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the-freckled-collective · 2 years ago
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hi! we have really shit communication, and i was wondering if you guys have any advice? i, the host, can barely hear any of these guys 90% of the time, so literally any help would be great 😭
-📞 anon (in case i need to add onto this!)
Hey! So we also have shit communication. Especially as of recently.
Best advice we’ve found:
•Be open. Not just to words, either! Emotions, images, and vibes are also an entirely valid forms of communication! Try to accept those, too!
•Write write write. Pluralkit helps us.
~Note: We’ve noticed that trying to slow our communication into PK does occasionally make it worse. We work really well just… talking back and forth. But it makes it really hard to know *who* is talking. So sometimes we have to slow down and write. It makes it difficult, but it also helps!
•Patience. It’s the hardest one of all but unfortunately it seems the best one.
This stuff is super hard. Be kind to yourselves. And know that you’re not always gonna know who is around and who isn’t. Sometimes, you just gotta accept that you’ll be in the dark as the host. But when it matters, they’ll be there. ❤️
~~Atlas/Spencer/Cove/Cricket(??)
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marimbles · 1 year ago
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ok ok I’ll STOP now (me when I lie)
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Reminder
DID isn't just having fun people in your head
Along with shifts in personality, it's often times:
amnesia: 'waking up' with no memory of what's going on
travelling and having no idea where you are or how you got there
dizziness
confusion
spacing out
headaches
feeling broken & worthless
fear
not knowing why or how you're wearing what you're wearing
nausea
pain
anxiety
finding things amongst your belongings you don't remember acquiring
time loss
depression
suicidal ideation & action
spikes in inexplicable emotion, especially anger, fear, and shame
body and voice dysphoria
depersonalization & derealisation
loss of control
hearing voices
finding injuries you don't remember getting
self harm
not recognising friends/family/colleagues
forgetting important events (birthdays, parties, graduations etc)
mood shifts with seemingly no trigger
finding notes in similar handwriting but something about it is slightly off
flashbacks: somatic flashbacks, nightmares, split second flashbacks to 'little things' but not getting more detail
bed wetting
age regression
inadvertently lying, or being questioned if you have
feeling like your body isn't yours
knowing something is wrong, but not what
wondering why your body doesn't align with your perceived sex (for alters whose gender/sex don't align with the body)
watching your body do things and having no control over it (feeling like a puppet or like playing a video-game in 3rd person)
mass fluctuations in libido: fluctuations from hypersexual to zero sexual desire
not being sure if things really happened, or whether you imagined/thought about them
identity confusion
+ many more
I have two book recommendations DID experiences: "All Of Me" by Kim Noble, and "The Girl in The Green Dress" by Jeni Haynes. Please check trigger warnings.
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angels-of-horror · 2 months ago
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Reminder that you can wholeheartedly love your system and sysmates and still have days where you feel tired of being a system. Sometimes being a system makes hard days easier, but sometimes it makes them harder, and that’s okay too.
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bunnieswithknives · 26 days ago
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Mephone takes the Operational out of Operational System.
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dreamcircuitsys · 2 months ago
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Shoutout to in-system relationships that aren’t romantic in nature. To your headmates who are your parents, your children, your siblings, your best friends. To your headmates that love you so dearly, as a friend or as family or any other label. <3
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littlest-bugz · 3 months ago
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When things get a little too stressful, and you start to hear a new voice in the headspace
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justl-12 · 4 months ago
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This is really self indulgent but I rewatched black clover again and kept thinking of a bc au 
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happypeachsludgeflower · 4 months ago
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Just saw an svsss fic tagged “kiss kiss fall in love” and now I can’t stop thinking of an svsss ouran high au where Luo Binghe put together a host club made of Yue Qingyuan, Liu Qingge, Mobei-Jun, Shang Qinghua, Tianlang-jun, Zhuzhi-lang, and honor student, Shen Yuan (who’s older brother, Shen Jiu, might murder the lot of them), who stumbled into music room 3 one day and is now their errand boy that Luo Binghe is obsessed with.
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monarchofrymden · 1 year ago
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IT'S HIM IT'S HIM IT'S HIM IT'S HIM
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daydream-the-demon · 4 months ago
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"Are you single?"
No actually I'm plural.
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theladysunami · 4 months ago
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I had a very odd dream where a train (or bus?) I was on got yanked into another world. While my dream had nothing to do with SVSSS, it did have my waking self thinking about how hilarious and/or horrifying such a thing could be as an AU.
Imagine Shen Yuan riding the subway, train or bus one day, when something happens and his whole car gets yanked into the world of PIDW. Nobody else in the car knows anything about PIDW, so Shen Yuan finds himself with the self imposed task of keeping this eccentric group of strangers alive in a weird world full of demons, monsters, and aphrodisiac plants.
The group’s first assumption would probably be that they’re still on modern earth, and just got teleported somewhere. Their second assumption, if they come across common folk, might be they somehow ended up in the past.
Then they run into some monster, or people riding on swords with specific uniforms, or a commoner mentions a name or event only Shen Yuan recognizes. The rest of the party debates what sort of Xianxia or Wuxia world they’ve ended up in, while poor Shen Yuan sweats bullets. He knows exactly what world they are in, and they are so screwed.
I have this image of poor beleaguered nerd Shen Yuan successfully protecting and leading this group of primary school kids, their cute teacher, and a handful of grannies and grandpas, while all the other adults and older teens keep wandering off and getting themselves in trouble.
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scribbledcosmos · 4 months ago
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I have that kind of plurality where I mostly hear other people talking in my head as them being co con with me and even when others do front I’m still there watching, which means a lot of things but what matters for this is that it means I get social anxiety whenever my headmates try to have fun which I’m sure is annoying to them so
Reblog this post if you’re okay with guy from shows talking in the reblogs of your posts about the shows or don’t I guess you don’t have to reblog it but it would maybe make me feel better to have a reminder that people really don’t care that much
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thesleepysystem · 8 months ago
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did is so silly because we have a literal god, someone fueled entirely by rage, a little girl, some poor dad trying to keep said little girl from front, and then a shape-shifting punk boy. what is going on
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mystery-aberration · 3 months ago
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System roles do not have to be your entire identity. You do not have to conform to the stereotypes of them, and you do not have to hold your role alone or without help. You do not need to keep them forever, either. They may be what you were placed into the system to help with, and they may be something you are good at--but it does not have to be you forever.
I am a persecutor, and that does not mean I should be treated differently or harmed. Being a persecutor does not mean that everyone should be scared of you by default either.
Protectors should not be expected to be strong and emotionless walls to put in front of everything all the time. They do not need to be tools.
Comforters might need a break to unload their own stress and need comfort in turn. They do not need to give all of themselves to everyone else and never expect help back.
Littles may not be littles forever, and should not be devalued just because they are children. They are just as real and alive as any other system member and should be taken into account.
Trauma/memory holders might need help to cope with the things they hold, and sometimes when the time is right it means sharing that burden. Maybe there is no right time, but they deserve support whether they can share those memories or not.
Gatekeepers may need a break from controlling switches or access to front, and should be allowed one if needed. Gatekeeping can be a lot of work.
Hosts do not need to do everything for the body or system all the time. Sometimes, being the host of a system can be hard, and support and breaks are deserved.
Systems often put a lot of weight on roles, and it can impact the way that those who have them can feel about their role. It is okay to fit into your role, but it is also okay to not fit, or to end up not fitting your role over time. Some headmates can feel like a failure if they do not uphold their role, some can feel like they have no other choice even if they wanted to not perform it. But a role is a description, it is not an essence of who you are and will forever be. This may be non-traditional but we use roles exclusively as self descriptors so that we do not get wrapped up in what we "should be". If the label no longer fits, or if you need help more than you might have in the past, that is okay.
Be kind to yourselves, and be kind to your other headmates.
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sleepy-writes-stuff · 1 year ago
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DP X DC WRITING PROMPT #22
Bring on the Night
What if Danny's white hair and green eyes showed up under blacklight? No nightclubs for him... of course, knowing him, he'd definitely still go.
Imagine someone from the DC universe gaining a crush on the mysterious alt looking dude but he's impossible to find outside of nightlife parties.
To make it more interesting, what if the nightclub he frequents is actually owned by him? Even more interesting if the nightclub is used as a sort of no man's land where ghosts and humans knowingly/unknowingly peacefully mingle with each other? Some of the more ghostly individuals are also Danny's employees and humans just see them as enthusiastically trying to fit the theme of the club. What exactly is that theme? You decide.
I feel like Danny would just make a really good host and it would easily fit in with his obsession to protect. Like a side project/hussle, but for ghostly core health.
Also think of it as kinda like vacation time for his rogues from trying to throttle him. They get a nice, safe space to freely feed into their individual obsessions without wrecking anything/anyone.
List of roles are in the tags but can changed around however anyone pleases. Just thought this would be a fun idea for anyone to pick up and run with.
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