#dialectical thinking

[raincamp]

if i post dbt memes does it count as AC(ontribution)CEPTS

[potuzzz]

No I'm not blocking anybody just because of some shitty thing they may or may not have done according to the grapevine. We're all little shitheads who have done shitty things sometimes. This is not productive. You should not demand prostration as the arbiter of moral truth lest your own skeletons be dug up.

[fromchaostocosmos]

I know that nuance is not the most popular thing on this site with large portion of its users, but I need to get some of my thoughts and feelings out. So I'm going be doing so using nuance and Dialectical Thinking.

For those who do not know Dialectical Thinking is one of the pillars of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and it is the concept that two or more opposing thoughts and/or feelings can be true at the same time.

Using this I want to about my thoughts and really my feelings about a lot of the stuff I'm in regards to Henry Kissinger's death.

To be clear I do not in anyway condone anything he has done, want to diminish the pain and trauma he caused, the impact his choices have had, or whitewash his history.

With that all said I will begin: (Each indention set is meant to show a thought/feeling)

Henry Kissinger is/was a bad person. The things he did are repugnant and immoral. According to the very morals and ethics I hold for myself and use as my guide that is true. Being that I am Jewish and hold to Jewish values, ethics, morality, and philosophy to help shape me, using those metrics he is deeply immoral, unethical, cruel, and vile person.

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I can understand why those impacted, hurt, traumatized, affected by him and his choices are happy he dead, even celebrating his death. This does not bother me.

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I am deeply uncomfortable seeing so many people celebrate the death of a Jewish person. Especially the one that compare him to a demon and/or say he will be in Hell because of the history of Jews being called demons, told we will go to hell, told we belong in hell, the long xtian antisemitism of Jews being servants of satan, etc as well as Jews often having our Afterlife stripped from us.

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The way that predominantly white people on both the right and left doing this weird stanning and reverse stanning (stanning but instead of loving/liking it is hating) of real people gets so creepy and makes them not treat the people like are real and thus their is nuance and complexity because people are complex (this is not me condoning any people of immoral and unethical actions). There is just so much all or nothing thinking/black and white thinking rather trying to see the whole picture. Like take Trump for example. To one side he is perfect and can do no wrong and on the other he is evil bad man. Now I don't think he is good person by any means, I think he should be in jail. I also think he deeply insecure person, and someone who is very petty, and is kinda pathetic. He is someone who should never be allowed near any real power. It is a shame he never got therapy early on in his life it would have done him wonders. But as horrible as person I think is, I don't think is some evil mastermind. I think that he surrounds himself with sycophants. I think that a certain amount of the policies and beliefs that Trump pushes comes from sycophants who are savvier then him and have certain agendas they want. We saw that with Roe v. Wade's overturning. I'm highly doubtful that was Trump original idea.

I do not have a conclusion just some thoughts and feelings that I needed to get off my chest. I am open to hearing what others think and/or feel all I ask is that everyone try to respect each other, do not whitewash Henry Kissinger impact, and do not use antisemitism. Thank you.

[kwaiflower]

[indigo-scarf]

Snape is the bravest man we ever knew AND a toxic teacher. Dumbledore is wise, caring AND manipulative, cold. Narcissa is a loving mother AND a pureblood bigot. (11-17yo) Draco is charismatic AND a pureblood bigot. Lucius is a pureblood bigot AND a not completely terrible father.

[beemovieerotica]

you never realize how much tumblr alters even your most basic conversational vernacular and I don't mean "that's my blorbo" level discourse I mean I made the comment "oh that is an entire human man" around someone who is very offline and they went "😂😂😂 What? An entire human? LOL!"

[madonnanera]

“Being more dialectical can help to reduce the emotional intensity that comes from unbalanced, all-or-nothing thinking or conflicts with other people. It reminds us that there is more than one way to see a problem and people are unique and have different points of view. Here are a few ways to be more dialectical day to day:”

Change your thinking from all-or-nothing to both-and, and soften extreme language (e.g., always, never). For example, instead of thinking/saying “I’m a failure”, change that to “sometimes I fail and sometimes I succeed”. Instead of thinking or saying “You never listen to me!”, instead say “You’re not listening to me right now”.

Dialectics are a good way to validate yourself while still pushing for change. When you have to do something difficult that you don’t want to do, for example, you can validate yourself by first saying “this is hard (maybe even so hard that it feels impossible) and I can get out of bed and do it anyway”.

Enter the paradox. Sometimes when I teach dialectics, there is this feeling like “but then what do you do?” What do you do with that dialectical tension between two seemingly opposing things? And you enter the paradox by just allowing the two to exist simultaneously. One side is not fully correct, nor do you have to choose between them, you just notice the tug-of-war between the two and that they both exist. Sometimes this acceptance can give you the freedom to move on, or to find a different solution, and sometimes it is just an opportunity to sit in an uncomfortable moment and learn to tolerate it.

Practice dialectics by actively looking for them in your life. Take a few moments to notice what has changed in your life or in the room you are in. Now, what has stayed the same? You’ll notice that you can generally find both.

[the-purple-possum]

You know something?

I want to headcanon that Bruce has spent so much time around Alfred that he accidentally uses British insults and terminology.

For instance, he's at a gala, hes having a conversation, and the person says something so infuriating that he calls them a Pillock, and since its America, everyone just stops and looks very confused.

Dick finds this hillarious, until he starts doing it too. He'll accidentally ask someone for a 'rubber' and everyone looks horrorfied.

Tim has learnt from Dick's mistakes, he phases out the English terms, except every now and then he says a word with a very posh English accent. Mostly words he's heard Alfred say a lot, such as 'dinner', and he has to stop and resound that word until it sounds right.

Jason on the other hand, he comes back to Dick slipping all over the place, he finds it hillarious, especially as he tried to fight Nightwing, and out of nowhere he hears the word 'twat'. He can't take it seriously. He doesn't even know where Dick heard it, especially as Alfred never swears.

[sskk-manifesto]

I really love the concept of an Atsushi / Akutagawa / Kyouka trio as it was shown in Dead Apple, and I really wish it would become a thing. I think it's neat how here Kyouka's dominant color is shown being purple as balance / synthesis of blue and red. Kyouka also uses as this kind of bridge between organizations since she was a member of both at some point, and still holds a very deep understanding of how they work. I think Kyouka could really make the sskk team work as a way to find balance between these two opposites that would otherwise clash and destroy each other.

[fromchaostocosmos]

learning radical acceptance and dialectical thinking are some of the best things I've learnt in the past 10 years of therapy.

I mean I still struggle with radical acceptance for certain things, but both of these have been really helpful in my trauma, mental health, mental illness management, and personal growth.

personally I have found dbt and parts of cbt to be really helpful for me.

I'm a very big advocate of dialectical thinking.

[canisalbus]

About the accents: if someone has a very "proper" Italian they are either foreigners or politicians/dignitaries/etc. So that fits perfectly for Machete, but I think it would be so funny if he sometimes slipped up and used a Nepalese word bc he forgot one in "proper" Italian lol

(Funny to me cause Naples has its own language in addition to accent, and most people don't actually know those words)

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[magistralucis]

pronouncing the necron 'sz': personal rating list*

broke: /s/ only ('seras')

woke: /z/ only ('zeras')

provoke: /s/ and /z/ pronounced separately ('s-ze-ras')

bespoke: /ʂ/ or /ʃ/ ('scheras')

invoke: tensed fricative /s͈/ ('sseras')

misspoke: /s/ but evil ('ßeras')

(* Further notes in tags.)

[4me2knowandyou2wonder]

WAIT I NEVER SHARED MY GARY ROACH SANDERSON HEADCANON

*coughs* anyway

I like to think that Roach was a military brat. Like, raised on bases. At least on of his parents was in the army so he grew up on bases and moved around with his parent. He is super cultured but also he doesn’t really have a culture he subscribes to - because he moved around so much. He grew up everywhere and nowhere and has all the quirks that comes along with it.

If you ever ask Roach where he is from he just gives a 100 mile stare. He doesn’t know how to answer that question.

[utilitycaster]

I am always thinking about Brennan's comment in the latest WBN fireside, about how a lot of GM word choices in their descriptions at least are intended to be evocative and not literal (for more context see Taylor Moore, sound designer and editor, despairing here) and I've made a similar argument in the past about accents - that an RP accent, for example, isn't specifically intended to mean "all people who have this are from the same place" but rather "all people who have this are of a certain class and education level."

With that said, with the names "Caeluma" and "Vaterra" and their clear Latin roots (and, frankly, the use of "Imperium" rather than "Empire") Matt could simply be evoking antiquity and, well, empire; but this could also indicate that at one point the lingua franca of Ruidus was closer to that of Aeorian (Latinate) than Common (modern English), either because of a shared history from when Ruidus was taken from Exandria, or because those were the dreams they were experiencing. (For that matter - was Aeorian, or a precursor, once the equivalent of Common on Exandria?)

[quatregats]

Also I realize that the answer is probably just reading enough period sources but as a linguist I really do need to pick Patrick O'Brian's brain about where in the world he got his different speech patterns from

[nostalgia-tblr]

I feel like anyone who's about to embark on attempting to type out a character's accent phoentically (at least as well as one can with English) should probably stop for a moment before they get going and ask themselves, "How would I, myself, feel about a fic where the one character who sounds like me had their speech written out like this and every other character just got their dialogue left in standard spelling?" I feel like a lot of people would tone it down a bit, at least, if they'd done that thought experiment first.

(Anyone who answered "but I don't have an accent!" isn't allowed to write out anyone else's accent, ever. This rule may seem harsh but you need it. Really, you do. Because you've never had anyone treat your accent as abnormal or comical or wrong, so you really don't know what you're inflicting on others here.)