#treat yourself with kindness

[drinkingcoffee-inthedark]

you are never ever going to hate yourself into being the best version of yourself.

[harry-styles-obsessed]

hi amber! could i request something about harry helping reader through grief? if it's too heavy or triggers you in any way that's completely understandable and you don't have to write it! i just need some comfort right now, i lost my grandpa a month ago and i'm struggling a lot with it and i feel so lonely and like no one cares, so yeah... :(

thank you so much and i hope you're doing well! <3

Hi lovely, thank you for the request! I’m so sorry for your loss. Grief is tough but take your time with it okay? It’s hard but I promise it gets better. I hope this brings you some comfort. And please know you are loved and cared for, sending you all the healing energy. All the love, A. xx

The safety of your arms

©️ please do not copy or translate my work.

Harry was a firm believer of the saying grief was love with no where to go. He knew you often overwhelmed yourself with such a thing, it tore him apart, it truly did. But now he was focusing on the fact that your grief was becoming unbearable… you had become more quiet. Less talkative. More emotional and very anxious. He always told you to talk to him and that if you needed him he would be right there, but you were afraid of bothering him but that morning- you awoke feeling worse than ever, the grief was getting to you, it felt like the weight of the world had been pressured upon your shoulders and here you were knees up to your chest as you stared down at the covers on your bed, tears streaming down your cheeks as your breathing grew heavier and heavier. Your chest was very tight and it was becoming increasingly more difficult to breathe

Your lower lip trembled, eyes wide, as your hand soon trembled towards your phone grabbing onto it and immediately calling Harry’s number. You and Harry were a couple but didn’t live together just yet, he had offered to stay with you, but you explained the fact that you needed time to grieve and he accepted that. Soft sobs left your lips your eyes squinting as you struggled to calm down “y/n? Hey… what’s up?” Harrys voice came through the phone, voice croaky and slightly raspy proving he had just woken up “h-harry… I-I need you… I-I cant do this anymore.” You sobbed out and the man’s heart instantly dropped into his stomach “oh y/n” he whispered, “hey… darling I need you to calm down. Breathe okay? I’ll be over in ten.” He spoke keeping the phone up to his ear as he threw on a random T-shirt and some navy blue shorts “Harry I cant do this anymore, I’m so scared… I miss him so much… I don’t know what to do. I miss him” you cried out to him your voice cracking over the phone as your sobs only grew heavier and heavier “I know baby… I know… I’m coming now okay? Keep talking to me sweetheart. You’re going to be okay.”

His words barely got through to you, you felt as if nothing would be okay anymore, and so you didn’t respond you just cried. Seconds turned into minutes and soon enough Harry had walked through the front door, hanging up, as he rushed into your bedroom. Your hair was a mess and your face was covered in tears- dry and new. You clearly hadn’t been taking care of yourself. The sight of you made his heart break. “Harry” you sobbed arms wide open, needing him, and he happily but sadly obliged as he got onto the bed beside you the bed dipping beside you, your arms wrapping around his neck as his arms smoothed around your waist pulling you into his chest- he slowly sat down, back against the headboard as he held you in his embrace- pressing soft kisses to your head as you sobbed into his chest your sobs breaking him, fingers curled into the material of his T-shirt your sobs only growing louder. “Shhh shhh… I’ve got you… I’ve got you… oh baby I’m sorry. I’m so sorry.” His hand snaked up and down your back slowly and gently as he gently tried to sooth you “shh my love… shh… I’m right here. I’m right here.” Your shoulders jerked with every sob that rocketed throughout you before an anguished scream left your lips, the scream muffled by his T-shirt, it wasn’t necessarily a scream- more so a yell of pure agony. You didn’t know how else to deal with these unbearable emotions and so you were letting these feelings out and Harry was allowing you to do just that,

“Let it all out… good job… you’re doing a good job sweetheart… you are… I’m so sorry baby. So sorry.” He whispered holding onto you tightly your sobs growing louder and louder, you were practically inconsolable, and soon enough you began to panic because you couldn’t suck in your breaths properly- hiccups leaving your lips, your lungs contracting harshly as you squeezed your eyes shut, hands gripping onto his T-shirt “I-I-I can’t breathe- I can’t…” you could though, you just felt as if you couldn’t due to the panic and pure grief you were going through. You needed support. “Hey hey… baby… baby…” his hand caressed against your cheek making you look at him “focus on your breathing… hey… focus… you’re breathing. You’re okay. Listen to me sweetheart… hey…” he looked deeply into your eyes before he gently grabbed your hand placing it down onto his chest allowing you to feel his heart before he began to slowly exaggerate his breathing, attempting to get you to follow his breaths, “I love you so much darling. Love you so much… just breathe okay? I’m here for you.. right here…” your eyes, full of trust and desperation, gazed into his eyes fearfully your grief stricken gaze breaking his heart “I-I’m so scared” you whimpered out and he shushed you gently “I know you are but you’ve got no reason to be scared darling… I promise… I’m here. Right here. Shhh.” He ran his fingers through your hair as he gently and slowly rocked you back and forth in his embrace “I-I- don’t leave me… please.” You whispered out and he shook his head “won’t leave you. Im staying I promise.” His fingernails gently scratched against your back in a soothing manner, before he slowly lifted his hand up to cup against the back of your head, scratching your scalp slowly and gently trying to sooth you, your head coming to rest against his chest as he continued gently scratching your head soothingly your sobs continuing but little by little your sobs slowly began to die down,

“That’s it… good… good.” He soothed quietly as he pressed soft kisses to the top of your head “you’re okay… you’re okay…” he held you close to his chest as you whimpered quietly. “I miss him…” you whispered and he nodded “I know darling. I know. You’re allowed to miss him. You’re allowed to be sad. You’re allowed to cry. You’re allowed to not be okay…” he soothed to you gently as he rubbed up and down your back slowly and gently “let me take care of you… okay? Let me take care of you… you don’t have to do anything anymore… let me look after you, yeah?” And as you nodded weakly he pressed a kiss to your head, soothing you lovingly “I-I feel like no one cares for me Harry… I’m so sad… I don’t know how to do it anymore.” You sniffled weakly and he nodded, trying to show you that he understood you “I understand darling… but listen to me… please. Y/n…” he cupped your face in his hands your chin resting against his chest, eye to eye as he looked deeply into your eyes “you are so loved…” he spoke to you quietly before leaning in, lips pressing against your forehead “so loved… I care for you… you have so many people that care for you. I promise you. You’re so important…” he stroked his thumb against your cheek gently and lovingly “you’re very loved.” He studied your eyes attempting to get it through to you that you were loved. That even if it was difficult you mattered and were very important. He soon fell silent just holding you in his embrace, allowing the silence to wrap around you both as he rocked you back and forth in his embrace staying quiet for a while until eventually he spoke to you quietly,

“Want me to run you a bath?” He asked gently and very softly and you just weakly nodded “yeah? Okay sweetheart.” He murmured gently “please don’t let go of me.” You begged out and he shushed you keeping a hold of you “I won’t my love… I won’t….” He held you close to his chest “bath later…” you whispered and he nodded his head “okay darling… okay… that’s okay.” He murmured softly rubbing up and down your back slowly and gently “if you want to sleep you can… I’ve got you… it’s okay. You’re safe with me.” He pressed multiple kisses to your forehead, arms squeezing around you as he held you close his arms tight and loving around you. “You don’t have to do this by yourself sweetheart… please let me help you, okay?” You nodded snuggling into his embrace and he simply held you, loving on you, pressing soft kisses to your forehead every now and then as you began to rest in his embrace. He hummed a soft tune to you, a random tune, no specific tune just a random one to sooth you and it certainly helped. Your breathing became a lot calmer and now you were half asleep on his chest

“Love you so much” you muttered out gently as he stroked his fingers through your hair “love you just as much. Forever and always.” He murmured softly not daring to let go of you and just like he promised: he took care of you. He pampered you and loved on you as best as he could, whilst also getting you out of the house, buying you flowers and chocolates to try and make you smile again. Your happiness was important to him and he wanted you to be okay… it was tough… it always would be… but grief took its time. And he wanted you to know that you had to let it take its time… it was torturous, and exhausting but soon enough it would become easier. It might take years…. Months… or never… but I promise you… one day it’ll all become a whole lot easier.

Be kind to yourself. You matter. You’ll get through this. As Harry would say: we’ll be alright<3

[dev-does-doodles]

From Dusk Till Dawn: Chapter 2, Pg 13

( Dawn sees the best capabilities in everyone. People normally don't want to fail on purpose. What matters is we try to take that step forward in the first place. ) ( Even I could use a reminder on that... )

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[just-breathe-it-will-be-okay]

Today was a mix again, but I'd say it was mostly wholesome than bad. I woke up with anxiety as per usual, my stomach was hurting and I just burst into tears, because yesterday night I decided I wanted to go to my uni classes again and felt like in these conditions, I couldn't. My aunt tried to calm me, told me to take my meds and advised me to pray to God and believe he will be with me during the whole day (confession; I've been on and off with religion for years and been ashamed to pray to God after my diganosis, but I've been doing it for weeks now, trying to reconnect to him and to my faith and I can feel the providence every day, I believe there has to be someone listening to me out there). With that faith, and the faith in myself (and the meds, obviously), I managed to go to class. I talked to my professor, told him about my struggles and he was very understanding. Fortunately, I didn't feel the need to go out and could stay in the classroom during the whole lecture (I had one panic coming on though, felt it in my chest vividly, but I decided not to panic and face it, and it quickly went away - it felt like such a winning moment.) The rest of the day was okay too - I succeeded in coming back to my dorm room without panicking on the metro and the tram, I am almost finished with my MA thesis and I still have time to read through the seminar papers for tomorrow's lessons, because yes, I intend to go to uni tomorrow too. Fingers crossed I will succeed!

Friendly reminder: faith is important. It doesn't matter who or what you belive in, as long as you believe in something. Most importantly: believe and have faith in yourself. It's hard, I know it is, but you are stronger than you think!

Believe. Believe. Believe. You are perfectly capable.

- Reni

[aestheticemi01]

Gentle reminder;

💫Watching all of these people graduating college/school this summer, can be very overwhelming, if you haven’t graduated yet. However, I want you to know something;

💫It is okay. Those feelings you are feeling are valid. It is okay to feel jealous, hopeless, stressed, tired, depressed or whatever you feel when you see someone achieving something which you haven’t achieved yet. You will get there, though.

💫Even if it ends up taking longer than “expected”, you will get there. The most important thing is that you are doing things at your own pace. A pace where you feel comfortable.

💫Remember: Life is not a race. It is more than okay to take your time.

💫There can be many reasons as to why someone hasn’t graduated yet; it can be due to their mental health, they could have taken a break from school for many different reasons, illness, death in the family, trauma, accidents, and many, many other things.

💫Perhaps, due to stress, they needed to cut down the number of classes they were taking to make it less stressful.

💫And perhaps, school is just not the right path/choice for them. I know many people who dropped out, never graduated and still had very successful and great lives! Not everyone graduates and that is totally okay. They are just as valid as the people who have graduated!

💫 EVERYONE is needed in this world and EVERYONE is important!💫

[amazingnid]

Hibiscus tote bag 🌺

[subcoolture]

I promise you it’s worth it to express yourself even if makes you uncomfortable to show vulnerability, because it’s the only way to actually connect with people. Yeah, you will cringe yourself and feel exposed, but what does it matter if it allows people too see and love the true you. FREE YOURSELF, life is too short.

[sunfloch]

it’s just a little happy part of my life

late night cooking on the second picture <3

[confessionsofcalling]

If you're a survivor like me - hear this. Do not hate yourself for the ways you have coped with unimaginable pain. You are so strong, but you don't have to feel like it. If you're still walking in a fog or if you're walking a clearer path. There is no wrong way to survive, and I can tell you this with complete honesty. You are incredibly brave for simply still breathing. If you needed a reason or a reminder, let this be it. The world needs you.

Love M xxx

[atiqua]

Today I saw a reel in which the model explained how starting a walk in runway is, she said when you enter you can see nothing but when you keep walking it's so cheerful with the audience and glamour and lights.

And I realised that is how life works you start your day you don't know how it's gonna turn out or what the future holds in for you but you keep going, so keep walking cause it's going to be awesome filled with lights and laughter.

[tessaannedesigns]

Motivational Kitty Post! 😻❤️

[calmmyfears]

I did my best to find joy today 😌

[floatin-in-the-voyd]

Me treating my inner demons like they actually represent fucked up pieces of me that grew from trauma and giving them kindness and a chance to tell me TF is wrong so we can work on shit together instead of spiral down into chaos again cus they the only real bitches that've had my back, my only day number ones, my only ride or dies, my only real friends so far my whole life. So I got they back too.

Tell your inner demons that we all lil pieces of a whole hot mess yo, and we got this frowny horns.

[just-breathe-it-will-be-okay]

I had the most chaotic day ever.

I woke up shaking from anxiety; nothing new, just the usual. I cried the whole morning, then I decided I should at least go out to sit on one of the college's benches (I live in a dormitory as I am an international student in Budapest currently). Suddenly, one of the boys that also live in this dormitory wrote to me, asked me how I am (he knows about my mental struggles) and I told him the truth. He was really kind to me and I think that helped a lot, because I decided to try and go out on my own to walk on the street today (I think I've developed agoraphobia as I am really at the verge of crying and shaking in my whole body every time I have to go alone anywhere). Not only did I managed to go to the destination I had in mind, but I attempted to get on the public transportation too (the tram & the metro - had some kind of panic/anxiety coming when I left the metro station to go back to the tram, but it kind of went away in like two minutes?? - I told my mind I won't tolerate abuse from myself anymore). I was shaking and I felt fear the whole time, I felt like every other muscle in me was hurting, but I did it! Then, a couple hours later I went out again with the guy I mentioned earlier and nothing bad happened! I can't believe how many big steps I took today! It is so hard to feel it, but I know I have to be proud of myself. And I am trying really hard to do so. I think the people were right about this: exposure really helps better than any medicine; it teaches your brain to unlearn the fear patterns.

Thank you for reading this, I will try going out again tomorrow and will give you an update on how it went.

Until then: be kind to yourself, be patient and be proud of any little accomplishment you've achieved. I believe in you. And I believe in myself too.

- Reni

[aestheticemi01]

TREAT YOURSELF WITH KINDNESS.

[amazingnid]

My crochet work 🧶