#ASPD thoughts

[autopsyfreak]

how ‘mental health advocates’ look at me when i tell them my disorder makes me unable to care about other people’s feelings.

[snuffdog]

people like me need to come with a warning label

[kamisamabest]

i get bored of people so very quickly but i don't just ditch them because what if i can't find anyone to replace them and entertain myself

[bpderanged]

Silent treatment because I'm incapable of having arguments without being a cunt

[lemony-ink]

having low/no empathy doesn't make you evil or less-than someone else

you don't owe empathy to anyone

having NPD or ASPD doesn't make you a bad person

[yippeeimmentallyill]

"But how can you not care about other people? :((" Girl I'm literally from this country

[nic009]

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JUST LOOK AT ME LOOK AT ME GODAMMIT IM HERE GIVE ME ATTENTION IM A FUCKINF ATTENTION SEEKING BITCH

[miki-kit]

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[aspd-confessions]

i have a question regarding low empathy and I've heard a lot of PwASPD deal with low empathy so I figured you had some good insight on it, so I have a friend he has very low to no empathy at all and he's dealing with a lot of identity issues due to masking so how can I make him feel more comfortable so he doesn't feel the need to mask as much?

Yes, low or no empathy is incredibly common in pwASPD. Identity issues are also pretty common in neurodivergent and mentally ill pepple (regardless of ASPD status or not). Masking can be and often is extremely draining and exhausting, so it can really mess with a person's sense of self.

Low empathy doesn't necessarily mean someone is incapable of connection. It often just means the way they process both their own emotions and other's is different than the average person. They can have trouble understanding/relating to emotional and social cues, but still often value things like loyalty, respect, and authenticity, just like any "normal" relationship. This is important to keep in mind while attempting to work with your friend on unmasking. Not that I think you don't recognize this, but as a general, gentle reminder for anyone with a loved one with ASPD.

I'll put personal tips for helping them feel comfortable unmasking under the cut.

Accept their emotional range for what it is. Instead of trying to get your friend to show empathy or react in a way you perceive as "normal", try to accept their responses as valid, and recognize that they're doing what their likely limited emotional range allows. This can help show them they don't have to perform or fake emotions in front of you.

Ask instead of assume. Rather than guessing how your friend feels or what they need, just ask them. "What makes you feel more like yourself when we talk?" or "Is there anything I do that makes you feel like you have to mask?". These questions (asked gently) can help open a door for dialogue and autonomy.

Be mindful of your expectations. Your friend might not show emotions or vulnerability in typical ways and that's okay. Let them define what a genuine connection looks like for them. For some people with low empathy, being blunt, present, and loyal is how they show they care.

Help them explore without pressure. You can say things like "You don't have to pretend around me. However you feel/don't feel is okay. I want you to know it's safe to be yourself around me". This kind of validation can help a lot for someone who has sort of lost themselves or lost touch with their identity.

Encourage self reflection at their own pace. Some people find journaling, private self reflection, or low-pressure conversations to be beneficial. It can help them make sense of who they are when they're not masking. You can gently offer support without rushing them.

Respect your own boundaries, too. Supporting someone who's emotionally different than you can be confusing or challenging and that's okay. It's okay to need space or support yourself. Mutual respect is everything.

These are just some things that I think would benefit me personally, but of course, it may be different for others. @npd-confessions might have other advice too?

[crystalisedpoison]

i wish i lived in a world where being low energy, lacking enthusiasm and being nonchalant was accepted in society and it was the norm to assume that it’s nothing personal when that attitude is being presented to you. i hate that i have to overextend myself in my job or in social situations to comfort others when it doesn’t have to be that way.

[gxstalt]

every single day humanity proves that i am right in hating everybody

[thatssomegoodsoup]

THE DOCTOR X READER HCs

saw this man in Dawko's Chapter 4 playthrough and immediately started simping lmao

CONTENT WARNING: mention of NSFW

Sex involves torture and degradation

Protects you from the prototype

Bluescreens when the reader kisses his TV

Is indifferent to the reader but still shows care

Likes when the reader sits in his lap

Got Yarnaby and Baba Chops used to the reader

Doesn't like when the reader wanders off from the lab

^ He's concerned for your safety but won't admit it

Likes the reader for their innovative nature and ability to fix things.

^ He would also be attracted to your looks (no matter how you look) and see the reader as a trophy.

In the unlikely event that someone else flirts with you, he would brutally kill them. He sees you as his and nobody else's.

^ He gets jealous very easily.

^ You can make up for this by fixing him, his robots, or something in his lab.

If one of the toys happens to hurt you, they will pay dearly.

Reader is also morally gray and less empathetic.

[tuliptruth]

Bitches be like “you need to be able to feel empathy to be a good person” and then are the most horrible person alive

[bpderanged]

I can't stand people who are morally self-righteous, idealistic, naive, delusional, and overly religious. But sure, I'm the bad guy simply for seeing the world for what it is, right?

[funnier-with-aspd]

It’s very ironic to me that, in discussions surrounding Cluster B personality disorders, people with NPD (who are very sensitive to perceived insults/criticism) are unfairly maligned to the point of being labelled inherently abusive, and people with HPD (who have a strong desire for attention) are forgotten about/ignored.

[maive-the-sheep]

As someone officially diagnosed with aspd.

I don't get the problem people have with self diagnosers.

Aspd on record means if go to jail get a worse sentence.

Aspd on record means many therapist in their ableism will refuse to help with any problem.

I knew i had no guilt or shame or affective empathy or feelings of compassion from earliest memories. I didn't suddenly lose those feelings when i got diagnosed.

And there is genetic evidence for aspd.

And there are psychologists that view it more like a neurodevelopmental disorder.

"Well the dsm 5"...was written by people who used studies only on prisoners for their results so it became more action focused over internal as a way to reinforce the prisoner claim.

And it's a work in progress authority...that you are blindly obeying and believing? Now that's a trait that doesn't fit aspd.

Reflect on actual symptoms like problems with boredom. Lower, missing, or weirdly selective care for feelings of compassion, affective empathy, guilt, shame, care. Things viewed differently for you then norm. Urges. Response to things. Having rules need to be explained to make sense and not just accepted in their own right. Etc.

Knowing a spectrum and if fit enough, fit enough.

And then if fit do the best to use how different for best way forward. Like i use my selfishness for long term prisoners dilema as a motivation for me to do good. I turned my high anger into motivation. I found beauty in various things as an alleviation for boredom. Etc.

Tl;dr those "with aspd" trying to fake claim others cause no official diagnoses...are the ones most likely to not have aspd.