#needing advice

[anukulee]

HELP Trying To Write Mafia Romance

So I am dabbling with the concept of writing a Mafia romance, a sort of mash of The Villain's Assistant, and The Villain's Day Off. And I need to know how exactly I am supposed to write it. Because this is a new thing for me, or do I need to try something else. I can write grumpy all day long, but like a kinda anti-hero that is an anti-hero is new to me. Thus why I am asking for help, SO PLEASE HELP ME BY COMMENTING DOWN BELOW 👇🏼. Flirting With The Villain

 Ana Diaz

Little One

24

Her outfits tend to be on the darker side

5’2

Very flirty especially with Charles, tends to be seen as small but a little spitfire. Looks like a doormat, but is the furthest thing from it.

Charles Pines

Hot Stuff or something related to being sexy

34-35

Either has a son or a little nephew/niece put in his care, by his spacey sister

Perhaps an unexpected fact about him is that he enjoys watching Disney Channel movies

Tends to wear brighter clothes around his niece/nephew, because when he first met them. They were scared given Charles's appearance tends to be on the dark side, with a dark aura.

Niece/Nephew, perhaps is 10-ish, at oldest maybe a teen, at youngest perhaps kindergarten 

Either will be tall 6’2 or be an unexpectedly short king Perhaps Mafia Romance

He is the villain who oozes darkness, always feared by everyone he meets. Yet somehow he finds himself being flirted on by this random girl. Not to mention he has a child, and rather than her backs away from knowing both a villain and his child. She seems to continue to flirt with him. 

Villain: Are you flirting with me?

Girl: *playfully punches his in the shoulder*, Who else would it be hot stuff?

Villain: Hot stuff?

Girl: Unless you know the other reason why it’s getting hot in here, *proceeds to fan herself down*.

Villain: You must be mistaken little one, do you not know who I am?

Girl: Yes, I do in fact know who you are.

Villain: Then who am I, *eyebrow goes up in curious*?

Girl: A hot and sexy guy, who isn’t tell me whether he will go out with me or not.

Villain: Truly you want to go out with me?

Girl: Who else, because I wouldn’t be making a fool out of myself for no reason. So how about it.

Villain: Perhaps I will go on this date as you call it, but you might find you will regret it.

Girl: Oh, but I won’t regret, sexy.

Villain: We shall see about then won’t we little one?

Girl: Oh yes we will.

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[ech0wo]

Im in an open relationship (very healthy and full of communication) w/ my bf, and one of my friends has been flirting with me non-stop and I really love it and him so so so much and I would trust him with anything

....and because of that reason I kinda wanna share my blog with both of them "accidentally" so they'll know another way to "get under my skjn"

Dkes anyone have any good resources (posts, blogs, etc) that I could add to my pinned post so when they see it, they'll have refrences about the sfw community and why so many people like it??

[sunshinegremlin]

So I'm addicted to my phone again... And it's even worse than last time. I should try a detox from my phone again but does anyone else have any ideas on how to stop scrolling?? Anyone who experienced a phone addiction and got through it? It's honestly ruining my mental health 😅

[polarseven]

I've been really stressed recently from arguments/discussions with a friend over whether sexy nun outfits are misogynistic. On one hand several people I trust in my life say that it's not due to nuns being abusive, uphold patriarchy, and the queer/sapphic history of nuns, which a friend sent me some videos about thatbi need to watch. And catholics are far from an oppressed group.

But on the other hand, nuns have a prayer for each piece of clothing, especially habits, which are sacred and religious. I've been told that nuns choose to not be sexualized, which might be the case for some but from many resources it seems to be more of abstaining from sexuality to be closer to God, similar to fasting? I've also been told that it's misogynistic due to how women's costumes are oversexualized while men's costumes rarely are, and that it's hatred towards nuns and thus women.

It's hard to find anything concrete because there are people woth seemingly good points on both sides being incredibly loud and you never really find any people on opposite sides discussing things and coming to a compromise or learning from each other, which makes it really hard for me, someone on the outside, to parse out anything. One one hand, is this the hill to die on, or if this hurts anybody should I not do it out of principle? But on the other hand I don't think things should be off limits to sexualize, because I think that's prudish behavior and having anything strictly off limits of sexual nature or intimacy is bad.

[datw3irdo]

Help needed!

I have a trans friend (MTF) who hasn’t started hormone therapy yet but plans to when she moves out; I’m just looking for perspectives from trans women and advice! She just got herself some feminine clothing from a friend but she also isn’t out to a lot of her friends and family (some, she is!) I sent her a lot of resources and she has done her own research but also looking for people to say their experiences with hormonal therapy / transitioning in general! Thanks so much! /gen /pos

[yuukirinrin22]

Needing Advice!

So, I have a friend I am down really bad for (Liked him since last December ) ,and I confessed to him once already to which he responded “probably no” which I’m not really sure what to do with but that’s besides the point. He displays all the signs of liking me back (fixing his hair/clothes when he sees me, trying to reach close proximity to me within a group, sharing earbuds etc.). However he says that he is Aro, but with my previous experience with him (we’ve been friends for about three years+), I think he’s just really blind to his own feelings which he agrees with. I don’t know what I should do! So many mixed messages and signals I need outside help 😭. I don’t want to come off as pushy because I would totally support him if he’s Aro but really I just doubt it. I don’t know what to do. Do I confess again? Do I give up? Please help!?

[furiousgoldfish]

i experience pain that i almost want to call debilitating but no one believes me. my parents brush everything off as an overreaction & excuses it as "well my own parents never took me to the doctor!" (turns out i had to have a tumor removed bc they overlooked my pain that much) & even after that they still wont believe me & all of my doctors think i'm a lying drug seeking hypochondriac who reads too much internet articles. i feel hopeless b/c no pain relief method works outside of drugs that would get me classified as an addict and i've tried whatever i have the energy to do & i just feel like there's no way out of this. im a minor & i dont know what to do. your blog has been very very helpful and im so sorry to be dumping this on you but i always thought you have great insight & perhaps you would have insight on my situation too, your writing is very inspirational & i hope you have an amazing life

I am so sorry anon, I can't imagine how much pain you've endured, it's disgusting they went as far as ignore the pain of cancer, which must have been extreme. And they still refuse to believe you and accuse you of a disordered fear! That's infuriating, they should be freaking ashamed of themselves.

I wish I could give you an advice, I've never faced a situation like this, and I have no idea what could be of some relief on you. If anyone reading this has faced similar issues and would know what to do, please respond to this post and share your insight.

Thank you for your kind words, and I'm so sorry you're in pain. People who disregarded your pain should have it inflicted on them, their judgment and lack of empathy is despicable. I hope you find something that allows you to be pain free.

[thegeasswriter]

Debating on getting new game. Thoughts?

[possessedpasm]

Something I try to keep in mind when making art that looks vintage is keeping a limited color pallette. Digital art gives you a very wide, Crisp scope of colors, whereas traditional art-- especially older traditional art-- had a very limited and sometimes dulled use of color.

This is a modern riso ink swatch, but still you find a similar and limited selection of colors to mix with. (Mixing digitally as to emulate the layering of ink riso would be coloring on Multiply, and layering on top of eachother 👉)

If you find some old prints, take a closer look and see if you can tell what colors they used and which ones they layered... a lot of the time you'll find yellow as a base!

Misprints can really reveal what colors were used and where, I love misprints...

Something else I keep in the back of my mind is: how the human eye perceives color on paper vs. a screen. Ink and paint soaks into paper, it bleeds, stains, fades over time, smears, ect... the history of a piece can show in physical wear. What kind of history do you want to emulate? Misprinted? Stained? Kept as clean as possible, but unable to escape the bluing damages of the sun? It's one of my favorite things about making vintage art. Making it imperfect!

You can see the bleed, the wobble of the lines on the rug, the fading, the dirt... beautiful!!

Thinking in terms of traditional-method art while drawing digital can help open avenues to achieving that genuine, vintage look!

[dio-journal]

5/16/2024

If I'm being frank, today was fucking awful. My partner(?) told me that we needed to have a break, which to be fair, we probably do.

I got emotional and ended up causing an argument between us. It's still just a break, but there is no definite end date, simply until I've worked on myself.

I know i did this to myself, but it not having a definite end date makes me super anxious.

[therandomfaebean]

Slight Nonbinary Panic (vent)

anybody know how to come out to cis/het (possibly bi) boyfriend who is shy because everytime before i was out at the beginning or partner came out first. Also is gradually coming out starting with demigirl better or should i throw him off the deepend

[mokeonn]

"But if college was free, then people would abuse that and get useless degrees" hell yeah I would! If I could go to college without debt I would make it my job to get a degree in every little thing that interested me. I'd get a doctorate in film studies. I'd have a bachelor's degree for every science I like. I'd try to learn at least 5 languages with varying results. I would learn something "useful" like coding and then follow it up with a ""useless"" degree like art history. I'd be the world record speed run holder for getting every degree possible.

But I can't afford college without going into massive debt, so instead I spent the last 5 years trying to figure out what I am passionate enough about to consider going into debt over, because unfortunately being passionate about everything is extremely expensive to pursue.

[maeamian]

Hey Americans, double check that you don't have an election tomorrow, Nov 7th 2023, I know the off years are harder to keep track of, but it'd be a shame if Moms for Liberty gets their people on your school district's school boards because of it. If you don't have an election, great!, but just give it a double check for me if you're not sure ok?

[inkskinned]

there are a lot of posts out there that are positive and healthy coping mechanisms for handling the holidays. this is not one of them :)

i think there's like. going to be times in your life you will be stuck in a social situation that you cannot escape from gracefully. i do not know why the internet doesn't believe these times exist. it's not always just that your physical safety is at risk - sometimes it's legit like "i just don't currently have the energy or time to put in the effort of responding to this." sometimes it's a coworker you hate so much. sometimes it's just like, fine, you know? like you know you can handle your aunt when she's cheerily horrible, but if you actually set a boundary around her, it's going to be weeks of fallout with your father.

i don't know why people think the answer is always just "cut them out!" or "don't let them get away with that!" because ... the real world is tricky and complicated. i think kind of a lot of us have an internal "radiation poisoning" meter for certain people. like - i'm talking about the ones who are absolutely giving you gradual ick damage. like, you can handle them, but you'll be exhausted.

and yes. you absolutely should listen to your therapist and the good posts about handling others and set good boundaries and take care of yourself. prioritize peace.

HOWEVER :) ...... since im often in a situation with a Gradual Sense of Ick person i cannot just "cut out" of my life (without losing someone else precious to me) - i have sort of developed the most. maladaptive form of mischief possible. because like, if i'm going to have to listen to this shit again, i like to have a little bit of private fun with it.

now! again, i am physically safe, just mentally drained by this man. you should only do this with people you are not in danger with. which leads me to my suggestions for when your Unfortunate Acquaintance shows up and says oh everyone pay attention to me.

my favorite word is "maybe!" said as brightly and happily as possible. whenever the Horrible Person starts in on a topic you do not want to go further with, particularly if they make a claim that you know to be inaccurate, do not respond to it. you and i have both tried to actually argue with this person, and it hasn't gone well, because this person just wants the drama of an argument. however, "maybe!" gives them literally nothing to go on. it is incredibly disarming. they are used to people having some response. they know they can't prove what they're saying, and maybe! treats them like the child they are. it dismisses them in the politest way possible.

i like to say maybe! and then, in their stunned silence, immediately change the subject. this is because i have adhd and i will have something unrelated to talk about, but if you can't think of topics fast enough, i recommend just pointing to something and saying, "isn't that lovely?" because fuck you let's bring in some positivity.

by the way. that second trick - of pointing to something and stating an opinion about it? - that just works on its own, like, 70% of the time. i picked it up from teaching preschoolers. it's an intentional "redirect". it stops children crying and it also stops grown adults from finishing their explanation on why women belong in kitchens. dual wielding!

keep it silly for yourself. i absolutely do not care if people think i'm fucking stupid (it's more fun if they do) and as a result i will purposefully misunderstand things just to see how long it takes them to realize i've completely removed them from the subject at hand. when they say "women aren't funny" i get to be like. "which women." "all women." "all women in america?" "no in the world." "like the mole people? the people in the world?" "what? no. like, alive." "oh are we not counting the mole people?" "what the fuck are you talking about." "you don't believe in the mole people?"

similarly, i play a personal game called "one up me." my Evil Acquaintance literally knows this game exists (my family & friends caught onto it and now also play it) and it always fucking gets him. i don't know why. you have to be willing to be a little free-spirited on this one, though. the trick is that when they make one of those horrible little bigoted or annoying comments they are always making, you need to go one unit weirder. not more intense, mind you - just more weird. "you don't look good in that dress." "yeah, actually, my other dress was covered in squid ink due to a mishap at the soup store." "you shouldn't wear such revealing clothes." "wait, what? oh shit. sorry, your son tears off strips when no one is looking and eats them. i swear it was longer before we left the building."

the point of "one up me" is to completely upend this person's narrative. we both know this person likes setting up situations where you cannot "win" and then they really like telling other people how badly you handled it. in a usual situation, if you respond "please don't say something that rude", you're a bitch. but if you let it happen, you're letting yourself be debased. they are not usually expecting door number three: unflappably odd. because what are they going to say when they're telling everyone how badly you behaved? "she said my son eats her dresses" ".... okay?"

if you can, form an allyship with someone whomst you can tagteam with. where they can pick up on your weird "soup store" story and run with it.

the following phrase is amazing and can be deployed for any situation: "oh, be nice :) it's the holidays!" i do not know why this works as often as it does. i'll say it for the most random shit. i think this is bc most of the time these people know they're being impolite, they just like to fight.

godbless. when in doubt, remember that you could always start stealing their pens.

the whole point of this is - if you can't escape. maybe see how long you can just be. like. a horrible little menace.

[lifeimagined]

You guys. My other was a burnt up cinder of a person but she passed over today. I could use some kind words.

[mycptsdstory]

My bf keeps saying this "I;m not free at at all cause I have no idea what the hell I am doing".

I know it's depression and his ADHD talking, I just wish I could help him. He feels stuck and it always leads to arguments. Idk what to do. I feel super tired so we just ended the call, so I can get some sleep.

I feel guilty for not being there for him and not being enough for him. I wish I could help him and I can't. Idk what to do.

My bf is trying to reach out to his friends by saying "I don't know what I'm doing". So at least he's trying.

And NO, I'm NOT dumping him because he has depression. Fuck off with that toxic bull shit. I refuse to dump someone who has mental health. That's so wrong. Its like, dumping me because I have trauma. Like wtf, get help IF you think like that. Every person on this planet has some form of mental health, it's NOT rare, it should be talked about more too.

I know I never talk about my bf on here. I just feel powerless that I can't help him. I wish he would be okay and he feels confident in himself. He's complaining about America, I'm sitting here thinking England 🇬🇧 isn't that great either right now.

Idk what to do anymore. Please, any advice would be nice.