#but that was with the assumption that gender=sex

[theuncannybookdragon]

The Wheel of Time be like-

Also from now on I am only referring to saidin as cock and balls sorcery

[trans-androgyne]

Misogyny and sexism are not and never have been synonyms. That’s not all of what’s meant by sexism. Literally just take two minutes to look up the term. It’s prejudice or discrimination against people on the basis of their sex (often expanded to include their gender). Plenty of them make sure to specify that it can affect men.

Here’s an example of its use from APA: “We define sexism as individuals' attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors, and organizational, institutional, and cultural practices that either reflect negative evaluations of individuals based on their gender or support unequal status of women and men…it is important to acknowledge all levels of analyses are intertwined and both women and men experience sexism.”

[contagious-watermelon]

there's just something about being called (just) ace by your aroace friend even after only ever referring to yourself as aromantic

[genderkoolaid]

i think "nonbinary" can be useful but a lot of times the way it is being used isn't helpful to actually discussing nonbinary people, especially since it is a HUGE umbrella term with very few boundaries. like there are nonbinary men & women, so positioning "nonbinary" as something intrinsically separate from man/woman isn't accurate. or there are times where it would be more useful to name the specific group (like multigender people, androgynes, abinary/aphorians) rather than a much vaguer term

in general the problem is that our language to describe nonbinary existence is basically some scraps held together with duct tape. there's sooo many ways in which nonbinary people are erased or binaried through language. not just through the lack of gender neutral options but the la of blatantly genderqueer ones.

i kinda feel like as of right now, nonbinary-ness is pretty slapdash & all over the place and it would be helpful to have a large-scale discussion on what terminology would be best for discussing things like exorsexism and it's various aspects, and how to talk about nonbinary people without homogenizing us, while ALSO acknowledging the need for umbrella terms that can cover a range of individual identities, even if people don't personally identify with the umbrella term itself. & on that note we should also probably discuss the issue of. like. perfectionism wrt nonbinary language & the way that potentially useful terms get lost bc of it. I don't think nonbinary people can really achieve meaningful equality and inclusion on the same level until we are able to have equally diverse and useful ways of describing ourselves, and a stronger understanding of how we relate to each other as a community.

[raven-at-the-writing-desk]

Hello! I was wondering but... what do you think about gender-bend Octavinelle?

I mean… I don’t have much to comment on for general genderbend AUs other than the characters’ physical appearance would be different? I don’t think much else change about most characters, because gender doesn’t necessarily equate to personality. It really depends on the individual interpretations of the AU; that's what gives it charm and makes it fun.

I guess that since Octavinelle are more “animalistic” (ie half fish), they’d perhaps have more aggressive personalities (since I believe that at least female octopuses sometimes kill their mates and eat them)? I don’t know if the change would be that significant though, since Octavinelle is already pretty aggressive in their business tactics. I certainly have a difficult time imagining Azul as that aggressive (or some human equivalent of it), especially considering that (s)he and Jade try to keep up a veneer of professionalism.

For the most part, Jade would still be Jade but just perceived as a “refined lady” instead of a “refined gentleman” before she backstabs you. Floyd would still be Floyd and probably not give a rat’s ass about who sees her acting “unladylike”. I also see the twins’ preferences for how they wear their clothes carrying over; Jade is all proper and tidy, Floyd is messy, carefree, and experimental. Azul would try to capitalize on her cuteness to convince desperate simps to hand her their money (idk, selling octopus bath water or finally getting into streaming as a source of revenue like he said he wanted to explore in episode 6).

I like seeing the different designs people come up with for genderswaps, but I guess my preference for fem!Octavinelle would be with long hair?? Just because long hair gives the nice imagery of a mermaid’s hair pooling and fanning out in the water, it’s so mesmerizing to watch.

(Pspspspspspsp have some doodles of f!J word I made recently 🤡 The second drawing features genderbent Raven just because I felt like it--)

[lordmushroomkat]

PCOS = intersex is just saying anyone who doesn’t fit perfectly into stereotypes isn’t REALLY female. Like fuck you. DSDs are still always male or female and to say otherwise is just going oh you’re infertile? oh you’re shorter than average? chromosomal problems? Not female or male! So fucking insulting. Yeah some people have incongruous genotype and phenotype, but that’s so fucking few and to do this is to throw so many people under the bus because they aren’t Exactly What You Wants. Absolutely evil.

Dearie, I'm coming at this from the perspective of throwing the whole male/female binary assumption out the window.

I also come at this from the perspective of being a non-binary person with PCOS who has suspected they are intersex for a while.

Anyway, even the amount of people already considered intersex under our current definitions is about the same as natural redheads. There are a lot of natural redheads in the world; you almost certainly know at least one. You almost certainly know at least one intersex person.

Anyway, it's not intersex people vs "normal" people, if you're not intersex you're endosex. So I suppose you could categorize people with PCOS as intersex female rather than endosex female. Again, I would prefer if we simply threw out the boxes altogether, but I understand that some people are rather attached to the sex binary.

TLDR: I think the sex binary is stupid and I think that intersex is very valid and I would prefer if we all categorized sex characteristics as a spectrum. Thank you and goodnight.

[bernie-jsyk]

i'm staying out of the blue eye samurai tag because i want to avoid spoilers (we have 2 episodes left) but i'm really looking forward to the analyses of the ways gender and race intersect in this show oh my gosh

[kaleighfratkins]

if the way you talk about trans identities never really goes beyond “being transmasc is about being a funny silly fruity little guy & being transfem is about having a huge cock”, even if you yourself are also trans, i would like to extend to you a formal invitation to shut the fuck up 

[meadowlarkx]

one day ppl online are gonna have to learn that there's no way to cordon off "male" sexuality as uniquely bad and gross without just ending up saying sexuality is bad and gross on the whole (conservative, reactionary, dangerous, tired)

[7er1ch0]

i meant to shit post more but i got hit by a art block and i really had to force myself through this one.

that being said, yes look at the non-binary lighting.  gender is a lie created by the government.

another thing I would like to say, there is a shit load of trans Vash head-cannons and fan-fiction.  That itself I really have nothing to say about, but the amount of smutty fanfiction of it has crossed the point to where it feels more like a weird kink.  This is just something I needed to say.  I'm not trans, am I the only one who finds this weird.  I also just don't like sex a lot so maybe its that

[echthr0s]

it's pretty common for people to have OCs that reflect their gender and/or sexuality, or their conception of themselves, or their ideal self

unfortunately my conception of myself and my sex/gender is mercurial by design, which means all my OCs also have ambiguous/amorphous sex characteristics, which would be fine except for the fact that I can't always magically handwave that sort of thing. at some point another character is gonna take off my OC's pants/skirt/dress and that sucker is gonna have to collapse into a particle or a wave or we've got some heavy-duty splainin to do

[bookwyrminspiration]

Janel, self described as “a female man” (p. 45) who likes to “run with the entire herd” (p. 46, paraphrased) has very quickly become incredibly dear to me

[communistkenobi]

I believe it was the work of legal scholar Florence Ashley where I first encountered this term (it might have also been Serano), but I’m becoming more and more committed to saying “degender” as opposed to “misgender.” like I think the term ‘misgender’ fails to properly identify the mechanism behind the process it describes: misgendering is not an act of attributing the wrong gender characteristics to a trans person, it is an act of dehumanisation. I think the term ‘misgender’ especially gives people much easier rhetorical cover to argue that trans women are hurt by misandry by being ‘mislabeled as men,’ or that they are in fact ‘actually men’ and benefit from male privilege, because the (incorrect) assumption underlying this is that when trans women are ‘misgendered’ they are being treated like men - to follow this line of thinking to its natural conclusion, this denies the existence of transmisogyny altogether, because any ‘misgendering’ of trans women is done only with the intent, conscious or otherwise, to inscribe the social position (and the privileges this position affords) of men onto them, as opposed to stripping them of their womanhood (and thus, their humanity).

The term degendering, however, I think more accurately describes this dehumanising process. Pulling from the work of both Judith Butler and Maria Lugones, gender mediates access to personhood - Lugones says in the Coloniality of Gender that in the colonial imaginary, animals have no gender, they only have (a) sex, and so who gets ‘sexed’ and who gets ‘gendered’ is a matter of who counts as human. She describes this gendering process as fundamentally colonial and emerging as a colonial technology of power - who is gendered is who gets to be considered human, and so the construction of binary sex is a way of ‘speciating’ or rendering non-human the Indigenous and African people of colonized America, justifying and systematising the brutal use of their land and/or their labour until their death by equating them to animals. Sylvia Wynter likewise describes in 1492: A New World View that a popular term used by Spanish colonizers to describe the indigenous people was “heads of Indian men and women,” as in heads of cattle. By the same token, white men are granted the high status of human, worthy of governance, wealth, and knowledge production, and white women are afforded the subordinate though still very high responsibility of reproducing these men by raising and educating children. Appeals to a person’s sex as something more real, more obvious, or ‘poorly concealed’ by their gender is to deny them their gender outright, and therefore is a mechanism to render them non-human. Likewise, for Butler, gender produces the human subject - to be outside gender is to be considered “unthinkable” as a human being, a being in “unliveable” space.

Therefore the process of trans women going from women -> “male” is not “being gendered as a man,” it is being positioned as non-human. when people deny the gender of trans women, most especially trans women of colour, they invariably do this through reference to their genitals, to their ‘sex,’ as something inescapable, incapable of being concealed - again, this is not a process of rendering them as men, it is the exact opposite: it is a process of rendering them as non-human. there is not a misidentification process happening, they are not being “misgendered as men,” there is a de-identification of them as human beings. Hence, they are not misgendered, they are degendered, stripped of gender, stripped of their humanity

[aaa-battery-not-rechargeable]

about a month ago, my uncle asked if I had a significant other. I appreciate his gender inclusivity, of course.

I'm used to the question. it's not like it's something outrageous that he's asking. so I simply said no, that's not for me.

he looked at me and said "well, someday." not someday maybe, just.... someday.

of course I'm not quick to anger, but there's a part of me that's a little more defensive about my aroace identity. so I jumped to my defense.

my uncle isn't a bad guy, he's quite nice and tries his best to be respectful in the current political shit storm by supporting queer people. but apparently that does exclude me, an aroace.

I reiterated that I'm just not interested in a romantic or sexual partnership, and I really do not ever see that changing.

and he said something to the effect of "it's okay if you don't want that now."

and I said, "no, it's just okay that I don't want that."

and he said that I was pessimistic. as if I was secretly searching for a relationship or a partner, but was rejecting love because I could not find one.

I calmly (with all the rage in my veins) told him "no, a life without love or sex is something optimistic for me."

he had the gall to look horrified.

I'm sick of aroace people not being seen as normal human people when they don't want the outcome of their life to look like everyone else's. I'm sick of the white picket fence, I'm sick of the assumption that everyone has another half out there.

I'm whole on my own.

[hiiragi7]

Honestly, the amount of assumptions that other trans people make about trans people's bodies based on whether they're transmasc or transfem is a large part of why I don't identify with those terms currently. I don't want people to make assumptions about my body and how it functions, my birth sex, how I was socially raised, my lived experiences, or anything else based on what gender identity I currently identify with. I remember a time when the trans community felt very united on the idea that nobody ever needs to know what's in your pants, and that it's fucking weird to ask - but nowdays, with all the discourse surrounding labels, it feels like everyone is much too comfortable pressing for details about what genitals you were born with and what your original birth certificate says.

Another part of it is, as an intersex person, I feel completely excluded from these terms. Every definition, every discourse, every discussion of transfemininity and transmasculinity is completely perisex-centered. It feels like there's no place for me at all with regards to these terms, and it makes me feel like I can't really use either label, even though sometimes I wish to. Even when intersex people are brought up, it always turns into debates about how close an intersex person has to be to a binary sex to be able to appropriately claim transfemininity or transmasculinity; we are still being violently forced into perisex ideas of transness for the sake of upholding a binary.

[versegm]

Reminders:

"Intersex" means "someone born with sexual characteristics that don't fit quite well in the male/female sex binary."

"Intersex" is not synonymous to "non-binary". In fact, being intersex has nothing to do with gender at all. Intersex and trans people have many struggles in common, but if you're talking about trans-specific issues you really don't need to say "intersex and trans people".

Intersex people can be trans. Intersex people can also be cis. Intersex people, in the majority of countries, are assigned a gender at birth just like everyone else.

"Intersex" doesn't necessarily relate to genitals. When I say "sexual characteristics" it can also mean secondary sexual characteristics, hormone levels, chromosomes, and probably a bunch of other shit I forgot about. Please stop reducing intersex people to their genitals.

(On that note, having both working sets of genitals is at best extremely rare and at worst physically impossible. Sorry, intersex people can't fulfill your futa fantasies. Please stop tagging futa shit as intersex. The two are unrelated.)

Please. This pride month remember that intersex people like. Exist. Intersex folks are not hypotheticals they're not "that one letter we gotta tack at the end of every queer post and never think about any further" they're. People. Remember that they exist. Every year I have to make a post like this one where I explain the very basic things you can learn by reading the intersex wikipedia page because people see "intersex" and make assumptions as to what the word means without actually reading the dictionary definition. Please remember that intersex people exist, I looked up "intersex pride" on tumblr and half the posts I saw were a variation of "happy pride to people of all genders and sexualities!" when being intersex has nothing to do with either gender or sexuality. Please. I understand that you guys don't mean any ill, but I am very tired of making basic posts over and over.

And inb4 someone tries to strike dumb discourse on this post: I live in a country where it is legal and encouraged to perform surgery on intersex infants. Looking up "intersex athlete controversy" returned to me like three different cases of athletes who were coerced into surgery without being informed of all the risks and having to lead with lifelong consequences for it. When I say "remember intersex people" I don't mean "uwu intersex people are valid" I mean they're a demographic whose literal human rights are constantly spit upon. I don't give a shit if you think intersex people belong or not under the queer umbrella or what you think are the proper qualifications to identify as intersex literally everytime I talk to an intersex person I hear a variation of "my doctor straight-up lied to me to get me to undergo medical procedures to make me normal without my consent or input" I think people should be aware of that actually I think it's more important than arguing over labels.