#Making Friends

[elytrafemme]

i say this as a loving confession not as a haterism but in the weird blip of time especially of like, my senior year into freshman year, so maybe 2023-2024 where i was still on tumblr but very off discord and not really super interactive, so many of my mutuals either stopped talking to each other or got married/started dating someone or got a new pet etc and occasionally i'll come across this on my dash and be like fuck i really gotta speedrun learning mutual lore lest i miss out on critical context ykwim

[missdollcouture]

APPROACHING PEOPLE

✶: approaching people, especially today, can be difficult due to insecurities, lack of social interaction, anxiety, or whatever other fears one could have when it comes to this topic.

CONVERSATION STARTERS

✶: not knowing what to say is typically a big reason we don't approach people. starting up conversation may seem difficult depending on the person you are trying to talk to. my biggest tips are to either find something you both find interest in, talk about everyday topic (school, hobbies, music, etc), or starting off with a compliment. here's some conversation starter examples!!

✶- "I love your shirt, where's it from?" (starting off with a compliment often helps you give off more of a friendly approach that may make it easier for them to talk to you. asking questions often leads to more conversation!!)

✶- (classmate) "the test was more challenging than I thought, how'd it go for you?" (finding common things to conversate over gives you both a flow for conversation. you could also change this around for a workspace or another setting)

MINDSET

✶-cultivating a new mindset could definitely play a huge part on how you interact or approach people. we often feel self conscious about things like out appearance, our mannerisms, etcetera, when it comes to talking to new people.

✶- believe it or not, 90% of the time, the people we talk to don't even know the tiny things you're beating yourself up over. so changing your mindset could make a huge difference when it comes to approaching others.

✶- for example: instead of having the mindset of "they're looking at my hair because it looks bad", instead, think "they're looking at my hair because my hair looks extra good today" (this may take a little bit of delusion 😉)

[gothic-lesbo-bitch]

Being 30 and trying to make queer mutuals my age on here is the worst. Why is everyone 18??? Where are my lesbian 30yr olds at? Where is the 50yr old enby who plays fortnite with their grand kids? Is it spelled fortnight or fortnite? sigh

I feel old.

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[my-autism-adhd-blog]

What Making Friends Should Feel Like:

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[cozmicnymph]

You know what I can't stand? That "girls girl" is a TikTok term! I want more "girls girls" on Tumblr and Instagram too. I need friends who will support me when problems come up, like cheering me on when I fail at making a three-layer cake. I want someone who will help me pick the best outfit out of 20 options, recommend music, join me in online book clubs, give hangover advice, and teach me makeup tips. I feel like we, as women, can be so divided and against each other when there’s so much beauty in embracing femininity and kindness.

[bricktoygrapher]

Making friends 🤖🐦🦊🐿️

I don’t know why, but the concept of robots in nature really appeals to me. That’s probably why I enjoyed The Wild Robot — a movie about a lost robot who befriends animals on an island.

This photo was inspired by that film, as well as by the work of fellow photographers who capture robots in natural settings. 📸

[spiritualseeker777]

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Haru no Arashi to Monster

[glowettee]

HIIII. i literally love your blog to death. it's so cute. and it's so informative.

Do you have any tips for making friends? i struggle soooo much with making friends! thank you mindy!

hi angel! 🌸 thank you for your sweet message about my blog! making friends can be super challenging, especially when you're focused on big dreams like med school and business like me. (trust me, i totally get it). let me share my detailed guide on making meaningful connections !

a guide to making friends (for ambitious sweethearts) ♡

understanding the basics of friendship: friendship is like a dance between two souls. it requires patience, understanding, and genuine interest in others. as someone who loves psychology, i've noticed that the strongest friendships are built on:

mutual understanding

shared values

consistent communication

emotional safety

reciprocal support

where to find friends (places i've had success):

academic settings

honors/ap classes (found my study buddy in ap bio!)

study groups (perfect for combining socializing and academics)

library study sessions

academic clubs (pre-med society changed my life)

business club meetings

extracurricular activities

volunteer work at local hospitals, clinics, animal shelters

business competitions

leadership workshops

student government

entrepreneurship clubs

psychology-backed friendship tips: (combining my psych knowledge with real experience)

first impressions

maintain soft eye contact

practice open body language

speak clearly but softly

show genuine interest

remember names (psychology trick: repeat it 3 times mentally)

conversation skills

ask open-ended questions

practice active listening

share relevant personal experiences

validate others' feelings

use "yes, and" technique to build on topics

maintaining friendships

schedule regular study dates (if you're a student)

create shared goals

celebrate each other's achievements

offer emotional support

respect boundaries

balancing friendships with ambition: as someone pursuing both medicine and business, i understand time management is crucial. here's how i maintain friendships while staying focused:

study together

share academic resources

create accountability partnerships

schedule friendship time like meetings

combine social time with productive activities

common friendship challenges and solutions:

feeling too busy solution: integrate friends into your routine (study sessions, lunch breaks)

social anxiety solution: start with one-on-one interactions in comfortable settings

fear of rejection solution: remember that everyone feels this way sometimes

maintaining boundaries solution: be clear about your time constraints and priorities

different interests solution: find common ground in shared goals and ambitions

red flags to watch for: (important)

friends who don't respect your academic goals, career goals, life goals etc..

people who make you feel bad about your ambitions

toxic competition

inconsistent support

emotional drainage

green flags to look for: (important)

mutual encouragement

respect for boundaries

genuine interest in your success

emotional availability

consistent communication

note:

quality over quantity always

true friends support your dreams

it's okay to be selective

friendship takes time to develop

your academic goals matter too

personal note: i've found my closest friends through shared interests in medicine and business. we study together, support each other's goals, and understand when we need to focus on academics. these friendships are extra special because they align with our future paths.

i'm naturally an introvert and i tend to isolate myself a lot, but the friends i have are super understanding and support me, and i couldn't ask for better friends <3

sending you the sweetest vibes and hoping you find your perfect friend group! remember, the right friends will celebrate your ambitions, not dim your shine. ✨

love always, mindy

p.s. feel free to message me anytime for more specific advice! we're all in this together. 🤍

[ekumellow]

looking for looney tunes moots

does anybody here watch looney tunes because im hunting for anybody that loves looney tunes, tiny toons or animaniacs. Im not normal about those shows and im desperate to befriend anyone who’s interested in those shows 😭😭

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: Types of Relationships To Help You Thrive In Life

Table of Contents:

Healthy Relationship With Yourself

Peer-To-Peer Relationship

Mentorship Relationship

Goal-Oriented/Accountability-Focused Relationship

Emotionally-Intimate Relationship

Physical/Sexually-Intimate Relationship

Acquaintance Relationships

Second-Degree Relationships

Types of Relationships:

Healthy Relationship With Yourself: Internalize and act with the knowledge that you're worthy of love, care, and nourishment, and have unconditional permission to work towards your goals & dream life. Eat healthfully, drink plenty of water, remain well-rested, move your body daily, maintain proper hygiene/a clean home, invest in your appearance to feel your best, live as a life-long learner, establish healthy habits/routines, get your finances in order, establish and maintain boundaries, make positive self-talk a priority.

Peer-To-Peer Relationship: Aka friendships, which are intended to offer mutual support and joy in life. These friendships thrive on having similar values and interests, which makes these individuals your greatest cheerleaders, advice givers/receivers, and partners in crime to have fun or offer platonic love/emotional support during traditional or difficult seasons in your life. Peer-to-peer relationships should add mutual excitement, encouragement, and emotional nourishment, and provide a soundboard for confidential information exchange, ears to listen without unnecessary or superficial judgment, and solicited advice from someone who has your best interest in mind.

Mentorship Relationship: This could be a boss, teacher, professor, aunt, uncle, or another trusted adult(s) who can guide you based on their more extensive life experience/wisdom. You can have one or several mentors at any life stage and for different purposes. These people should be trustworthy (keep your information confidential unless you state otherwise) and express their advice through the lens of your best interest rather than their own personal desires or biases (at least those left unchecked). Ensure you feel safe around these people, and their presence in your life is a mutually-nourishing relationship that allows you to grow personally, professionally, and relationally.

Goal-Oriented/Accountability-Focused Relationship: A coach, mentorship, or friendship based on the achievement of a particular goal or practice. This type of relationship can manifest as an accountability partner or support group. A therapist can also fulfill this role in your life (but like, a coach, this relationship is a one-way street to offer you emotional support/tools & resources). Some reasons for an accountability-oriented relationship include helping you achieve a certain health/fitness goal, establish better routines, advance in your career, let go of unhealthy habits, patterns, or addictions, better manage your finances, or help you get your other relationships (family, partner, friends, self-talk, boss, co-workers, etc.) in order.

Emotionally-Intimate Relationship: Someone with whom you feel an unwavering emotional closeness and connection. This person can be a partner you're involved with sexually/physically intimate with or not. Asexuality exists, of course. And emotional intimacy can definitely exist in close platonic relationships (like your best friendships) without any romantic or sexual feelings. These relationships are important because they allow you to let your emotional walls down and be your vulnerable, authentic self.

Physical/Sexually-Intimate Relationship: This relationship could be with a romantic partner, FWB, with multiple partners, purely with yourself, or somewhere in between. If you have sexual needs, it's important to find pleasurable ways to satisfy these desires in a way that makes you feel most fulfilled and respected. Let go of any shame you experience when exploring this side of yourself. Experiment and learn what you like/dislike/fantasize about. Use this information to elevate your practice and communication with any partner(s) for a heightened, more enjoyable, and potentially closer emotionally-bonding experience.

Hobby/Interest-Centric Relationship: These relationships can extend from co-workers to your friends in a certain class/the one friend you go on weekly walks with, follow a particular TV show with, exchange beauty tips with, "going out" friends, etc. While these connections aren't vulnerable to the degree of a close friendship/relationship, it is important to have some relationships that are purely based on fun, light-hearted conversations, and mutual hobbies/interests/lifestyles. Having someone to share these mutual experiences with helps you feel more connected to your environment/communities, not feel isolated/lonely when your friends, family, or intimate partner has different hobbies, career aspirations, or daily routines/lifestyle compared to you, and provides a mutual soundboard on issues, insights, and exciting moments in this particular area of your life.

Acquaintance Relationships: Everyone needs those friends, co-workers, or classmates they can just chat with when at a party, a group meeting, dinner, a special occasion, to grab a quick lunch or coffee, etc. These people are fun to be around and allow you to indulge in light, easy conversations to offer temporary social support/fulfillment. These relationships also expand your network for professional opportunities, making new friends, finding dates/a potential partner, interest groups/new hobbies, referral services/classes/spaces, and other contacts that can enrich your life.

Second-Degree Relationships: These are friend-of-a-friend type connections who can be/become your future business partners, romantic/sexual partners, co-workers, investors, hairdressers, realtors, stylists, finance managers, etc. Be ready to reciprocate these offers and be this person in others' lives, too. As your network gets broader and more dynamic, better chances and potential there is to connect with the right people to help you achieve your goals, desires, and overall life satisfaction. Success and efficiency rarely – if ever – exist in isolation.

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[thejohnlockedfemboy]

HIHIHIHIHIHI

you’re my new friend now (joking but also please I need more tumblr friends tumblr beings r cool)

saw you like Greek myths, opinions on PJO? (please don’t say that everything in PJO is a lie because certain bits aren’t to the point truthful to the myths. Aeolus is a woman in Epic. That doesn’t make it entirely a lie. This has happened before.)

I will FOREVER cherish PJO for getting me into Greek mythology!!! Rick puts so much amazing representation and diversity in his books while reclaiming overused tropes ( smart girl x dumber boy, enemies to friends to lovers, friends to enemies, ect ) while also being educational 🥹

and while some parts of PJO are definitely for the plot, it doesn’t need to be 100% accurate because every. single. greek. myth. has SO many interpretations and versions to the point where there is no “true” versions ^^ I also love how PJO explores topics like the ethics of child soldiers ( the romans, for example ), abuse of authority ( Octavian ), how ‘good’ people can be corrupted ( Luke ), how adultery can harm more than just the cuckold or cuckquean ( how Hera goes after Zeus’ children and mistresses ), feminism and escaping domestic v*olence ( sally using Medusa’s head to turn smelly gabe to stone ) and healing from the trauma of that ( her finding happiness with Paul Blofis ), how even gods are not infallible and need to be held accountable for their actions ( shitty parent olympians ), found family ( the prophecy seven but also the og trio of Percy, Annabeth, and Grover ) and sacrifice for the greater good ( Beckendorf we will never forget you )

sorry this sort of turned into an essay 😭🙏 I love analyzing works/fandoms I’m into. Also I’m totally up for being friends, you seem really cool and OMG the confidence you have to be able to message someone first like HOW— I could never ( I mean this positively and not sarcastically, I promise )

Rick basically nurtured an entire new generation of kids being fed directly off of Harry Potter, and he’s just such a sassy and down-to-earth guy. He wrote the stories for his kid, like so many authors, and then it somehow grew into a worldwide phenomenon with two movies ( we don’t talk about those hisssss boooooo hissss ) and a show that’s already been renewed for a season three, just to name a bit, and yet he still caters towards his audience and gives us the content we want to see.

Also, since the gods and goddesses are technically deities and not physical beings ( unless they choose to take on a mortal or animal form ), they’re myth-canonically genderfluid. For example, Athena took the form of “Mentor” ( old dude who guided Telemachus ) in the Odyssey, and Dionysus was raised as a girl in one version of his mythos. Gods and goddesses might take one gendered form or the other or something in-between ( like how Chaos isn’t defined into a body ). So Aoleus being VA’d by a woman/being portrayed as fem isn’t too much of a stretch for me :3

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