces would stop excluding other aces with complex sexual experiences. like I get why but you have to realize that being ace does not mean they don't enjoy sexual experiences and it's weird when you complain about allo people and boil it down to "people who have sexual experiences" and also shame people for their sex life and kinks as if your own community doesnt INCLUDE those people. because there are other aces out there who still masturbate, who feel sexually attracted to their own body, who barely experiences sexual attraction but still enjoys sex, who like consuming sexual media, who like sfw kink. being ace is so so much more complex than just "disliking sex". and also aromantic exclusionism in the same genre of posts is something i see a lot. especially aro allos. I hate hate hate seeing a community that SHOULD be inclusive boil down sexuality and exclude people.

[error404vnotfound]

today in are the allos okay? apparently accents are sexy ????

I'm so confused I give up bruh

[uncanny-tranny]

A big argument against asexuality and aromaticism is the idea that you can be too young to know. I remember people being so put out by the idea of somebody under eighteen identifying as aro or ace, and they made it known how they thought it was bad.

However... I really don't agree with that outlook. I knew something was up with me when my friends were developing a "normal" identity in the eyes of amatonormativity, and I was under eighteen. Mind you, I didn't have words to express how I felt, so I was in a perpetual state of feeling pressure to be "one of the normals." It made my life miserable because I was being dishonest to myself and cloaking who I was behind a layer of shame.

My point is that... when you know, you tend to know. Sure, your identity might change, but is that more important than making sure you are comfortable in yourself? Would you rather feel the way I did at my age hearing about my allo friends? Because it was unbearable, and I don't wish that on anybody.

[squeezetheduck]

Here’s the thing with people shipping Alastor, I could not care less about who people ship Alastor with or whether they ship him at all, what I do care about though is people making him allo.

This is one of the few cannon ace (possibly aro) characters out there and he can 100% be shipped in verity of ways without ignoring he is ace or aroace.

Make him aroace but still platonicly obsessed with Lucifer or Vox.

Make him sex repulsed or indifferent it doesn’t really matter (I could 100% see him having sex with someone for entertainment purposes just like I can see him being sex repulsed).

Even make him Demi/grey-ace if you must show him reciprocating sexual attraction.

Bonus points if he’s aro and you play around with platonic relationships/QPRs.

I know at the end of the day he is a fictional character and people will do what they want, but please listen to aro/ace fans when we ask you not completely ignore his sexuality when there are so many ways you can still play around with his characterization without disrespecting one of the few cannon ace characters to exist in TV.

[beesinspades]

something something ace people often being told they're not human for not experiencing sexual attraction and/or not wanting sex, something something vash seeing his sex-averse asexuality as yet another thing that makes him even more different from humans than he already is because of it

[ace-culture-is]

ace culture is being in your 20s and have never been kissed. And now you feel like you wanna try but you don't know how because you have no idea how to kiss and you're scared of wether telling it to the person you're abt to kiss and they laugh at you or not tell but give them one of the worst kisses (cuz you have no idea what you're doing) and coming off as a "bad kisser" and they not wanting to ever kiss you again or have a relationship with you

.

[earth2audiee]

“i know that character is canonically aroace but can’t i just have fun shipping them??”

what if i took your leg

[starrycosme]

I haven't seen anyone address this, but the last 4 or 5 bots I've reported in the asexual tag were porn bots fetishizing trans women??? What's up with that??

[degengxrl]

”I'd argue that it's an identity for antisexual. Sure, there must also be some people with low sex drive/no need for intimacy who now feel more empowered to adopt the label.”

“demisexual isnt that just normal”

“asexuals are just incels who cant get a gf”

“Asexuals are, without exception, pxdophiles who are scared to engage with their sexual desires.”

“you're not asexual, you're on antidepressants.”

“being aroace is a mental disability"

allos™️ stop talking abt aspec identities challenge omfg

pt: allos™️ stop talking abt aspec identities challenge omfg end/pt.

stfu

[daylightaftertherain]

why are people thinking the lake crying scene is a breakup im begging yall to remember the concept of having emotions and crying does not equal relationship drama 🧍🧍🧍

[swiftlythebest]

Anyone complaining about there being no sex in Heartstopper is weird. Maybe let the main characters just be 15/16.