#nonbinary exclusion

[nonbinarynow]

Something that annoys me so much is that there arent many transfem spaces. Sure there are plenty of spaces that call themselves transfem, but they mean trans women.

I dont have a space to go to which doesent instantly gender me. I want to be in community with transfems but binary trans women just forget enbens exist while still using the language of non binary acceptance.

This is what I meant in my post about the binarisation of nonbinary and intersex language. It will eventually push out those who it was made for, those who created it to be seen and heard and find community by forcing them back into binaries they do not fit and cannot fit even if they tried. I hope you are able to find a transgender community soon. You exist as a transfem and an enban, and there are others like you. You will find your community soon enough 🫂 💛🤍💜🖤

[introvert-time-art]

"being trans is a choice" do you honestly think i would CHOOSE to get gender euphoria from wearing knee-length basketball shorts?? that's humiliating

[lae-zels]

The one you gravitate towards the first time playing any cRPGs. Included Pillars of Eternity races and Divinity Original Sin ones.

[genderkoolaid]

Correcting the data feels ghoulish when we should just be free to grieve, but it matters. TMM records the number of murders using reports from a small number of organisations and individuals and news reports. No government or large agency records whether murder victims were trans. If only 350 trans people were murdered in 2023, that would be so shockingly low compared to the average global rate. The estimated annual global murder rate for all people is around 5.61 people per 100,000. If trans people were only murdered as often as cis people are, that would mean we'd expect around 4,500 murders per year (assuming we make up only 1% of the global population). When the total is off by an order of magnitude, how can we trust the percentage stated to be sex workers?

— When We’re Not Murdered: The Dangers of Deviance by Jack Parker

[dhddmods]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!

Happy pride month to everyone in the LGBTQIA+ community!

Happy pride month to queer people of any body type, height, or weight!

Happy pride month to disabled queers! That includes those of you who are neurodivergent (including those with commonly demonized forms of neurodivergence) and those of you with hidden disabilities.

Happy pride month to queer people with any religion! Whether it be Christianity, Catholicism, Judaism, Islam, Baha’i, Buddhism, Jainism, Hinduism, Sikhism, Confucianism, Taoism, Shintoism, Wiccanry, Druidism, Reconstructionist Paganism, Eclectic Paganism, or Zoroastrianism - you belong, and your religion does not negate your queerness, nor does your queerness negate your religion!

Happy pride month to BIPOC queers! To the Indigenous, Pacific Islander, black, brown, Latino, Asian, and biracial queers!

Happy pride month to people with exclusive genders! This includes cultural genders, neurogenders, wolandgenders, and alterhumangenders!

Happy pride month to transgender and transsex people! This includes anonbinary, nonbinary, transmasc, transfem, transmascfem, transandrogynous, transandrogyfem, transandrogymasc, transneutral, transgenderless, transnull, transneufem, transneumasc, transneudrogynous, transnullfem, transnullmasc, transnulldrogynous, transxenine, transxenfem, transxenmasc, transxendrogynous, transxeneutral, transxenull, transoutherine, transfemoutherine, transmascoutherine, transandrougyne, transneutherine, transnulltherine, transxenoutherine, transaporine, transfemporine, transmascporine, transneuporine, transnullporine, transxenporine, transouporine, multigender, genderflux, and altersex people!

Happy pride month to cistrans/transcis/trisgender people, AFAB transfems, AMAB transmascs, and any other people with mixed or non-linear transitions! Whether it be due to being intersex, non-binary, plural, detransitioning/retransitioning, or any other complex experience with gender - you deserve a place in pride too!

Happy pride month to intersex people! This includes people with penile traits, urethral traits, ambiguous genitals, reproductive traits, hormonal traits (yes, including hyperandrogenic or hypoestrogenic PCOS), and chromosomal variations! (While you're here, please reblog our most recently updated version of the intersex guide this month, and spread awareness about intersexuality! And also, make sure you understand what intersexism is, and aren't accidentally spreading it.)

Happy pride month to m-spec people! To the bi, ply (neptunic, uranic, trixenamoric, torenamoric), pan, omni (fin-, min-, lin-, nin-, xin-, ouin-, ain-), abro (mutoic, heteroflexible, homoflexible, -flexible), and any other m-specs!

Happy pride month to the homos! The lesbians, lesboys, non-binary lesbians, m-spec lesbians, straight lesbians, uranians, turigirls, non-binary uranians, m-spec uranians, straight uranians, the m-spec straights, the sapphics, and the achilleans!

Happy pride month to the queer julietians, queer romerics, and the binitians!

Happy pride month to the diamorics! That includes strayt, contraic, symmaic, trixic, toric, enbian, feminamoric, viramoric, and ceteramoric people!

Happy pride month to the people who experience objectum, autospec, queerplatonic, alterous, or waveric attraction!

Happy pride month to the a-specs! That includes the anae-specs, afam-specs, apl-specs, asen-specs, ace-specs, aro-specs, aroace-specs, aqp-specs, and analt-specs! Whether you are partnering or non-partnering, loveless or not, you belong in this community!

Happy pride month to the ethical non-monogamists! The polyamorous, ambiamorous (monoflexible, polyflexible, syndeamorous), divisuamorous, and fluidamorous people!

[writing2changetheworld]

I'm going to be incredibly honest right now: a part of me really hates June.

I love it as a queer nonbinary person, but I hate it as a disabled person.

I hate Pride events being inaccessible. I hate disabled people being excluded from conversations because people forget we can be not straight and/or not cis. I hate it being called Pride Month instead of LGBTQIA+ Pride Month because Disability Pride Month is literally next month (July).

[wise-lizard-wizard]

Clothes being gendered is bad, if someone wants to wear a dress, it doesn't necessarily mean they are female, ect.

But at the same time, I just put on a belt and my brain went:

Equipped: Gender affirming belt.

[nonbinarynow]

Why is your post tagged exorsexism if it is dealing with just men, addresses men and subsumes is under men? Just because you are not misgendering us as men does not make you progressive, and certainly not more so than those who misgender us as women.

Exorsexism is non-binary specific. How can we be excluded from a term that was created to explain our oppression?

[xyliaxart]

finished ref sheet for Cinnamon's human disguise.

They use this disguise for their job, which involves gathering human advancements in the natural sciences and meshing it with demonic knowledge. So they gotta go to the human world for that.

They are honestly not very good at pretending to be human, but since they primarily go to universities, everyone there is too tired or busy to really care about the weird shit they have going on. They're also very autistic so people tend to chalk their eccentricities up to that instead of literally being a demon.

[starryeyed-seer]

As a bigender person who uses he and she pronouns with no preference for frequency of changing it up i am very defensive of the bazaar's pronoun usage. It doesn't give a shit ♡ however I still feel semi obliged to change it up and usually lean towards it/its because I need to assure everyone anxiously I recognize its crabgendered swag

But also i really do like how canonically the bazaar is referred to as he/she/it, most people have one set they lean towards, and the bazaar also is referred to with traditionally gendered titles like 'mother' and 'father'! And? Absolutely none of that is a reflection on what its gender identity is!

I think if the Bazaar wanted, it could communicate a preference, but doesn't— though I'm somewhat sure the Bazaar has never been referred to with 'they/them' (as a fellow person who simply isn't a they/them, I like this a lot. It isn't just 'the default pronoun for nonbinary people')

This has been 'the guy who really likes the bazaar, talking about the bazaar and gender a little, thank you very much'

[mime-rodeo]

give me transmasc characters who still like wearing skirts and makeup and looking pretty.

give me transfem characters who are tomboys or androgynous.

give me trans characters who don't change their name.

give me non-binary characters who have typically masculine or feminine names.

give me non-binary characters in pink dresses and grey suits.

give me characters, trans and cis, who don't give a shit about pronouns and responds to any.

give me cis characters who are completely androgynous and still cis.

give me cis women with facial hair.

give me cis men with tits or wide hips.

give me cis women who are taller than average and cis men who are shorter than average.

give me cis characters who go by a different set of pronouns.

give me cishet characters who uses the term "partner" instead of gendered terms.

let's abolish the idea of gender norms completely, instead of unconsciously reinforcing new ones.

[xurkitreeking]

gender is like pokemon. most people only know charizard and pikachu and when i say i like the ultra beasts my mum doesn't know what that is

[dumbgoonpup]

What do you mean you won't read Tolkein to me while I cockwarm you?????

Yes, you have to do the voices!!!!!

[cynosuura]

[lockandkeyhyena]

looking at dating apps and let me tell you that idc how trans friendly you claim to be, HER sounds gender essentialist af. the reviews claiming its a great place for ‘wombyn’ dont help lol

[nuttersincorporated]

Small changes I would have made to Doctor Who’s 60th Anniversary episode

For the most part, I really like The Star Beast. However, here are a few things I would have done differently.

Firstly, I think they should have made it clear that Rose Noble is nonbinary before the Meta-Crisis was reactivated. A trans woman is no more nonbinary than a cis woman. They make it very clear she’s trans but not that she’s nonbinary. Can a person be nonbinary while using exclusively she/her pronouns? Absolutely! However, they don’t make it clear that’s what they are doing.

The easiest way would have been to have Rose use she/they pronouns. I would have had Rose wear a badge with ‘she/them’ on it. I would also have added and tweaked a few lines when Donna and Sylvia were talking about Rose in the kitchen.

Sylvia: I don’t know. When I say she looks gorgeous, is that right? I mean, is it sexist? Or is it even the right word for someone who’s nonbinary? I never said it to him when he was… Oh… oh sorry.

Donna: Does she look gorgeous? Yes! So, stop worrying.

Sylvia: I just get so clumsy.

Donna: I know. So do I. You know Rose uses they/them pronouns too. You could use those if it’s easier.

The other thing I would change is the stupid line about a male presenting Doctor not ever thinking of letting something go. I hate that line. Not only is it sexist, it’s also said to the Doctor who – in one episode – has already been more emotionally open than any of the ones who came before including the one who was a woman.

Instead, it would have gone something like,

Doctor: We’ve still got to fix you two because the Meta-Crisis might have slowed down but that thing is wrapped around your cortex.

Donna: Yes, we know.

Rose: We know everything. Thanks.

Donna: And you apparently know nothing, even though you really should.

Rose: We’ve got all that power but there is a way to get rid of it.

Donna: It isn’t even a part of us, not really.

Rose: If a part of who you are isn’t really you or it’s hurting you, you can let it go and change.

Donna: How many times have you changed Doctor and this didn’t even occur to you! Anyway, like my wonderful daughter taught me we can let parts of ourself go and so we choose to let it go.

Then afterwards, there would have been a conversation about how Donna couldn’t have done that the first time around. It was happening to quickly; she didn’t know it was an option and she didn’t think she was worth anything without it. Now she knows better.

Then they’d talks some more about why the Doctor has his ‘old face back’. Is it because he isn’t able to change and move forward at the moment or is there another reason?