#avpd + adhd

[avpdcultureis]

audhd avpd culture is talking about your interests as an emotional bid for engagement and when no one acknowledges you (or worse, someone tells you you're being annoying) you go into a depressive funk. and on the rare occasion someone does show interest in your interests you're too nervous to interact back :(

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[dailydivergent]

Neurodivergent reminder: Overstimulation feels a lot like anxiety, and understimulation feels a lot like depression.

More importantly, you don't need to know which it is to practice self-care.

Self-caring anxiety and overstimulation looks the same:

Recognize you're feeling big feelings

Take as many deep breaths as your need to slow your mind

Identify what’s causing the feeling, whether sensory, environmental, or situational

Minimize that cause as much as possible immediately

Self-caring depression and understimulation looks the same:

Recognize you’re in need of stimulation

Turn on an interesting long-form video of some kind

Do some quick exercise like a walk or jumping jacks

Call a friend that'll let you infodump

If you're neurodivergent and easily get stuck on labelling things — I see you.

I'm here to remind you that you don't need to know what it is to take care of it in the meantime.

You can — will — figure it out later.

[starfishinthedistance]

One thing (among many) that people need to keep in mind when they say things like "oh if you think you have a mental disorder, consult a professional" is that a lot of professionals will not consider evaluating and/or diagnosing you with something you bring up yourself. Especially the more uncommon/complex the disorder is. For things like MDD or GAD you likely won't have that problem, for things like OCD or ADHD they'll likely be suspicious but still comply somewhat, but for things like personality disorders or DID most professionals will completely brush you off and refuse to evaluate you. Because they think you're attention seeking and diagnosis shopping, and that you couldn't possibly have it, even if you haven't done anything to earn that suspicion.

For disorders like that, unless the professional themselves suspects you have it and comes up with that idea themselves, good luck getting evaluated at all. Especially when it comes to disorders most professionals don't even think they'll encounter, like SzPD or DID.

It'd be nice if we lived in a world where you could go see a psych, say "hey I think I have this", and they'd do a proper and fair evaluation for you the way a physical doctor would (moreso should but that's another can of worms).

It just isn't as simple as "ask a professional".

[roachie-paradise]

line-up of all disorder creatures i know of!!!!! !!!

i love the silly silly creatures sm

credits ;;

schizospec creature (the irl) by @thenullepisode

stpd creature (the brb) by @thenearsightedmicroraptor

npd creature (the imo) by @/imnotherelmao

avpd creature (the brb) by ME!!!

bpd creature (the kms) by @mentallyillanimal

hpd creature (the wyd) by @mentallyillanimal

aspd creature (the idc) by @mentallyillanimal

autism creature (the tbh) by @/princestarangel

adhd creature (the btw) by also the same person as above? correct me if im wrong <:3

and tagging @telephone-blights who watched me draw these sillies

[boned4dday]

"mental health advocates" be like "yeah i support mental health and mentally ill people!!! as long as that person is the only one distressed and uncomfortable and doesn't affect me or our relationship whatsoever C:"

[genderimpala]

update the obnoxious nt staying in my house just told me, a deaf auDHDer, that "we're all a little bit disabled☺️!"

SHUT THE FUCK UP

[aaavoidant]

It’s all “don’t be afraid to ask for help” this and that until you literally don’t have anybody to ask for help

[ratsetflummi]

neurotypicals giving advice: put the thing you want to do most at the bottom of your to-do list and the thing you want to do least at the top. that way, you will automatically force yourself to get the unpleasant thing over with quickly to get to nice thing faster

me: do not underestimate my ability to put off activities that i love. i will do nothing all day before i do one unpleasant thing

[avoidantrecovery]

i just did this rejection sensitivity questionnaire and i got 56/60 points. i’m a fucking mimosa leaf. i know there is a lot of overlap between personality disorders and things like untreated adhd and cptsd so who knows. i’m just so confused and don’t currently have access to adhd diagnosis, which is not covered by insurance for adults. but i’m starting to think all this is due to untreated adhd.

there were signs in my childhood, but esp. as a girl it was pretty much ignored. and my parents were very anti-mental health treatments. guess who was getting prayers and pats on the back as a depression cure. guess who was being told to just smile and think positively. idk man i feel burntout and tired 🫠

anyway, try the questionnaire and feel free to share what you got.

[mhamory777]

[avpdcultureis]

Avpd + adhd fueled rsd culture is fidgeting w someone you trusted a little more than average, them saying "stop that" (they had good reason to), then instantly curling in and going stiff as a board. Why did i think that was ever a good idea?? Sigh

#📖⛓️ anon (i think thats the right order at least)

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[pageofheartdj]

People being completely normal: I love blocking people for all the reasons like them being annoying or just with not My Vibes.

My RSD ass:

[starfishinthedistance]

Unclear instructions that you have to "just figure out" in work/school environments are a legitimate accessibility issue and I wish more educators/employers saw it that way.

You are making your course/workplace completely inaccessible for people with SAD, AVPD, DPD, ASD, ADHD, etc.

[raisond-therapy]

you will always have people.

it might not always seem like it because of how often they come and go (and how many come and go), but you will have people. some of them will even be there to stay.

everyone is deserving of being heard out or understood by someone else. humans will always strive for connection one way or another— and though the world may seem to shrink every single time you lose someone or you fuck up, it remains the same size and will always be as large as it has been. there will always be people to find and new opportunities to be had.

people have different tolerances to things and opinions on things. if something you do— something as vital to you as breathing— is an issue or problem to someone else in your life and that causes them to leave, that isn’t one-to-one your fault. there will be someone out there who is willing to see this ‘something’. there is always someone out there, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

everyone tells everyone else that “[they] aren’t a burden!” but some people would rather hear this: you will be a burden to some people. you will be a problem. is that something you inherently need to fix? no! there will always be people who are perfectly fine with this. there will be people willing to shoulder things with you and for you.

sometimes, shit sucks, things don’t work out, and someone isn’t in your life and just can’t be anymore. but remember that that isn’t the end of the world. every single person out there is a person worth knowing, deserving of compassion and understanding, regardless of their history or whatever. there will always be at least one person for you. just give that time.

[boned4dday]

does anyone else think using "chronically online" as an insult almost always insinuates ableist undertones or

like, especially when it's targeted at folks who are neurodivergent and/or have anxiety disorders/disorders that center around social aversion

edit: it's also extremely and overly ableist towards people with physical disabilities/are not able bodied.

[genderimpala]

i may not have been diagnosed with this disorder but boy am i exhibiting symptoms