#personally alexis

[mdemn]

someone has to leave first. this is a very old story. there is no other version of it.

rien ne va plus - margarita karapanou / ghost, zero, suitcase, and the moon - richard siken, beginners (2010) dir. mike mills, glue - richard siken, beginners (2010) dir. mike mills, the absolutely true story of a part-time indian - sherman alexie, tumblr user lalallorona, fuck it i love you - lana del rey, the worm king’s lullaby - richard siken

buy me a coffee? <3

[n-fblog]

do you think kunigami knows he's bisexual or does he think looking at men's napes is normal

[opalescentidiot]

imagine if ninja got a low taper fade…

imagine if ninja got a low taper FAAAAAAADDDDEE

[aume]

From the New Yorker no less. My hockey ships feel seen! 😂❤️🏒

[itsfootballbih]

Please…😭

[spicesweet]

[joficeandwind]

Reminder that you can be a victim of abuse, mentally unstable, AND a shitty person! I have seen too many posts and too many people in real life that put ALL of the blame on someone's mental conditions and just ignore that people have agency! I've seen so many people pull the "Well, yes, their mental health didn't help, but, what about Y factor that's out of their control?" When you try holding people accountable for their actions! So I'm gonna fight back on that bullshit here and now! So remember!

DO NOT give them infinite chances! Of course, you should give people struggling with trauma or mental issues room to make mistakes so they can learn and grow. But, you can't let them make fuck up after fuck up after fuck up, never try to improve, and not do anything about it! People can only fix themselves, so if they don't WANT to, and only say they will so they can get out of trouble, call them out for it! Give them a piece of your mind, berate them! Cut them off if you have to!

DO NOT expect people they've hurt to forgive them just because they're mentally ill or suffering with trauma! If someone with an undiagnosed Cluster B Personality disorder is an abusive partner for years, and they get therapy and become a healthier, better person, of course many people will forgive them and not be as outraged at them, even if they were the abused in that situation. But you should NOT force that onto others who wouldn't! A person would have every right to still be furious at them for what they did, especially not the victims! They have every right to blame THEM for what they did, and not their inner turmoil.

DO NOT downplay their shitty behavior caused by their mental health! NPD, BPD, ASPD, and adjacent Personality Disorders DO NOT necessarily make someone a bad person! You should not look at someone struggling with any of those issues and assume they have The Mental Illness That Turns You Into a Shitty Person. BUT! When someone is CLEARLY demonstrating toxic and destructive behavior that lines up EXACTLY with what they are diagnosed with, and they are CONSISTANTLY participating in these behaviors, you can't act like it's completely out of their control or not that big a deal! Do not protect them JUST BECAUSE they are mentally ill!

At the end of the day, just because someone is mentally ill, doesn't mean they can't be a shitty person! I had a neglectful and sometimes physically abusive mother with Bipolar Personality Disorder who was also a victim of CSA, and guess what? We have her CHANCE, after CHANCE, after CHANCE, financially supporting her, letting her live with us, LOVING HER, even after EVERYTHING, including almost TORCHING one of her ex-friends! But after long enough, when she ended up in jail on drug charges for the SECOND TIME, you know what happened? WE CUT HER OFF.

One of my first friends here on tumblr suffered from extremely low empathy, speculated to have Narcissistic Personality Disorder by the professionals she was in contact with for short periods of time and herself, and was also SUICIDAL, which I TALKED HER OUT OF COMMITING ONCE. Guess what? She was A-Ok and LAUGHED while being an accessory in spreading completely false accusations of RACISM and PEDOPHILA to onto a MINOR. (Me, who had literally turned 16 like 2 weeks ago at the time of this happening.) Why? She just didn't wanna bother with me or my friends anymore, we gave her a "bad image".

TL;DR, support mentally ill people and people going through tough shit, but don't coddle, woobify, or let them trample on you!

[everything-redacted-and-others]

Who is y’all’s least favorite redacted character?

[snaillock]

chapter 241 leaks

ok i’m sorry but ARE THOSE FUCKING CHERRY BLOSSOMS MY GUY???

even in germany these characters can’t seem to escape the goddamn shojofication beam

also micha ponytail hehe *tucks hair behind ear*

kinda looks like a ball of yarn tho lmao

[yesloulou]

Daniel driving in Formula BMW UK, 2006 (© BMW AG)

[goldenpinof]

for someone who loved Red, White & Royal Blue but who is more obsessed with banter and dialogues than smut i'd recommend the London Calling series by Alexis Hall. because i wanna scream about how good it's written in terms of character growth, arguments and exploration of difficult topics. my head fucking hurts but it's so fun and enjoyable, rwrb weren't even close to the level of communication that London Calling has. and i liked rwrb (minus the unserious world it was set in). it's just.. bro, gimme me adult conversations, complicated arguments, shitty parents and turn-arounds because of delayed realisations. i wanna punch a wall because of how good the 2nd book of London Calling was. but i'm not gonna do it.

also, please, read rwrb even if you already watched the movie. Alex has a sister, and she is fucking AMAZING, and Matthew López will answer to gods for cutting her off and destroying the White House Trio 😤

[agnesandhilda]

[beltyaaaaacid]

Hatsune lexi?!?

[alexismunroe]

[beautiful-famous-ladys]

Alexis Ren

Born: November 23, 1996

Nationality: American

[trans-cuchulainn]

internet discourse is really good at giving you new guys inside your head to have hypothetical arguments with it but i also don't think my brain needed any help on that front and i wish i didn't feel such a need to defend all of my choices from hypothetical interlocutors who think it's morally bankrupt to enjoy escapist fiction in a stressful world because it means you're a privileged child who can't tolerate reality, or something